"i don't claim the freaks " TO THEM YOU ARE THE FREAKS

dusty, he/they, hater of terfs. none of us are free until all of us are free

[ryan-sometimes]

Lesbians are held to a higher standard of homosexuality than gay men are. What I mean by this is that people are constantly looking for reasons to prove a lesbian is faking being a lesbian, and that this person must secretly desire men. Women’s sexuality is so socially tied to men that people simply cannot fathom that a woman can lead a fulfilling, complete romantic and sexual life apart from them.

A man’s word on his sexual orientation is final. A gay man can compliment a woman’s appearance, even get drunk at a party and kiss a woman, without being questioned on his homosexuality. A lesbian cannot acknowledge a man as handsome without being decried as a faker. “I always knew you weren’t really a lesbian!”

Society will use any and all evidence it can to disprove a lesbian’s identity. You kissed a guy that one time. You said that guy had a nice smile. You must secretly desire men. A lesbian’s word on their sexuality is not final. It’s a suggestion people think is malleable to their own opinions. It’s not enough to say you’re a lesbian. You must prove it every moment of your life.

[ryan-sometimes]

As a gay man, you are free to tell women how beautiful they look, how hot they look in an outfit, without being questioned on your gayness. Saying you’re gay is enough for people to believe you. But a lesbian is never quite lesbian enough. There’s always something more to prove. All of your interactions with men are scrutinized, looked under a microscope. You told that guy he was handsome. You drunkenly kissed a guy that one time. Your best friend is a man. Liking men in any and all capacities becomes a crime of which you must prove your innocence for as long as you live.

[ryan-sometimes]

And me being sick of this also doesn’t mean I secretly want to be with men. It means I want to live my life in peace without having all of my interactions with men analyzed under a microscope. It means I want to be believed when I say that I know what I am.

[scatterghosts-deactivated202411]

tumblr in 2067

[multigenderswag]

I'd like to talk for a bit about the genre of post that's like "sure you're a boygirl fagdyke genderfreak but do you respect [trans identity]?" I think these sorts of posts do address a lot of important points, such as:

Even if you're genderqueer and going "gender isn't real! smash the binary!" there's a real possibility you haven't unlearned or might still be upholding some very transphobic sentiments, and you should do some introspection about that

Some people only want acceptance for their trans identity but don't want to do the work to deconstruct what gender looks like, stop holding other people to their own gendered expectations, and unlearn their internalized bigotry about different trans identities

Sometimes the [trans identity] is specifically relevant to the identities referenced, such as people who will do surface level acceptance of "boygirls" but then call multigender people problematic for using "contradictory" terms like male lesbian, or asking "are you normal about intersex people?" to point out the prevalent intersexism in the multigender community.

But if the [trans identity] or intersex identity being asked about isn't related to multigender community issues, it seems a little strange to consistently single out labels like boygirl and fagdyke that tend to be used by multigender people in these posts. All kinds of trans people can be transphobic about other trans identities. All kinds of trans people are capable of fighting for their own acceptance but not anyone else's. But these posts are pretty frequently just about boygirl fagdykes.

It reminds me of posts about a "theyfab named Sock being transmisogynistic." Are there transmisogynistic FTX nonbinary people? Yes, no one is immune from perpetuating transmisogyny. But these types of posts are still exorsexist.

Similarly, though I'm not saying the pattern of "sure you're a boygirl fagdyke genderfreak but do you respect [trans identity]" is necessarily exorsexist or transmultiphobic, since like I said they do address important points, some of which actually are multigender community issues. But people do use those types of posts to be really transmultiphobic and exorsexist, but in an "acceptable" way, because the boygirls are transphobic so it's okay to hate them.

Some examples in the notes of this sort of post asking 'are you normal about trans women?":

This assumes that multigender identities are only an online thing, only a young person thing, that all multigender people look cis in real life, that no multigender person has experienced real transphobia.

Again, this assumes that no multigender person "looks like a freak" for their gender, that they never struggle with transphobia offline. And straight up saying they have a "huge issue" with girlboy genders.

Multigender labels aren't "performative titles," they're our genders. This person is just straight up admitting they think our genders are fake, that they're only "titles" and not real fucking identities.

"I tend to Not like multigender people" okay so we're just saying the quiet part out loud now

By all means, keep talking about intracommunity transphobia. It's important. But don't throw multigender people under the bus to do so.

[gender-queer-fear]

[lezzian]

multi-national corps make big bucks selling merchandise with the orange&pink lesbian flag on it but the person who made it is currently HOMELESS.

emily gwen needs money. give them money. stop giving disney and faceless businesses who sell cheap, imported, low-quality crap produced with probably child or slave labour. give your money to emily gwen.

