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[feministism]

[bellamynochillblake]

we’re going to have to call smut ‘lemons’ again, aren’t we? 

[kronicallykieran]

You know when i first got here thats how i labeled my rp blog. Oh sweet baby horus.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Pain changes people. It makes them trust less, overthink more, and shut people out.”

— Unknown

[rex-luscus]

Hey here’s something you can tell the next person who “corrects” your “grammar”:

Grammar for a native speaker doesn’t have to be taught. It’s the fundamental rule system that allows you to compose meaningful utterances. Any sentence you can understand has correct grammar. So:

“I have green coat.” = correct grammar

“I have going will.” = incorrect grammar

The rules we’re taught in school aren’t grammar rules, they’re style rules, which means they’re not rules, they’re conventions, and conventions are just fads. So:

“I have a green coat.” = good style, no editor would flag

“I have green coat.” = dubious style in formal prose for hundreds of years, editor would flag

“And I have a green coat.” = perfectly good style before teachers in the nineteenth century started correcting it because, I dunno, they thought it didn’t sound good

[rex-luscus]

Oh and here’s something you can tell people who say your way of speaking English is “incorrect”:

“Non-standard” dialects aren’t just bastardized versions of the “standard” dialect, they have their own grammars with rule-sets just as complex as those of any other language. Also, the standard dialects didn’t come first. Examples:

If you say “I done go to the store,” you’re not saying “I went to the store” incorrectly. AAVE has its own tense system that goes right over the heads of SAE speakers, who rarely know that “I done go” actually means something more like SAE’s “I have just gone” (recent past perfect).

If you say “We was a-goin’,” you are not degrading the proper English phrase “We were going,” you’re using a dialect that preserves grammatical features of standard 16th-century English that modern standard dialects have lost: plural subject with singular past-tense verb, and a-prefix, both of which you can find all over fancy Elizabethan literature. (“Ain’t” is also an older form that dropped out of some dialects but stuck around in others.)

In short: every dialect has just as complex and consistent a grammar as any other.

Thus concludes my spontaneous lecture on how to handle language pedants.

[hotpinksun]

Thank you. 

[cleopatronising]

noted icon and legend, Leilani Clarke

[nativenews]

[usamilovelove-deactivated202005]

wtf

[usamilovelove-deactivated202005]

this post is just calling anti feminists racist

[geekandmisandry]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[voidambassador]

Would you look at that, the shoe fits

[drhds]

Which one of you Gays photoshopped the glass slipper into a Louboutin 

[ohpenmikephotos]

THE COCOAPUFF GIRLS

So about this project. For awhile now I’ve noticed almost every single time I see a darker skinned black woman “going viral”, she’s half naked, oiled up, and/or sexualized in some way shape or form. It’s very rarely ever “Look at this amazing dark skinned woman who accomplished this thing.” Or “Look at her smile, she’s gorgeous”.  Please don’t misinterpret what I’m saying. There is nothing wrong with darker women and black women in general being free and expressive about their sexuality and provocative features. BUT that is NOT ALL they are. They are so much more than sexual beings, but for some reason, that seems to be almost the only thing that grabs viral appreciation. So here’s my attempt to have darker skinned black women go viral for just being cute, creative, stylish, bubbly, beautiful, and black. Aside from the videographer EVERYONE involved in this project IS A BLACK WOMAN. I hope you guys like it. I ask that if you enjoyed this and agree with my objective, share it with a few people please.

A special thank you to @aggienes, I couldn’t have done this without her.

INSTAGRAM PAGES OF THOSE INVOLVED Photographer & Creative Director: @ohpenmike @ohpenmikephotos Stylist: @ohpenmikephotos & @aggie_hair Hair-Stylist: @aggie_nes @aggie_hair Graphic Designer: @pepitapepper MUA: @chidi.mma Models: @kristiatolode @misskellykel @chiepodeu @yanjusofine_

[aggienes-deactivated20230117]

I worked on this project with @ohpenmike and other talented black artists. Enjoy 😊

[liberalsarecool]

If you don’t well regulate the militia’s guns, then you have to well regulate the militia.

[hotpinksun]

Please watch and comment your thoughts <3<3<3

T-minus 20 minutes until I screen this for my graduate class! Ahh! 

[noping-out-deactivated20241117]

Tfw someone compares their stroller getting broken by an airline to your wheelchair getting broken by an airline and cannot grasp that there is a difference.

[hotpinksun]

Ugh. Ableds are annoying.

& TFW airlines take your wheelchair inside with all the strollers upon landing and cannot grasp why this is ableism.  

[northw0man-deactivated20201019]

Here’s a cool trick to see if a man actually respects you: try disagreeing with him

[the-rain-monster]

A friend of mine did something with online dating where, before meeting a person, she’d say no to something minor without a reason for the no. For example: “No, I don’t want to meet at a coffee shop, how about X?”, or “No, not Wednesday”, or “No, I don’t want to recognize each other by both wearing green shirts”. She said how the potential dates reacted was a huge indicator of whether she actually wanted to meet them, something I readily believe.

