ace-probleme

[shmaroace-deactivated20241124]

"i still love even though i'm aromantic" and "i don't experience love because i'm aromantic" are two things that can and absolutely should exist

[trash-and-trash-accessories]

I know SEVERAL afab nonbinary people who, as soon as they came out as nonbinary - immediately began dressing in ridiculous hyper-femme outfits they never would have worn before.  A lot of people see this and say shit like “Theyfab” or say they are only nonbinary for attention.  After all, look how femme they are.

But to me, this makes perfect sense.  When you are forced into the category of “woman” against your will, femininity is a chore.  It’s a job that you have.  As soon as you say no, I’m not a woman, suddenly femininity isn’t your job anymore.  It’s not a requirement.  It’s just a fun hobby you can get into.  Or a little treat sometimes.

[pjharvey-moved-deactivated20250]

people need to accept that some gay/lgbt people are terrible and some gay/lgbt people are boring and it doesnt make them Actually Straight or anything

[pjharvey-moved-deactivated20250]

big pet peeve of mine is gay internet users talking about ellen degeneres and pete buttigieg and acting like they’re “basically straight” as if both these people aren’t literally married to someone of the same sex sleeping in the same bed with them and having gay sex with their gay spouses and as if ellen degeneres coming out wasn’t such a huge moment in the lesbian community and pop culture as a whole that the biggest lesbian website for decades after that was called afterellen like unfortunately being gay doesn’t make you immune to being friends with war criminals.

[cazort]

this message belongs on my blog more than once for the simple fact that not enough people have seen it and let it sink in really deeply

[theconcealedweapon]

[queeranarchism]

& that 1% regret rate is almost entirely “Yes I’m still trans but the surgery was bad, or the transphobia i encounter is so much worse than anticipated, or I was pushed towards a specific treatment by my binary-oriented doctor when I wanted a non-binary transition” etc.

Actual ‘whoops, I don’t identify as trans anymore” cases are closer to 0,02%.

[earhartsease]

people absolutely get to detransition and retransition and whatever (I personally know about six people who "detransitioned" from being binary trans people, and then transitioned again later as nonbinary people, for example) but the idea that a small number of people going "oops got this wrong" somehow justifies gatekeeping everyone else is criminal, and mostly a deliberate ploy to block us from getting what we need

[thetoadcrow]

tired of mfs asking invasive questions about your top surgery scars when you wanna go for a swim or just dont feel like wearing a shirt? here's some responses you can use!

"why do you have scars on your chest" "shark attack"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "my cat doesnt like me very much"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "the gods tried to take my lungs but dw i managed"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "bees"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "i worked in retail"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "those are actually my second and third mouths, they usually remove them at birth but my parents couldn't afford it"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "i fell"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "i said something controversial on twitter and the 15 year olds found out where i lived and attacked me"

"why do you have scars on your chest" *look down look back up and start screaming*

"why do you have scars on your chest" "haha oh yeah I tried to steal my brother's food when we were kids"

"why do you have scars on your chest" "I fought in the Trojan war along side the great Achilles and since then I bare these scars, I am honored to have participated in such a milestone for human kind and I am forever grateful for making it out alive, the men I fought with were great worriers and I'm sad their lives were cut so short... *start tearing up a little bit* I'm sorry for being emotional.. these scars bring me great sorrow from the memories of my fallen friends and comrades..."

"why do you have scars on your chest" "the New York city rats got me."

"why do you have scars on your chest" "i ran with scissors"

those are just a few examples, feel free to add your own if you like :)

Edit: since people keep asking, yes you can use these for scars that aren't top surgery related, an invasive question is an invasive question no matter how you got the scar

[oldmanfuckerbrigade]

Auditory Processing Disorder shite cuz people don’t talk about it enough rip

* Getting frustrating when people don’t warn me before they talk so I can “turn on” my hearing. 

* Needing subtitles on movies and tv shows, not because I can’t hear it but because I can’t understand what they’re saying

* Hearing in perfect clarity what the teacher next door is saying and not a thing of what the kid I’m talking with is saying.

* Losing all concept of how to decipher language when more than one sound is playing

* Feeling like a dick for asking people with accents to repeat themselves so much (guys pls i swear im not racist i just have a hard time with speech guys pls-)

* Looking at people’s mouths when they talk, not because I can read lips or anything but because it just helps me figure out what someone is probably saying.

i hope this makes some modicum of sense kalsjdfakojwhepo

[greenteaandtattoos]

* learning to read body language because when I can’t process what they’re saying, (I can hear them talking but my brain doesn’t register it) I can usually get a general read on how they’re feeling and go from there

[lgballt]

*Happy Ace Dance* 💜♠️ We have been together ever since then                         

lgballt

[lgballt]

What bathroom should I use? (Idk, I just thought it was kind of a good idea for some people)

lgballt

[techtvhottie]

[k-lionheart-deactivated20171126]

oh

[virgilssweaterpaws-blog]

This will make sense I promise.

