Never-Grow-up

[penandinkprincess]

knowing that shane canonically only had two other hookups with men besides ilya makes me laugh because i'm imagining him having the first experience and just 🤨 excuse me? 🤨 where is my tender kiss?? 🤨 where are my soft touches while i come down from orgasm?? 🤨🤨 where are the nice, sweet kisses pressed to my neck?? 🤨 you are doing this all wrong??

he dismisses first guy as just hopelessly bad at sex but then tries it out with a second and is just?? 🤨🤨 why do you ALL suck at casual, no-strings-attached sex so much?? where is my wham bam thank you ma'am but with passionate kissing and being picked up and carried around and laid down with the reverence of someone handling a holy relic?? 🤨 the fuck is wrong with you?? 🤨🤨

[kwatogart]

Valkyrie ❤+⚡

[thundergrace]

These two crack me up every time! I don't know what kind of training even goes into being a news anchor but I feel like the bulk of it is nailing the 'anchor voice' 😂😂😂

[afeelgoodblog]

Blessed Her

[orcboxer]

Selective mutism is funny cause you try to figure out how it works and you're like "oh okay so it only happens when I get real anxious, but at home I'm fine" and then you're chillin at home totally relaxed and you try to greet your kitty cat who just trotted up to you and all you get is "h...!" Like okay. Alright. Vocal chords just feelin like comedians tonight huh lmao

[orcboxer]

Oh God Fuckin Dammit My Cat Got My Tongue

[polarcell]

fandom wide mandate that everyone has to re-watch the source material in steady intervals to minimize intense fandomization of tropes and characterizations that happens when people go without new source material for too long

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[captain-price-officially]

[theygender]

[whatbigotspost]

A lot to generational theory is bullshit in that I have more in common with a working class baby boomer than a landlord class millennial. BUT when we’re talking about the differences in cost on things like homes and higher education, we have absolutely got to acknowledge what has occurred over the past 50 years.

[ambassadorquark]

henry hogfish

[life-on-the-spectrum]

My father-in-law drives a semi truck for a living, and apparently at one point years ago had too many cartons of red Twizzlers in his truck when he delivered. It was easier to make it disappear than it was to report it, so he brought home a gigantic carton of red Twizzlers. 

Cue the chaos. This was a poor family, and over 30lb of candy was an outrageous luxury that could not be allowed to spoil. (Do Twizzlers spoil? Is that even a thing?) First he and his two sons, one of them my future husband, binged on Twizzlers until they got sick. After that, he gave Twizzlers to the aunts and uncles by the pound until they all did the same thing. There were still several pounds left, and nobody in the family could stand to eat another blasted red licorice stick, so everyone kept trying to trick each other into taking their Twizzlers off of their hands. 

This was over 30 years ago. It’s STILL a joke to hide Twizzlers around your family members’ space. A few Christmases ago we put a package of red Twizzlers in the family’s white elephant gift exchange as a joke and all hell broke loose. Uncle D*** actually turned green, but he was laughing too so it was okay. 

We have a verb in the family. “To Twizzle” means “to binge on one specific food nonstop until you’re violently sick and can never stand to eat that food again” In a family that’s like 70% autistic, this happens more than you’d think. Most of the younger cousins have needed the term explained to them... after doing the thing themselves. 

No, helldude, you are not coming back. It’s part of the family lore now. 

[kaban-bang]

[scallioncreamcheesebagel]

[samwisethewitch]

I literally do not care what the Bible says about any political issue. I am not Christian. Christian scripture should have zero effect on my life or my personal freedoms. 

