no

they/them gremlin

[autistobrat]

this too shall pass but the fuck was that for

[calellon]

i'll forever miss how the internet felt before you had to second-guess the authenticity of every single piece of media you came across. silly videos used to be just silly. fun was coincidental. wonder was just wonder. digital art had character and soul. AI has taken the taste out of everything and irreversibly poisoned the creative sphere and the people still pushing it forward are the doom of both joy and the quality of being.

[shamebats]

For disability pride I'd like to talk about how people with headache disorders are failed by both doctors and insurance companies so much, it's standard to be put on meds with a known low probability of working and terrible side effects for no reason other than bc CGRP inhibitors are expensive. You often have to fail several cheaper medications before you can get on the ones that actually work long-term for the largest % of people.

We also often have headache-specific rescue meds like triptans restricted and rationed which, when we cannot access proper preventatives, puts especially those us of with chronic headaches at risk of overusing OTC painkillers like paracetamol or ibuprofen instead, or—depending on how bad the headaches are—folks might even resort to street drugs to numb the pain.

Migraine specially is one of the most common health conditions. Cluster headaches are considered to be the most painful chronic pain condition. Yet, most of the time, patients with these & similar conditions do not receive the medical care they'd need to properly manage their pain, and are often dismissived as overdramatic, too sensitive, "just stressed" or drug-seeking.

[storyweavingspider]

If you are a white person in a racialized person’s life, especially as a partner or close friend, you should go out of your way to ask regularly “hey is there anything you have been holding on to that I did?” and critically both fix it and NOT DO ANYTHING TO PUNISH THEM FOR TELLING YOU.

As a white person raised in a white supremacist society, you’re gonna fuck up sometimes. That’s just a fact. But racialized people often aren’t able/comfortable speaking up when y’all do some shit because of the power imbalance/not feeling up to educating when you may be resistant/don’t think the “fight” will be Worth It.

Show initiative without making it A Struggle or playing the white guilt card. Show you actually care about them, their struggles, and the way you interact with them BEFORE they have to have a bigger Conversation with you, beyond when they need to yell about someone else being racist.

And for fucks sake if they’re making/showing you something from their culture fucking act like you realize the importance of that, that they’re showing you shows they grew up with or making you food they made with their families, that they’re letting you in and trusting you more than other whites in their life.

[mintendo96]

This would honestly be life changing for me. The idea came up because I feel so incapable of telling the people in my life when they do racist shit. And like furthermore, actually respond beyond just an I'm sorry. Like for the love of god actually internalize the shit the Black and Brown folks say to you.

[mintendo96]

I'm seeing a lot of tags from white people saying something along the lines of please tell me if I fuck up and like that really goes against the point of the post. Racialized people have to swallow so much racism on a daily basis and it's impossible to tell who is safe to confront.

Even close friends or partners are not necessarily safe. I have had partners dismiss accusations of racism just off hand, I have had partners treat me like a repository for knowledge on Muslim cultural practices despite the fact that *my family has been Christian since Jesus,* hell I have had a partner say I was overplaying my pain at the genocide to get sympathy.

Racialized people are constantly waiting for the other shoe to job. Constantly waiting for their "antiracist" white friend to decide they have learned all they need to. We need you to ask. We need you to care enough to be proactive literally at all. Stop asking us to trust you without doing any fucking work to prove you are trustworthy.

[storyweavingspider]

To emphasize

IF YOU ARE WHITE YOU HAVE TO TAKE THE FIRST STEP OR YOU ARE JUST PUTTING MORE LABOR AND DANGER ON YOUR RACIALIZED FRIENDS FOR YOUR FUCKING COMFORT

Fucking reblog this each time you see it so that it gets drilled into other whites heads

[hollowboobtheory]

why do people think victorian orphans were like. the peak of sheltered pure innocence

[hollowboobtheory]

"imagine feeding mountain dew to a victorian orphan" they'd probably appreciate the pick-me-up before their shift as junior osha violator at the accident factory

[hollowboobtheory]

"imagine showing a victorian orphan vtubers" they'd say "this is boring i wanna watch public executions"

[burr-ell]

#that victorian orphan works as a chimblysweep to buy lifesaving medical cocaine and chloroform for his sister and yall dont even smoke weed

[deadpowol]

[ineffectualdemon]

Every time I apply my oestrogen gel because of menopause I think "there is a trans woman somewhere who is also sitting in her underwear post shower waiting for the gel to dry before she finishes getting dressed" and I feel happy and a sense of kinship and camaraderie with her even though I am not a trans woman or even trans femme in anyway

But I know how to apply the gel because I saw posts from trans women how to apply it and I feel that even though are reasons for using it are different that we are not so different

So for any woman or non binary person out there who are sitting post oestrogen gel application and scrolling on their phone as they wait for it to dry...we are doing this together and this genderqueer person lovee you

[sternfleck]

Thoughts and prayers to my European mutuals suffering under their omega heat

[ralfmaximus]

do NOT google "omega heat"

[chocomiking]

prayers for the people googling "omega heat" for the first time

[whichcouldmeanothing]

uppies for vic season 7 -> season 8

[green-is-gay]

i dont WANT pride months to be over,

on the other hand...

