[cholulafem-deactivated20240514]

i wish conventionally unattractive women were able to be successful in the performing arts the same way conventionally unattractive men are. men just get to be talented. women have to be talented and fuckable

[antiporn-activist]

[vvitchscvm-deactivated20230716]

the void where Lesbian Witchcraft should be

I am screaming into the void where Lesbian Witchcraft should be. For two subjects hopelessly, desperately tangled up in one another in cultures spanning the globe there's not a single solitary spell-book written with our primary focus.

lesbian spirituality could only be witchcraft; our every spiritual impulse is by nature fringe, taboo, political.

lesbianism features heavily in many traditional witchcraft beliefs, but the image of the witch remains a feminine heterosexual woman. lesbians have taken refuge in crones.

and the Goddess is never, ever a butch, and neither is the Horned God.

I am not satisfied on the sidelines of Dianic Wicca, being only technically able to practice this or that, never centered.

Dianics embrace us most, to the point it is known as The Lesbian Tradition, but most practitioners are still heterosexual. could something more grow here?

maybe a religion says we're morally neutral instead of disgusting and sinful, but so rarely are we ever holy.

in 2023 I can't get on the internet and see Artemis worshiped undisputed as a lesbian.

We are whispered about, rumored to be, legend-has-it but never canonical, revealed.

I've been in the greater pagan community for going on fourteen years. I can only name one lesbian-specific tradition, from Feri: placing the image of a grey wolf on one's altar. i have never found the context for this practice.

I am screaming into the void where Lesbian Witchcraft should be. bear witness.

1. Lesbian sex purifies. That is the first ritual.

2. When horses have gods they are horses. The divine is manifest in us all, as above so below. Lesbian gods should be lesbians.

3. Artemis, dyke goddess of the hunt, Hekate, Her counterpart, goddess of Witchcraft and Persephone's "Closest Companion". Wiccan duotheism but make it butch/femme. Left-hand-path self-worship, or the folk Devil in the Shape of a Woman in a strap. Whatever! Your pick. We will see ourselves on holy altars. We will officiate as priests.

4. Lesbian witchcraft will not abide by "do no harm". Do not harm us.

5. Lesbians are disproportionately writers, poets, scientists, religious and political figures and we exist all over the world; that we have no exclusive spirituality despite centuries of culture is unthinkable. Nowhere we are permitted to exist is not the outskirts of somewhere else.

6. Lesbian witchcraft is a closed tradition. It is a deed without a name for a love that dare not speak its name. We are twice oppressed, thrice oppressed, twice and thrice erased. this is an energy we all have and only we can carry. the stigma is the mark of the witch.

7. Occult history is littered with invisible lesbians. Pamela Coleman Smith painted the most well-known tarot deck in the world. Sappho herself may have been a sorceress. Many ancient Greek spells on record are women's love spells on women; their magic was seen as a masculine act. We are well-represented in vampirism and lycanthropy. I am but pointing out the current that has always been.

8. there is no high priestess; a coven is a gathering of spiritual leaders, which lesbians are by nature.

9. there are two laws: love thyself, and our oppressors be damned.

[butch-reidentified]

actually screaming in my head with fiery delight at this post 💯💯💯💯💯

my wife and I are primarily devotees of Hekate but are goddess-exclusive in that we will never consider working with males as deities. she and I have been talking about and developing our spirituality a ton lately, like I truly mean a TON, and the timing of this post is unfuckingreal 🤯

[sharkgirldick]

So what makes a butcher knife more butch than other knives?

[nature-nerd-sarah]

The knife itself isn't necessarily butch. It's named that because it's wielded by a butcher, who is more butch than the other food shop owners

[sharkgirldick]

Hmm, I see.

What, then, makes the butcher more butch than other food shop owners?

[dragongirlbunny]

the knife

[academicblorbo]

That's what ancient Greek philosophy is like

[uterusperson]

ABOUT PORN. I'm fucking angry

I wanna make an anti-porn post as a former porn actress. And I wanna be really real and harsh and honestly I wanna be a bit rude.

I have worked in porn. There are videos of me right now, today, out on the internet that I will never be able to have deleted. All the arguments to excuse porn sound to me like the "wait that's illegal" meme, and they're disgusting and insulting.

