whipping out my kaleidoscope during serious convos

|| this is my only blog and there's no theme y'all are just gonna have to deal with the mess || they/he || current fandoms: Marvel, OFMD, Good Omens, PJO, The Bible (??) for some reason

[tenderwatches]

sometimes you need dialogue tags and don't want to use the same four

[lostxanadu]

it's genuinely bullshit that you should be required to own a mobile phone for participation in literally any aspect of life

[lostxanadu]

this should be illegal and i'm not fucking joking

[thescaryjokes]

woah dude you hit your head pretty hard. 2025? president donald trump? "labubu"? haha no clue what youre talking about dude its roughly 1pm august 8th 2004 and we're about to take a chicago boat tour and i heard dave matthews band is in town and

[thefernhands]

If you're fifteen or older an still sleep with a stuffed animal please reblog this.

[malevolentpotato22]

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[grungekitty-77]

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

[cadaverkeys]

fabulous creature?

[a-book-of-creatures]

fabulous creature...

[stuckinapril]

I’m fine

[stuckinapril]

I need divine intervention

[probuccalfat]

i’m not horny at the moment so everyone else’s horniness is disgusting me like get help for real

[probuccalfat]

i’m horny again so everyone get nasty and get freaky

[noodles-07]

"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there

[heroineimages]

Mental illness is all in your head in the same way that prostate cancer is all in your ass.

[noodles-07]

this person wins everybody else go home

[blackpyrefly]

dress codes that arent ppe are stupid as fuck. as an adult human being with a (relatively) functioning brain i have never walked into a place and given a fuck what an employee was wearing. “professional” okay bitch i can make up adjectives too. “grundlous” see easy

[bunniope]

whats grundlous mean

[blackpyrefly]

of or pertaining to grundle

[lesbxdyke]

So AO3 and Tumblr are now dating, I guess?

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Just one???

[enthyrea]

sometimes it’s like i recognize you, from before

[hummingburger]

sambucky doodle

given how anthony acts around seb, this is the most in character doodle I’ve ever drawn 😭

[deathandthesoul]

I had a rough day. Bartender, one glass of the characters kissing, please

[kickmuncher3]

i’m sick and tired of people pretending that burger isn’t delicious just to clown on americans. america deserves the ridicule, but why’s burger catching strays? burger did nothing wrong

[littlegreen]

enough.

[godfrey-the-chaos-duck]

This is the FUNNIEST THING THEY'VE EVER DONE

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

careers in science & academia are so Cassandra-coded. you possess a Great and Burdensome Knowledge (at heavy cost*), which is both its own reward and its own punishment. and no one fucking listens to you

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

*student loans