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hey, it's okay if the only thing you did for pride was exist. i'm glad & grateful you are in the world. your survival is a celebration.
okay but princes should literally top
foppish soft tboy princes with delicate pretty hands and beautiful hair who havent worked a day in their lives should get to top their grizzled buff sweaty and scar-covered tgirl knights. The prince moaning delicately as he takes what's rightfully his and the knight (a foot taller and several times stronger than him) trembling using every ounce of her strength to stay still as her body is at once softly fondled and deeply penetrated, her efforts to hold her posture failing as she can't help but give in to the pleasure of serving her lovingly selfish prince. Who feels guilty for betraying her oath but afraid to disobey her liege and ashamed of how much she's enjoying it. She's supposed to be strong, to be able to take anything- but just having to lie back and let this inexperienced princeling have her- its nothing like what she's used to. It's completely disarming. And his soft voice is torturously sweet.
Hey this is a really specific post @ambientradiation
"But what if people will pretend to need this accessibility option so they can be lazy! People who don't need it will use it!!" I don't actually care
I dont care if 9/10 of the people who use the wheelchair ramp arent actually in wheelchairs. As long as the 1 person who needs it has access to it.
I dont care if 9/10 people who use the automatic push button on the library door can actually push the door open themselves. As long as the 1 person who the door is too heavy for gets to use it.
I dont care if 9/10 people who buy the can tab opener, or the little guitar clamp that holds the chords for you, or the hand grip that helps you hold chop sticks, don't need any of it and just get it to "be lazy". As long as the one disabled person who needs it gets access to it.
I do not care. Oh my GOD I do not care. As long as there's a disabled person on this planet who the accessibility device will benefit, the accessibility device is necessary.
Also, if you're so worried about people being "lazy" by using accessibility devices, MORE worried than you are about disabled (visibly or not) people not having access to them, you have unchecked ableism you need to work through.
Lazy usually means "efficiency driven" or "executive function issues."
We have got to stop using it to imply "malingering".
And yeah, the curb cut effect is great.
It means I can get around more easily in my wheelchair most places, but also large package deliveries are so much easier on the driver.
Also, demand drives supply of minority needs.
Let's say you have a town of 100 people. Two are in wheelchairs.
There are no curb cuts.
Nobody sees why there should be. I mean, that's a lot of money to spend tearing out sidewalks and redoing everything for two people, and they hardly even go anywhere anyway (gee, I wonder why), it's not really worth it....ugh. The law says we have to. We can put them on the downtown main crossing I guess.
...oh, but hey, we also have two people with walkers, and one of them is Mrs. Jane Doe, who works a lot with the church and is deeply respected in town. Maybe it's not a great look if we're so nasty about putting these in. Okay. Two crossings and it looks good--
--oh. And we have...seven moms with strollers? Who've been saying how much they love those crossings because taking a stroller up and down a curb is such a hassle? Well...when you put it that way...and them being more easily able to shop has been stimulating the local economy...I guess we can do most of the downtown curbs, especially with the extra reven--
--what? And the mayor's wife broke her leg, and she's considering it such a blessing to not have to take curbs on crutches?
...oh hey. Twelve percent of the community is actively using those curb cuts now. And all seven of those moms have partners. That's nineteen percent who are in favor. And Jane Doe is a widow, but her pastor and the head of the ladies' Bible study and her son have all seen how much safer it is for her going from the church to her house. That's 22%. Oh--and the jogging group? There are six of them and they've had no slips, stumbles, sprains, or falls since the curb cuts went in. It's easier to cross in morning fog when you don't have to look for the edge.
Now elections are coming up. 28% of town is like "hell yeah curb cuts." We'll say 30% can't vote, because some of them are kids and some aren't citizens and, yes, some just can't be assed. That means you need 36 votes to win the mayorship.
One candidate says the town has already met their legal obligations and it's silly to add more curb cuts. The other says the curb cuts have been such a boon to so many townspeople, it seems only natural to have them on every corner.
Who do you think is winning this election?
Who do you think is more likely to be responsive to "hey, we have some blind folks in town, we should consider those street crossing buttons that talk to you"?
Which scenario--the one in which people say "oh, I can't use those, those are only for wheelchairs," or the one where everyone uses them and the two percent in wheelchairs go "heck yeah ma'am, I'm glad it helps you too"--do you think is more likely to result in the people in wheelchairs getting the resources they need?
