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What are some animal traits that'd be considered really weird/messed up if humanoids had them?
So far I've got; molting skin in one piece (like snakes), dropping limbs (like lizards), velvet shedding (like deer), and shooting blood from the eyes (also lizards but specifically horned lizards). Anything else I should add?
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Mushrooms and coral are the same thing to me. Not really plants, not really animals. They're a secret third thing. Or maybe just a secret.
If a sturgeon was an eel, what eel would it be?
Apparently some people don't have a favorite eel?? Like at all?? I mean, I don't have a favorite, but that's cause they're all cool! But some people don't even have one?
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"Roseate Spoonbills share a lot of similarities with Flamingo. Though they are in different taxonomic orders, their feeding behaviors are very similar, both being “wading birds” or “waders” who sift through the sand, mud, and silt of shorelines and shallow waters to filter out the small organisms that live within. Also like Flamingos, their pink coloration comes from the carotenoid pigments found in some of the creatures they eat. Roseate Spoonbills are much smaller though, averaging only about 2.5 feet (80 cm) in height. Overall, this submitter thinks that Roseate Spoonbills are the prettier of the two."
The roseate spoonbill is officially a creature!
I SAW THESE GUYS!!!! A WHOLE GROUP OF 'EM!!! I SAW THEM DURING A HIKING TRIP LAST WEEK THEY WERE SO COOL!!!!!!!! :D :D :D :D :D
How much of a language do you need to know before you can say you've learned it? Is it just about how well you remember the words, or...?
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i’m so serious when i say excessive fear of being annoying/creepy/taking up people’s energy etc holds us back. it seems like it’s just little things but they add up. over the past month i’ve ordered food and drinks almost exclusively by asking “do you have a favorite?” and i know if i said that on twitter or wherever ppl would dogpile me for demanding emotional labor of servers or w/e but every single person i’ve asked has seemed genuinely psyched to answer! i don’t ask if it’s busy obvi, and use a phrasing that gives them the easy out of “i don’t have one”— but no one has taken it! the girl at the cafe confessed to me with something like conspiracy in her voice how everybody raves about the gluten free chocolate chip cookies and sure, they’re great, but the delicious, fluffy homemade waffles are RIGHT THERE. the barbera the bartender recommended was actually kind of awful but it broke the ice and we ended up talking for like 45 minutes. the bodega guy declared that he usually makes himself a burger but tonight was “a breakfast sandwich night” and tbh he was totally right. it WAS a breakfast sandwich night
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According to the CDC, in 10 percent of those drownings, the adult will actually watch the child do it, having no idea it is happening. Drowning does not look like drowning—Dr. Pia, in an article in the Coast Guard’s On Scene magazine, described the Instinctive Drowning Response like this:
“Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is the secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.
Drowning people’s mouths alternately sink below and reappear above the surface of the water. The mouths of drowning people are not above the surface of the water long enough for them to exhale, inhale, and call out for help. When the drowning people’s mouths are above the surface, they exhale and inhale quickly as their mouths start to sink below the surface of the water.
Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface. Pressing down on the surface of the water permits drowning people to leverage their bodies so they can lift their mouths out of the water to breathe.
Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.
From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with no evidence of a supporting kick. Unless rescued by a trained lifeguard, these drowning people can only struggle on the surface of the water from 20 to 60 seconds before submersion occurs.”
This doesn’t mean that a person that is yelling for help and thrashing isn’t in real trouble—they are experiencing aquatic distress. Not always present before the Instinctive Drowning Response, aquatic distress doesn’t last long—but unlike true drowning, these victims can still assist in their own rescue. They can grab lifelines, throw rings, etc.
Look for these other signs of drowning when persons are in the water:
Head low in the water, mouth at water level
Head tilted back with mouth open
Eyes glassy and empty, unable to focus
Eyes closed
Hair over forehead or eyes
Not using legs—vertical
Hyperventilating or gasping
Trying to swim in a particular direction but not making headway
Trying to roll over on the back
Appear to be climbing an invisible ladder
So if a crew member falls overboard and everything looks OK—don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look like they’re drowning. They may just look like they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you all right?” If they can answer at all—they probably are. If they return a blank stare, you may have less than 30 seconds to get to them. And parents—children playing in the water make noise. When they get quiet, you get to them and find out why.
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Can I just say thank you to OP for putting such a detailed description on this?
I’ve been a lifeguard for 6 years now and of all the saves I’ve done, maybe two or three had people drowning in the stereotypical thrashing style. And even those, like the save I made last weekend, it was exactly like OP describes where the person’s head is going in and out of the water but it isn’t long enough to get any air. Mostly you recognize drowning by the look on someone’s face. If someone looks wide eyed and terrified or confused, chances are they’re drowning. That look of “oh shit” is pretty easily recognizable. And even if you can’t tell for sure: GO AFTER THEM ANYWAY. I’ve done “saves” where a kid was pretending to drown and I mistook it for real drowning, but that’s preferable to a kid ACTUALLY drowning.
