Compassion!!

Call me Aryeh, he/him! I think the world could use a little more sweetness and understanding each other!

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Hello, you can call me Aryeh! I use he/him and I'm a trans man dating a trans woman (hi wifey ily! <3). I love transfems, trans women, transmascs, trans men, intersex, nonbinary, xenogender, and genderqueer people alike, and I think both transmascs / trans men and transfems / trans women each have their own struggles and unique experiences, and the best way to try to combat them is to unite instead of fight.

I block transphobes!

This blog was created to support everyone and compassion. No one group should be hated because of their intrinsic traits!

If you have any posts you'd like to send me, feel free! DMs and asks are also open!

While this generally leans towards a more trans-centric blog, with a lot of trans and intersex related posts, I'll include posts about all types of people and problems! Any and all positivity and compassion for anyone is accepted and encouraged!

I'm a college student who was very ambitious with his schedule this semester so I created a queue! It's currently set to 1 post a day, but hopefully if I get more active and queue more posts at a time I'll increase the queue to 2 a day! I'll go through all my asks at once, usually on a weekend, but I might not get to it each weekend and I'm sorry about that!! I'll try my best to respond to them frequently though! If you send me a post to reblog through asks, I'll reblog it once I see your ask and then post your ask, so those won't be added to the queue.

Categorical tags are under the cut!

#isuggestcompassion: Me suggesting compassion on posts! These posts are usually about OP's experiences with a lack of compassion. I'll usually add additional commentary in the tags before the categorical tags are added!

#isuggestcompassion to you: OP/asker could benefit from being a lil more compassionate!

#compassion <3!: Examples of compassion! These include reblogs of compassionate posts and nice asks!

#asks: Any and all asks

#asks reblog: If someone sends me a post in an ask, so that I can reblog it with a suggestion, this is what I'll tag them!

#compassionposting: Asks that are made to spread out share compassion for people or groups! A lot of people have been spreading compassion so I decided to give it its own special tag!

# pretty girl :3 : My girlfriend!!! <3

#tráthnóna: A post with pictures of my kitten Tráthnóna!

[ffyaoi-moved-deactivated2026011]

ok but why tf are y'all so damn obsessed with "getting men pregnant"?? cuz like i see a post of an attractive man on social media and the comments are all saying "i want to get you pregnant" ... you know that's literally sexual harassment right? you'd be freaking out if a woman got told that so why are you doing the same thing to men

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[this-is-transandrophobia]

Let's be honest. The fact that the discussion about the reproductive rights is cis perisex women-centric is simply dangerous.

The law that uses a gendered language is leaving everyone who isn't a part of this group without health care they should have access to, and it's terrible how "leftist" environments are more than okay to silence anyone who is affected by those changes, but isn't a cis perisex woman. That behavior is encouraged, what is even worse.

This is transandrophobia.

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[jakes-personal-blog]

"I am a misandrist because I fight against misogyny". That's not what being a misandrist is about. Misandry means someone that is sexist towards men. While we can argue/agree systemic misandry cannot exist against privileged men. A lot of men are not privileged. Hating men makes you inherently ableist, transphobic, homophobic, and way more in some way, always.

Misandrists (radfems etc) always go for disabled men, trans men etc. Weirdly enough right?

You do not make me, a trans man, comfortable. Go fuck yourself and don't fucking call you "pro queer" and don't be in mogai spaces.

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[transfemme-shelterdog]

The concept of "trans widows" is so bullshit

Like, your spouse didn't die. They just started new meds and changed their name and pronouns. What's the issue? If you can't love them for the true them, that's on you. But you don't get to "mourn". You should be celebrating instead.

You're fucking pathetic if you call yourself a widow because your wife Danielle is now your husband David.

Grow the fuck up.

[trans-bastard-dogboy]

and even if it ain’t something you wanna celebrate you ain’t gotta be a dick about it. you feel how ever you feel, but don’t piss on someone’s parade because they’re finally happy and it doesn’t fit your picture for the future

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[transfemme-shelterdog]

You know what I hate? The idea that transmisogyny can only ever effect one group, because that's not how bigotry works.

My boyfriend got mistaken for a trans woman and was called slurs and told they would "never be a real woman" and that is quite literally transmisogyny! But then they couldn't say it online without getting harassment!

Saying "this bigotry that is fired at the wrong person still hurts the accidental targets" shouldn't be controversial! Not to mention, half of why it hurts is the reminder that our trans sisters aren't seen as who they are!