I'm not gonna say which company I worked for, the websites, or my "porn name", because obviously, so don't even ask. But I know first hand what happens, and people just refuse to listen because "guys wanna jerk off :((". It's a slap in the face to all of us who have worked with this, and those who still work with this. No actually it's a spit in the face and a slap.

Have some humanity. Your dick isn't the royalty you think it is.

Example. My brother was on the internet at the time I was "working" and got one of those pop-up ads for "girls in your area looking for you", with my nude picture on it, right in his face. Can you imagine what that felt like for me, or him for that matter? Btw I hadn't sold my pictures to any of those things, they were all stolen. It's normal practice.

"It's ILLEGAL to coerce!!!" Please. Use your brain for one second. We don't live in care bear land. Has it ever occurred to you that some people... are not good people?

Yes, it all happens. Drugging, choking, raping, beating, and coercion. All of it, all the goddamn time. Drugging someone up to their eyeballs to film an especially violent scene? Normal practice. "Do this or no pay"? Every single day. And I'm leaving out the graphic stuff.

Yes. YES, it happens. Yes it fucking happens. Put your ego aside for two seconds and LISTEN to women. Listen to women who have actually worked with, and excuse my french, fucking strange men in real life.

Stop watching porn.

[uterusperson]

And before anyone wants to get smart with me. The company I worked for was a so called "good porn" company, even called themselves "women's porn" at times. In the US. So it's not like, some russian undercover operation. This was, and is, a big porn provider.

[hexagon-club]

I used to assume that everything that happened in porn was agreed on before hand in contract. Like, maybe some pretty extreme stuff happens on camera but none of it would be something that hadn't been agreed on before hand and there would be very clearly agreed upon rules for what the actresses involved wouldn't do that everyone would respect.

Then I discovered efukt and it's "porn bloopers". And a lot of it is just straight up rape. Not even in the radfem sense of "any sex that involves financial coercion is rape", but in the very explicit sense that women there are forced to perform sex acts that they are openly not consenting to.

[museumofferedophelia]

Women are instilled from an early age with a deep shame regarding our female anatomy.

We're told our genitals smell like fish, that "roast beef curtains," are hilarious and a sign that a woman is a sl*t, that our natural pubic hair is offensive. That periods are disgusting and shameful, and should be kept secret. We aren't even properly taught about our own anatomy- a lot of women don't know until later in life that the vulva and vagina are separate, and that the urethra is not the same opening as the vaginal opening.

There's hardly any research into female-specific medical conditions. Nearly 10% (1 in 10) women are afflicted with endometriosis, yet there's literally no research on what causes it. PCOS is also under-researched. It's all shoved under the rug, too stigmatised to be discussed.

While boys can talk freely about their dick and balls, the words "vagina" or "vulva," are still treated like a humiliating joke at best, and a vulgar obscenity at worst.

Men talk with pride about their genitals. To "grow a set" = to start acting tough and assertive. To "have big balls" = to be brave. "Big dick energy" = to be a charismatic "alpha" that commands attention.

Meanwhile, there are no positive cultural connotations regarding the vulva/vagina. Even "serving cunt" is used as a tongue-in-cheek memetic joke.

I think it's very predatory that shame, disgust and aversion about having a vagina/vulva is marketed as a sign that a girl/woman is dysphoric. That it should just be censored and called a "front hole" or a "bonus hole," to avoid the stigma. It's a cultural by-product of the crushing misogyny imbedded into society.

MOST women grow up feeling shame about having a vulva/vagina, and have to put conscious effort into unlearning that shame.

[cholulafem-deactivated20240514]

also i fucking hate that libfems act like its an epic girlboss moment whenever industries that oppress women broaden the amount of women they're willing to oppress

yayyy an elderly women is caked in makeup for a magazine photoshoot!!! yayyy this objectively conventionally attractive model is showing her stretch marks!!! yayyy the mannequin at the store displaying uncomfortable, itchy, wired lingere is made of brown plastic instead of white!! yay this girl in a hijab is walking on a runway!!! this is progress!! women deserve equal opportunities!! equal opportunities to be hot and desirable according to the male gaze!!! this is progress!!!!

