i still don’t know why i’m here

nerd | school enjoyer | psychology student| autistic | intj | writer | ??? | she/her

[isuggestlandback]

If you ever wondered why they call tattoos and piercings "unprofessional" and "unsophisticated"

Source: Lainey Molnar

[headspace-hotel]

literally. Cesare Lombroso "father of criminology" and disgusting racist and eugenicist had a whole thing about hating tattoos, and he even explicitly said that tattoos were something that """savages""" did and that criminals got tattoos because their brains were similar to """savages"""

dont obey the racist bullshit

[theswisscheeserag]

“I hate school I’m sorry Malala”- Funny yet poignant. Acknowledges both the difficulty of the task and the fact that doing that task is a privilege. Gives credit to the people who fought for that privilege with a tongue in cheek acknowledgement of the irony of the initial statement

“I’m just a girl I should be home baking bread not doing calculus” - at best historically uninformed at worst leaps decades back in time. Refusal to acknowledge the charged history of education and slights the centuries of women’s labor it took to reach this point

[crunchbuttsteak]

[imnotrevealingmyname]

You can only reblog this on the 3st of January

[official-lucifers-child]

the 3st huh?

[sugareimon-deactivated20260217]

You know what? Transfem appreciation post!

I love you, transfems who are loud and aren’t afraid to take up space.

I love you, transfems who are shy and anxious.

I love you, transfems who are medically transitioning.

I love you, transfems who aren’t.

I love you, transfems of color.

I love you, disabled transfems.

I love you, transfem lesbians.

I love you, transfem butches.

I love you, gay transfems.

I love you, intersex transfems.

I love you, transfems experiencing homelessness and poverty.

I love you, schizospec transfems.

I love you, autistic transfems.

I love you, transfem artists.

I love you, transfem writers.

I love you, transfem poets.

I love you, masculine transfems.

I love you, nonbinary transfems.

I love you, plural transfems.

I love you, transfem survivors.

I love you, nerdy transfems.

I love you, weird transfems.

I love you, transfem therians.

I love you, Jewish transfems.

I love you, Muslim transfems.

I love you, transfems of other beliefs.

I love you, traumatized transfems.

I love you, transfem minors.

I love you, transfems who use neopronouns.

I love you, mentally ill transfems.

I love you, fat transfems.

I love you, transfems who don’t identify as a woman or use she/her.

I love you, transfems who feel unlovable.

I love you, no matter what you look like or who you are. The world is a more beautiful place with you in it— you are valuable, and you deserve to have your voices heard and respected. You deserve to be loved.

[lastoneout]

Sorry about the rant I'm just SO sick of this "we have to be on all the time never look away if you aren't upset about politics and traumatizing yourself watching people die on Twitter you're wrong and complicit and evil" like I know things are fucked and we need to stay angry but we can do that while also taking a minute to crack open a cold one with the boys or have gay sex or get tipsy at the line dance, we HAVE to have joy to remember why the fuck we're refusing to give up in the first place. Fight like hell for your loved ones and then also go home with them to smoke weed and drink sweet tea and make biscuits covered in honey and butter please, please don't deprive yourself of joy, you're allowed to be happy BEFORE the work is done. You're allowed to be happy.

[secondhandhandyhaversack]

The lady I used to live with was adamant that there be a party at any opportunity. They weren't always big, but if there was an occasion in the slightest, there was something done to celebrate it. Sometimes she literally would just say, "this deserves a Diet Coke!" And she would pass me a can from her stash in the closet.

It's important context that she had a very hard life into adulthood. Very poor family. Abusive father. Mentally ill mother. She often had to miss school as a teenager because she had to go find her mother, who would wander off for days into the woods. She also made sure her other siblings were fed, clothed, and at school while she herself was missing out on them.

I once asked her why she did so much celebrating.

She told me that people can choose to celebrate the small stuff if they want to, or not, but life was hard enough and the celebrations, no matter how small, made the other hard things easier. "If two people lead hard lives, and one of them celebrates and the other doesn't, which do you think will survive longer? Get more done? Make it farther?"

Your despondence and self-flagellation doesn't help anyone. Your passion and drive do. So you need to do things that ignite your passions and keep them ignited. Recognize that there is pain and awful suffering in the world. Do what you can to change that. Then do what you need to do to make sure you can keep doing it.

[starlight-starwrite]

When everything feels like it's falling apart it's the joy and connection that holds us together.

[ssavaart]

Ooh. This is SO GEN X.... hopefully some of you younger ones will get it too.

[honeysucklepink]

I can't believe they left out the most important one...

Things We're Never Gonna Do:

[butterfly-sapphic]

[transfemstalin-deactivated20260]

christianity is bad including the values actually

[obscurix]

i feel so left out. like everyone around me knows how to be a human and i don’t.