[handsomegentlebutch]

I saw some dumb shit on reddit and after being down voted to all hell made some memes to express myself

[nyxisadyke]

image id: three memes about lesbians, first is a cartoon person who is asked “are you even listening?”, they respond “yeah, totally”, but the the thought bubble above their head shows they are thinking about butches, trans lesbians, studs, gnc lesbians, he/him lesbians, the concept of lesbian as a gender, they/them lesbians, all surrounded with hearts.

second the hard pills to swallow meme chanted to easy pills to swallow, the pills are labeled as “lesbians have always had a nuanced and complex expression of gender. we are not seem as women in the same way as cishet women are, if we are seen as women at all. acting like he/him, they/them, or trans lesbians are the end of lesbianism as we know it is not only untrue but also ahistorical and invalidating of many many lesbians.

third is the wimpy shiba inu vs strong shiba inu meme, the wimpy one says “they/them lesbians don’t make sense”, “he/him lesbians are scary”, “trans lesbians aren’t lesbians”, and “butches/studs hand the same privilege as cishet men”. the strong one says “lesbians are complex nuanced people with different experiences, a diverse history. we love women. we decenter men. we protect all our sisters not just cis-ters. we respect masc lesbians. we spit in the face of terfs and fascists alike”. end id.

[luxgalador]

so i have a cat now

[luxgalador]

little lady Socks is 7 years old today!!!!!

[bellaswansong]

message for girls: you can be a boy too. you dont have to stop being a girl to be a boy. if you dont want to be a girl you can stop, but you can also keep being a girl and be a boy at the same time. you can be a trans man and still be a woman if you want. if your womanhood is real to you and not just an imitation of what you think you're supposed to be doing, the way a lot of trans men describe, you can keep doing womanhood and just start doing manhood alongside it. and even if yours is an imitation you can keep it forever if you want to, if it is dear to you, you do not have to give it up to be valid.

and btw if your womanhood is hard-won and you feel like any hint of manhood is a threat to your validity, you can still have both things if you want both of them. you can be a trans woman and also a man if you wanna. you don't have to but if you want to, you can.

also no matter what kind of womanhood you have you can stop doing it whenever you need to. including if your womanhood is sincere and genuine btw. and it doesnt have to mean you were never a woman. you can do whatever you want forever i love you

[transonlyspace]

mfs claim they support multigender people and then they go on to disregard and mock every label multigender people use

[literallyaflame]

i hate to be that guy, but the idea that gender, sex, and sexuality are ontologically pure concepts that can be rigidly defined if we simply police our language enough (our english language, because of course) is—i cannot stress this enough—a total waste of time. you may as well spend your afternoons teaching a brick how to swim

[shaftking]

“Some trans men are women.” You are literally just transphobic.

[eliyahu613]

Multigender and nonbinary people who identify both as men and women exist.

[eliyahu613]

please read your blog header

[odinsblog]

Mistakenly believing that they were shooting unarmed Palestinian civilians, Israel has shot its own citizens, even though they were waiving white flags and yelling,“Help!” in Hebrew. And Israel has bombed hospitals, UN schools, churches and nearly every “safe location” that they’ve told noncombatant civilians to retreat to. These aren’t accidents — it’s cold blooded, methodical genocide, in plain view of the entire world. Who will de-radicalize the state of Israel?

[gay-otlc]

I know this is just a shout into the void because yall refuse to listen and you just turn off your brains any time I talk about straight trans men, but:

If you are aware that me being a straight trans man means I am a trans man who is primarily attracted to women, and you are aware that transphobes think trans men are women*, how can you not understand that transphobes think I am a woman who is primarily attracted to women? How can you not understand that having an identity that is seen as a woman who is primarily attracted to women might lead to me being oppressed in some way?

*obviously it's more complex than that and trans men are seen as whatever gender is most convenient for those that hate us, but for simplicity, transphobes are transphobic and think trans men are women.

If you are aware of how queerphobes treat lesbians/"lesbians", and you are aware of how queerphobes treat lesbians/"lesbians" that are masculine, how can you not understand that queerphobes may give especially shitty treatment to lesbians/"lesbians" that identify as men, that use he/him pronouns, that have facial hair and low voices, that get top and/or bottom surgery, etc?

If you are aware of what TERFs think of trans people, how are you not aware of the special hatred they have for those who "betray" lesbianism and transition into straight men? (Not that this hatred is uniquely bad, or worse than the hatred they have for other sorts of trans people, but it does exist.)

