Lost the battle, win the war!

My name is Juliana, I'm 20 and I love music and animals the most. I have two cats Jumper and Nala (R.I.P Kuschel the rabbit)

[deprosin]

“i always fall for people who cannot fall for me.”

— it’s my fault

[painandcats]

Want to go on a date with someone with a cane and chronic pain?

- Make sure the place where you’re going is accessible!  Your date might opt to use a wheelchair that day, and if they’re using a cane, best to make sure there aren’t a silly number of stairs involved in whatever date you’re considering.

- Call ahead to the place to see if wheelchairs are available to borrow if you’re going somewhere that involves a lot of walking and standing around, like a museum.

- If your date is using a cane, they likely only have one arm to hold things.  Consider bringing their food/drinks to the table along with yours– let them claim a booth while you get the food!

- Be prepared and willing to be someone’s physical support sometimes, especially if your date is having a rough leg day.

- Be prepared for a Plan B Date: it’s so awesome to have a back-up plan for the date if the day comes around and your person is spoonless.  Believe me, it’ll mean a lot.

[voidbat]

i just really want to add some from my own experience:

ask yourself, really ask yourself if you’re fine with plans being cancelled at the last second, cancelled mid-event, and for plans to often be “come over to my house and lump on the couch with me” - if you aren’t? don’t date somebody with chronic pain/fatigue. especially if you will take that sort of thing personally and/or hold it against the person. if you date me, you date my disabilities. i have to deal with them, so do you.

if you are grocery shopping with someone who uses a mobility aid like a cane or rollator, and that person is pushing the cart? DO. NOT. MOVE. THE CART. while they are using the cart, it is taking the place of their normal mobility aid and moving it is like moving their leg. DON’T DO IT. i have fallen in grocery stores more times than i want to think about due to an ex who couldn’t get it through his head that THIS IS MY CANE RIGHT NOW and would just grab the basket and drag it somewhere.

if your date says “no, it’s fine, i’ve got it” when you try to do something? let them. just let them. my disabilities takes so much away from me, the things i can actually do are things i am proud of. it makes me feel better to be able to do things for myself. i detest nothing more than an able-bodied person INSISTING on doing something that i can do myself, even though i’ve said multiple times that i’d prefer to do it myself. it says volumes on what that person really thinks of my abilities as a functional human, none of them positive. i get that you’re trying to help, but i promise, taking away what autonomy we do have? not helpful.

learn to tell your date beforehand what the date will entail. learn to look for the things your date would need to know. i had an ex that never factored in things like “walking half a mile” or “it’s a three story walkup with no elevator” because those things were no problem for him. i, on the other hand, would arrive at the destination crying from pain and unable to enjoy a damn thing - and exhausted in advance by knowing i’d have to repeat the journey just to get back home. don’t be afraid to ask your date what things they need to have taken into consideration. ask what accessibility options are necessary for them when it comes to cane/wheelchair access, how much access there is to regular seating, how much walking will happen, how many stairs there are. if you go to a movie and the only parking is way in the back, ask if they’d rather you drop them up front while you get a spot - because sometimes traversing a large parking lot is the difference between watching a movie and sleeping through it, or being too distracted by pain to follow it. by and large, we know our limitations and it means the world to have someone say “hey i want to take you to this exhibit, i think you’d really enjoy it! there’s several stairs to the entrance and the wheelchair ramp is kind of obnoxiously far away, so it’s either a bunch of walking or deal with stairs to get in there, but once you’re inside there’s a lot of comfortable benches and not a whole lot of walking.” because they thought about how you navigate the environment. 

if your date is using a rollator or wheelchair, make sure your car (or whatever form of transportation you are going to be using) has space to put it. don’t ask me out to the renaissance faire and then show up in a CRX and look confused when i say my rollator can’t go in that so i’ve gotta stay home.

