mind rupturings

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[actuallyxnotshy]

I searched for love in the heavens above.

[metalonmetalblog]

Jessica Harrison

[basicheadache]

[minavampyra]

A cardinal. I’d love to have a tame one, but I wouldn’t have the heart to cage it.

[pottersource]

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 2 (2011), dir. David Yates

[glumshoe]

The other day I watched a little boy get knocked to the ground by an older kid who was running by. He burst into tears as his mother hurried over.

“Here’s a bandaid for ya,” I said, producing one from my vest pocket.

“Oh, he’s not bleeding, thank you though!”

I lowered my voice and leaned in. “Kids think bandaids are health magic,” I said. “Ask him where it hurts and exploit that placebo effect.”

She did just that, and instantly the kid stopped crying and thanked her. “I’ll have to remember that,” she said.

Children: #HACKED

[tinyqueenusagi-chan]

Also if you have a crying kid give them a cup of water. You can’t cry and drink at the same time and it gives them a chance to calm down.

Tell them their going to run out of tears so they drink the water.

My mom does this at her preschool after awhile the other children start offering the crying child little cups of water.

[maxanaxam]

Stuff like this is also a great test to see if the kid is actually seriously injured! Because with how much some kids cry over tiny bumps and scrapes, it can be hard to tell. But if you slap a Band-Aid on it or give them a cup of water or a piece of candy and they stop crying, they’re fine. If they keep crying despite whatever little placebo or distraction you’ve given them, you might wanna look a little closer at that injury or seek medical attention.

[raincloudsandsunbeams]

With my two’s class we ask them “more hurt or more scary?” It takes a bit of practice but after a few times they can answer without more prompting. More scary gets a hug and more hurt gets a look over.

[markingatlightspeed]

That last one is so important because it validates the child’s feelings and tells them it’s okay to have these feelings and lets them learn how to deal with them, rather than just distracting them from them. I also helps teach the child to both communicate their feelings more readily and communicate when they’re hurt more clearly. All really important skills for a child to develop young.

[theclockworkjudas]

Ok, so my first thought was “But what if the kid just wants the attention/treatment/candy and will fake being hurt in order to get it” and then I suddenly remembered the countless trips I made as a child to the nurse with a “bellyache” because I was too overwhelmed and I also remember that if a child is seeking attention they probably actually need it.

[barcarole]

I lie for days in a forest, and read Schopenhauer… You probably think that my future landscapes will be soaked in pessimism, so to speak? Don’t worry, I love nature too much.

Isaac Levitan in a letter to Sergei Diaghilev, (from Isaac Levitan. Letters, Documents, Reminiscences, by Alexei Fedorov-Davydov, 1956).

[nevver]

Diary, Tina Berning

[selves-acceptance]

thinking that what happened “wasn’t bad enough” is a sign that it was.

your brain wouldn’t be trying to protect itself from the reality of what happened if what happened didn’t hurt you.

questioning if your trauma “counts” as trauma is a sign of trauma.

[thoradvice]

romanticize your life. i cannot stress this enough. use scented shower gel and shampoo, so you look forward to showers. go on walks and see how pretty the sky looks. notice the wildflowers on the roadside as you drive. light a candle when you get home to make your room smell good. notice & appreciate the little things in life. it won't cure your mental illness, but it'll make it easier to exist in this world.

[thehopefulquotes]

I know this transformation is painful, but you're not falling apart; you're just falling into something different, with a new capacity to be beautiful.

— William C. Hannan

[rawhoneybliss]

May you attract those who know you on a soul level. May you attract those who lift your spirit up. May you attract those with pure and loving intentions. May you attract those who genuinely want to see you flourish. May you attract those who are happy for your abundance. May you attract those who inspire you to keep going.

[gaminginsanity]

😼🗡

[jazaleiah]

AhhhhhhhhhHHHHH 😍💀👅 this. fuck.

[suigintou]

wait is 5! = 120 an actual math thing i just reblogged it bc i sincerely believe that yelling a number makes it bigger 

[bunyipandler]

An exclamation point after a number means factorial. Five factorial is 5 times 4 times 3 times 2 times 1. Three factorial is 3 times 2 times 1, etc.

