the guy with the stuff

flame + they/he + doge2048 nonexpert

[milo-hypno]

I'm certain this is on Tumblr somewhere, but I haven't seen it around, so I'm sharing it myself

[cranberry-branflakes]

which heart did you get when you liked this post?

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Remaining time: 3 days 22 hours

when reblogging, please add the pride tags I've included! if not, anybody liking your reblog will only see regular tumblr hearts :)

[eroscestlavie]

I need to stop replying to “how do you make friends in your 30s?” threads because all my answers boil down to “you have to want to know people instead of have friends” and I don’t think people wanna hear that

[eroscestlavie]

It’s like. People can tell if you don’t really like or connect with them. If you aren’t truly enamored with someone you will have a hard time coming up with activities to do together to deepen the friendship. Because you don’t really like that person that much.

[phleb0tomist]

he would not fucking say that, but with disability.. he would not fucking be able bodied. sick n tired of characters walking away from multiple life changing injuries without a scratch. let’s get some natural consequences in here.

give that knife/sword fight survivor nerve damage. give the character who was shot in the gut a stoma. give that fire survivor lung damage and an oxygen cannula. give that leg injury survivor a cane. give that starvation survivor gastroparesis. give that spinal injury survivor a manual chair or powerchair.

while we’re at it, give your characters congenital disabilities too, just because. give them intellectual and development disabilities. give them acquired and postviral illnesses. dare to make somebody bedbound. for me.

[goodlouse]

I finally started testosterone this year! here’s some little celebratory illustrations :) [likes<rbs&follows]

[sandersstudies]

Stopping point if you find yourself on your phone doomscrolling, procrastinating, or “stuck”

You can move to scroll in another space (if you haven’t gotten out of bed yet, move to the couch; if you haven’t left the house yet, you can sit outside)

You can make your current space more pleasant to scroll in (if it’s not possible to move spaces, open a window or light a candle in your space)

You can scroll while taking care of your body (change into clean clothes, scroll while brushing your teeth or washing your face, scroll while drinking water or having a snack)

You can stay on social media but avoid depressing or mindless content (try searching for fun facts, hobbies you’re interested in, or good news)

Hard mode: try just making the switch on your phone from short-form to long-form content (from dozens of short posts to an article, a fanfic, or an ebook; from TikToks/Reels/Shorts to a interesting or fun YouTube video, podcast, audiobook, or film) — this can be the first step in transitioning out of being “stuck,” because you can, for example, go on a walk while listening to an audiobook, fold clothes while watching a video, etc.

Expert mode: Set a timer for one minute and put down your phone. Do anything else. (Take deep breaths, go get a drink, pick up a book or craft.) If you can do this, aspire to two or five minutes and keep increasing your time away from scrolling. (Use your phone to play music, a podcast, or an audiobook if this prevents you from picking it up again)

Good luck! I hope you were able to make your scrolling a touch more cheerful today!

[knighthearts]

happy pride month for it/its users, polyamorous people, xenogenders, non-transitioning trans people, and other "weird" identities. btw

[depsidase]

[nongunktional]

when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

[nongunktional]

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

[jackironsides]

The original meaning of the male loneliness epidemic when it was first talked about maybe 10+ years ago was the former. It has mutated since in the same way that academic concepts like ‘the male gaze’ and ‘death of the author’ have mutated online, until it's become something in support of the structures of toxic masculinity, instead of a critique, as it was originally intended.

[jackironsides]

The original discussions:

Because men are discouraged from forming emotional attachments to each other, they rely on wives and girlfriends for all of their emotional support, and that's bad

Manosphere grifters in 2025:

...Which is why male loneliness is women's fault!! And why they should just put out more, so every man has three weed smoking girlfriends!

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

#I have been wondering when the fuck it changed#because I only ever saw the first meaning#and then in the last year have seen dozens of people mocking it using the second meaning#and I've felt like I was in some alternate reality somehow

I think it is still mostly used for the original definition. There's like four manosphere idiots using the second and making actual loneliness impossible to talk about because when people do, others assume they're being manosphere idiots whining about not having hot girlfriends. The definition didn't change for most people, it's just a handful of loud voices misusing it and confusing new people.

[queeranarchism]

IMO a significant amount of the blame here is on the 'others assume'. When we ignore what people really mean and take the worst version of words as the default because we're in constant hostility mode, when we treat everything as a dogwhistle even when it's clearly not, when we abandon any word that has been touched by the far-right, we cede ground voluntarily. And we shouldn't cede ground about words that matter. I don't care if we abandon a few memes and let the incels of the fash have the memes, but don't cede ground on words that matter.

[manuciruja]

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

[manuciruja]

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

[smadsel]

would be remiss not to mention that the rainbow notably straight up just removed the trans flag colors from it. like they’re gone. it’s the progress flag minus the trans flag colors.

[smadsel]

that’s not the whole flag, now is it

[manuciruja]

hey staff what the fuck

[villainessbian]

hey staff don't you think you're being too on-the-nose

[shrodingers-catgirl]

HEY STAFF DONT YOU THINK YOU'RE BEING TOO ON-THE-NOSE

[souvenirs]

[spitfaggot]

happy birthday, gilbert baker. (june 2, 1951 — march 31, 2017)

[cleaverqueer]

petition to change LGBT to DFTQ (Dykes Faggots Trannies and Queers, naturally)

[cleaverqueer]

AMENDED

[cleaverqueer]

happy pride everyone

[mindless-polls]

You are going to be teleported to a completely random place in one of these US states. None of your belongings or money come with you, no evidence of any degrees or certifications you’ve attained. You have to find a way to live within that state for 1 year. Which are you picking?

Arizona

Montana

Florida

Kentucky

New Mexico

Louisiana

Results

Remaining time: 4 days 8 hours

(You will be teleported to land, not in any bodies of water or anyplace you’d be instantly killed.)

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

all of my friends read so fucking fast and it pisses me the fuck off because I can read silently maybe 40% faster than I can read aloud. but my friends will read a 5,000 word article in 3 minutes and I have to sit down and remind myself that I’m not stupid or bad at reading I just know approximately 8 Speedread Georgs and don’t socialize with anyone else.

[solarprominence]

I maintain that the best summation of my feminist beliefs are that men and women are not fundamentally different. There are a few quantifiable differences if you average out every woman and every man, but they are not qualitative. And most of them are socially constructed, and would be fixed if we started treating men and women the same. Neither is inherently smarter, neither is inherently kinder, neither is inherently more stoic or stronger or angrier or softer. Everyone is obsessed with the differences between women and men, with finding them and creating them and distancing themselves from the "other half". It's fucked up

[idlelizard]

shapely sugar bowl

[libraford]

Advice I gave someone today was: 'do it stupid.'

She wants to learn photography. Do it stupid. Take a million photos. Don't think about why they're not good. Enjoy the process of taking photos.

Pick out tge ones you like the most and figure out why you like them. Is it because the subject is centered? Is it because you caught them doing something cool? Is it because the light made cool shadows?

Do it stupid. If you try to do it smart, youll get stuck. If you think too much you'll never get to doing. Do it stupid.

[etherdiver]

Holy shit

[quill-ting]

This is honestly how I started quilting! I had fabric, I had a knowledge of backstitch, I had a quilting magazine. I asked "how hard can it be?" and now here we are. Just have fun and give it a go!

[aeipathy-dendrology]

Works for writing too!! Write your Mary Sue’s, your cringe OCs, have your Wattpad era, you can only grow after the seed has been planted!!