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[charmedatlaw]

IF YOU ARE UNMARRIED, DON'T HAVE KIDS, AND HATE YOUR PARENTS PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HAVE A FUCKING WILL

this has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood probate lawyer

[charmedatlaw]

Again:

1. The law doesn't care how long your parents and family have been out of your life

2. The law doesn't care about your long term friends or "found family"

If you don't have legal documents that say otherwise, your biological family calls all the shots.

This goes especially for LGBTQ+. Please do not get deadnamed in your obituary.

[the-final-sif]

How to make a will.

How to make a living will (Advance Healthcare Directive) so you don’t get fucked over by biological family if you end up in a situation where you cannot make your own healthcare choices.

[pyroinfusedtiger]

If youre trans, this video is a good ref to start with and she provides links and organizations that can help

[catchymemes]

[shutyourmoustache]

So you don’t have to watch the video every time you need one of these hacks immediately:

1. If you feel nauseated, smell rubbing alcohol.

2. If you feel like throwing up, start humming.

3. If you have a runny nose, put your tongue to the roof of your mouth and press your thumb to your forehead for about 20 seconds.

4. If you have a headache, pinch the webbing between your fingers and rub it back and forth for about 1 minute.

5. If you’re lightheaded from standing up too quickly, clench your butt cheeks.

6. If your arm’s dead/has the pins and needles feeling, rock your head back and forth.

7. If you need to pee badly, think of sex to trick your brain and relieve the pressure.

8. If you have a migraine, stick your hands in ice water.

9. If you wanna calm your racing heart, blow on your thumb.

[natandacat]

If you're lightheaded while standing up, opening and closing your fists is also something to do. Also try stretching before getting up!

(These are vasovagal syncope tricks, to get the blood pumping where it should be)

[shutyourmoustache]

Thanks for adding another hack!

I used the humming one when I randomly started dry heaving today, and that shit worked so fast!👌🏼

[recovering-and-healing]

IDEAS FOR “DO IT YOURSELF SELF-CARE KIT“

Self-care is so imprtant. You might want to consider putting some of these items in your self-care kit (or add to your existing one).

First get a container.

___  A list of reasons you love yourself

___  An “I love you” picture to look at

___  Blank papers to write yourself a love letter, to draw, doodle, etc

___  Bottle of water

___  Bubbles

___  Calming stones

___  Chocolate

___  Colorful pencils

___  Coloring book

___  Compress

___  Crayons

___  Deck of cards

___  Earbuds

___  Earplugs

___  Essential oils to put behind your ear (lavender, etc)

___  Face cream

___  Funny comics

___  Fuzzy socks

___  Glue

___  Gratitude list

___  Hand cream

___  Healthy snacks

___  Important phone numbers

___  Index cards

___  Joke book

___  Kind messages you have received

___  Knit, sew, crochet

___  Lego

___  Lip balm

___  List of best friends

___  List of funny comedies to watch

___  List of [good] things you did

___  List of happy things

___  List of ideas that help you stay strong

___  List of reasons to laugh

___  List of reasons you love to be alive

___  List of tips to de-stress

___  List of things that activate your 5 senses

___  List of things you would enjoy doing

___  List of your big dreams

___  List of your strengths

___  Lotion

___  Magazine

___  Markers

___  Medicines

___  Nail polish

___  Nice smelling soap, or candle in a safe container

___  Notebook

___  Pens and pencils

___  Pictures of happy memories

___  Pictures of loved ones

___  Pictures of things you love

___  Positive, inspirational, and good vibes only quotes

___  Protein bar

___  Puzzle

___  Radiant Monkey mood tracker app (mood diary for phones)

___  Rubber bands

___  Self-care Journal

(suggestion: this one is very good, by Rachelle Abellar, $30.00 available on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1312786051?ie=UTF8&tag=bustle2443-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1312786051)

___  Silly games

___  Silly putty or play dough

___  Sleep mask

___  Small mirror (to smile at yourself)

___  Small stuffed animal

___  Sparkling glue

___  Stickers

___  Stress ball

___  Tea

___  The Little Book of Mindfulness

(suggestion: by Dr. Patrizia Collard, $6.00 available on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1856753530?ie=UTF8&tag=bustle2443-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1856753530)

