Gender Is Too Messy

•They/It/Void : Agender : Queer : Writer : Civil Rights and Animal Welfare Activist : Cripple Punk • Call me Alix. Unapologetically queer, and, no, I won’t debate you. Science account is @thatonesciencenerd. Writing account is @alix-writes-things Stay safe, kiddos!

[silverstardust666]

Okay because there are so many things that need to be said, and I can’t rely on people reading my bio, I’m making a pinned post! This will be edited as necessary.

1. Please tag things like th*nsp*. If you don’t wanna tag for that? Don’t follow me

2. Please never reblog pictures of me whether my face is in them or not. Especially if someone else is in the picture with me!

3. I have personal tags such as alix is emo, alix rants, alix is in pain, and alix panics (I cannot remember them all). Feel free to block these if you don’t want to deal with some of my random personal stuff

6. hi ilysm! is the tag I use when I’m being gay for my joyfriend! Block this tag if you’d rather not deal with excessive gay.

7. I add ask to tag to all posts I reblog or create. If you need something tagged, let me know and I will tag for it! I promise I will not be rude or mad about it!

8. Personal tags: alix is emo, alix panics, alix rants, alix has knee issues, alix questions if they’re actually neurotypical, alix is in class, alix has plants, alix is in pain (to be updated as necessary)

9. Please let me know if I need to make any posts I create easier to read for neurodivergent people. I try my best, but I’m still learning.

Stay safe, kiddos!

[huastuff-deactivated20260310]

Which AO3 Tag Are You? — tagged by dear @wolfboy88 🖤

I am definitely not 😃 This tag is on my ETERNALLY BLOCKED tag list. Even though i am a Fannibal, love gothic romance, horror and etc., i won’t read fics with this tag —since most of them are really making me uncomfortable.* Plus, the description is so weird. Why would i want to scare people away? I am one of the bubbliest people ever. 😭😭😭

* This is my own preference. I respect others reading them. No judge, no shade 🫶🏼

Npt: @awinnn23 , @royal-callahxn , @xamlovuathoi , @wolfpawzjakey , @mrhuskay , @romanraekens , @wintersnails , @euphorial-docx , @executivedissonance , @raekenrmcf , @thiamfresh , @thiamstuff , @thiamsxbitch , @padawanpumpkin , @akirasstories , @diaphanouz , @dark-devil-wolf , @fruchtfliege , @first-chimera , @findingthiam , @genetic-hellhound , @guetantagenroasters , @honeybaekedham , @just-kaitlin , @ksbbb , @little-ghost6 , @bluebillinski07 , @vlirsin , @neurodivergentflower , @nightshade-emrys , @melseldel , @maxity , @mila-thiam and others 🫶🏼

[ksbbb]

👁️👁️ wait. I do have plots…. Complete slander

Tagging @wolfboy88 @maplesyrizzup @mmoosen @theoceanismyinkwell @chasing-chimeras @xamlovuathoi

[theoceanismyinkwell]

shove over everyone i'm the manic pixie girl

(jk)

tagging @notaparty-trick @anababy-chimid @fruchtfliege @ashyjingles @chasing-chimeras @thiamsxbitch @josywbu @rhyslahey @outcastpack @dragonbano eep sorry if any of you already got tagged!

[dragonbano]

oooooo I do love aus

Tagging @butilovemymirror @no-fxn-club @aceonacase @silverstardust666

[silverstardust666]

Im offended

(I have no one to tag and im sad)

[psychoticallytrans]

Here is a skill that many of us are going to need for survival: how to tell if someone is offering to let you lie.

The tip-off phrase is "If [circumstance] was true, then we/I could do [helpful thing.]" This is not a guarantee that the person is offering, but it should tell you "I am being informed of a way to improve things."

Your confirmation phrase is "What documentation would that require?" This is essentially asking them "if people come asking me to prove this, will I be able to? Or will they not come at all?"