I’ve mentioned this to a few people and sometimes I get very annoyed and incredulous responses from guys about how are they supposed to know that it’s a test if the girl is being unreasonable? How are they supposed to know that and let her have her way? I find it difficult to explain that if you find it unreasonable for someone to have a preference of no consequence which they don’t feel the need to explain, then you are the one being unreasonable. You can decide for yourself that it sounds flaky and you don’t want to date her, but you don’t have a right to know and approve all of her reasons for things in order to deign to respect that she said no about it. Especially in the case of someone you haven’t even fucking met yet.

[damianimated]

At Target this lady told her son he couldn’t have a Wonder Woman doll because “that’s for girls” and then bought her daughter the same one. It got me thinking about how often I see people bar young boys from appreciating girls/women as protagonists and heroes, and my own experience with it as a kid.

[klbwriting]

This drives me nuts considering I have a son. For Halloween he is picking his costume and he so far has come up with 3 choices: a witch (not a wizard a witch), Princess Poppy from Trolls, or Everest (a female husky from Paw Patrol) and guess what? He will pick whichever he wants with no argument from me or my husband because he can like characters too.

[eve-made-the-right-choice]

Long story short: punishing boys for admiring female characters is an efficient way to teach boys that respecting women is morally wrong.

[colorisbyshe]

we’re really gonna go back to ‘women should just choose to not date men and call that lesbianism!’ again huh

we’re gonna do part 2 of this? in 2018???

[colorisbyshe]

it’s such an insult to bi women AND lesbians to just dismiss how fucking hard it is to love women. and it’s an insult to bi women and straight women to act like we’re dumb or less woke for potentially loving men as if we had a choice in the matter.

and, yeah, i am defending straight women here. like… it’s not funny or just pitiable that every time they develop feelings for men and act on them they risk severe violence (physical or otherwise) from their oppressors. the idea that one of the most pure feelings in the world (love) is an inherent risk for women of all sexualities isn’t like… funny or a race to prove how your love is more work. loving men? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to things like domestic violence, being forced to take on domestic labor, and just about all the other shit that comes with being with men. loving women? is a huge fucking risk when it comes to homophobic violence and other forms of discrimination.

women’s attraction, desire, and behaviour is framed as a lose-lose-lose situation and to act like we can just “choose” a better option is fucking insulting. there’s really no better term for it–it’s just insulting.

[colorisbyshe]

“Well, women can just choose to not date at all if they aren’t attracted to women!” The idea that women must live lives without romantic love because being with men is such a risk isn’t like… something we should celebrate or act like it’s an easy task. It isn’t fair to put the onus back on women to “protect themselves” from men instead of putting the onus on men to end patriarchal oppression or at least be decent enough individuals that women can feel safe loving them.

[trufemale420]

The medical community on literally every female specific health issue ever: “very common condition” “no known cause” “no known cure” :))))))

[newtonssidedick]

What the fuck is tumblr? Like honestly what is this? Do you guys pull shit out of the inner most depths of your rectum and then just throw it on your keyboard and have it turn into a post???? This site is something else what the fuck is wrong with you people????!?!?

[trufemale420]

Endemetriosis

Vaginal Thrush

Menorrhagia

Polycystic Ovary Syndrome

Fibroids

Very common conditions, causes are unknown or only speculated, long term cures have not been found. Most can cause chronic pain or discomfort, all can seriously impact your quality of life.

[witwitch-deactivated20160508]

Men are so damn privileged they can’t even imagine female bodies have different healthcare needs than theirs and that our healthcare needs are important even if they can’t be affected by one of these conditions.

[hyggehaven-deactivated20200904]

Endometriosis causes excruciating pain and is a leading cause of infertility. Thrush is extremely uncomfortable, and expensive to treat repeatedly; over-the-counter preparations rarely completely eradicate it. Menorrhagia, which I have, makes you anæmic. PCOS causes hormonal symptoms that are socially difficult (facial hair, acne, hair loss, weight gain). Fibroids are so common, and are often treated with a hysterectomy.

Add in fibromylgia, which affects 8x as many women as men, as well as lupus (and almost any other autoimmune condition), systemic exertion intolerance disorder (SEID), iron deficiency anæmia (all of which affect more women than men), and you have well over 25% of childbearing-age women globally living with chronic pain and tiredness.

Chronic pain is overwhelmingly experienced by women, and women are less likely to be taken seriously or given treatment by medical professionals. I went through two years of diagnostics to finally find out I had occipital neuralgia; I felt doubted when I described my pain at every step of the way, but was lucky to have a partner who was persistent in helping me get treatment.

Basically, this is a huge problem, and also one of the reasons I have been considering medical school.

[feminerds]

Don’t forget that most pharmaceuticals go to market without ever having been tested on people with a uterus, lest someone get pregnant… seriously that is the whole rationale behind not testing >50% of the population. This has been legislated against in some countries, but still persists in the of majority drug development because of other regulations, and traditions and laziness. The use of a drug is of course monitored in the population after release, but the people “trying” it in this capacity get none of the insurance, close and regular medical examination or monetary benefit of essentially being in a late stage drug trial. Drugs that are pulled from market after release are sometimes done so on the basis that the dosage is just too high for females/afab people and this is, of course, after they’ve experienced the adverse affects. 