___  Tissues

___  Vitamins, supplements

___  Warming pillow for neck and shoulders

___  Word game

___  Your favorite book

___  Your favorite children’s book

___  Your favorite candy

[richardjager-deactivated2023010]

[jacobtheloofah]

[apocalyptic-cake-deactivated202]

Op and person that added I love you

[coelasquid]

This whole “trust Tumblr blindly” thing is eventually going to kill someone, as I became pointedly aware of on one occasion I was making fun of how poorly a particular bleach-based drain declogger was working on my sink and got a chorus of really dangerously misinformed people telling me to pour vinegar in after it because all cute little cool kid diy home care blogs they’re following talk about vinegar like it it’s the big secret the cleaning companies don’t want you to know.

And I cringed knowing that someday, some Well Actually expert who read a blog article once is going to give that advice to someone who unfortunately didn’t take high school chemistry and isn’t aware that MIXING VINEGAR AND BLEACH MAKES CHLORINE GAS.

[death-limes]

holy fucking jesus tits reblog to save a life

[solarpunkarchivist-deactivated2]

OK I actually got a full on A* for GCSE Chemistry and if I ever knew this I’ve forgotten it. Seriously reblog this.

[xavea]

Also don’t use bleach to clean up if your cat pees outside the littlerbox (or urine in general for that matter, species doesn’t really matter here I think). I did that in a small space and it took me a bit of coughing and wheezing and wanting to tear my eyes out before I went, “wait, fuck, I just gassed myself”.

Be aware of the chemicals you are using even if they are natural cleaners.

[lovesexandhumor]

16 Common Product Combinations You Should Never Mix

[krystal-prisms]

@3-crows-in-a-trenchcoat TAKE NOTES

[xamag-main]

Webcomic tips

In the conclusion for now, some things I’d really recommend doing if you’re seriously considering making a webcomic (or really a comic in general). Some of these don’t really apply to strips or gag-a-day type of comics, but I’m not talking about those here.

1. Write down ideas\sketch stuff, LEGIBLY. “I’m gonna remember it later” NEVER works. And if you scribble it somewhere on a piece of paper, you’d better scan it or retype in one doc later, because tiny notes always get lost among other doodles in my skethbooks.

(i know it’s hard to keep everything clean and organized, but this mess is just not productive)

If your project is a collaboration, save your conversations. If you’re working alone, make a blog for your ramblings. You have no clue what tears of relief I cry when I open that blog and rememeber I don’t have to painstakingly look through my heaps of sketchbooks and folders for a tiny idea I’m not even sure I wrote down a few months ago.

2. Inspiration folders, or even better, inspo blog with tags also help with collecting and remembering ideas. Color schemes, landscapes, style inspirations, atmospheric stuff, maybe some photo references, all those neat things.

3. Basic tier: character design sheets. Top tier: common poses, expressions. God tier: outfits they wear throughout the comic. Holy cow tier: turnaround sheets for all those outfits.

(I’d die trying to find good pages for references without these)

4. If you haven’t finished detailing the plot, don’t even think about moving on to drawing the comic. You’re gonna regret it when you come up with a really cool plot element that can’t be incorporated anymore because you’ve already drawn all the parts you could’ve tweaked.

5. Don’t just define the plot, make a script. Writing down the lines and the brief description of the actions serves me fine:

(notice that I approximately divided the pages & the text that’d go to each panel on a page)

6. Hard mode: make thumbnails for all the pages, if possible. At least whenever a new chapter starts. 

7. If your story involves some convoluted chronology shenanigans, you’d better write down the events of your timeline in the chronological order.

8. Backgrounds. You can’t avoid them, bro. Like half of the comics are backgrounds, especially if your story involves a lot of adventuring and looking around. I know it hurts, but you’ll have to become friends with them. Read some tutorials, practice on photos, go out and sketch some streets, use 3d programs (like Google Sketch) to understand the perspective, use sites like houseplans to visualize your buildings better, I don’t know. Just be prepared for their imminent evil.  

9. If you’re drawing digitally, pick a brush size for the lines and stick with it. You don’t want your lines and detail levels to look all wonky and inconsistent in different panels. And I don’t mean the cool stylistic varying lines, I mean this:

Also, things on the background should have thinner and/or lighter lines to avoid distraction. Usually less details too, unless you’re making a busy background with a simple foreground to help it pop out. Or wanna draw the attention to an object on the bg.

