Understand your thoughts Change your life

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When we are behind bars we loose opportunities and choices. Our decisions have impact on our lives, and those around us. Better decisions, better outcomes, to moment to free our thoughts.

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Core

Who we become is shaped by what we see and experience from those who raised us. What were their core values, where and how did they conduct themselves, we pick up on everything, simulating what we they do developing our core beliefs. When we have love and support growing up, we develop a strong core to rely on. When we face challenges we depend on our core strength to get us through. The first steps we took and walked across the room they screamed with joy building a core belief in ourselves that we can do it. 

When we have confidence we believe we can achieve the task at hand. If we are not coordinated we look silly weakening our core belief in ourselves and lowers our self esteem. The school system teaches us academics and if we didn’t excel, it “tells” our core we are not smart. We need to feel safe as children to have a strong core to fall back on otherwise we are scared. Exercise develops a strong core taking the weight off our backs and we have healthier lives. Our core runs the foundation of our lives, and it is helpful to know our core strengths and weaknesses. 

Take charge,

Help others,

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What we are told we hold close to our hearts forming opinions around what we hear and what they say. Our core belief in how we feel about ourselves shows up right in front of us in people, places and things. When we stop criticizing ourselves this starts building a stronger core belief that we are worth it unleashing peace and joy.

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Criticism

How we perform as children gives us feedback, how “well” we did at the task, and how did we “feel” about ourselves. When we face criticism it makes us doubt what we’re doing and can steer us off course. The more confidence and fortitude we have we can brush off all the criticism that comes when we try something new or practice a skill. There is so much criticism when we dress differently from our peers, and they want us to conform to fit in with the rest. Criticism will not stop us when love ourselves and have support when times are rough.

We will achieve what we set out after if we keep going and don’t get discouraged. When we practice a new skill and can’t be perfect, will the criticism keep us from trying it again. We need to learn how to take criticism so it doesn’t take us in a different direction. We can learn from the criticism others share if our egos don’t get in the way, everything has information to guide us. All people face criticism.

Brush it off,

Does it stop us,

Hard to take.

When we want to try something new, it takes all we have, to take the first step forward. Success comes from practicing over and over again and if we can take the criticism we will succeed. The better we feel about ourselves, it won’t destroy our belief we can do it when the criticism comes from those around us. When we face criticism, keep going, this creates peace and joy.

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Hard

When a task gets difficult it challenges our skills, endurance will determine the outcome. We start with a high level of energy until obstacles become distracting and its to hard to keep going. The people that support and share their love for us makes it easier to go through the hard times and is very important to be grateful for them. Endurance is key when it’s hard to make it until the end and it is beneficial to know ours. When we have high esteem and self worth we can achieve with confidence and we’re not so hard on ourselves when things don’t go as planned.

The more discipline and perseverance we have in our daily lives we will stay committed creating positive outcomes. Hard work is the way to succeed, not moaning and groaning about what we deserve. When we experience hard times we are the happiest when finding solutions to the problems. When we get hard nosed and stubborn this closes our world to opinions and ideas finding new ways to do things.

Never easy for anyone,

Train,

Stop whining.

When expectations don’t meet reality we get discouraged and give up. The hard part is when we lose steam and can’t find the strength to carry on. Passion makes it easier when it gets hard and creates the energy to achieve what we set out after. It’s not hard when we have peace and joy.

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We get caught in the fog, so best to slow down to see what's ahead and keep going till it clears.

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There are two ways to approach what we face, look at the bright side.

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Been

Everywhere we go we bring back what we experienced and make memories for a lifetime. What we’ve been through creates who we are and gives us insight to what we like and dislike. When we go through hard times we feel like we’ve been through hell and it tries our patience. What we’ve been doing reflects what’s in front of us and if we see something we don’t like we need to start to move in a new direction.

We get taught skills to be productive and have fruitful lives. The beautiful places we’ve been we remember fondly and can picture them when times are tough. We perpetuate what we learn and have been shown how to react, feel and love. When we’ve been burned by the people we love this makes it difficult to find love again and have meaningful relationships. We’ve been waiting for the right time to start and we fear taking that first step forward. What could have been the outcome if we knew something different about ourselves.

Don’t be lazy,

Make it good,

See it differently.

Looking back we can see clearly everything that happened and what we would do differently. What have we been up to, to move us in the direction we see for ourselves. When we’ve been the happiest is when we’re solving problems moving us towards peace and joy.

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Back

The past can haunt us or we can learn from the information it gives us to transform our lives. When we have self worth we can look back with confidence without criticizing ourselves. There are difficult situations that require hard decisions and we don’t want to look back with regret that we didn’t pick the right choice. When we go back in time and see what we could do differently, what can we learn, not to look at what we did wrong. 

When we feel loved and have a safe place to grow up it gives us a solid foundation to base our decisions from. We can go back and forth making it harder to get to where we are going. We reflect and think, “back in the good ole days” only creates resentment that it isn’t the same today. When we back ourselves up against the wall we feel the world is closing in on us and no where to turn. When we stop criticizing our decisions we can look back and know we made the right ones.

Learn from experience,

Be confident,

No regrets.

When we are wishy-washy it breeds discontent and people judge our decisions. There are better outcomes when we go back and forth with all our options on the table to see which one is the best choice. Look back to see what we did right and change what we see differently to create peace and joy.

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When we look at what's ahead remove the fear so we can see clearly to make the right choices.

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Beautiful

The sunset at the beach is so brilliantly colorful making a peaceful setting to see the wonder of the world. When we go on a hike the beautiful scenery takes us away from our daily lives calming us down to see more opportunities. The bride looked so beautiful going down the isle as we look upon her and smile. When someone does a kind act it makes them beautiful on the inside and builds hope. There are beautiful places in the world for us to discover, makes our dreams come alive. When we fall in love and experience happiness everything is beautiful.