[flowerlygirls]

do you ever sit back and get so emotional over the women who came before us. they fought so hard just so i could wear comfy pants and buy nice things with my very own debit card and if i dont want to i will never be forced to cohabit with a man much less marry one. thank you so much i will never forget that you gave me the right to vote and be heard instead of just seen and because of you i can live this life i am eternally grateful for all you have done. may we never forget them and honor our foremothers by living this life that is only ours to decide to the fullest and use it to achieve the same freedoms for all women that dont have them yet <3

[nymla]

Nålhus aka needle houses aka needle keepers made with wool fabric, protected by a ceramic case. Stamped patterns with inspiration from plants and nature in general and the geometrical lines somewhat inspired by runes.

🌿

One of these are still in the shop now at nymla.se

[heretherebebookdragons]

This is really pretty! 💜💜💜

And useful! I've made myself several from leg bones of deer and sheep.

People often don't realize that needles used to be really hard to make in the olden days. Imagine having a fragile little piece of bone and having to drill a hole to it! (This is why the oldest bone needles didn't have holes but a little cut on the side to hold the thread and that the 1st holed needles are considered a huge leap in early human technology.)

Needles were vital for survival because that's the thing you need to make and fix your garments! Fine needle work was literally a skill that kept you from dying of exposure to harsh weather, that kept your seams water proof* if done right. It's a precious item you wanted to protect from breaking or getting lost, and having a needle holder like this, which you could hang on your belt, is a genius way to keep your needles safe!

Ancient crafts textile Artisan nerding here, why yes I am. I just really love these and think they're super cool! 💜

*if you're curious and want to read more, I highly highly recommend Betty Kobayashi Issenman's book Sinews of Survival: the Living Legacy of Inuit Clothing.

[whjwiwowpwlsskwjwbwbkwkwlwnw]

im thinking of jobs that involve contact with the private area. doctors, beauty salons, tattooist/piercer. they all wear gloves and work in sterile environments, also the worker is clothed.

im thinking of jobs that involve saliva. also doctors, covid test stations. again, sterile environment, worker is clothed, probably even wearing a mask, and gloves.

im thinking of jobs where the worker has to get naked. actors and actresses, models. they are at least supposed to have a coach on set and an agent supporting their safety.

none of this is implemented in prostitution and never will be because it destroys the illusion of it being about sex and not money and power exerted through it. sex cant be regulated or professionalised and thats beside the point that with all possible regulations it is still unwanted sex.

[glowpop]

women write men with so much nuance and care and more dimension than most men in real life will ever have and men write women like they’ve never spoken to a woman in their entire life 

[pussy-ache]

@radfemblack

[now-exiting-fuckability-deactiv]

Anyone talking about a women's right to sell her body is concealing a man's right to buy women's bodies.

[lilacsupernova]

A post- postmodernist world of gender?

And at the turn of the millennium, something occurred with the term gender: it stopped wandering around, froze and turned to stone. Suddenly it was no longer a system to be subverted, but an individual identity – no longer a cultural construct, no longer even something people do. At that point, gender became something a person is, an eternal inner essence beyond culture and power structures, even beyond genitalia. Now, gender is said to be something innate that no society on earth can change. We are being told that gender emanates from within us and only we ourselves can know is truth – list your pronouns and I will know who you are! Once you discover your gender, there is no turning back and no doubt - this is the real you. You 'are' woman, man, non-binary, trans or agender and have therefore always been so.

This is a giant step away from queer theory. In fact, postmodernism and queer theory seem rather outdated. They were merely stepping stones that abolished the notion of material sex, whose ruins the new-fangled essentialism then built on. The grand narrative now returns, claiming to own the truth about gender. Cue the cliche's about pink/blue, dolls/weapons, makeup/machines, passive/active.

This ideological shift from sex, to sex/gender, to gender, to gender/sex, represents a shift from metaphysics to dialectical materialism to postmodernism to postmodern essentialism. However, seamless the change might appear, it is important to not that in gender identity theory, we are dealing with an idea that diverges significantly from queer theory in its basic tenets. Whereas queer theory saw everything as discourse and nothing as real, gender identity theory in fact sees gender as very real and innate. Whereas queer theory was engaged in a constant, parodic, satirical subverting of gender, gender identity establishes that the discovery of ones true gender is a final verdict – and a deadly serious matter. Whereas [Judith] Butler postulated gender was an external system, imposing itself on us through interpellation, making us succumb, gender identity theory sees gender as a truth coming from the inside.