10. Readable fonts. Even if you chose to ignore people with poor sight or dyslexia, the majority of your readers aren’t gonna be excited about struggling to decypher this:

Also, as much as I love my black speech bubbles, colorful text on black still kinda hurts the eyes. I wouldn’t recommend doing that for all the characters. Black speech bubbles are usually used for creepy, inhuman voices. And yes, having a colorful outline in this case helps.

11. Probably newsflash, but did you know that panels have their place, order and functions? They do! My favourite thing ever is how I used panels when I was like 12:

(comics ain’t rocket science, but this one is)

The composition of the panels and word balloons always serve for a better reading experience. They guide your eyes over the page, so that you never feel lost or confused. The images in the comic equal frames in a movie, so it’s pretty damn important in what order you look at things and how quickly you can understand what’s going on!

(Eric Shanower & Scottie Young’s Wizard of Oz)

12. One update a week is fine for testing waters. Don’t overestimate yourself, especially if you have a pretty busy life outside it. A stable comic that updates slowly, but regularly is better than an unpredictable erratic one. You can always pick up the pace later, if you feel confident enough.

13. Try to always have a buffer - a couple of pages in reserve. If you’re making the pages much faster than you’re updating, this shouldn’t be a problem. But if those paces are equally the same, it’s goddamn HARD. But on the other hand, if something happens and you skip an update, those come in handy.

If you’re looking at this list and thinking “wow that’s a LOT of work”, you’re totally right. And it’s okay to be intimidated at first! But that’s why it’s important to start with something small. Once you get the formula down, these things will be natural to you.

[ark-harpy]

anyone wanna request shit I have boredom disorder

[callistomist-deactivated2020091]

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

[destiny-islanders]

If there was a way to run SUPER MEGA AD BLOCKER on this website I fucking would

[celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725]

“Please oh please open up your computer to a porn virus! If you don’t you’re evil!”

[history-student-against-antis]

Freeloader Comin’ through!

[moonlight-fox]

We didn’t start this war internet users have with ads - We might have moaned about banner ads, but it was only when they started making noises when we might be listening to music or a podcast or whatever, causing two sound sorces at once, that we started trying to block ads universally rather than just a specific type of ad (pop ups).

And since then ads have gotten worse - Actual malware rather than merely breaking one of the fundamental sins of web design - though shalt not autoplay anything with sound. And the more aggressive a website is with ‘please turn off adblock’ the less I trust it to bother to vet ads and advertisers to make sure they’re not installing malware.

[bramblepatch]

Not to mention that the idea that avoiding ads is “freeloading” is hilariously backward. Advertisement is a transaction between the platform and the advertiser, the user has no obligation to provide the views/clicks the platform has promised. Using an adblocker isn’t freeloading in the same way that leaving the room to get a snack during a commercial break isn’t cheating the tv network.

[pocosun]

Ok y’all, I work as a web developer and I’m here to tell you that you are 100% right and that it’s shit. SO I’m going to tell you how to get around websites that block you from using their website if you’re using an adblocker. 

Every website uses a language called JavaScript; long story short it’s a website language that allows developers to do the crazy shit you see on websites. Now the easiest thing to do is to disable JavaScript to stop them from knowing you have an adblocker:

Oh no! I’m blocked from viewing the website. It would be a terrible shame if I were able to right click and select the “inspect” feature

Click the three dots in the top right and open the “Settings” Menu

And then scrolled down to “Debugger” and checked the “Disable Javascript Option”

And then just refreshed the page

[eggfucker1]

Reblogging to save my life

[doublekaiju]

saving a life

[ayliffe]

HOW 2 TORRENT

so! disney+ is a thing but you don’t want to give the mouse your money? i completely sympathise. here’s a list of things not to do, because that would be illegal :o

1) get a torrent client. i’d recommend deluge – it’s free, it’s lightweight, and it doesn’t make you watch ads.

2) there are tons of sites to torrent stuff from, but by far the most famous is the pirate bay. the url changes fairly often, but it’s easily googleable. here is a link that works as of my typing this post up. it should look like this:

3) type something in and search! for example:

as you can see, there are tons of results. what you’re most interested in, though, is the SE column – that shows how many people are uploading the file/s. torrenting works on a peer-to-peer basis, meaning that you can’t download a file unless somebody else is uploading it. fortunately, for anything remotely mainstream, there will be seeders. ideally, you want a file with the most seeders (SE) and the fewest leechers (LE). in this case, “leechers” just means people who are downloading the torrent. the more leechers and the fewer seeders, the slower the download.

