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[shamebats]

Migraine sufferers will be like "it's not like I'm disabled or anything, it's just that if I do any of these normal everyday things other people do all the time, my head explodes. But I'm fine honestly, as long as I avoid doing anything ever and my environment and the weather never changes, then my head explodes a little less"

[tpwrtrmnky]

It's fine, it's fine, as long as I'm never under stressful circumstances such as Doing My Job, the migraines are mostly under control and don't give me Head Explosion That Makes My Job Impossible

[foodsci-transfem]

I'm not disabled! Well I am, but it has nothing to do with physical inability to see where I'm walking when I step outside in the morning. It's entirely unrelated to being unable to think if fluorescent lights are within a mile of my location. I can hear them plotting their evil deeds, planning to stab me from within. But yeah no that's normal I'm disabled because I get distracted sometimes and have difficulty with social conventions not because I need sunglasses when driving at night

[trangoldin]

I'm ngl it kinda kills me that the thing that is killing Hank Green and making him go through mass cancellation is him saying that he sometimes uses AI for research.

Like not the horrible video on hrt, no of course not. Loudly and proudly declaring "we don't hire transfems here at scishow"? Nobody gives a shit!

But say "i used Claude as a search engine for academic articles" and every creator on youtube takes turns shitting you as you go into fucking witness protection.

[trangoldin]

There is a connection here with that post I saw the other day about how being performatively anti-AI can be a way to loudly declare one's commitment to "good values" without actually having to care about uplifting any marginalized communities

[foodsci-transfem]

Damn, they announced they don't hire trans women? Was it in the video they took down?

[perpetual-oratorio]

In the video that was eventually taken down, after they finish the transfem hrt section, they segue into the transmasc hrt section by saying "and now for the part our writing team actually has experience with"

[foodsci-transfem]

Definitely not great, but it's more of a "we haven't hired any trans women" than a "we don't" or "we won't"

Still iffy and concerning, but not the outright discrimination I thought it'd be

[trangoldin]

I'm ngl it kinda kills me that the thing that is killing Hank Green and making him go through mass cancellation is him saying that he sometimes uses AI for research.

Like not the horrible video on hrt, no of course not. Loudly and proudly declaring "we don't hire transfems here at scishow"? Nobody gives a shit!

But say "i used Claude as a search engine for academic articles" and every creator on youtube takes turns shitting you as you go into fucking witness protection.

[trangoldin]

There is a connection here with that post I saw the other day about how being performatively anti-AI can be a way to loudly declare one's commitment to "good values" without actually having to care about uplifting any marginalized communities

[foodsci-transfem]

Damn, they announced they don't hire trans women? Was it in the video they took down?

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

Most people’s type is somewhat like one or both of their parents.

Sigmund can be a little bit not completely wrong as a treat.

[foodsci-transfem]

Fun fact! Sigmund was into his mom cuz he barely interacted with her. The person he related to as most do to their mother, was the maid who raised him. She was (practically speaking) his mother, while his mother was a rich lady he barely knew. He assumed his feelings are normal but they were dictated by an abnormal upbringing.

Also! No wtf are you talking about? Are you talking physically, we're attracted to people who look like family? Cuz no. Or are you talking about mental traits and priorities? Cuz if that's the case, that's almost by definition? You were raised with values, which (statistically) you kept. You would like your partner to share your values. So. Of course??

[hagiomoto]

A downloaded copy does not automatically represent a lost sale; many people who obtain unauthorized copies would not have purchased the book at its retail price in the first place. Treating every download as a lost sale assumes that every downloader would otherwise have become a paying customer—an assumption that is not supported in every case.

[hagiomoto]

[foodsci-transfem]

Also some are downloads of owned media. For example, I have illegally downloaded several books I listened to (buying the audiobook) to read them. Usually I want to check the spelling of names, read a cool page to a friend to get them interested, or even want to see the art (which is sometimes just not included??), rather innocuous stuff. I also have some books in physical format and downloaded the digital to have in my easier-to-travel-with device.

It's not a lost sale. I own a copy of the text. I'm just doing format conversion. And sometimes, it's even a sale I gain the author bc I can show someone a cool page (which I couldn't otherwise)

[ashes2caches]

it’s very cute when the trans girl has long hair that obscures her own vision.

[foodsci-transfem]

If I can't see them they can't see me. Also if they can't see me they can't murder me. Or compliment me on stuff. Both of which are awful.