The answer you are hoping for with the confirmation phrase is "Just tell me if it's true, and I'll put it on the form." Note that this is not a direct instruction to lie, because they can't tell you that.

If they didn't mean to extend an offer to lie or this is a situation where they can't, then they'll list off something like your paystubs or your birth certificate. Your response back in that case is "Thanks, I'll tell my friends who qualify." This clears you of any concerns that you may have been considering lying.

The more complex answer is when they answer by giving you a form on the spot. Your job, in this case, is to scan the form and see if what they are asking you can be meaningfully verified by an official source.

Things that can be verified by an official source include, but are not limited to, your age, legal sex, income, veteran status, and place of residence. It's not generally a good idea to lie about these on official documents.

Be smart, and be practical. Do what you need to in order to stay alive, and keep an ear out for the people offering to help you do so.

[ulysses-but-somehow-more-transer]

im having trouble understanding this in the abstract, could someone give an example of a hypothetical situation this would apply to?

[time-travel-toke-up]

"This medication is covered for FREE if you are quitting smoking. Are you working on quitting?"

*me, thinking about how I quit smoking in 2018 and it is now the year of our lord 2024* "Oh yeah, still working very hard. You know how those cravings can hit."

*please note, how I omitted the truth in the example. I didn't ANNOUNCE it been 6 years SINCE I ALREADY QUIT. I said that I was working hard because cravings are still a thing (6 years later not said out loud). The fact I haven't have a SINGLE one in 4 years [I was Weak during lockdown but could not finish a cig anymore] is irrelevant. The doctor asking me was *nudge nudge wink wink* pointing out that labeling my cig use as "not quite quit yet" would cut some costs on medications.

Sometimes the 'lies' you are being an opportunity to nod along for are just ommissions of truth. Like- still being an active smoker for easier access to other treatments or random pains being worse than YOU personally find them. "If X is true, Y could be an option for you" is a way to allow you to snip off details to make X TECHNICALLY true. They are asking you to be a VAGUE fuck- not a pedantic one. For BOTH of y'all's plausible deniability.

"So these symptoms prevent you from doing [X, Y, Z] activities?"

Even if YOU think you are mildly inconvenienced at best, 'OH YEAH- the generalized fatigue/nagging pain/light headed feeling just makes it so hard to [whatever activity you just find more choresome in those circumstances]!'

I have also had it happen at random coffee shops. Or vape shops.

"How much cash do you have on you? Conveniently this is on sale RIGHT NOW for you for 5 dollars less than that IF it happens to be your birthday. It's your birthday... RIGHT??????"

Is the exact same concept. "You have a coupon right?" "And you saw the BOGO deal and remembered to mention it, RIGHT? Cuz mentioning it before I complete the transaction will make these BOGO..."

[sunspotpony]

You may ask, “why would someone ask me to lie?”

You all ever seen that scene in the Incredibles where Mr. incredible basically tells this little old lady to get her stuff approved? It’s a cartoonish example of what happens all the time in real life.

You ever seen a cashier conveniently forget to ring up baby formula for a single mother, and then wish her a lovely day?

Sometimes, people look out for each other. Pay attention and let them. The world is spooky out there; we’re all in it together.

[earsandtailsarefeet]

This is a good read and worth paying attention to. The human urge to help out other beings is strong, and people are prone to trying to indicate things like this to you.

This post gives some good steer on tasting if that's what is happening, a good read.

[dancing-crow]

My partner needed my signature on a thing for the insurance company. I was out of the country. The nice lady looked at him and said "you should go check in the parking lot" and he explained that I was Out of the Country and she shook her head and said again (more patiently, and enunciating clearly) "you should CHECK in the PARKING LOT" and nodded at him, handing him the form and a pen.

He finally understood.