[singing-not-sleeping-beauty]

I love how they're building up to Kamala's suit in the show, and how each piece of it is coming from someone important to her hero's journey

Her grandmother gave her the bangle

Bruno gave her the mask

Waleed gives her the tunic

Kareem gave her the scarf

The necklace, which I assume her parents gave her, inspires her insignia

It's a narrative costume & I can't wait to see it all come together in the end

[intersexelphie]

as a lesbian, one of the most damaging things t*rfs have done to the lesbian community is make the centre of our sexuality our lack of attraction to men rather than our attraction to women.

that’s why they demonise bi women as much as they do. when yes, bi women have a bit of a different experience but they have a lot of experience in common with us too and the fact they are attracted to women in common with us.

bi women are not our enemy.

[vaspider]

yes g-d yes

When you make the center of something "not X," then X is still the center of that thing. The center of my lesbian... ness? Lesbianosity? Lesbianity? Whatever. The center of the quality that makes me a lesbian is my attraction to and love of women (and multigender people with women in the mix, and the infinite other subtle variations on the theme of woman existing in the realms of gender), not... not being attracted to men.

And the thing is, right, when you make a negative thing the center of something -- "not into men," in this case -- it makes that thing negative, and it makes that thing both fragile and brittle. There are so many things about Sapphic love and lesbian relationships which are wonderful in their own right, and not only don't require this whole "no boys allowed" mentality, but suffer from its inclusion.

When you make the center of a thing "not this thing here," that fragility created by that mindset means that the complexity of humanity threatens your identity. If your lesbianosity, the quality of you that makes you a lesbian, depends on not being attracted to men, what does it do to your ego when you experience the "happens often enough that we joke about it" of hitting on a twink at a gay bar? You know?

If your lesbianism centers your love of women, then, well, whatever. You can brush that off easily, because you're not defined by not being attracted to men. But if you are... well. Fragility.

And when you shatter, your edges are sharp, you hurt people.

Plus, ugh, it's just such a fucking drag to deal with people who define themselves by what they're not. It's exhausting. It's like talking to someone who is forever stuck at the part of their teenage years where they're trying to be everything their parents aren't. Like, we get it, your parents are boring squares, but who are you, really?

[bemusedlybespectacled]

Also, you'd think that "lack of attraction to men" would therefore mean TERFs would adore asexual people, but ace exclusion is a significant part of the TERF pipeline. It's about lack of attraction to men when the goal is excluding bisexual women, but that argument mysteriously goes away the second someone mentions asexuality.

[the-storming-sea]

we are LIVE here in world news watching the fall of (former) PMs all around the world and– wait, what’s this?

IT’S SRI LANKA WITH A STEEL CHAIR

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

this tweet is such a perfect encapsulation of what the brain trust on twitter considers activism at this point, i swear to god

she was a child

she was a child trapped in a legendarily abusive studio contract where she was being pumped full of drugs and sexually abused by producers

what is the point? “think about this the next time you watch the wizard of oz”? and do what? this tweet is so pointless

not for nothing but she was also a lifelong advocate of the civil rights movement and held a whole press conference to denounce white supremacist terrorism after the 16th street baptist church bombing

there are politicians who did blackface in office right now

judy garland has been dead for 50 slutty, slutty years

[thehours2002]

If you want to use this information to actually learn about minstrelsy I would recommend the chapter “Past Imperfect: Performance, Power, and Politics on the Minstrel Stage” from Digging the Africanist Presence in American Performance: Dance and Other Contexts by Brenda Dixon Gottschild. Gottschild covers the Africanist dance influence in minstrelsy, the re-appropriation of and resistance in minstrelsy by Black performers, the legacy of minstrelsy, and much more.

In a similar vein I would also recommend the Marlon Riggs documentaries Ethnic Notions, which covers anti-Black stereotypes in popular culture from the antebellum period through the Civil Rights movement, and Color Adjustment, which covers the representation of African Americans on television from its advent through the 1990s.

You’re not going to raise your consciousness by watching The Wizard of Oz and feeling bad that Judy Garland did blackface (in not just Everybody Sing, but also Babes in Arms and Babes on Broadway, for the record) because she was a minor under the thumb of her abusive stage mother and legally obligated to perform in these films because of her contract with MGM. Engage with the work of Black activists on the subject instead and think about or criticize how the stereotypes from minstrel performances still manifest in popular culture today in different forms.

