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I finished watching Sold Out On You (no notes, 10/10), and have started We Are All Trying Here.

It has potential, but the gimmick of the Emotion Watch keeps dragging me out of the story. I'm having a hard time suspending disbelief over it.

It requires people who understand emotions ...

× Physical reactions to internal and external stimuli

× Named subjectively by individuals throughout their lifetimes

× According to a vast array of norms, some of which are cultural, societal, gendered, etc.,

× Names can change as an individual's "understanding" of their own emotions evolves

... to pretend this watch could exist, and relies on people who don't understand emotions in a way that frankly makes my eye twitch over how many people don't understand emotions.

It works the same way trauma is shaped by an individual's perception of the event in question. Two people can experience the same event and come away more, less (or not at all) traumatized based on their perception of an event, and two people can experience the same physical reaction to external stimuli and give it two different "emotion" names, and/or develop completely different relationships to it (such as cis men generally liking anger because it feels masculine and protective to them, and cis women being uncomfortable with it because they might associate it with having been shamed, punished, etc. when they tried to express it).

It's like if a show tried asking me to believe someone had invented a thermometer that measures intelligence.

It's just stupid.

[tooies]

the clock app always picks the numbers for you but in calculator the numbers can be anything you want

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auDHD nutshelling

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Why is Spotify's idea of Dark and Stormy "atmospheric" songs a playlist of shit it sounds like is performed by Fiddleford McGucket

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[ladythatsmyskull]

[nitpickspot]

So, what you're saying is, under no circumstances should we be reposting the above image as much as humanly possible?

[aqueerkettleofish]

Well, we should certainly make sure that everyone knows about this image, or how will they know not to post it? It's not like "That image of Musk looking like a Nazi" would narrow it down.

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*that image of Musk proving he is a nazi

[kingfucko]

i dont care if monday sucks... tuesday cost me sixty bucks... wednesday thursday give no fucks. it's friday im a duck

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[animentality]

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Delusional old man talks fairytales in the face of unstoppable technological events; delusional public compounds idiocy

[hydrachea]

> turns on my computer

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> opens my email

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> launches a software

> disables a new AI fea

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Of all my experiences in life, few will ever top the weirdness of hearing Sailor Moon's english voice actress voicing a woman in boxing gloves and a wrestling singlet as she tells her fetus to crawl into her throat and tell her rival her hips are inhospitable.

And that is reason #754246998543357807654357800865432 I love this show.

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I recently (finally) listened to The Faceless Old Woman Who Secretly Lives In Your Home.

I didn't like it much.

But I keep thinking about the one line where she says something like, "We are only what we do."

I get why that sounds true to people.

We are, especially these days, inclined to believe things mostly -- even especially -- when they sound harsh and/or cruel.

So the idea that what we think, how we feel, our intentions, don't matter as much as what we do, or at all, seems like it must be some form of stoic "wisdom."

It isn't.

Far be it from me to insult cynical ideas, but the truth is, maybe to most other people, certainly to the ones who lack any sort of compassion or empathy, and don't give a flying fuck about us in general, we are only what we do, because that is all they see, and they decide our worth to them based on whether what we do benefits or burdens them.

However, what we do is the direct result of how we think, feel, believe, what our intentions are, etc., so these things matter just as much as what we do, and neither exists without the other.

Not only that, but contrary to idiot popular belief, your intentions do matter even if the result was not what you intended -- or they would, if we lived in a society with two brain cells to rub together.

Certainly people bitch enough about ill-intentioned, selfish assholes, and then they can't find it in themselves to extend an iota of grace to anyone who is trying, learning, growing and making the inevitable mistakes which result from this (and then they wonder why people give up).

Anyway.

Yeah.

[beardedmrbean]

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I bet the nazi admin has stopped this now

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No.

How many times do I have to teach you this lesson, old man

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Songs that bother me:

Paris Paloma - Bones on the Beach.

Starts off strong.

Then flips into a cowardly, legal defense against responsibility for the mental health of listeners who relate.

You don't know what death actually brings (although I'd bet anything it's just nothing).

Post Malone - Circles. It wants to be a good song and it's an awful ear worm. But "our love went cold" juxtaposed with "it was just the sex though" turns it into an -- almost certainly -- unintentional meta-examination of how men complain about the quality of their relationships and the endings of them while remaining intentionally, blissfully ignorant to how the entire problem is usually that they want the pleasurable parts of a relationship while doing absolutely zero work to make it an actual relationship. And the whole time, they're like, "Dur hur, me no know what go wrong."

MISSIO - I See You. Let me just validate you and make you feel totally seen and accepted, then punctuate the whole thing repeatedly with "what a mess you've made of everything."

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I hate that the Meta Quest 3 is so expensive, especially when you add the frankly necessary additional head strap and a couple spare batteries.

I just want to send one to my sibling so we can play Medieval Dynasty together and live like a couple antisocial old recluses who farm and may or may not be secretly performing witchcraft in the basement to help desperate peasants with personal problems.

Why does that have to cost $768?

[shamebats]

"it's just stress" oh thank god, it's just the silent killer that slowly kills you, perfectly harmless, no need to worry

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