Also, a lot of trans women can boymode and escape transmisogyny, which kinda goes against the mindset that you're always affected by transmisogyny as a trans woman.

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[applescentedstars]

"trans men aren't oppressed because they're men they're oppressed because they're trans!"

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"you dont like lattes cause they're made of coffee, you like them cause they're made of milk" no i like lattes because theyre a blend of coffee and milk. take out the milk it becomes an espresso. take out the coffee it becomes a glass of milk.

you cannot take the man out of the trans and you cannot take the trans out of the man. trans men are men BECAUSE they're trans, and trans men are trans BECAUSE they're men. trans men are oppressed for their transmasculinity. we are not viewed as JUST trans or JUST men, we are viewed as TRANS MEN. One singular entity. We are oppressed for being trans, yes, but our transness is inherently masculine- therefore, we are oppressed for our identity as men. And us oppressed for being men doesn't suddenly mean that misandry or androphobia is a systemic issue equal to misogyny (its not, but also no one is saying it is), because we are oppressed for being men in a way that is inherently trans.

this is literally not that hard to understand.

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[polyamorouspunk]

Ya’ll will be like “gays have got to get meaner” and in the next breath be like “trans men have GOT to shut up about their oppression”. Ya’ll will be like “gender is fake” and I’m the next breath be like “only trans women face gender-related oppression. By transitioning from a woman to a man you are transitioning from being the oppressed to the oppressor”. Ya’ll will be like “trans people don’t have to conform to your gender ideals. Trans men can look like your idea of cis women and still be valid” and then be like ah yes this person looks exactly like a woman and is perceived as a woman by society but I am respecting your gender by declaring that actually ☝🏻despite being functionally treated as a woman by society, by identifying as a man you’re automatically no longer subjected to misogyny. I’m a man. I’m a woman. I’m a boy. I’m a girl. I’m nonbinary. I’m genderqueer. Do you need to know what’s in my pants so you can decide what type of gendered oppression I’m allowed to talk about? To experience? Do you need to know what’s in my pants so you can decide what sports I can play? What bathrooms to use?

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[grimbluesins]

“transmascs oppress transfems” okay. do you have evidence? do you have a source? oh this transmasc was misogynistic to you? okay. but how does this translate societally? oh there’s a white abled transmasc who passes perfectly and is stealth and is misogynistic and gets treated like a cis man? okay. who is this guy? …oh you can’t point him out? you… there are multiple guys like that? but you don’t know who they are? okay. do you have more sources? …no? okay.

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[professional-lamprey]

some people really be out here never unpacking how toxic masculinity has poisoned their view of men, anyone even vaguely adjacent to masculinity, or who desires to be more masculine and it really shows

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[gomjabbar]

our new job launched its mandatory ai transcription program designed to streamline our workflow and not only does it melt down the moment it has to transcribe non-white customers but it keeps hallucinating the existence of a mysterious boy named dorian who shows up in every third call summary

[gomjabbar]

caller got into a car accident on their way to work? their nonexistant son dorian was hurt. got kicked out of a bar and broke their ankle? their son dorian was the one who broke it. i now spend more time having to de-dorian the call summary than if i had just written it myself. really funny. we're required to use this now

[tree-of-blue-squirrel]

The Picture of Dorian GrAI

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[ftmtftm]

Trans fems don't hate you.

Trans women don't hate you.

There is a vocal minority of incredibly shitty people on Tumblr Dot Com who frankly, want you to think they do, and they're wrong.

The reason why they want you to think that is literally either: 1. they are someone who has fallen down a radical pipeline and not reflective of the greater trans population by a long shot OR 2. they are a psyop / cop / mal-intended disrupter.

There's no in between. That's how radical queer ideologies have always operated on Tumblr and it's how they will continue to operate on Tumblr probably forever.

It's the same shit transmeds have done. It's the same shit radfems and terfs have. Hell, on a pure ideological psychology level, it's the same shit the right wing does.

Breaking down your ability to think you can have solidarity with another marginalized group you could have community with is the goal of these ideologies. Don't be putty in their hands.

[river-grunfeld]

Transfems/transwomen absolutely do hate you.

Running interference and damage control is not going to change that, the secret is out. Trans women are male socialized, and are just as sexist as every other male socialized person.

Blaming it on everyone under the sun, pretending it's a phy op or a false flag, or a pipeline or whatever you do other than acknowledging male socialization is not going to fix this.