BE. PATIENT. this shit is unpleasant enough for us already, the last thing any of us need in our lives is another able-bodied asshole making us feel like burdens. we can’t do everything as quickly or as easily or sometimes at all. sometimes we need your help. sometimes we have to cancel plans. even big plans. even big expensive plans. it’s no fun for us either. sometimes we have to back out of shit halfway through because our bodies have absolutely hit the wall and have failed us. i’ve had to abandon a cart full of groceries before and sleep in my car before i could even manage to drive home because my body just gave the fuck out with no warning. can you imagine? just for a second? imagine being young enough to still get carded for booze and your body literally collapses and you have to almost crawl to your car, sitting in the middle of the floor several times on the way. don’t get frustrated with us, we’re doing our best. it’s just harder than you can imagine.

[dtsguru]

Also remember just because the cane isn’t there doesn’t mean the disability isn’t there. All of these points are still relevant. Be aware. Be considerate.

[achel-ois]

I want everyone to see this

[cephalophor]

[knightsideman]

Why are Lesbians like this ? .Do they take pleasure in attacking everything sacred ? .Or just love sexualizing those that take vows of Chastity ? .

[cephalophor]

.... Nunneries, specially during the renaissance were a safe heaven for a lot of lesbians or women who didn't want to marry... So this is a historically based joke you dumb bitch

[calcinator]

Seems a bit unfair to single out the funny ladies making a joke on tiktok for sexualizing nuns when porn and the spirit halloween store exist. 

[weavemama]

SHE IS A TRUE HERO 

[fluffy-luffy]

No, she’s a bitch is what she is

[weavemama]

what do u mean???? it was clearly an accident she even said “Oooppsss”

[blackmodel]

LMFAOOOO

[reducedrose]

Look, rather than being petty and destroying it, why not talk to the girl. Really ask them why they are using the confederate flag. But no, low level terrorism is the answer.

[peppylilspitfuck]

LOW LEVEL TERRORISM?

[capacity]

Low level terrorism

[wereralph]

ICONIC

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[sensiblereblogifposts]

Reblog if you’re  a joyless communist

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Buy Tony’s Chocolonely Slave-free Chocolate. Fuck Nestle.

[aimmyarrowshigh]

There’s a whole movement of ethical, slave-free chocolate companies, and the advocates who work to track the legal battle to make ALL chocolate slave-free, worldwide, at http://www.slavefreechocolate.org

You can see the current (2020) list of slave-free chocolate companies on their website at http://www.slavefreechocolate.org/ethical-chocolate-companies, or below if you don’t click links:

Aloha Feels Chocolate  

Alma Chocolate            

Alter Eco Chocolate

Amano Chocolate        

Askinoise Chocolate    

The Beach Chocolate Factory

Belicious                        

Black Mountain Chocolate

Cacaoteca

Cacao Medium

Caribeans Chocolate

Castronovo Chocolate      

Choquiero Chocolate      

ChoCoaque Chocolates

Chocolate and Love

Chocolate Cartel              

Chocolat Celeste

Chocolate Tree  

Chocolate Troubadour      

Choconat        

COCO Chocolate    

Compartes Chocolates      

Dandelion Chocolate        

Dark Forest Chocolate      

Denman Island Chocolate

Dick Taylor Craft Chocolate  

Diego’s Chocolate              

Divine Chocolate Co.        