[cherymoon330-deactivated2021032]

lemme just

[techtvhottie]

[k-lionheart-deactivated20171126]

really? You’re going to post something like this with no explanation like WHERE IS THE REST OF HIM???????????

[virgilssweaterpaws-blog]

He’s just hanging out 😂

[cherymoon330-deactivated2021032]

there we go

[eliasericson]

Comic about trans men in the health care system I made for magazine Ottar last autumn! Please note that it presents a Swedish perspective unless stated otherwise, as it is mostly based on Swedish studies. I would however argue that it has implications on the state of healthcare for trans people in other places as well. Thank you so much Hedvig for translating this!

[silver-ink-iron-words]

Before the villain kidnapped them, the hero would have told you that they loved their power.

Their friends joked that they literally had the power of friendship. And, in a way, it wasn’t far off. Social interaction charged the hero. It fueled their abilities, but also made them feel strong. Energized. Alive.

Before, their life had been an excess of parties, festivals, and pub nights. They had the uncanny ability to form fast and meaningful friendships with almost anyone they came across. They were at the center of a thriving ecosystem of connection, and loving every second of it.

But now, it had been months since they’d last seen a single living soul other than the villain.

When is [Villain] coming back? they wondered.

They’d stopped being embarrassed by such thoughts a long time ago. The solitude ached in their bones, weighed down their limbs. They were half convinced it was slowly killing them.

They heard the front door open, and perked up.

“[Hero], I’m hoooome,” the villain called.

There was still a part of the hero that burned whenever they heard that voice. It was this part of them that kept them awake late into the night, imagining all the ways they could make the villain suffer.

But now. Now, they sprinted forward and wrapped the villain in a tight, desperate hug.

[freyfall]

a lesson on nonbinary individuals and why we feel the way we do about numerous basic things, such as the mere fact of our existence and our pronouns.

[smolanxiouscatvoids]

At first I thought this was about bisexuality whoops

[rainbowsnowflake]

I thought it was abt asexuality 🙈

[casmick-consequences]

[genzfanfix]

when you’re bi and enby 👾

[fiachdubh]

Some solidarity for bi/ace/nb

[silent-mindfulness]

[coffeedrgn87]

This is perfection! And so true.

[thehmn]

[rat2rrj]

Bruh this blew my other eyes clean open

[caddeter]

Image ID:  Two figures sit on a log having drinks.  One of them has their elbow on their knee, a mug in the other as they give a relaxed, straight face.  The other has their mug at their side, head in their hands as they lean forward with a more worried expression.

Worry: “I keep having these horrible thoughts.  I think I might be a bad person.”

Relax: “How Christian of you.”

Worry: “What is?”

Relax: “Thinking that your thoughts alone makes you a good or bad person.”

Relax: “Just don’t act on them and you’re fine.”

[the-haiku-bot]

Relax: “Thinking that

your thoughts alone makes you a

good or bad person.”

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[quousque]

I just saw the most Galaxy Brain gender take ever, from a cis man on reddit

[ID: a screenshot of a comment from reddit, with no username visible. The commend reads: This doesn’t make a ton of sense to me either. Setting aside the question of whether gender/sex is assigned or observed at birth, the gender I was assigned at birth was ‘boy.’ The gender I have now is ‘man’. Boys and men have different gender roles, and few adults identify as boys anymore. From this standpoint, every adult has a different gender than the one they had at birth. End ID]

Framing “girl” and “boy” as separate genders from “woman” and “man” is such an amazing take. it’s a framework that accommodates and explains so many trans experiences. Some trans people never were their AGAB. Some feel like they were their AGAB, but that that changed (usually when puberty hits, which is when you start “becoming a man/woman”. The accepted societal path is that girls grow up to into women, and boys grow up into men. But some girls grow up into men, and some boys grow up into women. This guy was a boy who grew up into a man, which generally works out pretty well for people. Some boys and girls grow up into people who aren’t men or women, even! It’s like this random cis guy skipped right over transgender 101, 102, 201, etc. and stumbled directly into Transgender Nirvana.

[mx-t4t0]

asexual heteromantic cis people 💜🤍🌑🖤 heterosexual aromantic cis people 💚🌵🤍🌑🖤 heterosexual heteromantic agender people 🖤🌑🤍🌵🤍🌑🖤 asexual aromantic cis people 🪐🍯🤍💧💙 asexual heteromantic agender people 🖤🌑🤍🌵🤍🌑💜 heterosexual aromantic agender people 💚🍃🌵🤍🌵🤍💿🌑🖤 asexual aromantic agender people 🖤💚🤍🌵🤍💜🖤

y'all are important to this community and you're amazing ❤🧡💛💚💙💜