This postmodern essentialism is strange indeed, a biological determinism without biology, where the idea of becoming who you want to be is combined with the belief in gendered souls. Yet this is the only possibility for patriarchy to return inside neoliberalism. This way, one maintains notions of individual liberty at the same time as strict rules on gender return with a full blast. (Patriarchy also returns outside the neoliberal paradigm, with a conservative backlash on abortion rights and a clamping down on female sexuality, but this current is unable to fully penetrate ideologically progressive societies and circles.) Biological determinism of old was monolithic and fateful: born in a woman's body, you were told your brain was unfit for higher office. There was no escape. Anyone trying to break boundaries would hit their head against a wall. As opposed to that, biological determinism of today, gender identity-style, is fragmented: body and soul are said to each have a sex of their own. Thus, an escape route is inbuilt: anyone who feels their gender role is too narrow is given the opportunity to change and find a 'truer' self. Both determinisms juxtapose gender and sex, but in reverse order: sex determines gender versus gender determines sex.

– Kajsa Ekis Ekman (2023) On the Meaning of Sex: Thoughts on the New Definition of Woman, pp. 93-4.

[pumpumdemsugah]

Another component of, a lot for adult women are boring. Women aren't allowed to do silly shit without it being sexualised and you see this play out during puberty where more and more girls self censor, shrink and give up the whimsy of prepubescent girlhood. And I think it's getting a lot worse with how far reaching porn has become.

We know we're being monitored and watched and I think it makes teens girls insane. There are very few socially accepted outlets for female silliness that's not sexualised or physically neutered.

[clowngames]

I think I really needed to see this.

I recently have fallen in love with the /r/JustGuysBeingDudes subreddit. It’s just video after video of guys doing stupid shit and finding joy in it. There’s a video of a bunch of dudes working together to roll a boulder down a hill, because it was there (and no one was at the bottom so there was no safety risk). There’s a video of a guy going up to his friends saying “what’s up I’m here with my boyfriend” to the camera to get their reactions (some of them get mad, some of them try to kiss him).

My favorite video is a bunch of dudes in the rain with a sign that says something like “splash us” sitting by the curb, a car drives by and drives into a puddle sending water absolutely drenching the dudes as they cheer.

And scrolling through it, it’s hard not to realize... there’s no female equivalent.

A video that stands out is a tiktok of a bunch of dudes in a public place rolling up to strangers with a basketball hoop and throwing a basketball their way to encourage them to toss it. The video is a montage of women dodging or otherwise refusing the ball, and men getting it and going for it. It felt strange to watch. Like there was something there that someone smarter than me could point out. It kind of hurt to watch in a way.

Like, women don’t get to have fun in the way that men do. It breaks my heart. Men can be carefree; they can let their guard down enough to do stupid fun things. But women are monitored so heavily they can’t do this. There’s an entire category of life’s joys that women are conditioned away from.

[chlorinatedpopsicle]

This is a really important discussion for us to have, I think.

I can never fully enjoy videos of men or boys doing stupid funny shit, because I'm too busy feeling jealous. The comments are filled with "this is why women live longer" and "boys will be boys," as if women and girls don't act the same way in the company of other women and girls. Girls always do goofy, stupid, funny, nonsensical shit while hanging out with each other. Grown women, too. But we very seldom see videos of this being shared to the same extent that videos of men and boys are. Every time I find a funny video of women or girls being goofy, it's like finding a drop of water in the desert.

Men don't see us as fully human, and they genuinely think we don't goof off when they're not around. There was even that fucking locker room meme a while back where the entire punchline was: boys are quirky and fun and girls are shallow and vapid and have zero sense of humor. Do males genuinely believe that we spend our time just standing around talking about boring shit?

Boys don't think girls are funny and goofy like they are because girls are not comfortable being themselves in front of boys. Boys don't get to see what girls are actually like because we're only comfortable and relaxed enough to act silly while in the company of other girls. Why? Because boys demean, sexualize, and mock everything girls do. We feel like we have to make ourselves small and quiet when they're around.

This is why it's so fucking important for us to have female-only spaces and all-girl schools. It's the only way we can truly be ourselves.

