florabells

Be patient. Be gentle. Be humble. Be loving.

[tofublock]

will you watch the stars with me?

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

ଘ(੭ˊᵕˋ)੭* ੈ✩‧₊˚

✩ you will find peace

✩ you’ll get through this

✩ you’ll be okay

✩ keep going, you’re doing so well !!

[riibrego]

sweet citrus

[likelywilde]

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[thepowerwithin]

“Control your thoughts, and you will be able to control the way in which the world appears. Think highly of events; if it’s good, see it’s beauty. If it’s bad, seek for growth. Everything that happens has a reason, purpose, and difference that it will make. So take a moment, and choose to see the impact that your thoughts have on your life.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

[thoradvice]

despite what capitalist society tells us, success is so much more than financial & academic. success is helping people. success is making people happy. success is going to bed with a smile on your face. success is love. success is the bonds we form with other people. there is so much more succeeding than money and academia. you’re not a failure just because you don’t make six figures or have a degree from harvard or oxford. there is so much more to life than what we are told.

[iriseslonging]

“Friendship in marriage is its own thing: friendship in a cup of tea, or a glass of wine, or a cappuccino every Sunday morning. Friendship in buying undershirts and underpants. Friendship in picking up a prescription or rescuing the towed car. Friendship in waiting for the phone call after the mammogram. Friendship in toast buttered just so. Friendship in shoveling the snow. I am the one you want to tell. You are the one I want to tell.”

— Elizabeth Alexander, The Light of the World: A Memoir

[andallshallbewell]

[replanting]

from “ask polly: why should i keep going?”

[madsiemoon]

🌱Some helpful tips to keep healthy house plants🌱

[karrakazz]

not sure if this will make sense to anyone besides me but: the antidote to negativity is not positivity, its warmth

[karrakazz]

positivity tells a sad person that there is no reason to be sad. warmth asks the sad person if they want to go get some ice cream

[ares-skittles]

Been a moment since I saw this. Glad it’s back on my dash when I needed it.

[silverstardust666]

Positivity is telling a person how great their life is. Warmth is helping them understand that it’s okay to be not okay and letting them know that you’re there for them.

[lovenotereminders]

Friendly reminder: when people say ‘as long as you tried your best’ it doesn’t mean ‘the best you could possibly have done ever’ it means ‘the best you were capable of at the time.’ Sometimes ‘trying your best’ is just getting out of bed in the morning. Just because you weren’t working yourself to the bone doesn’t mean you weren’t trying your best. 

[roachpatrol]

ultimately i think kindness is the most radical thing you can do with your pain and your anger. it’s like, you take everything awful that’s ever been done to you, and you throw it back in the world’s teeth, and you say no, fuck you, i’m not going to take this.  you say this is unacceptable. you say that shit stops with me.

humans are fucking terrible and this awful world we live in will fucking kill you but if you are kind, if you are brave and clever and try really hard, you can defy it. you can impose on this bleak and monstrous structure something beautiful. even if it’s temporary. even if it doesn’t heal anything inside you that’s been hurt.  

i’m gonna sleep and i’m gonna wake up and i swear by everything in this deadly horrible universe i’m gonna make someone happy. 

[roachpatrol]

i’ve seen a number of comments and tags where people feel that they must swallow or repress their anger in order to engage in kindness. that is not at all what i am recommending here. radical kindness is an expression of anger. it is not passive. it is not repressive. it does not require you, in any way, to forgive those that have fucked you up. it does not require you to be quiet. 

it just requires that you be kind. viciously. vengefully. you fight back. you plant flowers. give to charity. play games. pet someone’s dog. scream into the dark. paint and write and dance, tell jokes, sing songs, bake cookies. you have been hurt and you don’t have to deny that hurt. you just have to recognize it in other people, and take their hand, and say: no more. enough. fuck this. no more. 

have a cookie.

i will say this again: we are all going to die. the universe is enormous and almost entirely empty. to be kind to each other is the most incredible act of defiance against the dark that i can imagine. 

[naamahdarling]

i will say this again: we are all going to die. the universe is enormous and almost entirely empty. to be kind to each other is the most incredible act of defiance against the dark that i can imagine.

[feminesque]

1. The universe is indifferent. We ought not be.

2. A good quote: There are two kinds of people. Those who think, “I don’t want anyone to suffer like I did.” And those who think, “I suffered; why shouldn’t they?”

3. Two good quotes by Kurt Vonnegut: “Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you’ve got a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of, babies-“God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.”

And: “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”

[grison-in-space]

Another good quote:

“I. THIS IS NOT A GAME.