[maeamian]

But the more exclamation points after a number, the less big it is, a double factorial is every other number, so 6!! is 6 times 4 times 2, which is less than 6!, So yelling a number makes it bigger, but yelling louder makes it smaller again

[dragongirltitties]

it’s because you scared it

[bera-chan]

Somebody gave math anxiety

[jensteed]

Good! That bitch gave me anxiety for like 10 years of school

[popsunner]

Listen, I’m part of the generation that uses humor to cope, I love all the memes about 2020 just as much as you guys do. I laugh at the “we got the real roaring 20′s”, “we wanted 2020 to be a movie but we got the wrong genre”, “we really thought 2020 would be our year” sardonic tweets.

But to the people like me, who really thought 2020 would be their year?

Love, I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry you walked into this year with a smile and hope, and that smile immediately fell, and that hope was immediately crushed

I’m sorry that every day there’s something else, I’m sorry that you’re scared, I’m sorry that you’re angry, I’m sorry that you’re tired.

And I know, I know that you’re having a hard time hoping again. Trust me, I know.

But this year, Adam Castillejo became the second person to be cured of HIV

This year, James Patterson art up a fund to help Indie bookstores

This year, scientists finally managed to record the narwhal 

This year, White Storks have hatched the first wild chicks in 600 years

This year, the worlds largest open-air gallery was opened with paintings by individuals with learning disabilities

This year, an eleven year old skateboarder landed the worlds first 1080 degree turn

This year, scientists mapped the entire surface of the moon for the first time ever

This year, Sweden and Austria closed their last coal plants

This year, White Tailed Eagles are spotted flying over England for the first time in 240 years

This year, NASA launched astronauts to a US space station for the first time since 2011

To all the people like me, who thought 2020 was their year: We’re here. We’re alive. The world will grow. The world will heal. Maybe 2020 isn’t our year of stress free fun and memories, but it can be our year to learn and stand up and fight, so that next year? We get everything we hoped for.

Don’t give up, don’t leave. There’s a world waiting for you.

[ardri-na-bpiteog]

A lot of people are genuinely terrified about what will happen if Donald Trump wins reelection and it's really weird how some of y'all are acting like everyone begging you to vote for Biden is some privileged, rich, out of touch, neo-liberal when a lot of them are just vulnerable people who don't want to like...die in a brutal civil war or watch all their remaining rights get stripped away by an increasingly authoritarian Republican Party.

I do not know how to express to you how much worse it can get.

[bundibird]

NonAmerican perspective here, but like....... do some of you really not see how bad it already is? Look back at 2016 and picture what you thought Trump's America would look like, four years into the future.

Did the 2020 that you predicted back in 2016 look like 197 thousand Americans dead of a virus that your leader deliberately downplayed the severity of for months? Did it look like your entire eastern coast in flames, the air across half the country unbreathable, the skies a hazy orange from the smoke and the glow of the fires, and your president saying "climate change has nothing to do with this"? Did it look like over two thousand missing children, who were taken from their parents by "the authorities" and then lost by those same authorities? Two thousand children in the care of a government agency have gone missing, and has your bossman even commented on it, or has he just continued extolling the dangers of immigrants?

Did the 2020 you imagined look like months of civil unrest, because police murdered yet another black man, and instead of condemning the act, your leader said "the answer to this problem is worse police violence, and to beat the protestors into submission."

Like, fuck me. Do you not see how bad it already is? This is what's happened under Trump in four years, and some of you are really out there going "hm yeah but Biden has weak policies tho." Would Biden take a global pandemic seriously? I suspect he would. Would Biden be open to working to stop climate change? He's already said loads about what he'll do to combat climate change. Would Biden completely fail to address the fact that women are being forcibly sterilised in ICE and children are being assaulted and going missing? I would be really surprised if he did nothing about that. Would Biden react to public outrage over cops murdering a civilian by sending in the national guard to attack peaceful protesters, assault journalists, permanently blind innocent civilians, and pepperspray children in the face? I really doubt it.

But Trump has done all that shit; is still actively doing all that shit, right at this very fucking moment. And some of you won't vote for Biden because you're not really a fan of his????