If everyone else had said "those are only for wheelchairs," do you think full curb cut expansion would even have been on the mayoral candidates' radar?
Accessibility is not pie. It's the vending machine in the break room that gets taken away if nobody uses it.
KOSA again, with a different name… and they’re trying to sneak it past you before July 4th. CALL YOUR REPS!
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Like the man said…the shadow takes another form and ruses again. Time to make some calls and let them know we’re watching.
disabled ppl we need to start lying to nosy people okay? you tell me i'm too young to need a cane and i will tell you point blank that maybe you should tell that to the guy who ran me over. you don't get an explanation of my health issues you get lies and depending on how much of an asshole i want to be that lie will be anything from a humble car crash to a 1 billion lions attack. mind yr business.
"i could never live like that" well maybe you'll have to because this happened overnight. yeah you heard me i was the most able bodied man in the world but then one morning bam i woke up disabled. yeah you could have that too. there's no cure either you'll just wake up one morning and now you have to live like me
"what happened" well have you ever seen looney tunes? yeah an anvil landed on me and squished me flat.
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It is kinda funny that there’s a whole genre of post that’s like “I wish it was normalized to do [extremely transgressive & radical thing].” And I mean often to an extent I agree but at the same time you can tell the post is sort of made with the intention to both retain the social coolnessTM of doing said transgressive and radical thing while also wishing it was like. easier to do it. It’s just kinda funny. Unfortunately if you want the laurels of being counterculture you do kinda have to put in the legwork. If it’s easy it’s just Culture.
Saw a post this morning that said verbatim “shocking messy experimental art should be more accepted” LOL.
"why do you talk so much about disability"
i am never not in pain . you would talk about it a lot too
Edited to add: Since a lot of people are reblogging this original post, I'm adding the updated version I did that incorporates the intersex circle...
I know intersex people are still getting excluded in a lot of LGBTQIA+ spaces (let alone wider society) and I think it's crucial to show this group is included in the statement that we all deserve equal rights.
people who don't use or spend time on tumblr don't really understand how solid this place is for creatives and how we could be living in artist utopia if they fully undid the nsfw ban. the tag system? the dashboard? the silly anons who will send you the most insane sentences known to mankind? having your very old, shitty art make the rounds again because somebody finds value from it and wants to show their friends? no other place even comes close
I feel as though what drives most rude / inconsiderate behavior I experience IRL on a day to day basis comes from a place of having this unearned and unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that aren't actually urgent. I think if more people became aware of this completely unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that actually aren't urgent, it might make co-existing and sharing public spaces with other people a lot easier and more tolerable.
That text post that's been making the rounds that goes something like "Omg you made it to the same red light as everyone else but faster and more dangerously and recklessly, should we call nascar? Do you want a medal?" summarizes exactly what I'm trying to talk about.
It's like when I have to change buses at one of the bigger and busier bus stops, and the people who get off the same bus as me shove and elbow past me to get off before me, and then shove and elbow past anyone even slightly in their way on the way to the bus they're switching to, only to end up on the same bus as all the people they shoved and elbowed, with several minutes to spare before it leaves and plenty of open seats left.
I think this unnecessary urgency a lot of people feel in their day to day lives drives a lot of bad behavior. I'm not saying I'm innocent of this (is anyone's?), I've felt it too in plenty of situations that didn't call for it, and regrettably was less kind than I should have been as a result. But I try to be aware of it, and always try to ask myself it it's really as urgent as my lizard brain is trying to tell me it is, and even if it was urgent, does that still justify unkind behavior?
Is shoving or elbowing another person aside going to make the difference between whether or not you make it to the bus before it pulls away? (hint: at least where I live, most of the time that's a no because the drivers usually won't leave if they see people from another bus heading towards their bus). Is shoving and elbowing people aside in a crowded grocery store going to make any real difference in how quickly you get your shopping done?
Does a few extra seconds of time actually justify cruel and unkind behavior towards people you perceive as slightly inconveniencing you?
