starving for art

im named Angel, i wanna draw again!! I must draw! Msg me about free sketches, I want to practice real people and interesting animals. . About Me: Adult, gray ace demi/bi, cat lover, dog lover, BLM, mentally unwell, so please do not let me make big decisions on my own. . I do not live in a safe environment. I want to pull myself out. I am an ally to love and goodness, but I also make mistakes. Please correct me if you see me being problematic. . i would love to find a friend.

[fuzzyinking]

[yaoist]

how much do u have to hate art & human experience to insist that explicit sexual content can’t have any meaning or importance in a narrative than “getting people off”

[yaoist]

pulls out a megaphone and deafens you with my yelling: art is a tool to understand the whole of the human experience and you do not get to decide that a part of that experience is not worth exploring

[caustic-light]

At the same time, art that soley exists to get people off and has no other function is not any less worthwhile than any other kind of art. A lot of art exists purely to elicit a very specific emotion and arousal is just as valid to experience as any other. Sex does not need to be more than something to get people off to be valid in art.

[thebibliosphere]

Just saw a spicy hot take in the notes of an ADHD post that was like “adhd isn’t a mood disorder stop making excuses” from a supposed fellow ADHD person and like yes, ADHD is not exclusively a mood disorder. It’s 4 of them hiding under a trench coat with 15 other neurological disorders. And also:

ID, a screen grab from an article that reads: About 70 percent of adults with ADHD report problems with emotional dysregulation, going up to 80 percent in children with ADHD. In clinical terms, these problem areas include:

-Irritability: issues with anger dysregulation – “tantrum” episodes as well as chronic or generally negative feelings in between episodes.

-Lability: frequent, reactive mood changes during the day.

-Recognition: the ability to accurately recognize other people’s feelings. Individuals with ADHD may tend to not notice other people’s emotions until pointed out.

-Affective intensity: felt intensity – how strongly an emotion is experienced. People with ADHD tend to feel emotions very intensely.

-Emotional dysregulation: global difficulty adapting emotional intensity or state to situation.

/end ID. (Source)

Like not to be wildly and irrationally peeved about this, but bully for you if you don’t experience this as part of your ADHD, but over 70% of us do and saying we’re making excuses or not trying hard enough is the exact same shit neurotypicals say to invalidate us, and causes us real harm. Please don’t do the same thing. Trauma inflicted by neurotypicals is a huge part of why living with ADHD is so difficult. We don’t need it from within our own community too.

We all experience this shit show disorder differently. It’s a spectrum of one size fits no one, not a cookie cutter mold to fit into.

And yeah, you know what, this shit isn’t an excuse to behave badly, but you know what, knowing emotional dysregulation is a symptom of ADHD helps you to treat it and work on getting a handle on it. Knowing the reason it feels like the world is ending in your chest because something bad happened, and knowing it’s because your gremlin brain is perpetually starved for dopamine so there’s no cushion for the raw emotional feedback currently happening can help you, with practice, to curb the impulsive desire to do something rash or harmful.

I mean, fuck, there’s a reason for why suicide is so prevalent in ADHD, and I’m going to go out on a limb and say that impulsivity and severe emotional dysregulation is a part of that.

Knowing that the feeling will end and isn’t an accurate reflection of the situation, overwhelmingly painful as it is in the moment, can help. It does help. So denying this aspect as part of ADHD? Not helpful, and you need to take some time to sit with your thoughts and see why you want to distance yourself so much from this to the point of invalidating others.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[number-1-deaf-clint-barton-stan]

it’s been two years, but i think that an icon like her deserves to be known about by more people.

her name was freddie oversteegen and she, at the age of fourteen, along with her older sister truus who was 16 and their friend johanna “hannie” schaft who was 19, was a part of the netherlands most famous all female resistance cell which was dedicated to fighting the nazis and dutch traitors.

