dollie angel

it/star/thy. 20+ queer disabled little punk. system. alloaro bi gaybian fagdyke boygirl undead vampire doll from space. do i piss you off? boo-hoo.

[genderkoolaid]

Renowned LGBTQI+ advocate Apako Williams has been elected as a board member of the Uganda Country Coordinating Mechanism of the Global Fund, a worldwide partnership to fight HIV, tuberculosis, and malaria. [...] Apako will serve as the representative of “Key Populations” on the board. Key Populations refer to marginalised communities disproportionately affected by diseases such as HIV/AIDS, tuberculosis, and malaria, including transgender individuals, sex workers, men who have sex with men, and people who inject drugs. Apako is a transman, meaning a person who despite being identified as female at birth, identifies as a man.

Very cool to see!!! Especially since trans men&mascs have been extremely underserved in HIV prevention and care (as well as healthcare in general).

[kawuli]

Uganda passed an anti-homosexuality bill last year that includes 20 year sentences for "promotion" of homosexuality and up to the death penalty for "aggravated homosexuality" so an organization with the clout of the Global Fund appointing a trans man to the board for Uganda specifically is a big fucking deal.

[genderkoolaid]

ykw it's fucking bonkers how trans guys are made to feel bad and/or irrational for being nervous around entering spaces dominated by cis men & boys. like we are straight up told that either our fears of harassment and violence are proof that we aren't real men (because real men take patriarchal hazing on the chin and never complain!) or – & this one is especially pushed by other queer people – that no trans guy ever has anything to fear from cis men. like personally i have never seen someone tell a cis gay guy that he's self-victimizing or has a misgendering kink when he talks about hanging out with girls because he didn't like straight cis guy culture & it being actively hostile to him. but the only kind of trans guy that's allowed to exist in a lot of people's eyes is "typical masc cishet guy but with a pussy"

[fittingoutjane]

I mean, cis men and boys haze each other? All the time? Don't most boys or young men sometimes feel anxious when entering a locker room?

And most hazing, among males, comes down to whether or not a particular guy is sufficiently masculine, which is a contest in which trans men are often at a major disadvantage.

[prof-grace-aspen]

Hazing is almost always abuse.

I speak from experience - from being in the "boy's world" of the US Navy. Hazing is almost always abuse. Physical, mental, sexual abuse. It's fueled by the patriarchy - as you noted, in order to determine if a man or boy is masculine enough, and to punish him if he is not.

[fagdykeglaceon]

having positive relationships with older men in my family really makes the thought of going on T less scary. idk, I use to be terrified of having a receding hair line, but in combination with getting older and repairing my bond with my older brother, when I think about it happening now, it's a "huh, I'll look a bit more like him." and it's actually nice.

[homoidiotic]

An article written by Delisa Newton for Sepia Publishing (1966)

[punk-sharkz-zero]

i hate talking about dysphoria with cis ppl because they immediately clock it as body dysmorphia, and only as body dysmorphia. (i say only bc some trans ppl can and do experience both)

i can't talk about how i hate how my thighs make me feel/look feminine because they always say "but you look fine!" or "i think you look amazing!" or "but you should love them!"

and it's so hard to describe dysphoria, especially to ppl who don't experience it, or who don't want to understand it isn't dysmorphia

and no matter how hard you try to explain they always try to make you love this body you have because "you should love yourself as you are!"

but i do love myself. but not quite exactly how i am. i love what i know I can be. i love knowing that one day i'll have top surgery scars i can trace with my fingers and a scratchy beard from T. i love knowing that I can eventually do my silly little effeminate gestures without hating how it makes me look. i love knowing that eventually i can look in a mirror and grin at the man i've become.

but that's not right now. i may cry a little when a shirt doesn't fit the way it should, but i don't hate the body that makes it that way. I may feel a pit in my stomach when I realize the way that i'm standing makes me look girly, but i don't hate that i'm standing that way.

i don't hate that i used to be a girl but i hate when people still think i am.

i don't hate my body, i just hate how it isn't what it's supposed to be quite yet. could that make any sense to the cis folks reading this?

I am trans and I love my body, just sometimes it doesn't love me back. and one day it will.

[mommyminotaur]

Yknow the t4t folks are so right. Penetration is such a minor form of sex when there are smells and violence and consumption and roleplay and collars and leashes and floggers and knives

[myoclonus-aro]

I feel like the uwu soft boi-ification of transmascs make people sanitize us a lot, so they get squicked out when we actually transition medically. So this a positivity post specifically for the "gross" side effects of T, for the hairiness and the receding hairlines and the bottom growth and the male pattern baldness. They're hot and gender-affirming and the fact that HRT can make those achievable for is next to miraculous.

[genderqueerdykes]

Dykes to Watch Out For #323 "I.D. fixe?" by Alison Bechdel

Illustrated in 1999, this strip features character Sparrow discussing being a bisexual lesbian, how she is not suddenly straight because she is dating a man, and the struggles she faces because of this. This strip also discusses the validity of gay trans men and transmasculinity, a very powerful comic for its time.