A few more examples of this phenomenon:
- Waiting in line at the store and the person behind you creeps closer and closer to try to pressure you forward, and ends up violating your personal space and making you uncomfortable, because they think creeping closer and pressuring the person in line in front of them will somehow get them through the line faster (it won't)
- Going through a self-serve buffet, and the person behind you keeps creeping closer and closer to try to pressure you to serve your food faster and get a move on. All it achieves is that you can't scoop your soup without elbowing them, and that's somehow your fault
- Crossing a crosswalk when the car waiting for you to cross creeps closer and closer to you to try to intimidate you into crossing faster (because using a 2 ton metal machine to try to intimidate a fleshy little ape you could easily kill with said 2 ton metal machine isn't acting like a bully at all no sir-ee)
- Honestly a huge heap of the poor treatment of service workers is also rooted in this sense of urgency in things that are not actually urgent
Please do feel free to add more examples if you can think of more examples
#cutting in line at the airport#you are all going on the same flight!
Not just getting on the same flight, but the majority of the time already having assigned seats! The plane isn't going to just pull away while passengers are still boarding, your seat will still be your seat, why the urgency?
People have always been like this in airports, and maybe I'm just noticing it more, but I feel like in the past few years this sense of urgency in airports has gotten worse. I get some people might be running late for their flight due to extenuating circumstances, but that doesn't excuse being rude. It's not fair to punish random strangers at the airport if you're running late for your flight. That's your problem, not theirs.
If it's really urgent and genuinely extenuating circumstances, then use your words ("I'm so sorry but I had a family emergency this morning so now I'm running really late for my flight, do you mind if I go ahead of you?") rather than push / shove / elbow / cut in line / violate other people's person space.
The past several times I've flown I almost had a panic attack going through security because of how much other passengers kept violating my personal space by standing too close (to try to pressure me forward), even though that wouldn't make the line go faster + were getting pushy / shove-y / elbow-y with trying to get their stuff on and off the x-ray belt. Is there really any reason that's called for? We're all just trying to get through and get to our flights, You Are Not The Main Character of Airport Security.
#I think that living I. the United States just drives people insane#legitimately#the societal pressure you feel just makes you batshit#it made me for sure
I have bad news for you (or maybe good news depending on how you look at it) but this is far from a U.S. specific issue. I'm actually in Iceland, so almost all of the experiences I wrote about in this post happened in Iceland. I've visited and lived in a few different countries, and I have a hard time recalling a country I didn't witness this phenomenon. It's the era of instant gratification in many places around the world, and it shows.
Damn forgive me for americentrism. Thank you for documenting this
I mean thinking about this again this absolutely happened in Germany too. People absolutely lost their manners and sense of community good.
My only experience with Germany is a weekend spent in Berlin, but that weekend was stressful because I experienced so much of this in Berlin.
I can recall more than once having to stop and look around because I'd lost sight of my partner, and despite having *several meters* to go around me people would still walk right into me while glaring at me.
I made another post about "body checking" (this exact phenomenon of intentionally walking right into someone as a form of aggression) and someone in the notes also said this kept happening to them in Berlin, they'd stop for just a second to look at their map, and despite having plenty of room to go around people several heads taller than them would aggressively walk right into them and/or clip them.
I can't speak for all of Germany, it's a very large and diverse country after all, but at least Berlin seems to have a problem with aggressive impatience to the point of physically battering strangers who dare to stand still for a second in public spaces.
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Someone I loved with all my heart said one day while driving on the crammed freeway, “I like to let people over - it’s a mini way of making their day better.” And I, a naturally “lead foot” too speedy for her own good, needlessly chaotic at the time driver, absorbed this into my being and to this day enjoy the simple act of letting people merge- oh hey human, I see you, we all gotta get places. <3
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KOSA again, with a different name… and they’re trying to sneak it past you before July 4th. CALL YOUR REPS!
Buried inside the KIDS Act are provisions that will push online services to verify all users’ ages, require government-directed moderation p
Like the man said…the shadow takes another form and ruses again. Time to make some calls and let them know we’re watching.
I do think the ability to emoji-react is a net win for human communication. not only does it give you an outlet for 'I see and acknowledge this but don't have a verbal response' but it also adds a pleasing alethiometer element to things
my coworker announces that he's off to the dentist. someone reacts with a tooth emoji. is this a statement of dentist solidarity? a wish for my coworker to return with more (or fewer?) teeth than he set out with? simple word association? who can say