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your life is not an optimization problem

as in you'll never achieve the perfect daily routine, sleep schedule, coping mechanisms, mannerisms, fashion sense etc. even after years and years of healing and improvement and self-discovery. you will never be so good at life that you manage to utilize every waking moment. its great to be productive and all but sometimes you'll suck ass. sometimes you'll take eight hours to be done with a twenty minute job. you'll prioritize the wrong thing. you'll sleep for 12 hrs just to avoid being awake. you'll relapse. and you'll relapse again. you'll forget to turn in the assignment. you'll order too little food. life is far too large and complex for you to even experience it completely, much less try to make sense of and control it. you can't. please give up on that and be at peace with the hours you lose. they are not separate from your life.

akindplace

you have to believe you’re not unforgivable for simply existing imperfectly. and you must learn how to give yourself credit and compassion for the right things you did instead of beating yourself up over your mistakes and never recognizing the good you did while only seeing the bad. and you have to give yourself that forgiveness, over and over and over

thatsonemorbidcorvid

Modern research shows the public work together selflessly in an emergency, motivated by a strong impulse to help

“The notion that people panic and run screaming for the exits is a Hollywood fiction,” said Prof Stephen Reicher, an expert in group behaviour at the University of St Andrews.

“Characteristically, people stay and help each other,” he said. “We found this during the 7/7 attacks on the underground and the 1999 attack on the Admiral Duncan pub in London, where people looked after each other even though they feared other bombs.

“In our own research on the Leytonstone tube attack in 2015, there was an amazing level of spontaneous coordination by bystanders: some directed others away from danger. Some distracted the attacker. Some confronted the attacker. Each was able to act because of the others. Heroism was a feature of the group, not just the individual,” he added.

Prof Clifford Stott, a specialist in the psychology of crowds and group identity at Keele University, agreed. Modern research, he said, showed “bystander apathy” was a myth. Instead, strangers often work together in emergency situations with highly sophisticated unity.”

cephalopodvictorious

Bystander apathy is a myth invented by the New York Times to cover up that the police were called by several residents of the building, but the cops refused to act. The cops then told the Times that 38 people just watched her die (a seemingly arbitrary number and a physical impossibility based on where the attacks occurred), and the Times ran with it. In fact, Kitty was alive when the cops got there, and was being held and comforted by one of her friends who lived in the building because one of the people who saw her get attacked from across the street called her friend to go get her. Because people care.

You have just been attacked. How likely is it that someone will come to your help? If you remember the infamous case of Kitty Genovese in 19

trumpetsbyjasonderulo

just cat-sat for my friend for five days and well, new kinsey scale just dropped i’m a 1.5

We gotta put "complicit" up on the shelf.

doomhamster

Right? If we're going to define it as broadly as people on this fucking site do, the word becomes useless because we're all "complicit" in SOMETHING.

myfootyrthroat

And half the time it's "You're complicit, but for me there is no ethical action under capitalism. 😌"

doomhamster

"You're complicit, but I perform an appropriate amount of guilt (which somehow cancels out the benefits I reap from the oppressive system) and would welcome the violent overthrow of our current society (which I know is never actually going to happen) so I don't need to feel bad."

jabberwockypie

I think a good question to ask is "Who is this helping?". Is this actually helping anybody?

Okay, fine, say you're complicit just by existing in society or whatever. If you sit here and wallow in self-loathing about it, or doomscroll and watch stuff that upsets you for hours, does that actually make anything better for anybody? Does that help fix any of those problems?

To shamelessly steal a Lois McMaster Bujold quote re: hair shirts and self-flagellation and so on, "It indicates a deep confusion of thinking to mistake one’s own discomfort for a benefit to another.”

miffski

(guy experiencing ocd) maybe its not ocd. maybe im evil

eclecticopposition

what is THE worst thing you've ever drank. all liquids acceptable. please tell me what it was, bonus points for why

carby

Hey whoa hi. Hello. I am looking directly into your ear canal. What do you mean you drank a tube of virus concentrate.

whyamiherewhosummonedme

So, I was working in a lab, right? My job in the lab was preparing a pure, concentrated enough sample of virus. This is tricky since, y'know, viruses require hosts to replicate, but you then need to get the host cells (and the pieces of the host cells that died!) out of the sample while still keeping the viruses. Once I'd finished and the samples had been sent to the database for analysis as well as a second one sent to be frozen for future reference, there was still some left over that needed to be disposed of.

I, knowing that this was a once in a lifetime opportunity, waited carefully for the lab director to be deep in conversation with someone else on the other side of the laboratory. And then I took my chance.

Test tubes, as it turns out, are really bad as shot glasses. Their shape turns any liquid inside into a stream, so you really can't knock it back quickly - it takes a couple seconds. Additionally, the best way I can describe the taste of virus concentrate was "sterile rot". A very unique kind of bad! Made worse by the test tube's inefficiency as a shot glass.

(by the way we were studying bacteriophages, not animal viruses. these viruses are too specialized on attacking prokaryotes to even recognize our cells as targets at all, according to studies.)

(but also like. if the viruses managed to successfully switch hosts and killed me with a violent infection, itd still be worth it.)

