hadley

im boy. who is also santos. bodily a minor, follow ur own dni

[ilovesantos]

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im bodily a minor (idk if its safe to say my age, but I am 13.)

i have no dni (do not interact list), just dont be a bigot, Nazi, or a creep.

he/they/hy/it prns .

i like to draw whenever I feel it.

I like: The Pitt, House, Roblox, Sonic The Hedgehog and a few other things i'm probably forgetting ,,

transandrophobia, adultism, ageism, youngism, intersexism, transmisogyny, exorsexism, abelism and racism are real!

I support systems of all origins (including those who are mixed origins, endogenic, willogenic, tulpagenic, etc) and contradictory label users/subtildens.

[ilovesantos]

why do i keep going

[ilovesantos]

why does my back suddenly feel like its being crushed by a hydraulic press. i.. I didn't even do anything..I just sat in bed..

what the hell

[is-this-intersexism]

this isn't a question as I know it is intersexism. hopefully I did the plaintext right

but the fact that we are constantly just never brought up (or only as a talking points, gotchas, etc).

like we really are just standing in the corner like: "hey you forgot about us🧍"

[plaintext: like we really are just standing in the corner like "hey, you forgot about us. person awkwardly standing emoji".]

if I see one more person say LGB or LGBT instead of LGBTQIA2s+. I'm gonna. cry or smth idk.

[plaintext: if I see one more person say lgb or lgbt instead of lgbtqia2s+, I'm gonna cry or something, I don't know.]

this is intersexism

agreed and I think you did pretty good

[is-this-intersexism]

does this count?

i was looking up intersex deer. I was drawing a furry deer and I had an idea to make them intersex, so I looked up "Intersex deer" for a reference. and then I looked at the titles of the photos and it made me so sad. "he-she deer", "hermaphrodite deer", "whitetail freaks". I know they're animals and maybe you do call them that, but it hurt and stung really bad. it made me feel really sad

this is intersexism

just because they are an animal doesn’t mean they don’t deserve respect, this is good to point out

[ilovesantos]

thank you!! I felt like I was making a big deal. like these animals don't deserve that

[is-this-intersexism]

all creatures deserve it

please always remember that dear friend🫂

[is-this-intersexism]

i know this is something many have said.

but, futa. fucking futanari . like it makes me want to bang my head on a fucking wall.

is all you think of us just.. some sexual fantasy? (this isn't me dunking on sexual fantasy, but rather the fact we intersex people are reduced to a thing for sex...also the "you" is about intersexist people, not "you" as in is-this-intersexism).

maybe I'm not qualified to talk as I only have PMOS but it just pisses me off very bad and disheartens me.

this is intersexism

you are as qualified as we are, all of us are,

we are not sex objects

We deserve respect

we are allowed to say that, thanks for venting

[is-this-intersexism]

does this count?

i was looking up intersex deer. I was drawing a furry deer and I had an idea to make them intersex, so I looked up "Intersex deer" for a reference. and then I looked at the titles of the photos and it made me so sad. "he-she deer", "hermaphrodite deer", "whitetail freaks". I know they're animals and maybe you do call them that, but it hurt and stung really bad. it made me feel really sad

this is intersexism

just because they are an animal doesn’t mean they don’t deserve respect, this is good to point out

[ilovesantos]

thank you!! I felt like I was making a big deal. like these animals don't deserve that

[is-this-intersexism]

i follow many intersex blogs, and they get asks where people talk about their variations. I Google them and... why are all the images of the variations having tools prodding at them? or being mutilated? I know why (intersexism and more I'm too tired to remember) but it makes me deeply sad and uncomfortable. like ..can we just..have normal images of the variations (not to say there aren't).

this is intersexism

just because we have normal implications doesn’t mean there aren’t horrible ones we need to advocate for

[this-is-adultism]

Adultism is the fact children are expected to conform to their parents religion/ are viewed as obligated to belive in that religion until they are an adult

This is adultism and religuous supremacy.