among other things, they are known to have blown up bridges and railroads, smuggled jewish children from concentration camps and, as the tweet mentions, seducing nazis and then shooting them with guns that they had hidden in their bike baskets. freddie is quoted as having said that they “had to do it.” and that it was a “necessary evil, killing those who betrayed good people.”

though freddie and her sister truus were both lucky and survived the war, hannie schaft wasn’t. at the age of 24, hannie was caught and around three weeks later was executed by nazis, only 18 days before the netherlands were eventually liberated. she was shot with one only wounding her, and, before the final shot, hannie is quoted as having told the executioners: ik schiet beter, which translates to “i shoot better.”

though she didn’t survive, hannie is recognized as a national icon and a face of the dutch resistance, with her story even being retold in a movie from 1981 called “the girl with the red hair.” along with this, truus also founded the national hannie schaft foundation in 1992, on which freddie served as a board member.

freddie, at the time of her death, was 92 years old and the last surviving member of the resistance cell, with truus having died two years earlier at the age of 92.

though these women and all that they did played an important part in the dutch resistance, they are often overlooked in history outside of the netherlands. it’s important that they are remembered and that their work to save people isn’t forgotten. it’s incredible what they did, especially given how young they were, and they deserve more recognition than what they’ve gotten.

[lameness-with-a-hint-of-sarcasm]

“I shoot better” Holy shit an icon

[captaintiny2]

[captaintiny2]

[thecollectibles]

Art by Ksenia Svincova

[politijohn]

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

This man is my idol.

[glumshoe]

My mom looked up during dinner and said, “I’ve noticed that you tend to eat meals by eating a single type of ingredient at a time and then moving on to the next. First you ate the sweet potatoes, then you ate the Brussels sprouts, and now you’re eating the chicken. I rotate around my plate so that my meal remains diverse the entire time I’m eating it. I wonder what that says about our personalities?”

What do you tend to do? What is the “normal” way to eat meals?

[atreefullofstars]

Obsess over alternating different dishes and what size each bite of each dish should be, so that a) I get a “balanced” amount of each one throughout the meal, except for b) finishing anything I don’t really like early in the meal so I can stop tasting it, and c) making sure the thing I like best is the last bite I take so that’s the taste that lingers when the meal is done.

Unless it’s a meal where you’re taking bites of multiple things at the same time, in which case I’m engineering it so that as many bites as possible have equal proportions, which means I start by eating up anything extra. Like if it’s a sandwich, eating all the way around the crust and any filling that sticks out past the bread, so all the rest of the remaining bites have equal amounts of filling.

If it’s snacks or treats, I try to arrange my eating order so that there’s variety throughout but I finish the worst ones early and the best ones last. Like a box of chocolates? Study the chart and eat the worst first but intersperse with medium ones and an occasional taste of the best ones, and then when the worst ones are gone eat mostly the medium ones with a few of the best ones, and then the last two or three should be only the best ones.

... I don’t know when I started doing any of these things but help I can’t stop. And I hate sharing because it disrupts my system and/or I already ate all the worst stuff.

[th3saltyac3]

Um. I do EXACTLY what you described. To a fuckin T. It drove my parents CRAZY.

My spouse finds it amusing. He spent the first couple years of our relationship asking why I ate things in my particular way, accepted that, and makes EXTRA EFFORT to make my habits easier when he makes a meal or snack for me. He learned that I need a little extra peanut butter around the crust of my sandwich (but not too much, just enough to balance the dryness of the crust) but otherwise just a thin layer. He makes sure sandwich ingredients are evenly dispersed throughout, even if it means cutting things weird and taking a bit more time to arrange them. If we have a treat of cheese, crackers, and fruit he's made it so that there's exactly one piece of cheese and one piece of fruit to every cracker. If there's stuff he knows I like more than the rest, that's provided in higher quantities so I can rotate and still end on the best one.

