not to Discourse but I’m a cis man and my partner is an afab enby and if you call us a “straight couple” I will personally come to your house tie you to a chair and make you listen to a podcast about gender identity on endless repeat
this is specifically @ the people who saw us at pride together and saw them wearing a “THEY/THEM” button and still referred to them as my “girlfriend” you’re all cancelled thanks
it’s called respecting queer people juice
y'know the really amazing thing about the notes on this post - apart from just the sheer number of people who are, like, viscerally terrified of the existence of a person who isn’t cis - is how many of them are responding to things that aren’t here. specifically, you’ll notice I said nothing about my sexuality. I didn’t say I identified as non-het, or that I considered myself part of the LGBTQIA community. on the flip side, I also didn’t give you any reason to believe I’m not bi, or that I’ve never been in a relationship with a cis man. y'all know nothing about my sexuality from this post and you don’t need to and I’m not going to tell you about it now because! this post! was not! about me!
it was about respecting my partner’s identity. and the fact that they don’t get that respect from people in the exact community that they should be able to count on getting it from.
ie, you.
they are not het or cis, and no relationship they are in will ever be a “straight relationship” because they. are not. het. or. cis.
everyone in the notes gatekeeping me because I’m “not oppressed”? I never said I was. the person you’re really attacking and invalidating by shitting on this post is them, a pansexual nonbinary person who is unerasably queer.
huh. it’s almost as if the whole “we can’t let straight men use queerness to worm their way into our community” discourse is just an excuse to hate trans people, isn’t it.
I reblog this every time I see it–
thinking abt all the ppl constantly posting abt afab nonbinary ppl who are dating cis men and saying that clearly their partner just thinks they’re a woman. and how they’re the same ppl on this post disrespecting op’s partner’s identity. almost like y’all don’t respect afab nonbinary ppl and think they’re just “basically women” (unless they physically transition in which case they’re “basically men”) but don’t want to admit that so you project that shit onto their partners.
Cis boy here is better to trans folks than some trans folks and y'all should be ashamed of yourselves.
Okay I’m gonna have to speak here.
As a very cis het passing person NOW, I have actually been bullied IN MY TEENAGE YEARS because of how androgynous I was. Which happened at the same time as me questionning my gender identity. So presence here means you could percieve a cis het man and juge me as such, but I actually am cis+ AND I have had the experience of queerphobia/transphobia. You couldn’t guess that from the way I am now.
And my fiancee is non-binary. And let me tell you that the knowledge that previous partners were reducing them to their original gender makes me want to do way worst than the podcast loop to them once I’d get them tied to a chair.
So here I am. A cis het passing dude who experienced oppression because of a percieved gender identity and who is now actively fighting for the gender identity of other people to be respected. So I think my demi-pan cis+ ass in this room actually bears more queer experience and activism than some of y’all’s. I’m open to criticism my block button is lubed twice a day to keep it at maximal efficiency. Y’know, skills you learn along the way.