[unrespectability]

regardless of whether what you see online is a "radicalized minority", this is the same as asking women to not distrust men after they see the shit incels say in the darkest recesses of reddit. are ALL of them going to be the same amount of mask-off horrible? no. is it productive to try to de-condition an understandable self-protective response out of someone who has been exposed to the true degree of vitriolic hatred another group is capable of feeling for them? i truly do not think so

why are you out here trying to make that point? if someone has understandably become weary and wary after being exposed to copious verbal abuse and dehumanization, it should be on the transfems in their life to reach out and be decent human being to counter-act that. otherwise you're just painting over something that has not been meaningfully challenged in any material way

[ftmtftm]

I'M TALKING ABOUT RADICAL FEMINIST TRANS WOMEN NOT REPRESENTING ALL TRANS WOMEN. BECAUSE THEY DON'T.

IT IS UP TO THE INDIVIDUAL TO HEAL FROM THEIR TRAUMA INSTEAD OF PROJECTING THEIR FEARS ONTO STRANGERS.

IT IS ACTUALLY A GOOD THING TO EXAMINE YOUR FEAR RESPONSES.

YOU FUCKS HAVE NEVER BEEN TO TRAUMA THERAPY AND MAYBE YOU SHOULD.

[saltyfem]

If you actually oppose them I don't think you should call them by terms they appropriated. Radical feminism is about sex-based oppression of women (the root of patriarchy) so any "trans woman radical feminist" is at best a radfem ally, but usually they are just amab supremacists

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[bdbdbdbdmn]

"trans men should stop talking about women's issues! they're MEN!" no, YOU stop calling them women's issues. how can it be a women's only issue if trans MEN experience it too and also often worse and more frequently than you? just say you don't like trans people, you don't have to come up with roundabout ways of trying to trick people into transphobia with wording illusions.

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[problempolls]

Since trans women are the most visible group of trans people, you can pinpoint how important trans women are to the trans rights movement, and so they deserve more thanks and credit

Agreed

Disagreed, I hate trans women

Disagreed, I hate all trans people

Since trans women are the most visible group of trans people, you can pinpoint how important trans women are to the trans rights movement, and so they deserve more thanks and credit

Agreed

Disagreed, I hate trans women

Disagreed, I hate all trans people

Voting ended onOct 17, 2025

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This is transandrophobia.

[ghostboyravenight-deactivated20]

I really think this is getting out of hand now, too many anons are trying to sow discourse in the community through this blog by sending in blatantly transphobic polls.

OP, I understand the point of your blog, but I feel like at this point, there’s a responsibility to reject this harmful campaign against trans people. Your blog’s being hijacked by assholes who have a specific goal in mind, and it’s simply furthering the shitty exclusionary culture that’s going on at the moment.

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[thedreamerofhu-manwholeness]

"Transmascs need to stop complaining, this is the man hating website."

Maybe we don't need????? a website dedicated to hating men?????? Have you people ever come to the conclusion that hating someone based on gender identity alone NO MATTER THE GENDER is bad? Not every man is going to be your cis/cis passing able-bodied conventionally attractive white strawman! And even if they were, you shouldn't hate someone for what they're born as + identify as!!!

[vampynocturne]

this is how those Pinterest people act when a dude comments on one of their pins. “ew get off this is the girl app” or “only girls use Pinterest” and say things equivalent to that…. wow what a Feminist Statement guys

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[majesticcorn2000]

people like to talk about how bad toxic masculinity is until they hear transmasculine people talking about their experience and suddenly it turns into "stop whining, you are A MAN"

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Take care of yourself and have something to brighten your day <3!

Your favorite water 💧 🐳 🦈 (comes with a whale and shark fren)

A warm, allergen-free meal 🍜 🍝 🥧

Snuggly hypoallergenic kitties! 🐱 🐈 🐈‍⬛️

A comfycozy nap 💤 🛏 🕰

A pretty piece of jewellery 📿 💍 💎

A lovely bouquet 🌸 💐 🌹

A trip to a scenic location ⛰️ 🌄 🌌

A new book that you actually get around to reading (by a warm fire!) 📚 📜 📖

A hug that tells you it'll be okay 🫂 💝 💖

50 guaranteed free points on your stressful exam 🎒 📝 📖

A sign to just go for it (whatever it is) (here's your sign!) 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏫 🧑‍🤝‍🧑

A month-long break to relax and prepare for your next steps ✨️ 💤 😌

Voting ended onOct 14, 2025