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

this isn’t showing up in my replies because of the links so i’m boosting it, tumblr user thehours2002 is smart and thoughtful as always

[thenightling]

Judy Garland was forced to diet (as a child) on a strict diet of coffee, chicken soup and cigarettes.  Yes, cigarettes, as a child.  To force her to lose weight.  When she started to grow in her breasts they forced her to wear tight corsets to hide them so she could play a child a little longer.  It’s cruel to pretend she had any control over doing that black face role.

That girl was the victim of very serious abuse.  Her mother used to even brag abut going for car rides down very bumpy roads to try to abort her when she was pregnant, announcing that she never wanted her.

Now, in Judy’s defense for when she did have actual autonomy- Judy Garland was one of the first major allies of the LGBTQ+ community.  She served as “beard” for men who were still in the closet (helping closeted gay men pass as straight).  She preached in favor of civil rights and LGBT rights.  She was so well known as an advocate for the community that in the early 80s “Friends of Dorothy” was a code for gay men in the military.   And almost comedically our military spent millions trying to find out who “Dorothy” was to try to get her t surrender a list of known gay military personnel.   

Her “Somewhere over the Rainbow” was the first LGBT anthem and she’s part of the reason the rainbow was chosen as the pride flag.  

Judy had a major influence in the early fight for LGBT rights and Pride.   

[bireaucracy-archived]

i wish all “body language experts” on youtube, tiktok, and all social media a very Die

[bireaucracy-archived]

not only is it a stupid pseudoscience that is based on ableism and western centric ideals, these people are ghouls who latch onto every controversial subject or person in the spotlight in order to churn out content about how someone’s quick blinking means they’re really a monster with 590492341 mental illnesses (which is what makes them inherently a monster),  passing off their vibe and clout farming as Scientific Evidence. they literally salivate for a new person to be at the center of controversy so they can make millions of view and thousands of dollars over their babbling that their new target is a Narcissistic Abuser. and you literally cannot convince these people’s fans that this is utterly fake and also abbhorent behaviour to farm money and fame over others’ misery. they + these social media “therapists”/doctors/health and legal professionals who do the same online are utter scum who are gleefully making money off suffering. but i have a special kind of hate for the body language experts.

[bireaucracy-archived]

and this isn’t just about the heard/depp trial either. these fuckers have been doing this in True Crime TM communities for a while now. they’ve also been the ones boosting the harassment of random people on tiktok like the couch guy and that trans woman who was just dancing in her basement. they make money and clout off all of this. they push so many ableist, racist and transphobic ideas onto people who just drone on about how body language PROVES somebody is lyuing or a serial killer. they ruin lives.

i wish all of them a genuine and heartfelt very die

[glorious-spoon]

tbh if you use “gay panic” to mean “haha omg i’m gay and panicking,” you don’t get to say shit about how ~queer is a slur~

[dancinbutterfly]

Cuz gay panic was a legal defense homophobes used to get away with literal murder. For anyone wondering.

[awinglessduck]

Is it just me or is this reaching a bit to claim homophobia.

[sophiamcdougall]

I don’t think you’ve understood. The point is that the phrase “gay panic” used to have a very specific meaning and it was nothing to do with being adorably gay and hapless. Nor did it ever mean gay people attacking others. It meant it was OK,or at least understandable, to attack gay people. It typically referred to cases in which: a) A straight man murders a gay man. b) “Excuse me, you appear to have murdered this person”, says the legal system. c) “But your honour, I couldn’t help myself”, says the murderer. “He was gay and he came on to me, and I panicked. What else would any normal man have done?” d) “Fair enough” says the legal system, “We’ll call it second degree/manslaughter.”) Here’s a shockingly recent example from 2015. This researcher claims “Based on my early analysis, defense attorneys who enter gay panic defenses can reduce a defendant’s murder charges 32% of the time, even though the majority of these homicides involve incredible violence.”