[hibi-flower]

Nine fucking transgender people have been killed this year already, I am beyond angry. Every single one of them should still be alive

Update: check the google docs link I put in comments. Total 16

[closet-keys]

My heart is breaking for @fadell-aldany. I'm terrified for him. His health has been failing for months due to this genocide, and even maintaining the most basic care at the hospital now feels hopeless. Please donate to him as soon as possible. His campaign is vetted at gazavetters #197. He needs help immediately to afford these bills.

[90-ghost]

Some Days , I Miss Gaza like it was a person.

[wedadgazahhg]

I never imagined I would have to ask for help like this. My name is Wedad, and I am from P.a.l.e.s.t.i.n.e. My family consists of 7 members. Our home was completely destroyed, and now we are living in a torn tent with nothing left. My family and I have not had any food for the past 32 hours. Watching my family suffer from hunger is heartbreaking, and every hour feels endless.

My mother is sick, and my sister Mira is also sick. They both urgently need medicine and medical care, but we cannot afford it. I feel helpless watching them suffer while we have no food and no way to help them.

If you are able to help, your d.o.n.a.t.i.o.n can provide food for my family and medicine for my mother and my sister Mira. If you cannot donate, please share our story with others. Your kindness and support could give my family hope during this heartbreaking time. Thank you for reading my story.

Donation link

Donate to Support Wedad's Journey to Safety and Education, organized by Mickey Dee

Hello, my name is Mickey from Michigan USA and I am raising funds for Wedad… Mickey Dee needs your support for Support Wedad's Journey to Sa

[yixiaosuige]

gazavetters #727

[bohemiandeer]

You know what hits me hard? When 5 to 6 year old children, all the way in Southeast Asia, knows about what's happening in Palestine right now. That children their age is getting bombed, that they're starving to death, that they're getting shot at, and sniped in the head. Because, just this past 2 or so months, I heard some of the little ones in the Kindergarten classes I'm TAing in as an Intern talk about it. Hell, one of the little boys downright said he didn't like Israel, because Israel is bad, because they do scary things. Another was questioning whether Palestine was bad too, because, "why else would they shooting at them?". A little girl in one of my classes doesn't want to finish her food at all, because she wants to save at least half her meat and rice for kids in Palestine, because she heard that, they don't have food. And that's just the ones I remember. Namely the inciting cases before their classmates slowly follow suit. The littles are fricking SCARED. We had to sit these kids down, and tell them that the topic is too mature for them at the moment, that they shouldn't even be concerned because they're KINDERGARTNERS, they're not even old enough to properly understand. The one teacher I was TAing for had to make a class announcement saying that. What gets me is, these are 5 to 6 year olds, the youngest I've worked with in this specific age group is 4. 5 years old on average, and they've already been exposed to the worst horrors genocide has to offer through the news and snippets of conversation among adults and hell, considering how many of them say they like to play games on Mama's phone, or their IPad, even from fricking social media. And the fact that, these literal babies, from all the way in Cambodia, has more empathy in their entire body and soul, than full grown fricking adults have in the nail of their pinky finger, gets me. FFS we as adults could LEARN from them I feel sometimes. I honestly don't know what to feel about it anymore. On the one hand, this is the next generation I'm working with. And if the next generation's default response to a tragedy such as Palestine, is what I've seen come up on occasion so far? Perhaps there's some bloody hope for this world after all. At least in this country. Especially since a majority of them already come from families who survived a genocide. These are the 3rd - 4th generation descendants of those who survived the Khmer Rouge. They've got grandparents at home, who no doubt are more than intimately familiar with what Palestine is going through right now. And it shows.