I did not ask him to do this. He just took an interest, found it amusing, and tries to accommodate me so I enjoy my meal/snack as much as possible. I do the same for him even though it pains me to slap on ungodly amounts of certain ingredients in some foods (I still cringe even if I won't be eating it myself). He shares some desire to end on the best tasting food on the plate, but doesn't mind if things aren't perfectly balanced.

But yeah, I do literally EXACTLY what you described above, all the time, always have (according to my parents and sister). Idk

[atreefullofstars]

That is EXTRAORDINARILY sweet that your spouse caters to your food routine. <333

Also like... yay, I’m not the only one doing this highly specific thing. XD;

[fuzzyinking]

wait... there are people in this world that DON'T EAT ONE THING AT A TIME? WTFFFFFFFFFFFF

[dct239394cvvd098dffgggp]

'kids these days have it easy' thats the point thats the point thats the whole point we're here to make it better for whoever comes after you sad selfish self absorbed puddle of wank

[fuzzyinking]

OP I... I love you. *cries*

[fuzzyinking]

i feel alive but dead, my empty fucking head, on repeat is random beats and it's all i fucking get.

[fuzzyinking]

literally had ppl tell me being homeless is the "morally correct option"

like no

i shouldn't let myself get eaten by wolves just because I was born into a problematic environment that i have no control over whatsoever.

like would you yell at jewish kids for being born to antisemites and say off yourself as a solution bc living with bigots automatically means you excuse bigotry?

or gay kids born to homophobes?

girls born to misogynists?

disabled born to ableists?

well, maybe you would.

assholes on the internet... really grind my gears ;(

[fuzzyinking]

HEY. stop pretending everyone gets the same choices, or that everyone automatically knows which choices are available to them.

-victim blaming isn't cute-

[haonsowmqpoznwk-blog]

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

This is the bare minimum of decent human behavior for ANY gender. If you are an adult and someone who is not an adult wants to have a relationship with you, it is your duty to, at bare minimum, turn them away.

[glorious-spoon]

and like... having crushes on adults is a Normal Adolescent Thing, but it doesn’t mean they’re ready for--or for that matter, want--an actual relationship with said adult. it’s a goddamn developmental phase for kids working out their sexuality, and treating it as a chance to get laid is fucking monstrous.

[bendingsignpost]

Recommended tactics to deal with a child hitting on you:

“kiddo”

“buddy”

inform a friend to ensure you’re never left alone with them

refer to own age in conversation

“yeah, I know I look young, but you wouldn’t BELIEVE how awkward it is being mistakenly hit on by a teenager!”

upon that child turning 18:

“Happy birthday, kiddo!”

“Have you registered to vote yet?”

“Man, being a baby adult was so hard, good luck with that”

[awed-frog]

And as a reminder, teenagers often have crushes on older and/or unavailable people like celebrities precisely because psychologically/emotionally they’re not ready to have a relationship. On a subconscious level, fantasizing about someone you know you can’t be with allows you to experiment with your emotions in a safe way. And obviously an adult taking advantage of that will disrupt the entire thing.

[himedere-senpaii]

I can’t stress to you how fucking important it is to tell your child you’re proud of them TO THEIR FACE. Don’t fucking wait until the moment they go into hysterics. Don’t wait until they tell you that they don’t think you’re proud of them. FUCKING TELL THEM EVERY DAY. Even if it’s something you don’t understand, and they’re BEAMING, you fucking tell that child you’re proud of them. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

[himedere-senpaii]

It makes me sad that 2k of you relate to this. I’M PROUD OF YOU OK. I’M PROUD OF ALL OF YOU AND I LOVE YOU.

[on-fic-writing-spree]

Kids aren’t stupid and if you only say it when they’re crying, they’re only going to think it’s because they’re crying.

[ratliker1917]

isn’t it really weird that people are still trying to pretend that trans people are some kind of “neoliberal” conspiracy when the most famous anti-trans cultural figure in the world is a billionaire who spent half a decade campaigning against even the mildest form of social democracy, and as such actively aided the re-election of a government responsible for brutal austerity, solely to avoid paying more taxes