[genderqueerdykes]

insane to me that alison bechdel literally discussed the validity of bisexual lesbians and gay trans men 25 years ago and idiots on twitter- sorry, X are still fighting about us like we were literally just invented

[gender-queer-fear]

my take on the “can lesbians fuck men” discourse is that you guys love lesbian masculinity until it overlaps with maleness.

[gender-queer-fear]

happy new year! lots of you missed the point

[gay-otlc]

(id: flaming text that reads "this post is about multigender lesbians. this post is about genderqueer lesbians. this post is about transmasc lesbians.")

[genderqueerdykes]

i know people on here are obsessed with saying boygirl and girlboy, but if you do that you need to be level-headed about multigender and intersex people. you have to accept that there are lesbians who are men and gays who are women. if you make jokes about being a girl who's a boy or talk about how much you love boys who are girls, but pull the whole "i'm a lesbian men dni," thing you completely failed and your #boygirl uwu card is revoked.

i don't know how to tell you that gays and lesbians are also involved in the whole "being a girl and a boy" thing, and yes, that includes lesbians who are/partially men and gays who are/partially women. cope. the lesbian, gay, intersex, and trans communities are not about you. you can't profess your love for a group of people and then violently strip away their autonomy and ability to correctly identify themselves.

multigender people have the right to define what our relationships are and what our attraction is like. asserting that lesbians can NEVER be men and gays can NEVER be women is quite literally just re-creating the binary, again. you can't be fixated on creating a binary for terms and people that blatantly choose to step outside of it. stop shoving a square peg into a round hole.

[genderqueerdykes]

i think it's funny when people pull the "but they're scaring children!" argument when talking about trans and queer people presenting and being visibly queer in public. i need you to know as a genderqueer/nonbinary intersex person who routinely goes out in drag and has been actively trying as hard as possible to not pass for the past 2 years, i can tell you that the most heartwarming and gender affirming reactions ive ever gotten have been out of random kids.

ive never had a kid glare or run away screaming from me. i have definitely seen kids go ??? because i could tell i was definitely the first queer person they had ever seen and they've never had to try to process what someone else's gender could be before. most of the time their eyes light up or they look excited, like they realized that oh wow, people can be like that too! i never have kids be invasive, rude, or call me names.

i've witnessed curiosity, wonder, confusion, and joy, but i've never once scared a kid. even with my big beard, chest hair, deep voice, and hairy legs. what i do see, though, are doors to acceptance being opened and bigots desperately trying to slam them shut.

[queerpontmercy]

less “if you see a man and woman together at pride be nice! they could be bi/pan/trans/ace/aro” and more “stop gendering strangers to harass them anywhere, but especially at pride holy shit”

[queerpontmercy]

you know what? i want this to reach the people who do this– especially the ones claiming to support trans folk (usually in really hollow ways lol i’m not bitter). keep reblogging– i want this sentiment to be widespread and for people to stop gendering strangers! especially in explicitly LGBTQ+ spaces!

[genderqueerdykes]

spent some time with our neighbors today. their kids were playing nearby on a trampoline and after a while, one of the kids went. "i can't tell if you're a girl or a boy! you are wearing lipstick, but you have a beard! and you are wearing pink, but you have a deep voice! i can't tell!"

i responded with "hey, that's okay!" and his mother responded with "your favorite color is pink," and the kid stopped bouncing and went. "oh!" and went on about his day, no longer questioning things. he didn't need anymore info than that. kids aren't scared of queerness, and don't reject nonbinary, gnc, and genderqueer people. they're just curious about us, and that's a good thing. if you just take the time to explain, they get it.

[catwire]

wow i sure do hope i dont wake up to one of my mutuals infighting about trans women vs trans men representation online that would be crazy

[catwire]

enough of the “x people face things you don’t!” no shit dumbass that’s why we have to work together because we’re all we got! “x is more oversexualized” we all are in different ways!! fuck!! we’re living different perspectives that’s why you think the way you do!! branch out!! fuck sake!! meet new people and listen to their stories and quit hanging onto “oh i had a bad experience with a trans woman/trans man/nb person once and now i-“ SHUT UP!!

[catwire]

seriously yall have got to get out of your internet bubbles and talk to new people from “the other side” of the spectrum once in a while before claiming “all transmascs/transfems think/do/are x” you guys sound like your conservative parents so much you’re practically reinventing the gender binary while you’re at it. get better friends if they sound like this.

[genderqueerdykes]

trans men are not obligated to over-perform masculinity for anyone! trans men are not obligated to be hypermasculine! trans men are not obligated to dress, look, act, sound or be masculine! trans men are not obligated to abandon femininity and/or womanhood! trans men are not obligated to want to use he/him! trans men are not obligated to take testosterone!

trans men are not obligated to be fathers or male role models! trans men are not obligated to work harder because they're men! trans men aren't obligated to "provide for their families" because they're men! trans men are not obligated to "work" for their manhood! trans men are not obligated to do fucking anything!

[genderqueerdykes]

some queer people will never end up with a perfect label that describes them 100% and that's okay. sometimes you just go "i dunno i'm just queer" or "i'm a dyke who's a fag who's a drag queen" or "i'm just some guy" and that's okay. you don't always need a label or easy way to describe it if you can't. you can blaze your own trail

[fagdykeglaceon]

goes on auto pilot and just reblogs stuff to here instead of to my spam blog fuckin oops