4) click on the magnet button for the file you want to download. deluge should give you a window like this:

click “add”, and the file will start to download! depending on how many seeders there are, it might take a while, but the good thing about torrents is that you can pause the download and shut your computer down without corrupting any of the files.

5) and you’re done! but obviously don’t do any of this because that’s illegal. :/

N.B. it’s generally easier to download a whole season or series of a show than it is a single episode. if you only want a particular episode, download the season/series then just delete all the episodes you don’t want lmao

[ayliffe]

@secretagentofcaos yes you can, thank you for reminding me! here’s how you do that:

this is the screen for when i was torrenting a tv show a while back. as you can see, i went to the “files” tab on the bottom half of the screen, which shows all the folders and files in the torrent. to stop a file from downloading, simply right-click on it and select “do not download”.

–

@theasphodelmeadows​ yes there is! basically, you look at the comments of the torrent you want to download. you find the comments by clicking on the name of the torrent, which should give you a page like this:

scroll down and see if there are any comments. if the torrent is bad, you’ll very often get people saying so. if there aren’t any comments, that’s fine – once again, look at the ratio of seeders to leechers. the more seeders and the more leechers a torrent has, the more likely it is to be legit, but to make sure, definitely install a decent antivirus and have it scan everything you download.

oh, and this should go without saying, but just in case: use an adblocker, ideally ublock origin. privacy badger is another good extension to use. and if you have a vpn, use that when you’re torrenting for an extra level of privacy.

[wintersmitth]

Can I add to this? Another good place to download torrents is RARBG. It’s got basic same layout as piratesbay. There’s also https://yts.mx/ which has lightweight movies in pretty good quality. But only movies! 

Also there are several accounts on twitter (such as @ logolessdesres and @ downloadinhd)  or even tumblr accs ( @ hd-source and @ logolesmxtionpicture)  that post download links to movies/series through mega nz. Which, if you are in Germany, is your best way. If you are from Germany, do not torrent stuff without a VPN installed, and even then, better not risk it! 

But I mean. Don’t do any of this stuff, it’s illegal. 

[ayliffe]

excellent addition here, particularly the germany bit

[syua]

literally most things that people write off as just ‘textures’ to use in graphics are stolen & unsourced material created by artists or photographers NOT meant to be used as elements in projects without royalty payments. you can say ‘it’s just random tumblr posts they don’t care’ but you wouldn’t want someone to take your work and edit into their work so they can be praised for their beautiful style and creativity even if they just post it on social media w/o profit, would you?? so maybe if you browse pinterest or google images for pictures without finding the original source, you’re using images that you’re not allowed to use without realizing it.

you see it on here a lot especially in (i won’t link anything but i’m sure you know what i mean) those album track ‘aesthetics’ posts, au ‘aesthetic’ posts (ie where people use ‘pinterest-y’ images to kinda craft a visual au), and even just rather typical graphics that have a lot of ‘texture’ elements. and texture packs too!! that’s often where the problem starts; people just collect images (often literal art), compile them in a folder w/o sources, then insist no one can repost those images w/o crediting the person who compiled them. what???

SO may i suggest some of my fave places you can get FREE, ROYALTY-FREE elements that are totally legal to use

creativemarket has 6 free high-quality resources (textures, brushes, fonts, etc), different every week! wow awesome i check it every week

search ‘freebie’ on behance. awesome stuff!!! lots of v nice templates textures and fonts

mockup zone freebies

unsplash: tons of very nice free photographs, not shitty stock photos

pexels: same idea. + they have an adobe plugin so you can get photos without closing your editor damn nice

as to not make this too long: spoongraphics, lostandtaken (textures galore), pixeden, freebiesbug.