[tlirsgender]

Laptops are always so much more Fucked than phones in my experience. A laptop is like a beautiful horse that wants nothing more than to break all of its legs. A decently solid android phone will act normal

[tlirsgender]

A laptop is a living creature. It has weight to it. A laptop breathes and produces body heat. And it wants to die badly. Mobile phones are not sentient like that & that's why they don't experience mental illness. A phone problem is like "out of storage :(" or "charging port broke". Laptops will cough weakly as they fade in and out of consciousness

[tlirsgender]

You will hold a laptop in your arms and it's like "I can't feel my legs". And you tell it girl you never had any

[the-real-nikki19]

a writing competition i was going to participate in again this year has announced that they now allow AI generated content to be submitted

their reasoning being that "we couldn't ban it even if we wanted to, every writer already uses it anyway"

"Every writer"?

come on

[rose-of-pollux]

Reblog if you're a writer who doesn't use AI.

[theshoesofatiredman]

Does anyone have any good YouTube videos on deconstructing the Bible's homophobia / disarming the clobber passages? I'm trying to get recs for my brother (he's evangelical but he has told me he's open to reconsidering things) and I did this work primarily through books and he is way more likely to watch a long video essay than read a book. Like I'm gonna recommend him the books that helped me but bro is not a reader

[self-molded-clay]

These are both from exchristian or atheist sources, and I know sometimes christians are reluctant to listen to those, so sorry if this isn’t what you’re looking for! But I thought of these two vids right away:

This first one by Genetically Modified Skeptic is a really good comprehensive take on the subject with some experts and biblical scholars chiming in! https://youtu.be/-SWBxq7joWY

This one by Forrest Valkai is about sex and gender and is more from a scientific perspective than Bible theory, but still definitely a good one! https://youtu.be/szf4hzQ5ztg

EDIT: forgot to add the Abbi website! I know you said your brother prefers videos to reading, but there’s a lot of good short articles and stories here specifically for christians, and there’s a surprising amount of audio stories and videos too! https://www.abbi.org.au/resources/resources-for-people-from-faith-backgrounds/

Resources for people from faith backgrounds - ABBI

Homosexuality and the Bible verses Founder of Ambassadors & Bridge Builders International, Anthony Venn-Brown, was the first openly gay man

Hope those help! :]

[theshoesofatiredman]

I love Genetically Modified Skeptic and I had forgotten about that video so thank you!!! I was thinking of sending him a recent video GMS did where he ripped apart Frank Turek's transphobic rhetoric (and Turek is a prime example of the transphobia in the evangelical church today) bc I feel like it does an incredible job of making it clear just how noxious and harmful the rhetoric is and if you can recognize the harm there I feel like you can more easily go into other LGBTQ exclusionary rhetoric with skepticism.

I've heard great things about Valkai's work before but I haven't spent much time with it myself. I will definitely give this one a watch!

I did some additional googling and watching since I made this post and found this guy's video which is, IMO, really good. It's a pretty rapid fire primer on approaching the topic from a liberation theology perspective and also he disarms the clobber passages cogently and succinctly.

He also just is very Christian and his arguments are very Christian and I feel like there will just be tremendous appeal to a Christian listening because you can see how important Christ is to this guy. This is the kind of work that I just can't do as an ex Christian anymore (and could barely bring myself to do as a Christian bc of how personal (and closeted) it was. I am so tremendously grateful to the affirming Christians out there who are doing this work to change people's minds from within the faith.

I also gave this video a watch and think it is pretty good. I've read Justin's book - Torn - and found it compelling but it didn't have convincing power for me at the time.

His ministry is incredibly valuable to queer people and I am again really grateful for what he does as an affirming gay Christian who honestly brings a ridiculous amount of patience to every discussion he has with people who disagree with him.

Please keep the recs coming I would love to check them out!!

[unbidden-yidden-deactivated20240]

In general, I think it's currently really important for progressive Christians to be very loud about being both progressive and deeply religious Christians, and for everyone else fighting for progressive values to be supportive of them doing just that. I know that's like, idk, counter-intuitive or cringe or whatever, but seriously folks, the alternative is that progressive Christians have to be quiet about their faith to be accepted within broader secular and interfaith progressive advocacy, which means that the regressive asshole Christians (a) sound that much louder and (b) dominate the USian religious landscape all the more. That's a problem, for all of us.

We need people pushing back within the faith as well as outside of it, because that destroys any edifice that this is about Christianity and religious freedom.

You can be a devout Christian and also:

Openly, proudly, and without being forced to remain celibate or otherwise limit your full expression of self, identify as LGBTQ+ or be a supportive ally.

Advocate for full reproductive autonomy and comprehensive sex education.

Love and support people of other religious groups, non-religious people and/or atheists, by choosing to believe that a truly loving God would not pursue anything less than universal salvation.

Stand against evangelism and proselytizing as they have thus far been interpreted and used, because there are ways to interpret the Great Commission that don't promote colonialism and cultural genocide.

A steward of the earth, protecting God's beautiful creation and lovingly tending to it as the unique and incredible gift that it is.

A believer in science, rationalism, and human progress as part of God's divine plan for humanity.

A believer in history and someone who understands that the Bible can be both divinely given and open to interpretation (no really)(if you're confused, please talk to a knowledgeable traditional Jew)

An ally to Jews, who stands against supercessionism and antisemitism in the church.