Eating Evolved                  

Eat Your Hat        

Eclipse Chocolate                

El Ceibo                            

The Endangered Species    

Endorfin Foods                  

Enliven Cocoa                    

ENNA Chocolate                

Equal Exchange                  

Fairafric            

Fine and Raw Chocolate    

Fire Fly Chocolate                  

Forever Cocoa          

Fresco Chocolate            

Fruition Chocolate          

Gayleen’s Decadence    

GEPA Chocolate          

Giddy Yo Yo                  

Grenada Chocolate Company  

Grocer’s Daughter Chocolate

Guittard                            

Habitual Chocolate    

Hilo Shark Chocolate    

HNINA Gourmet            

Hogarth Chocolate  

Honest  Chocolate  

Hooray  Tuffles        

Indi Chocolate      

L.A. Burdick Chocolates

La Iguana Chocolate  

La Siembra Cooperative  

Lillie Belle Farms          

Madecasse                

Maverick Chocolate Company

Mayan Monkey    

Mayordomo        

Mexican Arabica Bean Company-Wholesale            

Mia Chocolate        

Montezuma’s Chocolates  

Nayah Amazon Chocolates  

Neary Nógs              

Newman’s Own Organics  

PARRÉ Chocolat          

Pasha Chocolate        

Purdy’s Chocolate      

Omanahene Cocoa Bean Company

Ombar                        

OpuLux Fair Trade Chocolate

Original Hawaiian Chocolate

Parliament Chocolate            

Montevérgine                

Patric Chocolate                

Plamil Organic Chocolate  

Potomac Chocolate            

Pure Lovin’ Chocolate        

Raaka Chocolate                  

Rain Republic                  

Rapunzel Pure Organics  

Ritual Chocolate              

River Seas Chocolate      

Samaritan Xocolata      

Sappho Chocolates            

Seed & Bean Chocolate        

Shaman Chocolates            

Sibú Chocolate            

Solkiki Chocolate         

 Sweet Impact Chocolate    

Taza Chocolate                  

Terra Nostra Organic        

Terroir Chocolate                

TCHO                                

The Xocolate Bar                

Theo Chocolate                  

The Original Chocolate Bar

Tobago Estate Chocolate  

TONY’S CHOCOLONELY 

Truffle Pig Chocolates    

Twenty-Four Blackbirds Chocolate

Valrhona Chocolate

Videri Chocolate Factory

Viva Cacao   Can

Vivani Chocolate        

Vosges                      

Wei of Chocolate      

Xocolatl Chocolate  

Zaks Chocolate        

Zotter   

Nestle’s net worth as of today is 10.46 BILLION dollars.

The largest, most prosperous of these slave-free chocolate companies (Vosges, which is also a female-owned corp if that matters to you!) is worth… $100 million.

That means that Nestle has $10,360,000,000 more dollars with which to pay its employees, INCLUDING AND ESPECIALLY the cacao farmers who are the backbone of their entire industry.

If all of these companies worth LITERAL BILLIONS OF DOLLARS less than Nestle can afford to be slave-free, so can fucking Nestle.

[trash-kidt]

yooooo

[beowulf22121]

For anyone who scrolled past that list, I literally saw “ Sappho Chocolates” on the list. Go out into the world and support good companies.

[thepersonalhermit]

Time to start buying from these chocolate companies.

[backdoorteenmom]

[hussyknee]

I love how they left out the part about them giving out the lesbian couple’s personal information to send them death threats, running them out of their home, and encouraging other fundies to petition to have their children taken away. **examines fingernails**

Also the fact that they raised half million dollars from other raging homophobes to fund this bigotry. I hope the dickholes lose the shirts off their backs and have to live out of a van. But that’s too much to hope for.

[lesbianredhood]

I just wanna add that the lesbian couple were getting married because their mutual friend had just died of cancer and they were adopting her two daughters… and that the death threats were so bad that they had to quit their jobs and move. it’s never just about a cake. it’s about the precedent you set when you allow ppl to discriminate. it’s about all the disgusting bigots that crawl out of the woodwork when they feel like they have the right to hate.

[rritchiearts]

Check this comic and others out on Everyday Feminism!

Transcripts of the comic available at the above link.

Webcomic | Twitter | Patreon | Prints

[rosalarian]

Be aware of your Pride and what exactly it is you’re proud of and who you’re throwing under the bus to get that pride.

[evil-bisexual]

Love this minus the “It’s almost like he’s not LGBT at all”

[castironjackelope]

That’s the point though- it’s calling out assimilationism and respectability politics and how the mainstream gay rights movement panders to cishet expectations while throwing the rest of us under the bus.