When we are shown our strengths we build upon them and feel confident. We need to feel beautiful to have confidence and stay away criticizing who we are. When we clean the windows it becomes clear to see how beautiful it is outside. It gets ugly real fast when we can’t see how beautiful it really is all around us.

Be more,

Paint a picture,

See we open eyes.

What is happening around us is an indication of what we are producing and if we don’t like what we see it is time to start something new. When we paint a beautiful picture it creates hope for the future. Feel beautiful, smile to everyone we pass to spread peace and joy. 

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Hang on, be strong.

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Done

When we look back at what we’ve been through, we can find information to guide the future. When we are done with the test that got the “A” staying up all night studying for, we feel accomplished and pat ourselves on the back. The project that was so difficult to execute and did it well, when they tell us, “job well done”, we fill up with pride. When we have done our part, this moves us in a positive direction and people reciprocate.

If we look to the past to find answers to our questions, we can learn and grow. When we are done with the negative people bringing us down, we need to limit our contact with them. We have all done things we regret and it is better to learn then to keep criticizing ourselves. The betrayals we experience we’re done opening up our lives making us vulnerable and isolated. When we’re done trying from fear of failure, this is when we pick ourselves back up and try again. 

Look at accomplishments,

No frustration,

Look back with a smile.

The way to find happiness is finding solutions to our problems. If we don’t learn and explore, our minds are done discovering seeing no opportunity ahead. When all “is said and done”, know we did everything we could and kept going  uncovering peace and joy.

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Keep

When we start saving our favorite things we build up a collection and enjoy seeing it all around the house. We experience joy when someone shares their love and we keep this close to our hearts. We keep going even when times are tough providing evidence how strong we are. There is change happening all around us and we try to keep up with the times.  When we keep it together people look up to us and become role models. When we keep learning new things we fuel our minds to find the answers we seek.

People criticize us when we don’t fit the mold and we take this viewpoint  causing confusion. When we keep spinning what people say over and over, we start to believe what they told us. The difficult people we have to keep dealing with, we try to be patient until we explode and if we had better tools to fall back on we could learn to handle ourselves more effectively. There are problems that keep happening that could be solved if we feel “we are worth it”.

Persistence is key,

Do we criticize ourselves,

Always in a state of learning.

There are situations throughout our entire lives that makes us hold on tight with everything we’ve got. The rewards are big if we keep going through tough times and don’t get discouraged. When we keep training to become an expert is when we feel peace and joy

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Dislike

What makes us happy is easy to be around and we have no discontent. We don’t dislike someone when they are kind and they show gratitude for what we do. If we find what we love to do we won’t dislike getting up in the morning. When we want to be healthy we can’t dislike exercising and eating right.  When we find the love of our lives and are attracted by their good looks until we dislike their behavior changing our viewpoint. We go to school to see our friends for the social aspect and dislike all the homework from the classrooms.

We need to find what brings us joy, to have enough energy to accomplish what we set out after. If we dislike our careers we hate to go work making us negative. When we dislike our families it makes it difficult at holidays. We love to eat candy as children and dislike eating our vegetables. If our teacher dislikes our behavior we get scolded and told to go sit in the hallway. If we dislike ourselves we will never experience true happiness causing problems in relationships.

It shows what to move away from,

Be nice anyway,

Like kind.

It’s easy to be with people who share similar ideas and want the same things. If we dislike something, we need to look at what it is and why, there is information to learn from. When we dislike someone, be nice anyway to create peace and joy.

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When we wonder when, it’s now.

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Skill

The way we learn is from simulation and we repeat it until we succeed. We achieve a skill from repetition and need patience to keep practicing to become a master. If we are a great athlete people praise our skill watching our performance admiring our abilities. When we have a skill that we are naturally suited for, we can do it over and over again with ease. If we conquered a skill that was difficult to achieve we feel proud and accomplished. It takes skill to maneuver around what we face everyday.

If we don’t have discipline this makes it difficult to master anything we set out after. A skill is achieved when we believe we can do anything we set our minds to, and have guts to stick with it. If we are not coordinated it lowers self worth and can keep us from learning a new skill. We can become more coordinated by practicing the skill repetitively if we are brave and believe in ourselves. Praise comes when someone sees a skill performed well and ignites the fire to propel us forward. 

Takes patience,

Know we can learn it,

Try harder.

Praise moves us like nothing else and we need it to know where we excel. When we have a skill it builds confidence we can perform well and moves us in that direction. We can learn a skill if we have patience and know we are worth it. When we achieve a new skill it brings peace and joy.

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Told

The teacher explains the material for us to learn and we try to listen attentively. We are told to sit still and pay attention. If we get distracted easily we get told to behave and pipe down. We need to be told the stove is hot not to burn ourselves and touch it anyway to see. When our parents told us they love us, we feel confident that we are not alone. We have to be told to clean our rooms or it will never get done. If we are told, “we can do anything we set our minds to”, this opens up opportunity. When we studied hard for the test, and got the “A” we are told, “job well done”.

When we don’t have somewhere to excel we feel like misfits and out of place. If we dress differently then the rest of our peers, we get told we are weird and think how strange. The school system teaches academics, if we’re artistic we lose interest and get told we won't be successful. When told who to date this makes our world turn up side down. If we’re told or feel we are not “worth a dam”, we suffer low esteem causing problematic behaviors. 

Tell a new story,

What were we told,

It’s the past.

We are not the same and fit into different categories,and people feel they can  give their opinions. The story gets told from the winners perspective, make sure we are writing the book. Don’t be told what makes us happy, find peace and joy.