II. HERE AND NOW, WE ARE ALIVE.”

You can be kind and fuel it with rage. You can be kind and fuel it with a bitter twist, or you can be kind and fuel your kindness with righteous anger, or you can be kind and fuel it with love or spite or ecstatic joy. And no matter what your fuel is, you still can make kindness happen in the world so that people can warm themselves by it.

Kindness isn’t an emotion, kids. That’s the thing. Kindness is action. Kindness is choosing to take your emotions and channel them towards doing the most good where you can; to choose the targets of your actions carefully; to spread a little joy behind you, when you have a little to spare.

Kindness can mean a gentle word or a shouted imperative. It can be a warm meal or a gentle hug or a clean death. Kindness can manifest in many ways, and not all of them are one hundred percent nice. The kind thing to do may be doing nothing at all. 

But kindness is, above all else, an action. We are imperfect humans, and we cannot control our emotions–but we can control what we do as a result. We can control the actions that our emotions and experiences propel us to perform. 

The darkness is nothing but the absence of light, you know. It is endless and nihilistic and all enveloping. A lit candle has no hope against it.

But if enough of us light small candles and little matches behind us as we walk through this wide, uncaring universe, we can light up that sky. We can take an empty world and we can fill it with each other. 

That’s how we can take the bones of an empty universe and forge a warm hearth fire humanity can use to keep back the night. 

[glorious-spoon]

But kindness is, above all else, an action. We are imperfect humans, and we cannot control our emotions–but we can control what we do as a result. We can control the actions that our emotions and experiences propel us to perform.

[nyxetoile]

I’m also a fan of Camus:

“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back.”

[elljayvee]

“There are three ways to ultimate success. The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.” — Fred Rogers

[beatrice-otter]

“Any man can be kind when he is comfortable. I’d always thought kindness a trivial virtue therefore. But when we were hungry, thirsty, sick, frightened, with our deaths shouting at us, in the heart of horror, you were still as unfailingly courteous as a gentleman at his ease before his own hearth.’ ‘Events may be horrible or inescapable. Men have always a choice - if not whether, then how they may endure.’        ―    Lois McMaster Bujold, The Curse of Chalion    

[mckitterick]

[suspendnodisbelief]

“The law of evolution is that the strongest survives! Yes, and the strongest, in the existence of any social species, are those who are most social. In human terms, most ethical… There is no strength to be gained from hurting one another. Only weakness.” - Ursula K. LeGuin

“We’re each of us alone, to be sure. What can you do but hold your hand out in the dark?” - Ursula K. LeGuin, The Wind’s Twelve Quarters, Volume 1

“It is our suffering that brings us together. It is not love. Love does not obey the mind, and turns to hate when forced. The bond that binds us is beyond choice. We are brothers. We are brothers in what we share. In pain, which each of us must suffer alone, in hunger, in poverty, in hope, we know our brotherhood. We know it, because we have had to learn it. We know that there is no help for us but from one another, that no hand will save us if we do not reach out our hand. And the hand that you reach out is empty, as mine is. You have nothing. you possess nothing. You own nothing. You are free. All you have is what you are, and what you give.” - Ursula K. LeGuin, The Dispossessed

Here are some links to reinforce the importance of what is said here: 1. Human beings consistently become more cooperative, compassionate, and constructive following major disasters.

2. Normalcy bias, also called bystander syndrome, is what happens when people don’t know how to react to an emergency, so they wait for someone else to move first. 

Be someone who moves first. 

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

you’re not a bad person. you’re worthy of happiness and new beginnings. it’s ok to make mistakes sometimes. i know you’re trying. 

[6969noname-deactivated20200711]

“Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like you love yourself.”

— Tara Stiles (via deeplifequotes)

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

you don’t need to soften your personality or change who you are, thinking you’re unlovable - you’re already lovely enough.

[colorogasm]

Always Remember:

kissing can and will, get boring.

its ok to go to sleep on opposite sides.

forgetting favorites, dates and replies is only human.

you dont have to like, or be friends with all of their friends and vice-versa.

they have a right to spend weekends dedicating to their friends and family. you have the same right.

privacy is still in play.

trying simple things that they like, no matter how much you are sure you will dislike it, is a very small step you can take to show your love to them.

you dont gotta have the same taste in music, food, books etc.

saying i love you, thank you, take care, please and i missed you really helps.

you cant agree with all their life decisions and they cant with yours. keeping an open mind and having an honest and deep discussion about it helps. 

they dont need your permission to do things and neither you need theirs.

the intention and care behind the gift matters. not its price tag. 

dont try and change them. help them become better versions of themselves and get the same help and support and care from them. 

know what matters most and focus on that.