[evil-bisexual]

Ok, I get it now, thanks

[apersnicketylemon]

Pedophilia is bad should not be a radical statement.

[apersnicketylemon]

No really, please reblog this if you can, because this site in general, but fandom spaces especially bad for this, to the point where people are genuinely afraid of harassment they may face for saying ‘Pedophilia is a bad thing and you probably should not encourage it’ or for calling it what it is. Fandom spaces are also especially bad for screaming about how it’s ‘just fiction’ when we know damn well that fiction impacts reality.

[apersnicketylemon]

In case anyone feels like continuing to argue this post, I have multiple real actual pedophiles telling me to ‘deal with’ their attraction to children and being allowed to produce content with it for said children to read so like, this is a serious problem.

I mean you can find them in the notes. Real pedo’s are comfortable in fandom spaces because they know y’all will defend them now with ‘but that’s just fictional, they would never do it in real life!!’

[4kemisan-deactivated20231019]

@ anyone who excuses pedophilia in any way: Get the fuck off my blog, you’re disgusting and you’re not welcome here.

[cryptidcursed]

🌙🌟 Some ways for (closeted) mtf girls to feel more feminine 🌼🌸

- do that criss-cross arm thing when you take off your shirt

- clear nail polish!!

- take a bubble bath(if you can lock the door) and bring some candles

- paint your toenails! (and keep socks on to hide)

- or if you use the cheap brand nailpolish, it’ll come off easily

- peel off basecoats anyone??

- shave and take care of your feet(after all no one will see them or take notice)

- look in the mirror and pick out your favorite/most fem features of yourself

- remember that you don’t have to come out until you’re ready

- lip gloss/lip balm

- wrap the towel over chest when you get out of the shower

- skincare!! (wash your face in the shower or at night before bed)

- lip sync to Brittany or Beyoncé (lol)

- shave those pubes b

- get those black hair clips (for dark hair) and they should be invisible

- remember that you’re a girl no matter if you’ve come out or not. No matter if you think you look feminine or not. You’re 100% valid and feminine just by identifying as a girl/woman.

- you’re beautiful and don’t forget to tell yourself this every day(even on the hardest days)⭐

You will get through this. You’re not alone. It gets better! 🌞🙋👭👭👭❤💜

(if anyone has anything else to add on, feel free to!!)

[earl--of--phantomhive]

One day I’d love to see a movie coming out with a plus sized main character and the plot of the movie isn’t centered or making snide remarks about their weight. Fuck the whole “Most girls have trouble with school but Jenny’s issues are a lot ‘bigger’ than she expected’ bullshit. Give me the good “In a race against time, one person has the power to save the world...or end it.” plot where the main character just happens to be bigger. No big romantic moments where a guy loves them ‘despite their size’ or where there are constant mentions of their weight. No more comedic relief over their size, give me the bad ass main characters that don’t give a fuck what people think of how they look and loves themselves. Give me the main character I needed to see as a plus sized child.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[odinsblog]

[whatwhiteswillneverknow]

17 year old Kyle Rittenhouse-Lewis’ mom Wendy drove him and his AR-15 rifle from Antioch, IL to Kenosha WI to “defend” businesses that he does not own from riots. 

He ended up shooting 3 people, 2 died and 1 lost his arm. Since some people are always quick to pull up shooting victims prior criminal history in order to justify their ill fate, I thought I’d post the shooters instead. His prior criminal history, 

In 2018, he has a charge for disobeying officers.

