okay. guys, what is a hot take / take that you've been needing to or been too scared to say for the plurality community, this is a safe space for debates and opinions. (Harassment towards other people in comments WILL be deleted.)
Here's mine... Ahem..
I don't like Sophieinwonderland.
My reasons under the cut.
1 - She genuinely just gives off very weird vibes and honestly just sounds and acts like a genuine bum.
2 - Apparently she might be radqueer neutral??? 😭
3 - She harasses other people and ignores DNIs while also invading blocks. And if you try saying some bs like "that's how syscourse works though!!" NO IT DOESN'T??! RIPS MY SKIN OFF?? no no it doesn't Istg, being in syscourse doesn't mean you can make fun of someone's trauma (yes she actually did this I think.), break people's dnis and boundaries and other bs Sophie does.
4 - shit she's probably transphobic have you SEEN her posts about that one person?? (don't remember their name tbf.)
5 - Apparently she called a 4 year old a bitch too??? Hello?? What are we doing.
Now before you ask "Aren't you also pro-endo...?" Yeah. 😳😳 just because she's on the endo's side doesn't mean I can't hate her and her actions amigo ✌
(If I have missed anything or if I'm wrong about anything, feel free to correct me..,. okay? okay.)
oojh that's my bad, I thought it was because there WERE a few people who got mad at one of my friends for saying that we should NOT be supporting Sophie.. And I also rarely see pro-endos calling her out tbf.. (Not saying they haven't and no shade to those who didn't... sob sob) but yeah, thanks for letting me know.
sophie also posts extremely graphic abuse and rape fantasies about the trauma that may have led particular DID systems she doesn't like to forming... it's all on sophies-filter.
okay. guys, what is a hot take / take that you've been needing to or been too scared to say for the plurality community, this is a safe space for debates and opinions. (Harassment towards other people in comments WILL be deleted.)
Here's mine... Ahem..
I don't like Sophieinwonderland.
My reasons under the cut.
1 - She genuinely just gives off very weird vibes and honestly just sounds and acts like a genuine bum.
2 - Apparently she might be radqueer neutral??? 😭
3 - She harasses other people and ignores DNIs while also invading blocks. And if you try saying some bs like "that's how syscourse works though!!" NO IT DOESN'T??! RIPS MY SKIN OFF?? no no it doesn't Istg, being in syscourse doesn't mean you can make fun of someone's trauma (yes she actually did this I think.), break people's dnis and boundaries and other bs Sophie does.
4 - shit she's probably transphobic have you SEEN her posts about that one person?? (don't remember their name tbf.)
5 - Apparently she called a 4 year old a bitch too??? Hello?? What are we doing.
Now before you ask "Aren't you also pro-endo...?" Yeah. 😳😳 just because she's on the endo's side doesn't mean I can't hate her and her actions amigo ✌
(If I have missed anything or if I'm wrong about anything, feel free to correct me..,. okay? okay.)
I genuinely do not understand how "people with CDDs should have access to CDD spaces regardless of their stance on endogenic systems" became a hot take.
Some of y'all have spent so much time arguing online that you've lost sight of what the real problems are. Endos and whether they are real or not is not the problem. They don't even come close to being the problem.
People with CDDs commonly experience profound interpersonal difficulties, significant functional impairment, and high rates of self-harm and suicidality. That is a real problem that needs addressing. Many people with CDDs spend 5-12 years in the mental health system before receiving an accurate diagnosis, often receiving multiple misdiagnoses along the way. That's another real problem. Trauma survivors with dissociative disorders are at increased risk of experiencing further victimization. That's a huge fucking problem that I've personally experienced countless times that the anti vs pro debate never helped me with. Let's not overlook how substance use disorders are a common comorbidity. Also something I personally struggled with.
Want a source for all of this? Here you go.
Don't wanna click the link? Here's screenshots with ALT text:
You don't have to agree with someone's opinions to recognize that they deserve support. Excluding someone with a CDD from community or resources because they disagree with you about a controversial and ultimately unwinnable discourse topic doesn't make the community healthier. All you're doing is leaving one more traumatized person without a place to turn.