[nyantara]

things that would exist if intellectual property wasn't a thing

so much cheap generic medication. reverse engineering compounds would be even more financially profitable.

fewer people dead of vaccine preventable illnesses in the global south bc the greatest barrier to distributing some vaccines like hpv is their ip

plant seeds and grafts that come from the plants instead of licensing them. don't invest so much in preventing cross contamination. more localised experimental breeding.

library of the world: every book and journal article in the world could be digitised and be searchable for every person in the world to read regardless of where they live. cheap reprint runs and local translations everywhere.

an online interface where every citation could actually lead to the text in question

freedom from the hell that is DRM software

everytime someone reverse engineered your shitty proprietary software we would all be freed from it instead of them getting DMCA'd

so much hardware would be opened up & therefore made so much cooler.

so many more songs that riff off and sample and interpolate shit from this decade instead of like 70 years ago and more analysis of music that didn't keep getting nuked off the internet

preserving movies and tv shows and games as long as someone, somewhere has the desire to host them

just go publish your fanfic/art/vid as is instead of all us pretending it isn't fanwork or begging the corporation for mercy / licensing

a world without ip lawyers. im getting chills just imagining it.

[foodsci-transfem]

Yes, but also some projects could not happen as they did. Modernist Bread/Modernist Cuisine, for example, is a 25 kilo book of theory and research. If they couldn't charge for the book (since it gets distributed freely as soon as someone decides to scan it), they just wouldn't make it because there is no profit in it. It maybe they'll need a crowdfunding thing, but why would people pay to make it happen when they don't know the crew (they weren't famous before these projects) and crowdfunding something without rewards doesn't generally work

I don't like ip, but within this system, just removing it would also cause problems. How about we abolish capitalism, and ip with it?

[mousidy]

ok I may be cracking open a nuclear can of discourse worms but genuinely is it not like. easier for trans men to become cis-passing

[mousidy]

like I'm sure higher wages help a lot, but mainly like I feel like I see and encounter so much more discussion from trans men who are able to go fully stealth than trans women who can. and I see plenty of trans men online who are very cis-passing, whereas I rarely ever see the same for trans women

[mousidy]

like I've seen talk about how trans women are privileged because we're more represented in government, but I can't help but think there probably are some trans men in government, they're just understandably taking the opportunity available to them to be stealth, since being in government is a notoriously high-risk position and if you can help it it mitigates a lot of risk to not be openly trans

[mousidy]

oh my god right, how could I forget, trans men start HRT on average significantly younger than trans women, I'm sure that's a significant factor

[foodsci-transfem]

Don't forget ftm hrt does almost everything you need to pass. Changes your voice, grows your beard, helps grow muscle, it even makes fat go to hips and chest less and shrinks the mammary glands. It does not erase the chest, but with minimal scruff and even an androgynous voice, people will assume it's just body fat (manboobs) and not actual boobs.

You also don't need to look like a supermodel to pass. Which helps.

[prettybutchvenus]

I see someone who is interested in me call themself a "loser lesbian" and instantly I'm turned off. Cause if you personally think you suck then I'm gonna take your word for it since you're the expert on you. Mind you, being a lesbian is inherently cool as fuck so to be a lesbian and a loser you really gotta be astronomically lame. Never met a loser lesbian who wasn't the type to say "you're too good for me" and then get angry if I agree with their assessment. I never even liked the self hating nerd x beautiful outgoing girl trope to begin with. It gives incel fantasy. I'm a bad bitch and I deserve a partner who values themself just as much as I value myself. I'm not gonna lower the bar to hell just so a self described loser can get in. Sorry, but I want better for myself!

[foodsci-transfem]

About the reaction to you agreeing that you're too good for her. That's because people say "you're too good for me" from insecurity. You agreeing is you saying you truly thinks they're beneath you, and she was trying to get you to lift her up.

[the-efemmeral]

hey so it’s actually not the job of black lesbians (or really anyone for that matter) to make people feel better about themselves.

if someone is calling themself a loser to fish for support or compliments, they should go to therapy

[foodsci-transfem]

Hey so this actually has nothing to do with race, at all. And I *generally* agree with that statement, but if you're already flirting with someone (or worse, dating), not going "yeah I'm better than you" is common decency. And that's what op was talking about. In fact, if I said "you're so much better that me" or "you're too good for me" to my wife (which I do), her answering "yeah you're right I am better than you"* would mean I'm going to sleep in the car just to avoid her.

*unless if it's a joke, but she gets to make such a joke just because we're married which op is not

[prettybutchvenus]

I see someone who is interested in me call themself a "loser lesbian" and instantly I'm turned off. Cause if you personally think you suck then I'm gonna take your word for it since you're the expert on you. Mind you, being a lesbian is inherently cool as fuck so to be a lesbian and a loser you really gotta be astronomically lame. Never met a loser lesbian who wasn't the type to say "you're too good for me" and then get angry if I agree with their assessment. I never even liked the self hating nerd x beautiful outgoing girl trope to begin with. It gives incel fantasy. I'm a bad bitch and I deserve a partner who values themself just as much as I value myself. I'm not gonna lower the bar to hell just so a self described loser can get in. Sorry, but I want better for myself!

[foodsci-transfem]

About the reaction to you agreeing that you're too good for her. That's because people say "you're too good for me" from insecurity. You agreeing is you saying you truly thinks they're beneath you, and she was trying to get you to lift her up.

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

Someone remind me to apply for a phone from the government tomorrow.

[abearinthewoods]

apply for a phone from the goberment today

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

Got it lol thank you. I’ll get on it after some house cleaning.