This is why if you get pregnant your doctor will take you off basically any and all medication you’re taking (including mental health medication, can’t imagine any implications/dire consequences there), not because they know it will have an adverse affect on the foetus but because they have no idea. How wonderfully kind of them to prioritise the health and life of an unborn foetus over that of a living person, let’s just hope they don’t become ill whilst pregnant. How charmingly logical it is that they wouldn’t even bother to test drugs in people with a uterus because it’s all too difficult and gosh, darn what an ethical conundrum we’ve been faced with, let’s just not! Which is so in the spirit of capital S, Science!  

Sources: Nature, Nature, Medscape, Biomedcentral.

[prokopetz]

Indeed, the issue is so severe that, in many cases, folks with uteruses are routinely told that their diseases and disorders are not, in fact, disorders at all, and are just a normal part of having a uterus.

Take menstrual cramps, for example. Everybody knows that cramps are a normal part of menstruation, and that virtually all people who menstruate experience them throughout their lives, right?

Except that’s not right at all.

Yes, it’s true that about two-thirds of individuals who menstruate begin to experience menstrual pain during adolescence, but it’s basically a side effect of puberty, and normally subsides by your late teens. Only about 20-40% of menstruating adults experience menstrual pain on a regular basis - and according to some estimates, as much as 80% of that figure is due to undiagnosed endometriosis or some other underlying medical condition.

Yeah, roll those numbers around in your head: if you’re an adult who experiences menstrual cramps, it’s overwhelmingly likely that your pain is a symptom of some potentially serious medical condition.

And yet we tell folks it’s just a normal thing that everybody has to deal with.

[dottewa-deactivated20200728]

Bonus round: Look up PCOS and gender identity.

Then look up PCOS and diabetes.

[thepageofhopes]

Ok, to show how incredibly important this post fucking is, I just looked up endometriosis and I match just about every sympton, and it would explain not just my incredibly painful periods but many other things as well. I had no idea this existed. Please, read this post and reblog this so others can learn.

[philosopher--queens]

I will reblog this every time because my cousin (a cis girl) went through seven years of pain without being taken seriously until SHE suggested it was endometriosis. And that’s not even unusual - that’s the average amount of time it takes between first symptoms and a diagnosis of endometriosis.

[khealywu]

Only 20-40% of menstruating adults experience cramps???? Fuuuuuck >:[

[thementalistscandidate]

Yup. I had to mention endometriosis, I had an ultrasound and it showed nothing (someone’s it can take surgery to find it) and my doctor said that until I wanted kids, it wasn’t worth looking into and I should just go on full time birth control pills. Unless I want kids I’m not allowed to know what the fuck is happening with my body.

[chronicillnessbyash]

^ the kicker? Some birth control can make endo worse because of the types of hormones that are used in them. Endometriosis is mentrual tissue outside of the uterus that sheds when the lining of the uterus sheds but since it has no where to go it just bleeds inside the body. The endometrial tissue shedding and building back up is what causes the chronic pain associated with the illness because we have connective tissue that holds our organs in place and it’s pretty delicate and when stuff attaches to it that shouldn’t, it tends to protest, heavily.

I know someone who took bc and now has endo tumors all over her body including in her arms and legs. But her drs wouldn’t change her bc when she said her symptoms got worse. But she couldn’t go off it cuz she has pcos and her periods literally would not stop without bc to regulate her hormones.

Bc controls menstration. Often encouraging the lining to build up (cuz that’s what actually stops the active bleeding by the way. It doesn’t just empty out the uterus. If the lining didn’t start building back up you’d just keep bleeding cuz those cells would try and stick and won’t and just break down and come out. I know this is a thing because this is how I got my pcos diagnosis. I almost bled to death because I lacked enough estrogen and my lining wasn’t sticking and just shed and shed and shed…)

And the type of bc that causes this endo reaction is not universal. It is literally different for everyone so you’d have to find out essentially like trial by fire.

[hotpinksun]

OMG WTF SAME </3

All throughout my teenage years my doctors said I was just “extra sensitive” or “over-reacting” and that I was actually “fine.” I went trough debilitating pain for 7 years and they were fine with ignoring my concerns and pleas for them to do ANYTHING so that I didn’t have to be bedridden for weeks on end. 

I have a bunch of health issues, including endo and PCOS, and I had to literally BLEED OUT for 3 months straight before I could find a doctor to take what was happening seriously.

[hotpinksun]

Just sayin.... 

[mielmelon]

inside your body is PITCH BLACK your cells do all of that in the DARK

[babelady]

self care is swallowing lit matches every 5 minutes so that ur cells can see whatever the fuck they’re doing in there

[lgbtlymie]

Doctor: So what’s wrong?

Me: Health machine broke