"Oh, Biden's too moderate for me" BIDEN IS TOO MODERATE, SO YOULL GO WITH DONALD "THERES NO VIRUS," "ITS BECAUSE THEY DIDNT MANAGE THE FORESTS WELL ENOUGH," "IMMIGRANTS ARE CRIMINALS," "SEND IN THE TROOPS" TRUMP INSTEAD?? You wanna let that guy win by default, to get another four fucking years, when he's already done this much damage?? WHAT THE FUCK, GUYS

[commandtower-solring-go]

This is genuinely what I don’t understand. How do you have such a fucking warped perspective on the world that you think not voting is somehow better than voting for Biden. Like, its actually boggles the mind.

Actually, you know what, I know what it is. Its fucking privilege. Its the privilege of every fucking middle class white person on here who thinks they somehow are taking the high horse because, well, both sides are really as as bad as one another. I mean, Biden is 100% a sexual predatory. 

Like this is some fucking cult of personality. Like this is some contest about whose side is the most morally high. Maybe y’all are too fucking close to the issue to see the impact Trump has had, so let me spell it out for you.

Trump has opened genuine concentration camps, which have left babies alone in cells for days and forcibly castrated people.

The Trump administration has openly admitted to collusion and tampering with the previous election with no negative side effect. 

There has been a steep rise in the number of Nazi/White Nationalist movements in the last four years, to the point where its actually normalised.

The Trump administration has had bleed on effects into other countries such as Australia whose government seems to revere Trump and, by extension, enabled a number of alt-right movements.

The murdock press has had almost unrestrained freedom to tear apart anyone they want because extreme right winged beliefs are now so normal

People are simultaneously doubting the press more than ever, and yet believing it more than ever

Flat Earth and QAnon conspiracy theories exist as a directly result of Trump. WTF. 

There are more extreme cases of police brutality, egged on by self righteous cops who feel empowered by Trump and the rise of the alt-right.

Trump defunding the CDC, completely bungling COVID, resulting in America remaining the largest country effected by COVID and, as other countries are coming down from it, America is still in full force resulting in the highest death toll so far

That’s also ignoring all the people who feel as though they can justify this decision on the grounds that the economy would suffer a bit or the belief that people dying isn’t so bad, as long as its not the worst thing killing people (re: COVID & Flu Deathtoll). 

The fucking wall. 

The continuation of the belief that unemployment is good regardless of whether or not the money provided is enough to live on. By extension, he introduced a new tax cut, promises to help the middle/lower class. It didnt, and actually made their tax worse while cutting it for the upper class.

He just fucking lies, constantly. not even shitty politician lies, but outright, fabrications with no weight behind him.

He’s taken more leave than any other American president in history

Trump ought to have been kicked out several times over and still hasn’t been

He has used his presidency to promote and sell products

He has used his presidency to avoid conviction. In fact, two weeks after his election he settled three fraud lawsuits related to his university. And that’s among many, many others

He called African countries ‘shitholes’, Mexican people ‘Racists’, and Nazis ‘Very fine people’.

He’s paid people off

He’s incited violence against several groups

Nepotism

And that’s, legit, not everything because his reign of hot fucking nonsense is so thick that we beginning to mistake it for the air we breath. 

I actually don’t care why you don’t like Biden. I don’t care if you think that Obama isn’t actually that good because he was directly involved in the killing of hundred of people during the Iraq War. I don’t care if you think voting means being an active agent in choosing. Trump is among the worst presidents the world has ever faced. Such to the point where the world is beginning to believe his BS, and the only way to cope is to turn a blind eye to it. But fuck that, and fuck you. I’m pulling you out of your ignorance to tell you this. Passivity is a privilege that those who are directly affected by his actions can’t afford to that, and by not voting you are putting lives in danger. 

Get off your thumb, and go fucking vote. Vote because your life depends on it. 

[allofmystudentsrunaway]

oh gods it was parents evening again tonight..

other parents: how did you do that?

Me:do what?

Other parents: your teenager is eating a salad..

Me:i never forced him eat, now he will pretty much eat anything…except chicken casserole which we both agree is gross

Other parents:we don’t get it.

Me: our only rules are bed at eleven on a school night and don’t hack any important government agencies.

Other parents: you don’t restrict screen time?

Me: you know 95% of kids will self regulate, given the chance?

Other parents: thats not true

Me: have you tried it?

other parents:…but, now he’s reading 1984

Me: he has had a university reading level since he was 12, what am i going to do censor his reading material?

other Parents: what if he reads something you don’t approve of..

