Shame is a Paralytic

18+ Queer in some way, any pronouns. Very Canadian and Very much Fandom-Centric :D

[gonnabeapolyglot]

Listen I had a vision okay

[dead-dyke]

You wrote about murder?? Murder is illegal?? You wrote about this dude killing someone and you didn't even say 'murder is bad' at the start of the book, wht wtf, wtf is wrong with you? I can't believe you condone murder, I can't believe you're pro murber, oh my fucking God don'ttalk to me when ou literally kill people, freak. I'm calling the cops, what the fuck, I'm shaking and crying.

[beadyeyes]

4yo: actually, my dad work for nike

Me: my dad works for dinosaur

4yo: (very skeptic but doesn't have the words to call me out) tell me what... is the... dinosaurs name😑

[transattacks]

It’s been 10 years since the Pulse nightclub shooting. That night 49 people were killed for being at a gay nightclub. That night also happened to be a Latin night at the club and the vast majority of victims were Hispanic. The shooting was the deadliest attack against LGBT people in the US.

Please remember the lives lost, and the lives forever changed. Orlando had a rainbow crosswalk to memorialize this loss but governor Desantis ordered its removal last year. The club has also closed, but the city is currently in the process to create another memorial.

Top row: Juan Ramon Guerrero, Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, Stanley Almodovar III, Luis Vielma, Edward Sotomayor Jr., Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan

Second Row: Kimberly Morris, Oscar A. Aracena-Montero, Peter Gonzalez-Cruz, Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, Mercedez Marisol Flores, Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, Javier Jorge-Reyes

Third Row: Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, Martin Benitez Torres, Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, Shane Evan Tomlinson, Joel Rayon Paniagua

Fourth Row: Amanda Alvear, Anthony Luis Laureano Disla, Enrique L. Rios, Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, Cory James Connell, Antonio Davon Brown, Juan Chavez-Martinez|

Fifth Row: Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, Darryl Roman Burt Il, Luis Daniel Conde, Miguel Angel Honorato, Tevin Eugene Crosby, Frank Escalante, Jerald Arthur-Wright

Sixth Row: Leroy Valentin-Fernandez, Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, Drew (Christopher) Leinonen, Angel L. Candelario-Padro, Paul Terrell Henry, Jason Benjamin Josaphat, Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez

Seventh Row: Akyra Murray, Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, Juan Rivera, Deonka Deidra Drayton, Alejandro Barrios Martinez, Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, Jean C. Nives Rodriguez

[crimewave420]

about to go in for the green surgery

[crimewave420]

would you have sex with a dude if he was green

are they nice to me

[shamebats]

For context: Jonis Josef is a famous Norwegian comedian.

[brightlotusmoon]

[cannibalchicken]

[werewolfweed]

this image made me so sad I had to clean him and give him a hot cocoa

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[eebie]

the daniel that couldnt be damned

[revizyonist]

med people are so annoying "This family's 8 year old child who was about to go through a major surgery and kept crying that she was hungry so they pitied her and gave her food, she then had a heart attack in the surgery. They're so stupid 😒" girl they didn't know that could happen or why it happens. it takes so little time to explain to them that will happen instead of telling them "no food" with no explanation 10 times

[revizyonist]

"Before surgery, your body’s reflexes that protect your airway are relaxed by anesthesia. If there’s food or liquid in your stomach, it will near certainly come back up and go into your lungs, which can cause choking, a severe lung / heart infection or even a heart attack. That’s called aspiration, and it is life-threatening. It's hard, but it's only a single day to prevent near certain death. Not eating or drinking beforehand massively lowers the risk and helps prevent these life threatening situations under anesthesia." <- TIP: patients have brains which allows them to receive information just like you

[ancelineonline]

I have four kids. I’ve had one or another of them need some kind of surgical procedure that requires anesthesia four or five times over the past 15 years.

This Tumblr post is the first time someone has explained to me *why* I couldn’t feed them before those instances.

I’m not stupid. I understood that just fine. Hell, my kids would have understood that just fine. But no one bothered to tell us.

[bowditch]

i did know this before having kids (i have six). we have a kid that's needed multiple procedures requiring anesthesia. and every single time, i am asked multiple times if i'm sure he was not given any food or water after a certain point.

every single time i have had to say, "i understand that if he had food or water, he could aspirate it into his lungs under anesthesia. i am not lying to you." THEN someone would make a little note and i would stop being repeatedly asked.

not a single time was that risk explained to me. the only reason it came up was because i already knew. i still don't understand why it isn't standard pre-op counseling or pre-op check information, when me as a parent acknowledging the actual risk also put THE MEDICAL STAFF at ease because i conveyed that i had informed understanding as reason to not lie about giving my kid food.