Also please remember that even strong swimmers can drown if they have a medical emergency, get cramps, or get too tired. If your friend knows how to swim but they’re acting funny get them to land. And even if someone can respond when you ask them if they need help, if they say they do need help? GO HELP THEM.
However . If the victim is a stranger, I can’t recommend trying to get them. Lifeguards literally train to escape “attacks,” because people who are drowning can freak the fuck out and grab you and make YOU drown as well. If you do go in after someone, take hold of them from the back and talk to them the whole time. IF YOU ARE GRABBED: duck down into the water as low as you can get. The person is panicking and won’t want to go under water and should release you. Shove up at their hands and push them away from you as you duck under. Don’t die trying to save someone else.
Please guys, read and memorize this post. Not all places have lifeguards. Being able to recognize drowning is such an important skill to have and you can save someone’s life.
Just incase!
In a water park once, I was suddenly grabbed by a child and he dragged me under the water without warning. I was going to get angry with him when I resurfaced because I thought he was being an ass, until I looked at him go back in and out hyperventilating the entire time. I grabbed him under his arms and began trying to drag him out while screaming for the lifeguard.
When the lifeguard got us both out, a woman came running down and accused me of harming him and said he had been completely fine in the water. That there was no reason to drag him out of there. The lifeguard had to explain to her that her son had been drowning, to which her response was to say that she didn’t hear him call for help.
People seriously need to learn the signs.
http://spotthedrowningchild.com/ really demonstrates how easy it is to miss drowning
how am I even supposed to recover from avoidant personality disorder when the only solution is to stop avoid things yall, I'm cooked.
Trick that works sometimes for me: telling myself that I’m just going to look at the thing. I don’t have any obligation to even start the project, I just have to open my laptop and spend five minutes looking at the problem.
I know this sounds like bullshit “starting is the hardest part but you just have to do it :) have you considered breaking the project up into smaller chunks? :) :)” generic advice, but for some reason it feels different in my head and in practice.
I’m allowed to start the thing tomorrow. Today, all I have to do is look at it.
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u know that reminds me of this tweet going around making fun of dark mode users like 'haha do you guys need your books on dark paper' and it's like yeah some people can't read text printed on white paper? regular books aren't accessible to some people for that reason. whats the joke.
THEY FOUND THE WHITE WITCH CATERPILLAR! THIS IS NOT A DRILL!
For context: the white witch is one of the contenders for the largest moth in the world (biggest *wingspan*--loses to the atlas in terms of wing surface area, and loses to the regal for weight). It has a huge range, and the adult is fairly common.
But no one had ever seen a caterpillar. At all. There were only guesses as to what it might look like and what it ate. until this year. These are some of the first images ever taken of it!!
I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.
A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.
a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations
if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:
"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"
like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!
Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.
I still do the party-host thing and yall can, too! (Thanks Mad Men for teaching me a lot of outmoded social scripts... no really tho)
Remember things about your friends! Ask people about their weekends, hobbies, holidays, studies, and jobs! Listen for the concerns people have and what they are working on! Draw connections between one person and another to get the ball rolling. "Oh, Maura, you just got your first cat! You should talk to Felix, he used to work at a rescue. Felix, please tell Maura all the new-cat-guardian pointers."
"Bill, Sheila, Xan, this is my friend Kale. Kale is really into Star Trek, Bill you and them should talk about it!"
Orrr whatever! After you make the introduction and draw the connection you just float on into the next interaction with someone else at the function. Just listen, care about your friends, get our of your own head, and think of how you can bring other people together and you will feel 100% less awkward.
hi i am so excited about this post because i have posted this exact thing MANY times on here, often in the specific context of how formal etiquette is so useful for autistic people especially, but also for everyone. even if you come off a little bit formal, which you will sometimes, having Old School Manners (or just knowing what they are) for various common scenarios is like having a magic ticket that will just sail you through all kinds of social iinteractions, gatekeeping, social weirdness, and as is pointed out in the above posts about introducing people to each other, can make you into a really valuable and helpful person for an entire gathering or group of people.
i also want to point out that knowing what the polite thing to do in all situations makes you a lot more effective at being rude and obnoxious when the situation calls for it, which is also a valuable and necessary adult skill
I need to think about this properly, but I posted a while ago about how we did present practice once (roleplayed various ways to receive presents with the kids, practicing different social scripts). I am comfortable in my position that this is a perfectly reasonable game to teach children, and that the skills received are useful in life. I heard from a lot of people saying this was a good idea, and a few people who hated it because it was “training the kids to be artificial”, “not genuine,”etc.
One person in particular really felt passionately about how abusive this game was. It was abusing the children, they wrote to me, and as a neurodiverse person they felt such social expectations were violently oppressive.