But on the other, it makes my heart sink because these are CHILDREN, these are LITTLE KIDS, they should be playing with their toys and watching cartoons and talking to their friends about everything from Spiderman to Speakerman to Kuromi and her friends, and be worried about whether or not they can go to playground that day, guranteed they're well behaved, or if Mama remembered to pack in their costume for swimming lessons that week. NOT JUST MY KIDS. But the little ones in Palestine too. They deserve better. They all deserve, so much better. Hell, it's come to the point that whenever I look at my kiddos right now, whether they'd be working in class, playing, doing something as mundane as eating lunch or getting ready for their nap. I think of the children their age in Palestine that didn't even get the chance to survive. I think of the ones whose memories from this age, is nothing but absolute horror and pain, rather than what has slowly become my normal, who never got to experience what my littles do on a daily basis right now.

Children shouldn't even be concerned about "War", about a Genocide. The last thing that should be on a 5 year old's mind, is pain, and suffering, and the worst horrors imaginable ever to be inflicted on a human being. ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S INFLICTED, ON OTHER CHILDREN THEIR AGE. And for that alone, the world has failed them. Especially the kids in Palestine who didn't ask for any of this. They just wanted to carry on with life as kids do, the same way as my littles do on a daily basis no doubt, learning, playing, chatting with friends over their favourite cartoons and characters, worrying about whether they'd get to go to the playground or not that day.

I apologize for talking about this on this blog. I know my blog tends to be lighter in feel, a lot more unhinged and light hearted typically. I mean, I'm just a fricking nerd who likes to draw and write, and lurk about her favourite fandoms to consume and support what is shared among other nerds who also like to draw and write. But I couldn't stop thinking about it. About contemplating it, especially since I'll be back on a roll tomorrow, working with my kiddos again after not seeing them for 5 days straight because of Holidays. And, I just had to talk about it. This is something I felt I couldn't keep to myself this time, I don't think my soul'd be able to carry it. I had to talk about it.

FREE PALESTINE. Our children deserve better.

[zombiesta]

you're not an ally to intersex people if you only mention their existence when defending being transgender and ignore them in any other conversation.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you don't support "afab" intersex people considering themselves trans women and/or cis men.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you don't support "amab" intersex people considering themselves trans men and/or cis women.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you don't support intersex people refusing to identify as trans or cis.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you don't support intersex people identifying as both trans and cis for the same gender.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you use shi/hir pronouns, the h slur, the fu slur, etc while being perisex.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you are unable to listen to us without mentioning your kinks.

you're not an ally to intersex people if you aren't willing to learn about intersex issues.

[butchbubbles]

reblog that post about Black people, whitey

[butchbubbles]

i mean "posts about Black people" in a broad sense, that can mean anything from struggles to Black joy, and when you see the notes, most of the time it’s double digits, three if I'm being generous.

start being comfortable posting Black people's words in your blogs, the same way you'll reblog posts about transness, gayness, disability, because these specific topics can affect you

start actually giving a fuck about Black folks and reblogging our words is the barest minimum

[dhddmods]

A compilation of my most important posts on @thisisparamisia

[PT: A compilation of my most important posts on @thisisparamisia /end PT]

Making this because Tumblr refuses to take off the mature account filter on the account, and so tons of minors are incapable of accessing paraphilia education. (Despite the fact that minors themselves can be paraphiles, and it's not uncommon for paraphilias to form during childhood [link.])

Alright, let's start.

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Post: "Educate yourself about paraphilic disorders this disability pride month!"

[PT: Post: "Educate yourself about paraphilic disorders this disability pride month!" /End PT]

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Post: "Blog relevant terminology"

[PT: Post: "Blog relevant terminology" /end PT]

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Post: "OCD vs Paraphilia"

[PT: Post: "OCD vs Paraphilia" /End PT]

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Post: "Paraphilias can be nonsexual"

[PT: Post: "Paraphilias can be nonsexual" /End PT]

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Post: "Incest, inbreeding, and the issues with incest"

[PT: Post: "Incest, inbreeding, and the issues with incest" /end PT]

[ID of the last segment (since it won't let me add it in the alt text):

Conclusive thoughts:

Incest is not technically "immoral" if all parties are fully consenting (that includes no grooming/coercion), but it is more often than not dangerous and unhealthy, and it is unlikely to even be considered by a mentally healthy individual.