(for science.)

violetthunderstorm

You have a fitting blog title

nico-the-overlord

this post is getting 50k easy

marlinspirkhall

teaboot

This WOULD be how humanity would go out though tbh

#Fellow phage researcher here!#I personally haven’t drank any lab stocks or chemicals #but my thesis advisor once drank a culture of E. coli to prove a point

magicalrocketships

Here is a reminder, in case you needed it (as I did yesterday) that you can BREAK YOUR STREAKS

you can just stop

there is no moral value or judgement in having a streak or not

companies are banking on your streak count keeping you coming to their app and being a committed user - this benefits them and their advertisers and not you

instead you can make active choices today or any day you want to do things that bring you joy or are helpful

a habit is still a habit if you manage it even like 75% of the time (or 50% of the time or whatever it is, maybe your habit doesn't actually need to be one that requires you to do it every day)

This brought to you by me trying to reduce my phone screen time to stuff I actually want to be doing and not just cycling through the same apps every day, and the surprising revelation that keeping up a streak might not be good for me, actually.

galileosballs

I don't know who needs to hear this, but the idea that you can make a little mistake while doing your taxes and then go to jail for it is mostly not a thing. If you make a mistake on your taxes you'll get a letter in the mail that says 'hey you made a mistake on your taxes' and then you can fix it (source: I have made mistakes on my taxes, international tax treaties are complicated). The only time people typically go to jail for tax stuff is if they commit massive intentional (or negligent, like if they run a business and never consult any expert on how payroll taxes work) fraud over a long period of time.

There's basically no way for a person new to doing taxes - and presumably not handling a lot of money - to accidentally fuck up those taxes in a way that's going to end with that person in jail.

madlori

time for this to start going around again

susiephone

remember: the IRS wants its money more than they want to deal with the headache of prosecuting you.

they send you a letter, you take an hour (or less) to fix it, you send in your correction, and then it's all fine. you might have to pay a late fee or something but they're not gonna jump down your throat for a mistake, literally hundreds of thousands of people fuck up on their taxes every year.

ironborealis

I literally did this last year -- I do my taxes by hand (because fuck TurboTax and HR Block).

I made an error with a decimal place and told them that they owed me $800.

The IRS sent me a letter pointing out what line I'd made the error on and said that they were going to send me an $80 refund.

They didn't even make me refile.

rosslynpaladin

ALSO

THEY WILL NEVER CONTACT YOU BY PHONE. THE IRS IN MY EXPERIENCE SO FAR DOES EVERYTHING BY PAPER.

ETHAN COLE ISN'T REAL, it's a VERY busy scam.

whereifindsanity

Hotel California on Guzheng by Moyun.

coconutshipwreck

Just, like, wow.

quericus

Oh this is freaking incredible

The looping, the musicality, the adaptation

It’s worth the watch guys

prokopetz

Thinking to myself "they can't possibly have written this entire 20 000 word fic exclusively in 4chan greentext format", like a fool.

n0body1mportant

Give us the fic

prokopetz

> be me > 22 year old baby trans in the Most Serene Republic of Greater Caliphornia, year of our lord 2069 > no talents or skills aside from a mastery of the Hissatsu Ougi > (my parents were transphobic ninjas)

Let the record reflect that you asked for this.

prokopetz

@lidsel replied:

I'm desperately curious about your daily internet navigation routine that takes you these places.

I mostly just look up what's being referenced when people blorbotag my shitposts.

eldritchgriffin

>and I have to keep walking east because there’s a trail of dead bodies behind me >which is why I’m now in fuxking DENVER >and I’m legit out of estrogen >drowning my sorrows in some shithole bar >”what’s got you down stranger?” >look up >buff cowgirl milf is talking to me

I low-key love this? They're certainly making use of the format; the chaotic and comedic flow of events would feel lower quality and wordier in standard prose

I don't know how anyone has found this as the only ao3 tag it has is "original work." There's not even a rating or relationship type. The fic summary for anyone intrested is:

"in 2069 AD, the region once known as the United States of America is a world of complex lore and political intrigue that our heroine doesn't really care about because she's too busy trying to find estrogen in the post-apocalyptic Midwest."

prokopetz

Give that roughly two thirds of the comments and kudos appear to post-date the creation of this thread, at least in this particular case the answer to "where do people find this stuff?" is apparently "right here".

#I just read it it’s SO GOOD

toastyglow

I think one of the best things I learned from my last therapist was the idea that when there's a box in your mind you need to open, you don't have to open it all the way on the first try.

what I mean is that she said "you didn't deserve <bad thing that happened to you>" and I said, "I feel like I know that intellectually, but I don't really believe it deep down". and she said, "do you think you can try to believe it just a little bit, as an experiment?" and I started crying lmao

trying to change a core belief entirely all at once is scary, especially when it exists as a protective measure. try giving yourself a cheeky bit of plausible deniability! you're just dipping your toes in the water of self-esteem, you're just having a little wade! you don't have to go swimming right away, and you can always step out if you want. (but the longer you spend in the water, the more you start to understand you're actually safe there...hm, who could have predicted this...)

so that's my advice: if there's something real and true you can't seem to believe, take some time to try and really believe it just a little bit, even if you're only pretending at first. climb the staircase one step at a time instead of trying to put one foot all the way at the top!