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he wasn't even looking at me and he found me
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you literally cannot find a news story about domestic violence towards women or women being murdered bg their male partners without seeing multiple men in the comments saying some version of “oh well she wasn’t innocent either” or “what did she do to set him off, women always do something” like they hate us so so so fucking bad. electric chair to all of them idc
i think i need femboy culture to die like yesterday actually
like. this is so bad it had me stunlocked at the start. i didn't even know what to be upset at
1. this is not from a porn site or anything. this was platformed on youtube by someone who seemingly "tries to keep the community as SFW as possible". no one will be surprised by this because the femboy self-sexualisation is so commonplace its absence is more surprising than its presence at this point
2. "princess boy" feels like a direct parallel to "lady boy". i don't need to explain why this is insanely transmisogynistic
3. the fish guy immediatly switching from "this is pretty wife" to "this is sex toy tranny" upon learning that the person isn't "an actual woman" reveals how absolutely normalized it is to view transfems as sex objects to be freely abused, always treated worse than both cis men and cis women would be
4. the femboy character's response to being promised continuous sexual violence by a group being "cool thanks" reflects how the femboy community will do one of 3 things when confronted with the real violence transfems face : completely gloss over it, turn it into a joke, or say "that's hot" and turn it into more fuel for the degradation of transfemininity through sexualisation. this somehow manages to be a bit of all 3. mainly the third though
5. it's the "trap" trope all over again. "i look like a woman but i'm actually a dude! i'm being deceitful i could never actually be a girl!" transfemininity once again treated as a costume that makes you incredibly desireable. but only as a sex object, not as a person or equal. and only if it's a costume, if you're actually transfem you're lower than dirt. hot and fuckable and lower than dirt
i don't know how anybody involved in the process thought it was a good idea. it just. feels bad all around. like it was fabricated specifically to make me lose my marbles. and i probably missed a lot this is just off the top of my head at 2 in the morning with the entry-level transfeminism i absorbed through osmosis by listening to so many smart transfems on this site
"tme/tma is a binary!!" yes that's how oppression descriptors fucking work dipshit. you're either the intended target for discrimination or you're not. you don't fucking transcend oppression just because you're nonbinary or intersex
i think it's really great that we've associated any and all feminism that is even a smidge deeper than "women are so hecking cool" with white cis american women. I think it's awesome that I basically always have to be on guard for being called white whenever I post about misogyny being a real, observable societal force that impacts my life and lives of all women every fucking day and not, as popular perception would tell you, a vague, ill-defined concept that has no real bearing or impact on our existence. I'm so glad misogyny is recognized among self-proclaimed leftists as a lesser oppression, something that is only ever taken seriously by evil privileged white woman. and of course this all has nothing to do with how we interact with and treat feminists of color or transfeminists or feminists not from the imperial core and all the other additionally marginalized feminist women.
This is transfeminism!
Without fail, every time a woman is talking about how she does not want to have children and never wants to be pregnant and how medical professionals, romantic interests and family members keep trying to bulldoze her decision and keep expecting her to change her mind because motherhood is something that is expected of all women and it is abhorrent to think a woman could not desire it, a random mother spawns in the comments to be like “Well, actually, you never know! I didn’t want children and then I got pregnant and I realized I love being a mama and I have five little babies now! Could happen to you! 🥰”
Sister, keep that to yourself or make your own goddamn post, you are ignoring that woman’s central concern and belittling her, you don’t even think you’re doing it. Formerly childfree women who ended up having children and loving it are like detransitioners in the sense that there is nothing inherently wrong with changing your mind about having children or realizing you were mistaken about your gender identity but immediately weaponizing your indecision to tell people that the barriers to healthcare and the violations of their bodily autonomy and the way society ignores that person’s wishes is actually okay because you were wrong. Some people do know themselves.
Feminist criticism of men's behavior comes from the idea that gender is a social construct, that men are not inherently evil and their behavior can change. If men couldn't change, the criticism would be pointless.
It is not necessary for every feminist statement to include a 'not all men do this' disclaimer. The criticism itself already expresses the possibility that men could choose not to behave in this way.
Unless someone states that men's behavior can't change or that there is inherent evil in being a man, accusing a feminist of 'manhating' because she criticizes men is usually nothing but an attempt to distract from the content of the criticism itself.
We should recognize such an obvious attempt at derailment for what it is and move on.
