JAMIE

🍁he/they/it (gender is fake) 🍁Greyromantic🍁Bi/pansexual🍁 this site is pretty updog

[hedgehog-moss]

I just remembered I forgot to water the seedlings in the greenhouse so I went back outside, and I was too lazy to look for the small watering can for seedlings at this hour so I just knelt down near the fish tank and took some water in my cupped hands and started tossing it towards the seedling tray on the table behind me

—only the fish are starting to be very friendly by now, as soon as they see me they come wriggling happily to say hi and check if I have a little insect or some other snack to give them, and suddenly I found myself accidentally catching a friendly little fish in my cupped hands and throwing it in the air behind me. I literally realised what I was doing as I was doing it

I have bad reflexes usually but this time I jumped up and flailed around desperately and managed to catch the little guy mid-flight!!!!

The fish was very confused but unharmed 😭

(sorry for the poor stick drawings, I felt I could not adequately convey our mutual jolt of surprise and terror with words)

[plumbum-art-deactivated20250302]

Date Night

Inspiration from Maybe Someday by ineffable_snowman

[were--ralph]

They just flagging everything now

[were--ralph]

The weird part of this is that it's not the original post that's flagged; I can still rb that just fine. It's only my specific reblog which would imply I added something sexual to it but I added nothing whatsoever not even a tag

Its literally targeting me and no one else lol

[were--ralph]

Be loud and please don't let me die unnecessarily for a fourth time

[plexflexico]

People keep assuming it's tumblr "doing this" instead of a backend system reacting to USER SUBMITTED REPORTS. Reports come in. System goes *bing*. Enough bings and you get a Consequence™ meted out by a machine.

No humans are involved until there are enough reports to make it worthwhile to pay some chump to look at stuff or until a user submits an appeal.

Other users are reporting content they don't like on blogs they don't like. Or they're reporting innocuous content because they're stupid fucking bigots. Or they think it's funny and believe it to be "trolling".

Come on, people. Stop being ignorant of the systems you use on a daily basis.

It's embarrassing.

[were--ralph]

No one said it said its staff? I know it's just people mass reporting my blog for whatever reason, but it's staff who has to delete my blog. I'm asking people to like get their attention so im not killed again for a fourth time. Being flagged or blurred is probably an automated thing, but termination definitely is not

Also I love the enthusiasm but you gotta calm down buddy it's not that serious lol

[plexflexico]

Too bad you didn't read the tags on reblogs of the post you pounded out?🤷

Also, I love the personal interaction, but it really wasn't that deep... or about *you*.

[were--ralph]

.....this is the only one that mentions staff at all though. Literally the only one lol

Someone did say "can tumblr leave him alone" but if it's automated it is still tumblr bc like......this is the website. Automated or manual its still tumblr so like what are we doing here lol

[catmask]

i think when i go off on my 'i dont like the idea of soulmates' rant i never land with the people im seeking when i say i dont like soulmates its not 'there is no wonder or joy in our existence this is all purely chance' its 'no human being was made to complete or fix another but by the marvel of sheer existence we are given the ability to choose each other, to be here and exist at the same time, we are not born lacking another but is it not - in some way - a miracle that we should be able to find each other and choose to become something new together? are the odds of our joint existence - is the chance itself - not at least a bit magical?'

[catmask]

not 'we were put here at the same time for a reason so if its over thats it thats all for us' but 'we're here at the same time! thank goodness! thank goodness ive got this time to spend with you'

[we-are-not-amoosed]

Just my (aro-spec German) two cents on this topic -the reason why I specifically didn’t really get what the aro community’s problem with soulmates was for a very long time, was that the concept of soulmates doesn’t exist in my native language and culture in that way. We have the concept of “Seelenverwandte*r”, (closest literal translation: “related soul”) which is often translated with “soulmate”, but as it turns out it means something slightly different. A “Seelenverwandte*r” is someone you have a lot in common with, who just *gets* you, who understands you, to the point where people used to say you have the same or similar soul. It doesn’t have to be romantic, though, and the aspect that you need that specific person to complete you isn’t included at all. And so I kept thinking that of course it’s amazing if you find someone like that; so why would people hate that concept? And then at some point it clicked for me that what people were talking about when they were talking about soulmates was something different than what I thought a soulmate was.