[aiyexayen]

this is the number one reason i miss being a cashier. helping people and sticking it to the man at the same time, in tiny little ways every day. 😌

[westiec]

Important addendum:

If somebody does this for you, and you are at any point in a position to give Feedback On Your Experience — no they didn't. Don't tell Yelp, don't tell the customer satisfaction survey, for the love of fuck don't tell their boss, even if you mean it as praise. "Employee was friendly, knowledgeable, and professional" end of review.

Don't accidentally narc on someone doing you a solid.

[elierlick]

Queer Liberation March, New York City, 2025

[sctir]

plane tickets should be Free if you miss yuor friends

[procyonicpierrot]

not to be emo on main but getting back into mcr feels like walking home from high school on a winters night

[the-kirbe-anon-archive-deactiva]

I love dandelions!

*puts a dandelion in your hair*

Reblog to put a dandelion in prev's hair

[sailorbrazil]

i personally think its pretty crazy that karl marx actually knew what was gonna happen to us back in 1850 like this guy comes out of nowhere at what the fuck o'clock and goes, capitalism is going to creep into every single crevice of your lives there will be nothing left and all creativity and integrity will be taken away like. he just said that    and it was correct

[roadhogsbigbelly]

"the age of consent should be 21" is alot like "the death penalty should include sex offenders" as twitter discourse topics, in the sense that i feel like the people bringing up those 'hot takes" barely believe in them and are only using them as a morality test because they think the only reason you would be opposed to them is because you're a evil pervert and not because actually trying to make those laws actionable in reality would have pretty natural consequences that noone advocating for them is actually thinking about.

[roadhogsbigbelly]

"let's raise the age of consent to 21 and see who get's mad" probably 20 year olds who can't vote or access trans healthcare because there is not a single country where the age of majority is younger than the age of consent, because why would someone who's legally an adult in terms of paying taxes, working a full time job, and die in wars legally not be allowed to have sex???

[roadhogsbigbelly]

"anyone who's against executing pedophiles is telling on themselves" or maybe they're afraid of that law being used to execute sex workers, gay people and trans people's considering the same conservatives who are constantly labeling them as perverts also advocate for the death penalty for sex offenders. which is probably a coincidence.

[cardassiangoodreads]

Some of us are “against executing pedophiles” because we are against executing anybody. I think it’s really revealing as to how much these people have ever talked to leftists and liberals IRL if they don’t seem to be aware that a significant number of us oppose the death penalty across the board.

[cardassiangoodreads]

Some major “TERF to Family Values Conservative pipeline” happening here in the notes!

[un-interactive-introvert]

Idk if anyone has heard about sexual predators recently, but im truly fascinated by this idea conservatives seem to have, that arbitrary unenforceable laws will stop them from commiting crimes. Sexual predators NOW dont care about the age of consent, what makes you think changing it to 21 will have any effect on the number of people being assaulted? Its like the argument that gender segregated bathrooms stop predators. Idk why you think a sign on a door is going to stop a predator from going in and hurting someone but like. If they wanted to it would not stop them. Forcing trans people into bathrooms based on "biological sex" doesnt stop actual predators from hurting someone in a public bathroom. No law, short of dystopian millatary state, can completely police criminals from doing criminal activities. The caveat of dystopian millitary state ofc being that all the freedoms of everyone else is taken away with it and marginalised people are criminalised for existing.

If you want to help victims, your target should be better supports for victims, better education for recognising dangerous situations, better support and education for people who recignise themselves to be abusers or violent so that they can actually be supported to change their behaviour patterns, and better legal systems and prison reform for actually dealing with people commiting violent crimes. Creating more and more restricitve laws does not help a single person or change the outcome of a single victim.

[hawkpartys]

the problem with being someone who 1) lives in mountain lion range 2) enjoys night hiking is that there is a nonzero chance my last words will be "oh fugg a gougar"

[omegasmileyface]

"drug-seeking behavior" woah the patient wants u to treat their ailments with medicine ...... thats crazy

[silverstardust666]

Genuinely upsetting that I have to go to work! Not even in a silly funny “ugh work sucks blegh” kinda way.