Me: i fail to see your reasoning…

Me: you know he cooks too..it’s our mother/son time, we talk about his friends…

other Parents: he talks??

[greenbergsays]

That “he talks??” bit gets me

Yeah, kids talk. If your kid doesn’t talk to you, it’s because of one of two reasons:

You’ve created such a hostile/unwelcoming home environment that they don’t feel comfortable enough to talk

You have signaled to them somehow, some way, that you don’t care about what they have to say. That what they have to say isn’t important.

Kids are not stupid, not at any age level. They pick up on shit and they remember and then when they grow to be teenagers, they know who they can talk to about stuff and who they can’t.

My 13 year old nephew is not particularly affectionate with his mother and he rarely talks to her about anything important, but there are times I can’t get that kid to stop hanging off me and he has those serious conversations with me, like when we discussed his friends coming out to him as bisexual.

It’s not even that hard to make a kid feel loved and welcome. I don’t even know what my nephew is talking about half the time with his games, but they’re important to him, so I let him talk and I make appropriate noises of shock and sympathy when they are needed.

He watches a lot of YT channels, so we’ve discussed the importance of regulating your media, because I don’t want motherfuckers like PewDiePie shaping his world view.

He reads anything from Stephen King to manga and he does that because I’ve been reading him books since he was a baby. I do it with all of my nieces and nephews; when they get school-aged and old enough to read on their own, our “us” time is going to the bookstore and letting them pick out a drink and a book.

Because reading is important to me and I want it to be important to them, too. Now, it’s not something I suggest, it’s something that my nephew asks for.

“I finished my book, Aunt [Dessie], when can we go to the bookstore again?”

And when I tell him a date, I make sure to keep it.

Saying, “You can talk to me about anything” and “you can rely on me” is all well and good, but words are just words. You have to mean it and you have to show them that you mean it.

Otherwise, when it gets to those important moments in their life, they’re gonna shut you out rather than let you in.

[findingfeather]

Seriously though, you guys. Like.

Here is a secret:

Children and adolescents are actually fucking desperate for adult attention and approval. They really are. Even the ones that have in fact kinda got fucked up so far and have learned that The Only Kind Of Attention They’ll Get Is Bad and so act like shitheads, or the ones that have learned to be inhibited (and it might not even be you who inhibited them, it mighta been their peers or some teacher somewhere, which sucks!) and learned that by showing need they’ll just end up humiliated, or whatever?

Yeah them too.

Kids want to make you happy.

They’re often TERRIBLE AT IT. They’re kids. Their brains don’t work right, their bodies are weird, they have terrible impulse control, horrible deferred satisfaction, they’re shitty at projecting future consequences, and especially if they HAVEN’T been taught they’re probably bad at showing you positive emotions!

They’re BAD AT IT. And they often don’t want anyone to know it. And they’re embarrassed about it.

But they desperately want to. So much.

So one of the most crucial things is:

a) make sure they know how to make you happy. Don’t assume they can figure it out! They probably can’t!

b) make sure that’s something that is literally possible for them to do.

c) make sure, when they do it, that you SHOW THEM YOU’RE HAPPY WITH IT.

It is absolutely ASTONISHING HOW FAST this can create a self-sustaining cycle with the SMALLEST of starts.

[areiton]

I want to add–you can create a place that is safe for your kids, that encourages them to talk, that rewards and accepts their behavior—and sometimes they still stop talking.

Kids are people. Which means sometimes they go through shit that they aren’t ready to talk about.

Your job as a parent is to remind them you’re there when they are, remind them they’re safe, and give them room to be a person with heavy shit. And listen, because if you do your job right, they will eventually talk to you again.

[themoonismybeloved]

I want to add that what @findingfeather said goes especially true if your kids are not neuroptypical because sometimes it’s hard to know what makes someone happy! There’s nothing wrong in telling someone to please do xyz if it’s reasonable and attainable! And honestly this can go for anyone, make your needs and wants known and encourage others to do the same

[neko-mancy]

[empressventure]

My aunt has got this weird idea that my cousin is super antisocial, and watching the way they interact with each other I can see why. My cousin recently got super obsessed with undertale so obviously I let her infodump all about this video game, and the other day my aunt was in the same room and the look on her face was just so dismissive. Like, she doesn’t want to talk to you about her interests because you’re pursing your lips and getting ready to call them stupid.