[superdaisypowerhour]

"if i had a time machine i would go back in time and kill hitler"

I would put sea mines around medieval britain. i would give hannibal barca ww2 era heavy artillery and tell him not to stop till he starts seeing gauls. i would give boudica a fucking abrams. i would appear before jesus like an angel and tell him "you gotta stop. not cause theyll kill you, youre fine with that, surprisingly, but because your fanclub is gonna spend about 1500 years making everything worse for everyone, everywhere." I would take a glock back in time and shoot romulus, shoot remus, and shoot that damn dog too just to be safe. i would be on the side of christopher columbus' ship in a scuba suit planting c4 on that bitch like rainbow six siege. i would be waging a one woman campaign of terror across andalusia to prevent the reconquista. i would be getting way out in front of that shit is what im saying,

[holdoncallfailed]

ever since i was a little girl i knew i wanted to deny location sharing and turn off personalized ads and reject all non-essential cookies and not set up siri and face ID

[tatsumiku1]

After Supercorp officially starts dating Kara has this NEED to share everything with Lena. Its not like even before Kara had any issues with giving Lena whatever she wanted. But on Krypton the moment you start courting, its official, everything that belongs to you belongs to your partner too, nothing and I mean nothing is completely yours.

Kara gives Lena her apartment keys (Lena is confused cause she already had a copy of those keys given by Kara before), tells Lena to get anything from her closet that she wants (Lena only wants her shirts and sweatpants, which she already wears without even asking), even gives Lena the access to her bank accounts, AND shares all the subscriptions she has (Lena gets a message at 2.30am in the morning working in her lab that Kara Danvers have made her a co-subscriber for the free snack sample subscription that Kara has).

That's actually the last straw before Lena asks Kara whats going on. Kara tells her and now Kara is siting in a board meeting as the co-owner of L-corp, not knowing what to do but giving her best. (Turns out Lena is way too passionate about following Kryptonian rituals and now they are doing weekly world trips to show Kara where all the Luthor properties are, besides Lena also don't mind turning some bad childhood memories into good ones by putting Kara in different positions in all those villas).

[eisenkrahe]

[enba-and-luka]

[lateleviathan]

THIS IS NOT THE END OF STOPKILLINGGAMES

THERE'S A WAY TO BYPASS THE COMMISSION AND PEOPLE ARE ALREADY WORKING ON IT

[roguesynapses]

Tldw; there is majority support in the European Parliament for a bill that would cover most of SKG's issues, and if passed this would bypass the decision of the Commission. There are also ongoing lawsuits in France and other places that would likely lead to some legislation. There is also a bill being worked on in California that wouldn't stop current games from being killed, but would stop future games from being killed

[canichangemyblogname]

This June, I need Gen Z queers to understand that some people are closeted.

[canichangemyblogname]

I am saying this as a Gen Z queer, before y’all get your guns out to fucking shoot me.

But I need y’all to understand that if someone doesn’t give you their government name in a queer space, it’s not because they’re “mysterious,” and you do not have permission to take it upon yourself to figure out their “real identity” and go digging for them online like a private investigator. First, that’s creepy and a violation of privacy and reasonable boundaries. Second, some of us keep our private and professional lives very separate because we need to keep food on the fucking table and a roof over our heads, and our private life could jeopardize that.

[canichangemyblogname]

“Why won’t you tell me about your parents?” “Why can’t I know your real name?” “Where do you work?”

1.) Not all our parents would bake us a fucking cake when we come out. Some of us are closeted. Surely you understand this? You also do not need to know my parent’s names or occupations; we are both adults. I do not need nor want to mix you and my private life with my parents and my public life.

2.) Trans people do not owe you their dead name or government name

3.) I’m not telling you for the sake of job security. I am a government fucking caseworker working amidst a fucking lavender panic!

“There’s no way you’re a different person outside this; you’re still you at your core. What harm is there—”

No, I am a completely different person. A different person with a different personality and different interests and a different name and presentation. I am a completely different person because I keep this life and my public life private to avoid fracturing 90% of my interpersonal relationships and 100% of my professional ones.

“You’re not out? But you’re so confident.”

See— that’s part of the issue. Y’all assume someone is in the closet because they hate themselves or lack self-identity. Some of us know exactly who we are, but need to prioritize financial stability or else our entire life gets exponentially harder immediately.

[canichangemyblogname]

You meet queer people over the age of 40 and one of the first/earliest questions is “who knows?”

I need y’all to start bringing that energy. Because it’s not always safe for someone to be out and not everyone is safe to be out around.

There is a misnomer that “the closet” inherently means “doesn’t know they’re queer” and not “isn’t out widely and publicly.” “Outness” is often a patchwork.

[briannyssey]

update on some of what’s been happening in Kansas wrt the state id law

She’d Never Changed Her Gender Marker. Kansas Invalidated Her License Anyway. — Assigned

A trans Kansas resident recently changed her name but not her gender marker on her license, fearing what Kansas may do if she did. The Kansa

Folks who’ve simply gotten their names changed in the system were getting flagged to have their IDs invalidated

They are tracking trans residents of Kansas. They have already established that they can and will forcibly undocument trans kansans.

This past legislative session it’s “only” been reversion of legal ID and banning of gender affirming care for minors. What will it be next legislative session?