[foodsci-transfem]

Apply for the phone now or you never will. You have 15 minutes

[bearsockz]

home cooked meal

[foodsci-transfem]

The only good part about professional kitchen experience, is being able to do this, think "this food is dogshit I haven't eaten something this disgusting in years" then follow it up with "but the local sushi is even worse" or "actually I've had worse when my coworker was stupid"

[kineticpenguin]

At the risk of sounding anti-intellectual, I think that college should be free and also not a requirement for employment outside of highly specialized career fields

[kineticpenguin]

At the risk of sounding like an effete intellectual, I do actually think you should be allowed to just take college courses indefinitely

[yourunderwaterskies]

technically you can, if you don't care about degrees.

Free Harvard courses. Free Courses from Stanford. Free Courses from MIT. Free courses from Yale. Free courses from Princeton.

Free courses on Coursera.

Free Courses on EDx Free Courses on Alison

For paid, there's The Great Courses+/Wonderium. 20$ a month for unlimited courses.

When searching, the phrases you're looking for are Massive Open Online Courses (MOOCs), or you can do a general search of say, "free online college courses." Oh, and so you don't get surprised like I did, have an avoid: Hillsdale College is a conservative Christian site and not a valid MOOC place. Sign up with them and you will get things like THIS IS WHY THE LEFT IS TURNING YOUR KIDS TRANS AND GAY in your inbox.

[aloeverawrites]

@yourunderwaterskies I wanted to say thank you so much for adding these links, seriously, they've been life-changingly helpful to me-

And I also wanted to mention that humanitarian organisations have free courses too, like the Red Cross on international humanitarian law.

Humanity in War

Learn more about the Red Cross International Humanitarian Law (IHL) Program to train policy professionals, government officials, academics,

Kaya

Kaya is a free humanitarian learning platform which offers hundreds of training opportunities across a range of key topics, including the hu

[tpwrtrmnky]

Early transition advice: The word "no" can be used to enforce refusal in situations where you do not want or can't do something that's being asked of you

[tpwrtrmnky]

Tip: "No" can be used even when something is strictly speaking possible in the short term, but risks setting precedent you can't follow through with.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Note: "No" may cause undesired reactions. These reactions are information you can use to decide who to trust

[wholesomenessenjoyer]

Question: would you be able to provide an example of situation as mentioned in Tip#2?

[tpwrtrmnky]

You say "no" and instead of respecting that, the person you're saying "no" demands to know why and attempts to negotiate to get something closer to what they're asking for.

This shows that your autonomy isn't being respected.

Note that it's fine to ask why after accepting a "no", but your autonomy can't be contingent on providing a satisfactory explanation!

[foodsci-transfem]

Pretty sure you meant:

Example A: boss informs me of shifts two days ahead instead of a full week like everyone else. Saying yes sets a precedent that will hurt me, even if this next shift is at a convenient time.

Example B: friedn/partner suggests I come over to meet up, right now. They live four hours away. I'm not doing anything, and it's fine. But saying yes, especially repeatedly, builds an expectation that I'm the only one commuting and/or that I'm always free

[tpwrtrmnky]

No, I meant the exact thing I said in the post, at the exact level of abstraction I wanted to provide. Not fixating on a specific scenario to focus on a general pattern was on purpose.

[foodsci-transfem]

I was more commenting about you (seemingly) talking about the Note: (#3) instead of the Tip: (#2) as the person asked about? You just didn't reply to their actual question?

[tpwrtrmnky]

Early transition advice: The word "no" can be used to enforce refusal in situations where you do not want or can't do something that's being asked of you

[tpwrtrmnky]

Tip: "No" can be used even when something is strictly speaking possible in the short term, but risks setting precedent you can't follow through with.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Note: "No" may cause undesired reactions. These reactions are information you can use to decide who to trust

[wholesomenessenjoyer]

Question: would you be able to provide an example of situation as mentioned in Tip#2?

[tpwrtrmnky]

You say "no" and instead of respecting that, the person you're saying "no" demands to know why and attempts to negotiate to get something closer to what they're asking for.

This shows that your autonomy isn't being respected.

Note that it's fine to ask why after accepting a "no", but your autonomy can't be contingent on providing a satisfactory explanation!

[foodsci-transfem]

Pretty sure you meant:

Example A: boss informs me of shifts two days ahead instead of a full week like everyone else. Saying yes sets a precedent that will hurt me, even if this next shift is at a convenient time.

Example B: friedn/partner suggests I come over to meet up, right now. They live four hours away. I'm not doing anything, and it's fine. But saying yes, especially repeatedly, builds an expectation that I'm the only one commuting and/or that I'm always free

[foodsci-transfem]

My gf hates me. Also I should open a vein

[hyumjim]

Starting a collection

[hyumjim]

[foodsci-transfem]

As a former cook, I'd always forget hot things are hot. Mmm let me hold the tray I just took out of the oven, that's not gonna burn like the fury of our sun.