So my guess would be that, with so many people of different nationalities and cultural backgrounds being on Tumblr, other people might run into similar issues with this concept as I did. Because a “soulmate” as this exclusionary concept of being the second half of a soul that completes you and you not being a “full” person without it, seems to be an American concept to me, tbh.

[teal-chimera]

i hate seeing people now making fun of those who care about privacy online. i've seen people saying things like "well they already have your data. what are companies going to do with it" and it's like, that's not the point. it's that companies /shouldn't/ be able to have my data and sell it. am i aware they probably already have my data? yes, absolutely. but i'm still going to try and keep them from monetizing it any further, why are we defending companies selling data they shouldn't have to begin with though?

[teal-chimera]

adding this to the post because, 100%, just there's a fire doesn't mean you should pour gasoline on it

[hunter-rodrigez]

I have like ten different ad and/or tracking blockers on my PC and phone... just out of pure spite

[coolestglalie-intoxicatedinkeep]

Can link it? I wish to hop aboard that train.

[hunter-rodrigez]

@drunkenbartend

Firefox with build in tracker protection

Ublock Origin adblocker for Firefox

Adguard adblocker for firefox, for everything that gets past Ublock

Mullvad VPN, one of the most reliable, cheapest and safest VPNs at the moment

DuckDuckGo android app that blocks trackers for every app on your phone

DuckDuckGo for firefox for blocking trackers and the likes

SponsorBlock for firefox, skips the sponsor segments of youtube videos

Adaway Adblocker for android (works much better with root access but doesn't require it)

Is there any benefit to using multiple ad blockers at once? I honestly don't know, but I haven't seen a single ad on the internet in ages and I get to use this image:

[freakvampiresex]

i really need non psychotics to stop using the term delusional to mean "slightly exaggerated claim." youre not delusional because youre saying you're the hottest person alive. youre not delusional for hoping some guy you like is into you too. thats not what a delusion is. i believed i was a prophet for a whole fucking year, THAT is a delusion

[freakvampiresex]

the term delulu has regressed peoples underdstanding and acceptance of psychotic people by at least 20years

[calciferous-kelpie]

Devi's Top Surgery, organized by Devi Sov

Hello, and thank you for taking the time to click the link to read my story. It truly means a lot. My… Devi Sov needs your support for

URGENT: WE DON'T HAVE MUCH TIME

My friend @chronicarus, aka Devi, is in desperate need of our help! For unfair reasons explained on gofundme, Devi's insurance is no longer covering the expenses of his top surgery, and his surgery date is fast approaching!

A different insurance plan has come up as an option, but this will still cost Devi $5,500 out of pocket!

Devi only has until Oct 13th to purchase this insurance plan in order to keep his surgery date on Nov 17th. PLEASE help him by either donating or reblogging this post! He might not get another chance for quite some time, and he's already suffered so much! 💔

$335 / $5,500

[sonknuxadow]

in the monster high universe they call monster hrt terrorsterone and eekstrogen btw

[sonknuxadow]

in the monster high universe they call monster hrt terrorsterone and eekstrogen btw

[sonknuxadow]

in the monster high universe they call monster hrt terrorsterone and eekstrogen btw

[sonknuxadow]

in the monster high universe they call monster hrt terrorsterone and eekstrogen btw

[sonknuxadow]

in the monster high universe they call monster hrt terrorsterone and eekstrogen btw

[sonknuxadow]

in the monster high universe they call monster hrt terrorsterone and eekstrogen btw

[pansyfemme]

if you’re like. 14 and trans on tumblr rn and getting ur first anon hate from terfs. word of advice. stop responding to that shit. theyre only gonna send more, it’s only gonna make you spiral even if you put on a strong face. report + block messages as soon as they come in, don’t let them sit in your inbox it’s gonna make you feel like shit. turn off anon for a few days, block anyone suspicious in your notes liberally for a little while. repeat as needed. don’t give them the time of day. it sucks, but like. i dont know any trans person on the internet with any following who hasn’t gotten some disgusting messages. just. be safe yknow

[pansyfemme]

so many young teens feel the need to have a snappy comeback, to explain you could never be cishet bc you’re actually t4t!! or whatever but like. just. don’t say any of that. they love that shit, they eat it up. do what u can to bore them into stopping. and sometimes they dont stop, and that sucks too but like. you do not want to get in public arguments with people who can hurt you more than you think they can, its not cowardly to delete discourse posts and shit if you feel like you can’t handle the notifications anymore. like just. you may not be able to completly prevent this stuff but take a few steps if you can, it will at least lower your chances