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR CLASS A

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. A

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 941.20(1)(B)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: OPERATE FIREARM WHILE INTOXICATED

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NOT GUILTY

Disposition: CHARGE DISMISSED BUT READ IN

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

DISORDERLY CONDUCT

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR CLASS B

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. B

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 947.01(1)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: DISORDERLY CONDUCT

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NO CONTEST

Disposition: GUILTY DUE TO NO CONTEST PLEA

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

POSSESSION OF THC\

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. U

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 961.41(3G)(E)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: POSSESSION OF THC

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NOT GUILTY

Disposition: CHARGE DISMISSED BUT READ IN

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

POSSESS DRUG PARAPHERNALIA

Case Number: 2016CM000410

Case Type: MISDEMEANOR

Classification: MISDEMEANOR

Counts: 1

Crime Type: MISDEMEANOR

Degree Of Offense: MISD. U

Crime County: ROCK

Offense Code: 961.573(1)

Offense Date: 01/29/2016

Offense Description: POSSESS DRUG PARAPHERNALIA

Charges Filed Date: 03/01/2016

County: ROCK

Plea: NOT GUILTY

Disposition: CHARGE DISMISSED BUT READ IN

Disposition Date: 10/04/2016

Status: CLOSED

FAILURE TO OBEY TRAFFIC OFFICE…

Case Number: 2018TR011432

Classification: FORFEITURE U

Counts: 1

Offense Code: 346.04(2)

Offense Date: 08/09/2018

Offense Description: FAILURE TO OBEY TRAFFIC OFFICER/SIGNAL

Charges Filed Date: 08/13/2018

Plea: NO CONTEST

Disposition: GUILTY DUE TO NO CONTEST PLEA

Disposition Date: 09/18/20

White Supremacist would be quick to state that he’s a drug addict and a criminal IF he was a POC. They would say he deserves everything that happened to him. Instead they’re calling him a “patriot” and started a GoFundMe account for his legal fees.

[if-i-was-a-wyrm]

do you have sources?

[whatwhiteswillneverknow]

I don’t have the original source since it’s been reposted on Facebook a lot.

But here’s a reuters report that echoed this post.

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-global-race-usa-rittenhouse-idUSKBN25N382

[bodhishadow]

They should charge the mother with aiding and abetting murder.   If she hadn’t of drove him maybe those two people would be alive today, and the third one would still have both arms.

Choices have consequences.  

[blackfemmejeanvaljean]

she needs to be held accountable for getting a 17 year old a gun

[ruinedchildhood]

“I want you to be my mommy.” - Beyoncé Reacts as Adele Accepts Record of The Year

[queerautism]

On the topic of English people being shitheads towards Welsh people - This fucking dude today on AITA

[queerautism]

Yeah pretty sure we’re all hoping for a divorce on this one lol

[female-twink-deactivated2021032]

how did this fucker say it’s “not as bad as it sounds” and then somehow end up being even worse than it sounds by the fourth sentence

[zeldahime]

[stuttermaple]

That’s what we call growth.

[wreckitremy]

Omg, a man actually agreed to go to therapy.

Internet, you did good.

[damianimated]

Pride was always a protest.

[damianimated]

Here is a list of Black-led LGBTQ community organizations you can donate to, compiled by pfpicardi and RaquelWillis_:

Snapco - Builds power of Black trans and queer people to force systemic divestment from the prison industrial complex and invest in community support.

Black AIDS Institute - Working to end the Black HIV epidemic through policy, advocacy, and high-quality direct HIV services.

Trans Cultural District - The world’s first-ever legally recognized trans district, which aims to stabilize and economically empower the trans community.

LGBTQ+ Freedom Fund - Posts bail for LGBTQ+ people held in jail or immigrant detention and raises awareness of the epidemic of LGBTQ overincarceration.

House of GG - Creating safe and transformative spaces for community to heal, and nurturing them into tomorrow’s leaders, focusing on trans women of color in the South.

Trans Justice Funding Project - Community-led funding initiative to support grassroots trans justice groups run by and for trans people.

The Okra Project - Collective that seeks to address the global crisis faced by Black trans people by bringing home-cooked meals and resources to the community.

Youth Breakout - Works to end the criminalization of LGBTQ youth in New Orleans to build a safer and more just community.