Are you somehow not aware of how queer communities that will support you if you're a lesbian will leave you to suffer queerphobia without resources or support if you step a toe out of line the second you're "too masculine" to be a lesbian?

Being a straight trans man brings a unique combination of lesbophobia, butchphobia, and transphobia. Obviously straight trans men are not the only group to experience this combination (for example, transfem butch lesbians do as well), but we experience this combination in different ways. We do not experience lesbophobia, butchphobia, and transphobia all separately, but rather, they intersect in such a way that is specific to straight trans men.

[lemontarto]

update on the song twins ! color be upon ye

[genderkoolaid]

we cannot afford to not be normal about pregnant men

[genderkoolaid]

like all trans people who can get pregnant need more awareness and support but on an ideological level theres a special focus put on men getting pregnant because its the most visceral offense to cissexism. and it feels clear to me that right wingers are actually a lot more willing to take male pregnancy seriously than a lot of leftists who don't seem to see it is an important thing to discuss?

Shaun Simmons was harassed and abused while working for Amazon while pregnant

Camdyn Rider was killed by his partner

A Black trans man was arrested because a police officer thought his bump was stolen clothes

Freddy McConnell was denied the right to be his child's legal father

Thomas Beatie went through so much shit

A trans man had a stillbirth because the hospital didn't consider pregnancy even though they knew he was trans

I've seen people talk about how it will traumatize children to see their trans father's unnatural, mutilated body and be told he gave birth to them. and how trans fathers will groom their children into the "trans cult." and i have absolutely seen people advocating for trans fathers being labeled child abusers who should have their children taken away. thats obviously a risk for all trans parents but there is obviously extra vulnerability when it comes to being physically pregnant! as seen with Shaun Simmons, male-presenting trans people are extra vulnerable to workplace abuse while pregnant, leaving them financially vulnerable! i've seen trans men talk about being denied emotional support after getting an abortion because they saw it as "removing a tumor"; i imagine trans people suffering postpartum mental illness or health issues are going to have even more difficulty receiving treatment, esp if its related to dysphoria. pretty much all pregnant trans men i've seen have talked about being misgendered and othered while getting medical care, being socially isolated once they start showing. we cannot afford to not be normal about pregnant men.

[genderkoolaid]

reblogging to add this article:

What It's Like To Be a Pregnant Trans Man in America

Yes, they want to get pregnant. But pregnancy means being vulnerable once more within the medical system.

Which involves interviews with two trans men, one of whom is Black and talks about how anti-Black racism was involved in how he was treated.

[kai-likes-puffins]

Adding experience here: it is EXTREMELY hard to find any online experiences of trans men going through an abortion. You will only hear about cis women talking about it in all forums or on reddit. There is no space for us to talk about it or read about each others experience. Anything written as post abortion support is going to misgender you constantly, and sometimes go as far to try to reassure you that "you're still a woman." In order to gain any information about care or mental support, you must wade through waters of cis experiences, misgendering language, and loneliness. I was not even able to Find any trans men speaking about their abortion care during my initial search last year. We are killing trans men by not offering them any support in these areas.

[mclennonyaoi]

“touches manhood” it’s so over

[mclennonyaoi]

if there is one drop of manhood in your entire body it will taint you forever. cool! no problems with that i think .

[mclennonyaoi]

it’s crazy how people will say the most evil shit just because the idea of a bi lesbian is icky to them . like grow up .

[armoricaroyalty]

Why is the Sims community boycotting Curseforge?

I've seen a lot of posts going around calling on Simmers to stop using Curseforge, a modding platform that enables creators to monetize their downloads, with plenty of outrage directed toward modders and CC-makers who are still on the platform. But I've also seen a lot of people who are confused about why there are calls for a boycott.

Curseforge is owned by Overwolf, a company that is donating money to the IDF in support of its ongoing genocide against the Palestinian people.

In late October/early November, Overwolf posted a graphic on their social media asking followers to "defend our defenders" by contributing financially to a fundraising drive for the IDF. They were met with backlash and quickly took the graphic down, replacing it with one that used language about raising money for "those effected by the violence in Gaza" (my phrasing may be inexact) but the money is still going to the IDF and not to any agency actually supporting civilians or doing humanitarian work.

You can see the original graphic on this change.org petition, which provides some additional context.

If you are using Curseforge in any way -- by hosting your content there or downloading from it -- you are giving money to a company that is raising funds for an ongoing military campaign against a civilian population.

This is why people are calling for a boycott. If you are a modder or CC maker for the Sims, you should remove all of your content from the website and redirect people to other DL sources. If you are a consumer of mods and CC, you should stop clicking curseforge links and send (polite!) messages to modders and CC makers to urge them to pull their content from the site.