The above case and study are American, however, no, this issue isn’t particularly America-centric. The “gay panic” defence has been used in murder cases around the world. And while it’s slowly being banned in many places, it’s still happening, albeit not at the same rate as the “trans panic” defence, i.e “She came on to me and she was trans and I panicked so obviously I killed her! What else was I supposed to do?” No one’s saying you are personally being homophobic if you use the phrase “gay panic” to mean “eek can’t function too gay teehee”. Just that if someone does use the name of a lethally homophobic, victim-blaming strategy for literally getting away with murder in that way, but is also one of the people who argue that we can’t use a word (queer) that we’ve willingly used to identify ourselves and express solidarity between groups for decades – because shock horror ‘queer’ used to be a slur! – then it’s pretty obvious it’s not actually queer’s prior history as a homophobic term that’s the problem. It’s the solidarity part.

[leupagus]

“Is it just me or is this reaching a bit to claim homophobia” it’s just fucking you.

[elkian]

BTW, this isn’t a thing of the past:

[ID: Screenshot of map of the USA from Wikipedia, with the caption: “States that have bans (blue) or are considering bans (pink) on the gay and trans panic defense, as of April 2021“. 17 states are blue, 10 states are pink, and the remaining 24 are gray. End ID.]

2021.

[Here’s the Wikipedia article for Gay + Transgender Panic defenses.]

It lists the ban (or lack thereof) of the defense by state and the time it was banned. The earliest is California, in 2014. The next is Illinois, which took 3 years to catch up. New Mexico banned the use of the Gay Panic Defense this year. My state? Under consideration, still unbanned.

Other countries touched on are Australia, New Zealand, Phillipines, UK, with varying levels of use and coverage. This is not a USA-specific phenomenon.

This article on the American Bar website discusses how to potentially end the use of this defense (link). It also mentions that sexuality-based hate crimes were the third-highest reasoning, at 17%, in 2007.

I can sort of get why kids saw the phrase alone and/or incidentally applied it to the concept of “panicking over sexuality revelations/because someone is very attractive” but y’all have to understand that the majority of the American population, if they have heard of this phrase, know it as a criminal defense first.

A criminal defense that is still in use, right now, in 2022.

[iskierka]

I think it’s very weird that when one country is criticized y’all tend to be like “oh well my country we would never —” uhh YES in your country too, that’s how states work? Y’all talking about people living in China or the US not knowing their history because the bad parts aren’t taught well in school: sure!!! But I know many people from Belgium who know next-to-nothing about the genocide in the Congo, from the Netherlands who say all their colonies were only trading posts, from Thailand who say that the indigenous people in their country have been and are treated fine only they don’t make an effort to be Thai, from Portugal who will tell you about what an amazingly positive force they were in their… territories, from Czechia who will tell you their country holds no responsibility for treatment of the Roma—but also it was and is justified; all were taught these things in school.

My point isn’t “other countries do this too so it doesn’t matter!!” No! My point is that every single state commits and covers up atrocities in some way. There is no ethical state.

American liberals especially seem to have a tendancy to think that there is a Good and Perfect state and we must only find it and imitate it and then our problems will be fixed. But trust me: it doesn’t exist, (and it’s certainly not in Europe??). We must create our own systems, and have the courage to change those, too, when we see their flaws.

[audrey-hepbae]

[dramaticowl]

[Image description: black and white photograph of Marjane Satrapi. She is photographed from the neck up, holding a cigarette in her left hand and facing the camera. Below that, in white letters on a black background, there is a quote: “’The world is not divided between East and West. You are American, I am Iranian, we don’t know each other, but we talk and we understand each other perfectly. The difference between you and your government is much bigger than the difference between you and me. And the difference between me and my government is much bigger than the difference between me and you. And our governments are very much the same.’ -Marjane Satrapi, Iranian Graphic Novelist” /End ID.]