[langblrwhy]

pixabay: same as unplash and pexels

[vaporize-employers]

btw… important PSA: cutting off the mold on the surface of food does nothing. you can only see the spores on the surface, but mold itself has spread and grown roots into the food. by the time you can actually *see* the spores, that piece of food is completely full of it. youre still eating mold. 

many of which are poisonous and have been shown to cause cancer. youre not even supposed to sniff it, because that can get spores into your lungs. like if you look up the health and safety guidelines for mold they barely stop short of telling you to put on a hazmat suit. 

like produce is okay as long as you cut around it at least an inch, but cooked foods? you gonna die. stop eating mold people 

[khattikeri]

does that include bread

[vaporize-employers]

yes

[vaporize-employers]

[doomgeneration1995]

Here’s the USDA mold chart

[thehugwizard]

VERY IMPORTANT INFO FRIENDOS!!!!!!!!!!!!

[goodplan-ipromise]

[sizvideos]

[tunte]

Why

[loremerchant]

This is demonstrating why you absolutely do not pour water on a grease fire.

[tha-spaso-koupes]

holy shit

[justalifelongphase]

Okaaaay. If any of you actually have a grease fire in the kitchen put the lid on the pan. It will suffocate the flames. Don’t pour water on it, and don’t freak out. Cook safely!

[gician]

Or throw flour on it to smother it.

[birdpapi-deactivated20171121]

/quick safety announcement

[nijuukoo]

NO, DO NOT USE FLOUR, DO NOT USE FLOUR TO SMOTHER A FIRE.

YOU HAVE TO USE BAKING SODA.

Throwing flour into a fire can cause it to combust and make the fire worse because FLOUR/SUGAR IS FLAMMABLE. One cup of flour into a grease fire can have the explosive force of dynamite.

The reason you use baking soda is that it releases carbon dioxide when heated, and CO2 is a fire suppressant.

[kiokushitakaa]

REBLOGGING FOR LAST COMMENT TO SAVE LIVES

[nellipusen]

can we talk about how this is from a tv-show called “do not try this at home” where they tested all sort of stuff you’re not supposed to do, but they only got four episodes because after this experiment they burned the house they were filming in to the ground.

[bob-belcher]

[cheaphalloweencostume]

just because it “fits” doesnt mean its comfortable or sustainable stopppppppp this shit

[paladinpup-deactivated20151129]

There are two main factors at play when someone says that a condom is too small: (1) the band size is too small & (2) the condom is not sustainable

The band is at the base of the condom. It’s latex is made thicker here than the shaft and is, therefore, less elastic. The band keeps the condom secure so it does not come off mid-insertion and so penial fluids do not leak from the condom. To do this, the band has to keep a very tight grip on the base of the penis. This is the main complaint from people using condoms too small for them. The shaft’s plastic can stretch comfortably, but the band is not so lenient and uncomfortably or painfully squeezes the base of the penis.

Condoms in use experience a lot of friction. For a condom’s shaft or band to be stretched farther than it was intended weakens the latex. The band and shaft are then at risk of being broken from the friction. It fitting does not mean it is sustainable.

If your partner says a condom is too small, believe them and cease from doing anything that requires a condom. If your partner says a condom is too small but is trying to pressure you into unprotected sex, kick them out the door. 

[anxiousartisan]

Thaaaank you please read the above they make large and XXL condoms for a reason and it’s not to stoke men’s egos

[snyderman37]

A former… friend suggested I try a size or two larger, and yes, they do work.

[megabeeprime]

Yep. At first, I thought that condoms were supposed to be that tight. I’d seen those “condoms can fit on a two liter bottle so quit your complaining,” I had no basis for comparison because dudes don’t talk about that shit, and no one wants to be that “HURR HURR GUESS I NEED A MAGNUM XL” guy.

[siphersaysstuff]

Now wear that condom on your arm for a while. Ten minutes at least. Still got sensation in your arm?

One of the many failures of sex ed in this country is the notion that there’s only two types of condom, “fits everyone except those elephant-trunk-cock freaks” and “for elephant-trunk-cock freaks or lying braggarts” (and yes, there’s implicit shame in the idea of people needing non-”regular”-sized condoms and the genesis for such is pretty likely rooted in some really nasty viewpoints about certain groups of people but I’m digressing).

But penises come in a LOT of dimensions, and not all of them fit right in a “normal” condom. You don’t need to have a monster down there for a condom to be legitimately painful and/or break mid-act. This can leave a lot of people legitimately unawares that it doesn’t have to be like this. (I was, early on.)