And in before regressive Christians come shouting at me that (1) what do I know, I'm a Jew and (2) no lol you can't because of ___ reason:

My source is that I've personally met and talked to Christians of great faith and integrity - people who embody the closest forms of kindness I've seen to what Jesus himself advocated - who are each of these things.

It is 100% possible; you just choose to believe otherwise.

[unbidden-yidden-deactivated20240]

At this point I think it's time to start preaching and claiming the moral high ground here.

Right-wing evangelical Christians want you to think that they're the moral ones, when they EXPLICITLY defy the word of God. They routinely:

Evade taxes intended to help the poor

Oppress the foreigner

Hoard wealth

Hate their fellow in their hearts

Destroy God's creation that they were entrusted to steward, intentionally and recklessly as well as carelessly

Cast the first stone

Preach idolatry through the prosperity gospel and the American cult of nationalism

Sacrifice their children to Molech through encouraging a culture of gun violence

Commit true sexual abominations, such as rape and pedophilia, and/or cover these things up or engage in apologetics

Encourage actual child and spousal abuse while calling it "traditional family values"

Oppress and demean women, when their main guy uplifted and valued women outside of marginal roles

Smugly quote scripture to satisfy their bigotries and to benefit themselves without caring about the true message

Fail to acknowledge God as the True Judge by substituting their prejudices for God's love and mercy

.......and plenty more. These are not just a few bad actors; this lifestyle is ENCOURAGED by this irresponsible and immoral cult. They are leading people astray into a life of sin and a culture of callous cruelty.

Is this the Christianity you want the world to know you by?

15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them.

[genderkoolaid]

Everyone reading this post should go look into liberation theology right now

[luulapants]

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.

[peggy-sue-reads-a-book]

Reblog to make the tummy not hurt of the person you reblogged from.

[libertarirynn-deactivated202006]

Look I clown veganism often enough but really, truly, don’t ever fucking feed somebody something without their knowledge or consent. It’s hugely fucked up and not OK.

[gotinterest]

also if someone hasn’t eaten meat in a while… or ever… they will get incredibly sick if they just start eating meat again.

[penny-bites]

|| Please don’t do this. Not just with vegans/ vegetarians, but with ANYONE you don’t know very well. You never know what they may or may not be allergic to, their abilities o(or lack thereof) to digest certain things, dietary needs and restrictions, religious beliefs requiring them to abstain from the consumption of certain foods and about a thousand other things.

Some people are legitimately allergic to thd proteins in certain meats and can’t even eat anything cooked in the same pan as X meat product/s.

I’m vegan but couldn’t care less if others aren’t, not an overwhelming number of (not all, just alot, unfortunately) non vegans find things like this funny.

[jhscdood]

Quick reminder: Sometimes people say “I’m vegan” or “I’m vegetarian” because its easier/faster/begets fewer annoying questions than the longer explanation.

As an epidemiologist I can list a few of the more annoying longer explanations that no one wants to have to explain to every person who ever offers them food:

- You drank water contaminated with giardia, which gave you 3 weeks of diarrhea followed by 3 years of lactose intolerance

- You were bitten by a Lone Star Tick and developed an allergy to beef and pork because the Lone Star Tick is a bastard

- You are Jewish and the meat isn’t kosher, but you don’t want to say that because antisemitism is A Thing and you don’t want to get bombarded with questions about the Middle East while you’re hungry

- You are Muslim and the meat isn’t halal, but you don’t want to say that because Islamophobia is A Thing and you don’t want to get bombarded with questions about the Middle East while you’re hungry

- You are on a restricted diet for medical reasons and don’t want to get bombarded with questions about your medical history while you’re hungry

- You are on a restricted diet for reasons that *are nobody’s business* and don’t want to get pulled into Potentially Triggering Diet Talk while you’re hungry.

Listen. Food can be very very complicated for people, and a very very very sensitive subject. Respect people’s food restrictions. None of it is your business.

[thanakite]

I was one of the people who ordered something decaf at Starbucks only for them to have made it caffeinated and seem to have put in at least a couple shots of espresso and spent the day having panic attacks. Don’t do this shit to people

[assassinationtipsforladies]

Also, even if it won’t harm them at all, if you respect people’s bodily autonomy then you can’t compel them to eat something without their consent (and knowledge is necessary for consent)

[seekingxanadu]

Thinking of the time DH, a Hindu, went to the US and his colleagues pranked him with a beef dish when he specifically chose meat dishes without beef. Thank god for the observant server who casually mentioned the dish he was about to dig in had beef. Suffice to say he didn’t eat anything that he hadn’t ordered himself for the week he was there LOL Simple decency.doesn’t take much effort. In Indonesia, when a lazy server insisted a particular dish didn’t have beef. We were suspicious as it didn’t look like chicken. Another server overheard, swooped in and took away the dish with a mumble. We swapped it out with a seafood dish instead. So yes, this shouldn’t need to be said, but: Please respect people’s choices regarding food. 

[plaguedbyvisions]

mandatory discussion board kinda mood

[kazs-inej]

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