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This is why Pride is not just a party. It's a joyful celebration, but it's also a pointed and colourful two-finger salute to a world that stood back whilst so many of us died. And we'll never go quietly, never again.

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shinesurge

Bad sex scenes are fun to make fun of but I think one of the easy reasons they are frequently awful is that there's no narrative energy to them. I picked up on this by studying combat scenes and I think the problems that show up are really similar; there's this thing writers do where they treat these kinds of sequences differently than the rest of their work, the scenes feel like they exist outside the regular narrative and writers just pause the story while they happen. People are always complaining about fighting and sex in stories being "boring and a waste of time" and that's not an inherent function of these mechanics, that means writers aren't approaching them with the same thoughtfulness as the narrative, and the audience can feel it.

The sex is an interaction, and interactions should illuminate things! It's still beholden to the plot/characterization/worldbuilding rule, we should always be communicating some kind of new information or reinforcing what is already understood. You are having 2+ personalities strip down and communicate with their bodies what are they SAYING. It doesn't have to be anything profound, even just communicating to the audience "i think this person doing this thing is hot" counts; wanting the reader to get off to something is a perfectly respectable goal that can keep us on track if you're aware of it. But the writer so frequently has NO IDEA what they're actually trying to say, what the goal of the scene is beyond fucking or fighting, so we end up with bland interfacing between characters who could be replaced by any other characters doing the same thing anywhere else. It isn't hot or interesting to be directionless, pick an intention and go.

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vivecguccibelt

“Bisexuals don’t belong in the LGBT community” ohhh ok I guess the B stands for ‘bitch’ and that’s where you fit in, gotcha

rapidashrider

I was explaining bi and trans erasure/phobia in the gay community to my mum and she was outraged and burst out “WHAT DO THEY THINK IT STANDS FOR? LESBIANS, GAYS, BICYCLES AND TRICYCLES?!” and I don’t think I’ll forget that until my dying day.

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rachellephant

the most important thing to me ever is bi kids knowing that it’s ok to be 10% attracted to women and 90% attracted to men or 10% attracted to men and 90% attracted to women and still feeling ok to identify as bi, and still feeling like their identity is valid, and still feeling like they can lead fulfilling lives with both (or other) genders. like that’s just so fricking important.

baital

I’m a bi adult and you know what? I needed this. Thank you.

alder-greatly-approves

it’s also important to remember that it can be a fluid % like sometimes it’ll be 50/50 some times 10/90 and then drift into a 45/65 or even 2/98 and it’s still okay. It’s just where you are at that time in your life.

poly-wrath

That shift is called the bicycle

odeada-nightspawn

It’s also important for them to know that bisexuality is not binary & never has been. You can be attracted to any gender, & still be bisexual. You can be attracted to someone regardless of their gender & still be bisexual. Oh & being bisexual isn’t about who you date. It’s about who/what you’re attracted to.

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twistcmyk

#jei reblogs stuff #me when RP scenes . . . ;;;;;;;;;;

idtech666

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littleguysdaily

This was a Patreon request

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shamebats

The OP uses he/him pronouns.

#jei reblogs stuff #jei reblogs the truth #force me to wear a dress because you think imma girl? i will bite #me occasionally choosing to do so myself cuz costumes are fun? heck yeah why not let's get swishy

anarchopuppy

sometimes being a fan of something means not wanting them to make any more of it

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uptownlowdown

my new courier six named ladybird jones! heavily inspired by 70s blaxploitation and black westerns from the 30s.

ladybird is a former showgirl from new reno with good karma. she is mr. house's protege and likes kissing tommy torini. she takes her job seriously, and works more in line to stabilize the smaller factions outside of the vegas strip, rather than destroy or ignore them.