In a “this is slowly taking my ability to cope with life. I am exhausted and cannot mask once I’m off the clock. It’s becoming noticeable to people I don’t interact with enough for them to know what it looks like for me to be exhausted. I can hardly cope with daily functions anymore. Getting up feels impossible. Putting on clothes is painful. Being a human doesn’t feel right anymore. I have meltdowns almost daily. My body is failing me. I can’t afford the care I need, but without that care I won’t be able to function anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can hardly articulate what I’m experiencing because it’s just that bad.” kinda way.

[curlicuecal]

Whenever I take a long car ride I end up exhausted afterwards, and I’m always like “why am I so tired? I was just sitting around doing nothing all day.”

But the answer, it turns out, is I was doing something. Riding in a car jars your body in many directions and requires constant microadjustments of your muscles just to stay in place and hold your normal posture. Because you’re inside the car, inside the situation, it’s easy not to notice all the extra work you’re doing just to maintain the status quo.

There’s all sorts of type of work that we think of as “free” that require spending energy: concentrating, making decisions, managing anxiety, maintaining hypervigilance in an unfriendly environment, dealing with stereotype threat, processing a lot of sensory input, repairing skin cells damaged sun exposure, trying to stay warm in a cold room.

The next time you think you’re tired from “nothing”, consider instead that you’re probably in situation where you’re doing a lot of unnoticed extra work just to stay in place.

[ceekari]

opening my body’s task manager to see what’s taking up all my cpu

[mikkeneko]

Also, just to add: we should not lose sight of the fact that the mammalian brain is a ridiculously  energy-hungry organ. A human brain makes up 2% of the body’s weight and volume and 20% of its caloric requirement. Thinking is physical work.

[hasufin]

Competitive chess players carb-load before tournaments. And lose weight in the process.

[headspace-hotel]

It took me an embarrassing amount of time to realize that thinking physically takes up energy. I would be like “why don’t i have energy I’ve been sitting inside studying all day” ma'am it’s because the phrasings, evidences and vocabularies in your brain are eating the energy

[jabberwockypie]

If I’ve been really focused on crafting or something, there will invariably come a point where my brain is just like “Warning! Warning! Out of Energy!”.

Getting a snack usually fixes it.

[kipplekipple]

I get post-exertional malaise from just… Going places. I sit in a wheelchair, I take one bus and spend some time in a different building… And when I get home, I’m sick.

This post helped a little cause I always feel bad about it.

[aniseandspearmint]

leaving the house is abso-effing-lutely EXHAUSTING and it’s okay to BE exhausted after having to do stuff

[elljayvee]

Legit, the exertion of driving a vehicle is why you should have a water bottle and some snacks in your car if you have to drive any sort of distance.

[weepyemperor]

Hey boss man can't come in to work today. I'm just not feeling the love. You know how it is. Not feeling the love. At all

[vulturevanity]

hate what people did to the dead dove tag

[vulturevanity]

mothers and fuckers of the jury. "Dead dove: do not eat" is a label on a bag in the fridge. It means "the content of this bag is exactly what is labeled". It does not mean "trigger warning uhhh something". In fact, it means the exact opposite of "trigger warning uhhh something", because you use it with other tags. You write a fucked up fic with extreme violence and gore, you tag it as "extreme violence", "gore" and you tag it with "dead dove: do not eat". You write a fic with emotional abuse, gaslighting and manipulation, you tag it with "emotional abuse", "gaslighting" and "dead dove: do not eat". You write a fic with your extremely niche kink that appeals to like 3 other people and may skeeve out the rest of the fandom, you tag that with your kink and "dead dove: do not eat". It's so people know you really mean the content warnings.

It's NOT a catch-all term for "uhhh this may be fucked idk". TAG YOUR SHIT GENEROUSLY.

[atreeinafrog]

Happy Pride 🫡 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️!

[eyecantread]