"maybe some people will get nervous and refuse surgery" okay so they need more counseling about risks and anxiety, not less information in a way that actually does endanger their child or themselves!

[arctic-turtle-cassiopeia]

Reblogging to save a life and teach medical professionals basic communication skills

[stabbydragon]

"Love/sex is what makes us human" Wrong. It's the obsession with rectangles. look around you and count the number of rectangles you see.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

#looked up and thought ‘that can’t be hard’#and then my eyes widened with horror as I realized the sheer number of rectangles everywhere#I’m . I’m horrified

It's a good shape!

[puppygirllaika]

so. i just learned that my entirely me-written resume flags as being AI-written by automated HR systems for a few writing quirks and the fact that i followed all the rules of good resume writing, which is apparently a telltale sign of AI use in this fucking hellworld. i've been desperately applying to jobs that i am massively overqualified for for months with no response, not even an interview, and now i find out that at least part of the reason is because some fucking moron decided that following the rules every career advisor has given me for a decade means i cheated and should be disqualified. the ai bubble cannot pop soon enough. what the actual fuck.

[puppygirllaika]

"frequent use of action-result sentences. bullet points all start with action verbs. no career gaps." girl what the fuck are you talking about. that's just resume writing advice being followed. i just did what i was told. it's a fucking resume. you're supposed to do all that stuff. what the fuck do you mean it looks ai generated and wouldn't pass basic detection systems?????????? for following the resume writing rules????????????

[puppygirllaika]

wishing every AI bro and ceo a very [REDACTED]

[stream]

PG: Psycho Goreman (2021) dir. Steven Kostanski

[mollyjames]

It’s so rare to see a gifset with perfect comedic timing

[soothedcerberus]

This one goes out to that $300 shiny bubble mew card i'll never have

[hannbl]

[chrollo-tw]

me after I eliminated 21,042 people

[brosser-les-dents]

P.S. This is a brush your teeth reminder blog. If this would be helpful for you, pls give it a follow. I implore everyone to take their oral health seriously. You will save yourself so much pain and money in the future. 🫶

[space-mouse]

i used to struggle immensely with this, and what helped me the most was thinking: i want clean teeth. i want clean teeth right now this instant.

just, stoking a momentary fervor in my soul for clean teeth.

before this, i knew i was on a path to my teeth falling out of my head in late middle age. that thought did not motivate me. i wallowed in shame for neglecting my future self and did nothing about it. HOWEVER. muttering to myself about clean teeth. i WANT them. i want them now now now!!!! has really worked for me.

[dribbonart]

This is so important: do things because you WANT it, not because you feel like other people expect you to, or it's what you're supposed to do, or because you'd feel shame if you didn't do it.

The only way to encourage yourself is with a desire to improve, not by escaping negatives. You can escape in any direction, your desire points you straight where you want to go.

[mariposakitten]

This is true, but it's also okay to borrow motivation if you're not yet at a place to make your own. I'm not gonna lie, more than once I've convinced myself to brush my teeth when i really really didn't want to by thinking "if i do, @brosser-les-dents will be proud of me!"

[brosser-les-dents]

And I am 100% pleased and proud. 😁

[theambernerd]

I am like, immune to physical reminders (I have failed to gain habits, even very important ones like doing physical therapy, through phone alarms or post it notes or anything like that), which made me feel like I would never be able to remember to brush my teeth for a long time.

However, it turns out other people learned how to notice when their teeth felt bad long enough ago that they don't remember that it's an essential part of learning to want to brush your teeth.

My success at starting to brush daily was 100% linked to making myself feel my teeth with my tongue before and after brushing and actively making myself connect neurons to the after brushing tooth feel being good. And now if I start going to sleep without brushing, I notice my teeth feel bad automatically and it bothers me enough that I have to get up and brush, 99% of the time (sometimes this subconscious instinct does not kick in if I am on vacation or quite drunk. That's alright, 99% of the time is so so so much better than 10% of the time).

So... yeah! If reminders that you're supposed to brush your teeth are not motivating, perhaps learning to desire the sensation of clean teeth will be more helpful for you. It was infinitely more helpful for me