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willgrahamscock

I think we are focusing on the wrong thing when talking about mainstream romantasy adult books, instead of shaming straight cis women for reading kinky books, we should tralk about how most of the newer books aimed at that demographic are just conservative propoganda, rebranding patriarchy as a kink.

willgrahamscock

There's nothing inherently wrong about liking the types of kinks that are present, control, power imbalance, dark themes, but when you really look at the top performing novels (which they are mass prodicing at questionable speeds) it's hard to ignore the ever present morally grey man, who's posessive over the heroine who starts off as otherworldly different from the 'regular woman' aka damsel in distress), is cruel to everyone except her, and the fantasy world revolves around the control of women, especially when it comes to forced pregnancy.

willgrahamscock

I'm seeing a lot of responses to this saying "this is why I read queer stories" but you're missing the point! You can relate to queer media because you're queer, cis straight women should also have material that aren't turning their opression into kinks in almost every. single. book. If they want to choose to read those stories, that's absolutely fine, again nothing wrong with exploring those dynamics, but the concerning part is how fast they're being made with the rise of booktok, and the looming threat to women's autonomy.

Remember when all mlm stories were borderine assault stories in the early 90s-2000s? and how long it took for other queer stories to be made? we all used our voices to make a change, it didn't magically stop we fought for it to not be the only type of story.

lyricwritesprose

And the solution to this, for people who are wondering, isn't to try to suppress romantasy books because they're not "good for women." That's an old, old game and never goes anywhere good. The solution is not less kink and less porn. The solution is more kink and more porn.

Because when you think about it, the problem isn't that you can go to your chosen bookseller and find a story where Sparklia Special gets semi-forced to have babies for Broody McDarkenfay (it's okay, she's into it). The problem is that it is unnecessarily difficult to look a little further down the shelf and find a vampire princess domming the hell out of the hunter who knows he shouldn't love her. Reducing people's choices always serves the reactionary agenda one way or another. Expanding choices. That's where it's at.

(If this sounds like I am making a pitch that we should write porn to defeat fascism, that's…not entirely a mischaracterization. I mean, of course it won't defeat fascism, but I do feel that while we work to defeat fascism, we should at least have diverse and satisfying porn.)

#jei reblogs stuff #shoutout to baby jei who had to wade through 'crying uke / abusive seme' mlm in the 00s #we were really goin thru it y'all #hmm wonder why all my RP boys are switches or doms... dot dot dot...

dragon-in-a-fez

Martina McBride didn't win Country Music Association Song of the Year for a song about how burning your house down with your abusive husband still inside it is good, noble, and an allegory for the American Revolution for people to act like the genre belongs to bootlicking fucks

dragon-in-a-fez

other things people didn't do for you to act like country music belongs to bootlicking fucks:

Garth Brooks winning video of the year at the ACMs for a song about how none of us are free as long as there's racism and homophobia

Reba McEntire charting with a gothic horror song about an innocent man being executed by an incompetent judge and a corrupt sheriff

Willie Nelson being, well, his entire self tbh

Dolly Parton recording the hating capitalism banger of all time

Kacey Musgraves telling everyone to ignore the haters, smoke weed, and be a bisexual slut

dragon-in-a-fez

how the hell did I leave Morgan Wade off this list. wrote a song about being depressed, alcoholic, and suicidal and how mental illness stigma sucks, saw how much people connected with it, wrote a Part II of that song about how she's doing better now but you're never totally free of the risk of relapse. fucking icon.

dragon-in-a-fez

I specifically curated this list so people couldn't be like "ah yes but you see here is my simple binary of good and bad country music which always works", I made sure to add different genders, eras, subgenres, etc and y'all are still pulling that shit in the tags!

listen. Alan Jackson, the archetypal mister big hat man sitting on a tractor singing about a pickup truck, wrote a shockingly normal song about 9/11 that was like "yeah I don't know jack shit about politics but my copy of the bible says we're supposed to love everyone" and then went on the radio and explained how he specifically wanted to write a song about that day that "wasn't vengeful". Miranda Lambert took the southern leftist slogan "y'all means all" and made it the title of a corny ass pop-country song for the Queer Eye soundtrack. Kenny Chesney stole a horse from a cop and Tim McGraw put the cop in a chokehold defending him, and I know that's not about their music but it is, and this is very important, fucking sick as hell

it's fine if you only listen to female country artists or pre-1990 country artists or whatever the fuck you want but stop acting like you've cracked the secret code to dividing a whole genre of art into good pure anti-establishment folk songs vs bad corrupted right-wing sellout pulp

dragon-in-a-fez

updating this post for 2025:

Luke Combs covering Fast Car and keeping the line "I work in the market as a checkout girl" and doing an interview about how he couldn't change a single word because it's not his story. king shit

Morgan Wallen doing I Had Some Help, literally the first song that spoke to me as a male survivor of domestic abuse. also shoutout to the guy for getting caught saying a racial slur and responding by specifically telling his fans not to defend him and raising a bunch of money for the Black Music Action Coalition. bro had an engraved invitation to the culture war and said "nah I'd rather be normal"

Shaboozey just absolutely obliterating the drunk roadhouse anthem glass ceiling

Maren Morris and Brothers Osborne with a song that okay, released in 2019 but I didn't hear until recently, about how good friends mind their own business and let you love whoever you want and also get high with you when you're broke

Kimberley Perry! If I Die Young Part 2!! "actually I'm glad I lived, bitch" ass song that I bet is gonna mean a LOT to kids fighting depression

Kelsea Ballerini and Noah Kahan with Cowboys Cry Too. okay it's shallow and corny but genuinely a shallow and corny song about how men shouldn't be afraid to have feelings is what a lot of men need

dragon-in-a-fez

bringing the full version of this post back around because people are pissing me off today

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cens105

I'm gonna say why I admire Hudson so much and why I think he's really brave. Because let's be honest, he was given a character - Shane Hollander - who is a prime example of how a white woman from yaoi kingdom writes an "exotic bottom boy character" conforming to all the Asian, feminized bottom stereotypes without giving any consideration to the racial representation.

Shane looks "pretty", his exotic looks are constantly mentioned, his body is hairless, he's smaller than his big sexy Russian top, he's on the autistic spectrum, he's ranked low in the biggest dicks list of the GCU, he's a strict bottom, he's got a tiger mom... and his race only affects his look, but not his inner world or his struggles.

I think for a more insecure actor, playing such a character would be basically a career suicide - forever being locked into the "little Asian bottom" box.

But Hudson did something amazing with Shane. Shane in the TV show is masculine in really appealing way (soft and kind, but also firm and assertive), he radiates an easy physical strength that's not inferior to the top, he's a jock, but like a smart one who shines with his love of the game, he's autistic but not a caricature, he's unapologetic about his sexual preference once he figures it out, he goes down on his knees or crawls on the bed like he's acing a challenge thrown in his face.

And Hudson goes around crassly hyping and glamorizing being a bottom, taking up space, refusing to feel shame or be embarrassed about Shane. At the same time, with his wacky, shameless humour, he also shows himself being polite, caring, considerate, charming - never as a subservience, but as a confident embodiment of non-toxic masculinity.

I'm truly at awe how he took this racial stereotype, took control of the characterisation, took control of the narrative, the discourse and elevated both Shane Hollander as a character, and Hudson Williams as an actor, who is not merely the next prince of Wasia, desirable for his looks, but someone who is charismatic, worth listening to and capable of representing more than just his race or heritage. Someone universal - with appeal for the queer community, for all people with no-filter ADHD chaos, for people valuing decency and kindness.

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theknightlywolfe

When the CEO of the company that didn't turn away Nazi business says "this isn't going to work" you know it's bad.

unrelatedwaffle

404 has been knocking it out of the park since they started. Please support their original reporting on this! If you subscribe to nothing else I highly recommend them. Their podcast is great too.

Planning documents for "Scout" say the plan is to "make people addicted" to the tool before adding new features.

#jei reblogs stuff #oh? so the AI we said we didn't need turns out to be unnecessary to the point of companies having to force addiction to make it profitable?#COLOR ME ENTIRELY UNSURPRISED

hollandar

Hudson Williams, #1 Shane Understander

I think Shane was a character who, soon as I read him, made all the sense to me. I felt immediately a kinship and an ownership over Shane. I was like, “I need to be the only person to tell this story. I get it. I want to be the person to be Shane and I want to spend time with him.” [x]

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