Choosing an intimate partnership with a relative rather than an outside party is like metaphorically walking through a minefield when there is a world of non-risky land just behind you to explore instead.

I do not believe in arresting those who participate in consensual incest, but I also do not believe it should be encouraged, and I think they deserve psychological help, and that society should be questioning the reasons behind why such a dynamic may have formed rather than judging them.

There is a severe lack of studies on the long-term affects of consensual sibling-sibling incest, and I think that is something that needs some serious looking into.

/End ID]

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Post: "Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference?"

[PT: Post: "Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference?" /end PT]

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Post: "MAP is not a term for 'child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community.' That is a myth."

[PT: Post: "MAP is not a term for 'child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community.' That is a myth." /end PT]

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Post: "Most child rapists are not pedophiles, the same way most men who rape men are not queer."

[PT: Post: "Most child rapists are not pedophiles, the same way most men who rape men are not queer" /End PT]

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Post: "Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos"

Post: "The issues with corpse desecration"

Post: "Behaviors to avoid online"

Post: "Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations?"

[PT: Post: "Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos"

Post: "The issues with corpse desecration"

Post: "Behaviors to avoid online"

Post: "Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations?" /End PT]

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Post: "Proship vs antiship - an argument that is not actually helping anyone."

[PT: Post: "Proship vs antiship - an argument that is not actually helping anyone." /End PT]

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Post: "What makes a paraphilia queer vs nonqueer?"

[PT: Post: "What makes a paraphilia queer vs nonqueer?" /End PT]

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Post: "Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩"

[PT: Post: "Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩" /End PT]

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As a bonus, here are posts not made by me (Kris) but instead made by my headmates. These posts are not marked mature (as of right now): or @pararecovery.

Why "paraphiles who don't act on it are fine" is still a paramisic statement [link] Stop pretending to be a mental health advocate if you think people with "dangerous" paraphilic disorders are inherently predators, deserve to feel ashamed of themselves, or deserve conversion therapy [link] Children can be paraphiles [link] Parental controls and age verification are ineffective; so what is the solution? [link]

Here are some posts by @pararecovery (which is unfortunately marked as mature) that deserve attention:

Tips for coping with paraphilic disorders [link] Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with sexual fantasies [link] Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with fiction [link]

I would share screenshots, but tumblr only allows 30 images per post.

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And here are some resources I recommend checking out, if you're struggling with your mental health:

General:

Get Self Help [link] Therapy Worksheets [link] Project Lets [link] Fireweed Collective [link] The Wildflower Alliance [link] Stronger U/Stronger Together [link] ^These four are non-carceral support for suicidal folks. (Non-carceral means they won't call the cops to forcefully institutionalize you.) Self-harm resources [link] (Check out the "first aid" and "anatomy" information on the top of the screen for further advice about harm reduction.) Also recommend checking out @thisis-suicidism, @support-for-the-suicidal, and @self-harm-harm-reduction for further resources and support.

MAPs (though non-MAPs may find it helpful too, by just exchanging words like "minor" for whatever other thing):

Self-help modules [link] Advice, safety planning, and FAQs [link] Stop It Now UK [link] / Stop It Now USA [link] B4U-Act [link] ASAP International [link] VirPed [link] Global Prevention Project [link]

OCD & intrusive thoughts:

OCD worksheets [link] Grounding techniques for intrusive thoughts [link]

Sexual trauma:

Survivor's Toolkit [link] (Mainly recommending the worksheets there) Care Package for Survivors of Sexual Trauma [link] (mainly reccomending the "managing common reactions to trauma" segment.) Online Communities for Survivors (of sexual trauma) [link]