I felt like there was more to it, like their reaction was really about something else, so i went to their blog, and they had a lot of posts about how they are autistic and used a mobility aid and service animal. All of these presented challenges. They obviously had a lot going on in their life, none of which is to do with my family, but what got me was their venting about people interacting with them, their service animal and their mobility aid.
“People look at my service animal all the time,” they said angrily.
“Parents, teach your children IN PRIVATE about my mobility aid, not out loud where I can hear it.”
“Children bump into me in public. Nobody is teaching them to accommodate disabled people.”
“Children are overstimulating to me. There should be areas where children don’t go if they can’t behave properly, or if they’re too young for that, if their parents can’t control them.”
“I shouldn’t be expected to accomodate other people in public. People have to accommodate me.”
So I realised: okay, there’s a massive disconnect here, and it’s nothing to do with me.
But more broadly, on this website, people do appreciate that a well-behaved adult is someone who can accomodate other people. Well-behaved children and nicely-trained adults don’t pet service animals. Respectful people are conscious of how to give space to people with canes. Polite people wait for others to finish sentences. People with good manners behave graciously with minor inconveniences, even if they don’t want to. If a human being is a bundle of “natural impulses” then a person with additional training can control those. A human with reasonable social training can politely control their impulses to pet animals, make loud comments, and stare at things that are different.
This person was quite reasonable in their genuine belief that other people should accommodate their needs. And they’re right! People genuinely should be doing more for them - calculating how much space they need, yielding it graciously, and sensitively picking up on the fact that they could use patience, attention, space, and accommodation. This person and their service animal should be treated with more respect and better manners everywhere they go!
But all of that is training. To get everyone to do that involves teaching behaviours that are considered “polite” and explaining how “natural” impulses aren’t always polite. It’s a process of education, it isn’t innate to the animal, and someone has to do it. It’s usually taught in childhood, often by parents. You could, perhaps, make it fun though.
You could try teaching it as a game.
GRIEF ETIQUETTE. No of course you don't know what to say. No of course the formulaic phrases don't fix anything. Yes it provides some comfort in a shitty time anyway. The purpose of the cards and "I'm sorry for your loss" isn't to be the most authentic and original; it's to acknowledge in a way we all understand that someone you care about is having a bad time and you wish they weren't. And to signal that you understand if they Just Can't right now.
That line from Supernatural drives me spare "because nothing says sorry for your loss like a tuna casserole". Okay kid, I get that you're actively being influenced by a demon right now, but actually feeding yourself and everyone else while in the fresh stages of grief is a difficult job it's nice if someone else takes on.
We used to have a thing where you could signal with clothes and jewellery what stage of grief you were in and how much of the world's bullshit you were currently capable of dealing with as a result. Which obviously was only really accessible to the independently wealthy, but still. It's a good idea.
#aut tag#we wish we knew of a resource for learning etiquette like this#could be really useful!
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Please check out any books by Miss Manners! Her books are the gold standard when it comes to learning more skills like what this post is talking about. Especially her book "Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior" is the best starting and gives the best overview of the basics of good manners / etiquette / general social skills. Plus Miss Manners really is funny and witty, so her books are fun to read.
If you're interested in Podcasts I also recommend listening to "Were You Raised By Wolves?" and/or "Awesome Etiquette". Also both amazing resources for learning more skills like what this post is talking about. Both are also really fun and interesting.
I'm glad someone mentioned Grief Etiquette. Grief is tricky, especially in western countries where showing grief is considered as something Not Normal. Worse still in Islam-based countries where even when it is a human loss the Griever is still demanded to "tough it up, send a prayer and move on!"
But as a Southeast Asian, I realized that 'our' template greetings of "have you eaten?" is very universal and cautiously protective at the same time. Not on the actual dot of the event, e.g. Gramps just flatlined and you go to your friend going, "Sorry for your loss, have you eaten?" Give it a few hours, then ask the last part.
On days other than the eventful day (i.e. day of the loss happened/funeral/wake), feel free to call up your friend and go, "hey, how're you doing? Have you eaten?" - whether or not you intend to provide said friend with food. If you do, or planning to take said friend out to a meal, that's even better.
Even if you're met with hostility, e.g. "I'm sad! How can you think about eating??" - you can reply gently with things along the line of, "because I care for you."
Do NOT - I repeat, DO NOT say things like, "you're lucky [the newly departed] didn't take you along!" or "You'll be okay, I've had worse." Egad. Grief is not a competition.
Etiquette gives you a script for awkward and uncomfortable moments where you don't know what to say.
Yeah, as grieving person I knew that people were just feeding me stock lines with the whole "I'm sorry for your loss thing," but saying that cliche phrase was also their way of signalling "I'm not some kind of rat bastard who doesn't give a fuck that you're going through some shit right now."
Unlike the person who isn't a relative who complained about the food being served at the memorial at the home of the person who just buried their family member that they were holding the hand of as they were dying.
And don't fucking be the person who gives money to an organization that you were explicitly NOT asked to give money to in memory of someone.