Condom too tight? That’s a real problem for the reasons pointed out above. But it’s a solvable one at most drug stores, which generally have a broader (ha ha) selection than your Walmarts or Targets. Or suck it up (ha ha) and go to an “adult boutique” (a proper one) where they’re likely to have even more options and let’s be real here the people working at these aren’t gonna give you Looks over condom selection. Or shop at said boutiques online if you REALLY need to avoid the in-person thing.

And if you think you’re gonna be doing things requiring condoms, HAVE YOUR OWN. Yes, even if you personally don’t have a penis. Buy a box of large-size as well just in case.

And don’t let anyone give you guff over it, and don’t let anyone pressure you into unprotected sex because of condom size.

[magic-retina-deactivated2017100]

For the record, even if you’re doing things that don’t involve a penis at all, condoms are good to have around. They make great dental dams on the fly, keep toys clean, and keep body parts clean if your partner is using their hands. :) Also, keep some non-latex ones around in case you or your partner has a latex allergy. Trust me, there are few places worse to have that allergic reaction. o_o

[naamahdarling]

Here! Here is a condom size chart!!! There are probably! Others! You can check!!! So you can be comfortable when getting up to shenanigans. Because condoms that don’t fit are sooo uncomfortable and also a safety risk. A properly sized condom can really help improve sensation in the person with the penis.

https://www.verywellhealth.com/condom-size-chart-906776

I am so happy to be able to help! Condoms are so great!

[meneldil-istarendilye]

I may be asexual, but this is for my followers who are not

[khadij-al-kubra]

Aaand this is why we need better Sex-Ed courses in schools. Stay safe kiddos! 

[tommysparker]

And this is why we need Sex-Ed courses in schools.

[ophidahlia]

Legitimate *pro bono legal services* don’t exist without a good reason. In a few of the exmormon groups I’m in you’ll see regular posts saying stuff like “Look what my lawyer sent me today!” with a pic of their resignation confirmation letter from the church.

You know. Just stuff that a normal average church that is definitely not actually a cult would do. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

🙄

[rnoonpie]

As an ex-mormon, I’m gonna look the fuck into this. I want nothing to do with the church that shaped so much toxicity about my self image and my sexual orientation.

[fierceawakening]

Not sure if any followers need this but if you do, here you go.

Everyone should be able to choose their religious beliefs and community, and leave any that they find does not work for them.

[this-seamonkeys-gone-to-heaven]

Ex mormon here - this guy’s legit. The Mormon holds your files for eternity, and when they find out that you’ve moved to a new area, they will send members and missionaries from that region to harass you. I know this sounds like dystopic bullshit, but they followed my father through three moves before he rejoined the church.

[criticalrolo]

Also ex mormon here who used this. It’s a ridiculously helpful service that is incredibly easy to use. They keep you updated throughout the whole process, and it’s totally worth it since the church doesn’t get to keep all your private information and pass it around once you resign :)

[vikings-til-valhalla]

Though this blog is mainly about Vikings in RPGs, history, and Norse Paganism, for anybody who may need this I Ieave it here for you because I never know what kinds of people follow my blog and all I care is that each and every one of you is safe and happy regardless of religion or lack of, if you choose. Be safe, and may whoever or whatever you believe in protect you in getting out of Mormanism.

[daisyishedwig]

A few years ago the church started requiring some people to get their resignation notarized (quit Mormon will still help walk you through that, it’s just an extra step you have to take when the process used to be incredibly simple). It doesn’t affect everyone and they tend to make men notarize more than they make wonen do it (gotta keep those priesthood holders in the church, y'know)

and also know that getting children under the age of 18 off church records is ridiculously difficult, the church’s lawyers kick and scream and drag their feet to keep them registered as members of the church. It’s like, sure at 8 years old this child was old enough to pledge ten percent of their income to you for the rest of their lives, but at 15 they’re not old enough to say “nah, I’m out”, it’s disgusting.

And one last thing, if you’re born into the church you don’t go on church records when you’re baptised at 8, you get put on church records after you get your baby blessing when you’re just a few weeks old. So if you have children and then leave the church, even the unbaptized ones will need to be removed from church records if they’ve been blessed. And blessed but unbaptized children are the most difficult to get off church records even though the child themselves have not made a conscious (if coerced) decision to join the church.

But y'know, totally not a cult.

[natto-axolotl]

@snailfen