People who claim to be against the binary sure do love saying PLEASE DONT BE ATRANS WOMAN PLEASE DONT TRANSITION PLEEEEAASE JUST A FEMININE GUY OR ATLEAST JUST AN UNDETERMINED GENDERFUCK IF YOU ARE A GIRL THATS LITERALLY BINARY!!!!
the thing that gets me is that if trans women were allowed to be mainstream feminists the movement would be advanced by leaps and bounds but those dumb motherfuckers are too busy delighting in their disgust to care
i just don't understand what's transmisogynistic about Dr Dick Joke, the pervert rapist cannibal transvestite
like. if the most blatant caricature in the history of caricatures is still subject to debate how do you even talk about all the rest
Oh look someone who doesn't understand transmisogyny, misogynoir, and is demeaning both terms with this post. Amazing rhetoric.
TME trans people LOVE to go online and put on a trans woman costume right up until it would negatively affect them, and then go “just kidding i’m not THAT kind of tranny lol! I’m the GOOD kind!”
TME trans people often just say “I’m trans” and don’t clarify they are a man/masc, nor actually do any work to explain whether they are affected by transmisogyny or not. They love the rush they feel when the person they’re talking to takes a less defensive posture when realizing they aren’t TMA.
They enjoy throwing their sisters under the bus because of the rush they get when we die and they don’t.
I feel like saying "actually, women naturally care less about looks than men" in response to incels is pointless for a few reasons.
• It's not true. Sure, there are studies showing women prioritize other attributes, but couple these studies with a society that was built with the intention of women remaining so subordinate to men that they didn't have the opportunity to prioritize their own desires in the first place until they had financial independence.
• We are seeing changes in dating patterns in societies where women do have more economic power than they used to. These changes include more women dating men younger than them, and a decline of relationships with large age gaps.
• Many men are upset precisely because women have choices now, and because women can subject them to the same standards they subject women to. For this reason, I don't deny standards can be unfair. I just don't feel bad at all--it's a balance.
Basically I truly think a lot of grievances towards women right now are part of growing backlash to social change. Also, a lot of women prioritized independence out of necessity--they saw what women in their families endured in more "traditional" relationships and never wanted to end up in the same situation. This means a lot of women may choose to be single and be fine with it, and men warning them they'll be alone forever does absolutely nothing.
That's my analysis 🤓 ☝️
learned today that one of the hosts of a podcast I occasionally listen to was in the epstein files because of an incident wherein she was being sexually harassed/abused by a man who worked in her field -> she created a google doc for other women in said field to anonymously submit the names of men who had harassed/abused them -> one of these men sued for her for defamation even though she didn’t know him & didn’t even know who his victim was -> he couldn’t afford lawyers & reached out to epstein for funding -> epstein gave it to him -> after 5 years she was forced into a settlement & had to pay him over $100k. the way these predatory men find solidarity with each other is so so so profoundly evil
right wing men really seem to cling to any philosophy that absolves themselves of accountability for poor behavior, which i'm sure means nothing.
I will say my problem with young women dating older men is not that I think 20 year olds can't consent or whatever, it's because it's illogical and reminiscent of a world we should have left behind at this point if we actually see men and women as equals. This isn't even my opinion it's a literal fact- the manosphere is freaking out over the decline of "trophy wife" marriages (young woman, wealthy older man) which happened because once women have financial independence they can actually prioritize themselves properly. In fact a lot of "gender wars" stuff online is just men having to face the fact women can choose now lol. If we skip 100 years in the future and there's 50/50 old woman young man and old man young woman age gap couple frequency I would care less. And it's totally possible that can happen if we are truly seen as equals. Just not the case right now.
Also in these marriages both people end up resenting each other anyway--the woman feels like her youth was wasted and the man knows she isn't in love with him. That's why you don't see 40+ year old women talking about the joys of being a tradwife, it's always a 19 year old with an old man.
That's #mytruth anyway...and I feel like it's not often brought up in these conversations. Everyone is primarily focused on consent and life experience when defending or denouncing these sorts of relationships I feel and kind of missing the larger picture. Straight up I will shame you for voluntarily replicating conditions that made every generation of women mentally insane idc if it's lana del rey coquette aesthetic
ive had trans men ask me before how to overcome the insecurity/fear that they are transitioning just to escape misogynist treatment and wondering about the validity of their identity. the simple solution is that u must continue to engage and fight misogyny even when you are not a woman. prove your fear wrong
u really cannot out-validate an insecurity that u do not do the work to fight against the structure that supports it u know. i am the gender i am simply because it looked fucking yummy. the reason i dont experience doubts w it in this way is because any time i do i turn around to face the thing im 'running from' and punch it
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currently thinking abt how saying "i hate women including trans women" is ✨trans inclusive misogyny✨ and is expected to be gender affirming while "i hate men including trans men" is somehow both misgendering and offensive
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