[femcassidy]

i want you all to know that there is an artist (carmen papalia) who, after he started using a white cane, assembled a 12 foot long white cane and began using it in downtown vancouver. the length of the cane made it functionally useless as a device and the only purpose it served was making him an obstacle for sighted people. dare i say… 2019 goals

[femcassidy]

therapist to sighted patient: long cane isnt real and it cant hurt you

carmen papalia:

[id: a dimly lit photo of carmen papalia using his 12 foot “long cane” piece. he walks casually behind it. the cane takes up the majority of both the photograph and the sidewalk.]

[thevioletsunflower]

Okay I went to a conference where this guy was a keynote and he’s so fucking cool. He’s done a ton of art around disability rights. The twelve-foot cane is really cool, but here are some of my other favourites:

From the series on replacing his cane, this is one where he replaced his cane with a megaphone and would stand at intersections repeating “I can’t see” until somebody would stop and help him cross the street

Another cane replacement, this time replacing it with a high school marching band who would change the music depending on if there was something in the way or not.

A museum intervention where he got people at the MET to go through the museum with their eyes closed and experiencing touching things he’d gotten permission to touch (the floor in this image) and just exploring a visual art museum blind.

The Blind Field Shuffle, in which he has dozens of people form a conga line behind him with their eyes closed and leads them on a blind tour of the city - literally the blind leading the blind.

Wish I could find a better photo, but this is a museum gallery he curated where the works are almost at floor height, making them accessible to children, little people, and people in wheelchairs, but requiring abled people to bend down or sit on the floor in order to see them properly.

In short, this man is amazing and I love his work.

[extrastentialist]

id’s in order

[begin id 1 of 5: a photo of carmen papalia from the upper torso up holding a megafone to his face while walking on a sidewalk. He is at the forefront of the image in the camera’s left corner, and the megafone takes up a lot of the corner. behind his head stretches the sidewalk and road, with a fence and trees on the other side of the sidewalk on the camera’s right. he’s speaking through the megafone with a neutral expression. it has captions that read: “I can’t see you” four times. end id 1 of 5]

[begin id 2 of 5: a photo taken across the street from where carmen papalia is standing at a crosswalk and facing the camera with a marching band behind him. the marching band’s conductor has his back to the camera and is in the middle of conducting as some people watch from the camera’s right. end id 2/5]

[begin id 3/5: a photo of two people who are kneeling on the floor of a museum, one has straight mid length dark hair, the other has long hair tied back. The one with their hair tied back is guiding the other person’s hands along the floor, both look happy. there are museum goers in the background and to the camera’s right. end id 3/5]

[begin id 4/5: a photo taken of carmen papalia walking down a sidewalk towards the camera with his cane. he is leading a long group of people who have their eyes closed. half the line is approaching a turn in the sidewalk that the others have already taken. most of them look happy. Carmen and people close behind him have more neutral faces. there is an onlooker from the camera’s right who looks like an officer of some type, his expression is neutral. end id 4/5]

[begin id 5/5: a photo taken from a low pov of a museum display where all the images are close to the ground. Someone is standing close to the camera but facing away, i think it’s carmen papalia. there are a few people sitting on the floor looking at the artwork. end id 5/5]

[fred-erick-frankenstein]

Thank you for the image description!!

[cosmicredcadet]

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

[meanplastic]

[ellieisnotoldyet-deactivated202]

I’ve been reading through the notes and I just have to say that I absolutely promise, promise, promise you that nobody in the dental surgery is there to judge you, and we’re certainly not mad at you. Cavities happen. Even to dentists. You think your dentist has a mouth full of virgin teeth? Unlikely! They’ve all visited eachother’s surgeries to get a quickie filling (ooh, saucy) between patients. They understand that life can get in the way of oral hygiene sometimes. They understand that life’s too short not to eat chocolate. They understand that you’ve got to live. I swear to you that everyone in that room is just there to help you. Please, please, please don’t stop going to the dentist because you’re worried they’ll be mad at you. It’s really not the case. They understand. It’s fine. It’s really, really fine. Please go to the dentist. I promise you it’s ok.

[realityremedy]

You would not believe how comforting this is.

[sydcores-moved-deactivated20210]

[flipocrite]

“virgin teeth”