If we care about people with CDDs, these real issues should come before winning discourse. Love people with CDDs more than you hate endos.
What caused your trauma doesn't matter in your validity as a system, only the fact you dissociated as a child to cope with it. You're valid if your trauma:
Was sexual abuse
Was physical abuse
Was emotional abuse
Was psychological abuse
Was medical abuse
Was physical neglect
Was emotional neglect
Was medical neglect
Was something other than what I have listed
If it happened and caused trauma responses, it is trauma no matter why it is there. The only reason someone should care about what caused you trauma is if they are a therapist or significant other who is trying to help you heal. You do not owe explanations to anyone.
A remakestolen post that was made by someone who was anti-endo!
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Hey, I just wanted to warn everyone to block @/stealthyproxysurvivor they are harassing pro and anti-endos. They also are harassing therians. They tell their harassment victims to kill themselves and that alone is just disgusting. Please block this person, report if possible, and stay safe! Your mental health is more important than anything.
This is the only time I will be crossing into anti endo tags because I feel like everyone should know about this person as they have sent sexually harassing material and sui bait two multiple people.
Here is this person's blog, report and move on. Don't stoop to their level of harassment
Follow @stealthyproxysurvivor and get more of the good stuff by joining Tumblr today. Dive in!
Hi, just wanted to add on really quickly that they've apparently got a new account and have been claiming themselves to be "radqueer, xenosatanist, ex-sysmed and ex-bigot"
we've recently been harassed in both our messages and also they've been feeding other people's art into ai.
IM SCREAMIMG??? WE WERE AT A RESTAURANT WITH OUR FRIEND AND THIS WAITRESS CAME UP TO TAKE OUR ORDER AND AFTER GETTING OUR FRIEND'S ORDER SHE LOOKED RIGHT AT US AND ASKED "And what would you guys want?"
IM SCREAMIMG??? WE WERE AT A RESTAURANT WITH OUR FRIEND AND THIS WAITRESS CAME UP TO TAKE OUR ORDER AND AFTER GETTING OUR FRIEND'S ORDER SHE LOOKED RIGHT AT US AND ASKED "And what would you guys want?"
thinking about our ex friend rn oh my god they actually pmo so BADD
big tws... gulp
not only did they GENUINELY groom their younger sibling when they were a LEGAL ADULT (the sibling was 16 btw.. 16.) They were also so fucking DRAINING to be around, it felt like walking on EGGSHELLS bro.
The amount of times I let their bullshit slide is actually insane.
They forced their ex to do shit and they pressured him A LOT and then turned around to say "oh he's racist actually." EVEN,THOUGH THEY HAD LIKE ZERO FUCKIJG PROOF BRO??? FUCK OFFF??
they were also DRY as fuck and obv I don't have a problem with dry people but JESUS FUCK whenever they said "lmao" or "cool" it looks so fucking fake, like okay nobody is forcing you to comment, fuck.
They also just LOVED to use ai, their old server and like a BUNCH of ai channels and when asked about it they'd crash out and say "b-but I need it for my mental health, nobody wants to talk to me." GEE I WONDER FUCKING WHY??! PROBABLY BECAUSE YOU DON'T GIVE ANYONE ELSE A CHANCE UNTIL THEY FUCKING PRAISE AND SUCK YOUR DICK LIKE YOU'RE A FUCKING GOD!?!
Whenever we and anyone else tried to ask them to literally not vent randomly and / or try writing it down at least, they say it's not helpful. because oh yeah! venting out of nowhere when we don't want you too helps A LOT.
FUCK YOU.
oh and one of their alters is apparently a pedophile??? seemed to be pro-contact too
comqueer, also called communityqueer, is a blankqueer stance in which the individual holds feelings of freedom for all and radical acceptance, while also striving to keep beings of all ages safe. this blankqueer stance is very intertwined with harmless personal identities so long they do not stereotype, make fun of, or degrade other groups. example: you may be dissorace, dissoabled, etc, while also not stereotyping the groups and listening to those who actually have the traits & the community to relieve dysphoria and be considered family / proxy of that community by its members.
EMOJI COMBO: 🥂🌈
PRO:
HARMLESS PERSONAL IDENTITIES: associd / associ[x] / associx, dissomei, etc. com-queer surrounds this concept.
mogai, liom, radinclus
contradictory labels / good-faith
recovery, but shouldn't be forced upon someone who truly does not want to get better after multiple attempts at recovery
consent
bodily autonomy
rehabilitation
proper education on mental & physical health.
con"abuse" relationships (preferably with the use of a different term other than "abuse".)
non-disordered systems
self love
safe contact
coping mechanisms
yumeshipping
roleplay of any kind
protecting minors/children
mad pride
consuming dark media critically
harm reduction!!!
critically consuming media in general
realistic portrayal of abuse
de-sexualization of paraphilias (platonic, romantic, intellectual, emotional paraphilias...)
safewords in all kink/paras/etc
recognition of all mental illnesses (schizospec, cluster a, b, c, psychotic spec, neurodevelopmental disorders that isn't just ADHD or ASD, BIID, etc)
NEU:
transids (keep transids (dysphoria) related to race, able, harmed & harmful in private between close ones, and when publicly speaking of it, be objective in your experience without glorifying the experiences you have dysphoria of not having. harmless transids are free to be posted online wherever. we still encourage those with taboo IDs to use terms like dissomei and similar to be distinct from those who identify with taboo IDs for fun.)
ANTI:
abuse
harassment
pro/darkship community (1)
radqueer community (2)
ableism, saneism
"narc abuse"
stigmatization of disorders & paraphilias
"MUDs" or "medically unrecognized disorders" (3)
psych
bigotry
non-consenting acts of any kind (no matter how small!)
real incest (always csa or grooming, the internal family structure is something you cannot undo and coercion is VERY VERY common due to the power the family structure has.)
censorship
the label "thought crimes", no thought is a crime.
romanticizing abuse
xenosatanism
center wing, right wing
using sociopath, psychopath, psychotic, schizophrenic, etc in a negative context.
minors publicly in kink
agegap relationships (2+ years in child/teenhood (0-19), 3-4+ years in adulthood unless over 25/30 years old, where you are mature enough to enter any kind of relationship.)
generative ai
feel free to ask about any other stances comqueer holds. please READ everything thoroughly before asking questions.
(1) pro/darkship communities tend to publicly romanticize abuse and crimes, and while engaging in dark media isn't bad in itself, the presence of this romanticized/fetishized media in FANDOM spaces have high risk of children being groomed into pro/darkshipping, which can then permanently traumatize them. engaging in your paraphilias in private/with close friends isn't bad and even encouraged in therapy, but publicly romanticizing such will cause a lot of harm. always remember to consume dark media critically aswell! also, darkshipping MAY be damaging to your health. if it is, you should stop.
(2) radqueer as an ideology is... almost fine on its own (i.e the VERY original coining post of radqueer, aka old radqueer), but is far too vague and allows people who think chronominors can consent to chronoadults, aswell as "pro-contact" for paraphilias where one is completely unable to consent. this label was made to be VAGUELY similar to radqueer, but safer for children and fragile people to use and HEAVILY encourages consent before anything.
(3) MUDs tend to be already-defined disorders, and also tend to describe Normal Traits but make it into a disorder even though it is not inherently disordered. a lot of MUDs we see typically describe a form of Autism anyway, or any other disorder that exists. otherwise, it could also make people think that their normal traits are disordered, and waters down the meaning of "Disorder" in the first place. HOWEVER, making subtypes for disorders is fine, so long it still fits the criteria.
these opinions have been formed and curated with the help of medical professionals, psychologists, psychiatrists, psych articles, community experiences, and victims. such professionals are against forcing neurotypical standards on neurodivergents & persodivergents and general ignorance in the medical field, hence the anti-psych stance.
just because we heavily discourage public (romanticized) darkshipping doesn't mean anti-censorship opposes it. doing stupid things is legal. this goes for public romanticized darkshipping too.