[womyn-is-steaksauce]

I think of my all female swim team and let me tell you. Every girl needs to be on an all female. Probably the most silliest and just play with each other! My friend was known for her wedgies. She almost ripped my suit one time. We could be disgusting and nasty and talk about guys unfiltered. We could flash each other and then shower together and be fine. It was some of the only time I didn’t feel so monitored. Rough housing but for girls. Practically drown each other in the pool. Race to hold our breath with the pool cover on (which is quiet dangerous and stupid). I miss it so badly.

[mazarinel]

I feel like when Menstrual huts in Nepal are brought up to support arguments, they're dismissed because Americans and Euro-centric people have no experience with this kind of discrimination. They don't understand how much it fucks with your mind to be a woman segregated from her family for having a period.

Like, I am Nepali but I was born/raised in America, so I'm pretty used to the whole "gross but not super-shunned" American mindset on periods.

Four years ago, my father remarried a very traditional Nepali woman, and with her came her family.

My step-mother soon noticed when I would be on my period, since our whole family shares one bathroom and despite how I try to hide it, it's pretty obvious what I'm doing when I go to the bathroom tons of times a day. Her family began watching me whenever I went into the kitchen, I couldn't touch anything there or else I'd 'soil' it, I couldn't get a glass of water without being watched. I was told I couldn't sit on a certain side of the couch, couldn't enter certain rooms, and could not touch my baby brother or hug my father. Because I was on my period, and I was 'impure'.

Now like, that's not even a FRACTION of what some women in Nepal actually go through. Where they are forced out into huts with no heat, little to no food or water, no cleaning supplies, and are forced to stay inside for the duration of their periods. Many times women are raped and/or assaulted during this period.

There is such a depth to women's suffering that is glossed over by the rest of the world. It took me the tiniest bit of discrimination of this type to really be able to realize "hey, this is actually TERRIFYING".

And now I can imagine how little people truly care when they hear "Menstrual Huts" in an argument, because they have no experience with or knowledge of the subject. Truly, it's made me realize how much I fear for myself, my sister, and women all over the world. It's made me realize how much our natural bodies are hated and feared and disgusted. And how men control societies so much that they can create an entire tradition where our bodies and our lives are shamed and punished.

[mazarinel]

Here are some images, since I believe visual examples also help people a lot, as well as a few articles and a GoFundMe for menstrual cups in Nepal below:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/menstrual-cups-in-nepal-chhaupadi

Menstrual Cups in Nepal: Chhaupadi, organized by Clara Go

Let's fight against the menstruation taboo in Nepal - Project Rato Baltin Rato Baltin is… Clara Go needs your support for Menstrual Cups i

https://kathmandupost.com/national/2019/03/22/women-are-still-dying-after-being-sent-to-menstruation-huts-but-no-one-is-filing-complaints

Women are still dying after being sent to menstruation huts, but no one is filing complaints

Despite having the highest rates of deaths related to Chhaupadi, not a single police complaint has been filed in Achham and Dailekh district

https://www.irinsider.org/south-asia-1/2020/2/12/chhaupadi-an-outdated-patriarchal-practice-in-nepal

Chhaupadi: An Outdated Patriarchal Practice in Nepal — IR INSIDER

A longstanding tradition in Nepal results in the deaths of young women every winter. This tradition , which has its roots in Hinduism, mand

(^^^This article was published in 2020, so Menstrual Huts are a MODERN DAY issue for many women outside the western world.)

[spiderfreedom]

I honestly owe detrans people, and especially detrans women, so much, because reading about their experiences has taught me a lot about... well, everything? About myself and my own trauma re: femaleness, autism. About the factors that lead people to transition. About resilience and moving forward and making a life for yourself in a world where there's no space for you.

Some of my favorite writings from detrans people:

somenuancepls (Michelle Alava, active on substack) has multiple great posts, especially on resilience and growth for detrans people. I recommend "Actually I was just crazy the whole time" (on the mindset that leads medical transition to be viewed as a panacea), "We Shouldn't Have to Be Here" (on how detrans people are expected to act as martyrs) and "Let's Talk About How We Talk About Detransition" (on how to ethically and compassionately talk about transition and detransition without harming (de)/transitioners).

destroyyourbinder (no longer active) has so many amazing posts that I really can't list them all, but "Unriddling the Sphinx: Autism and the Magnetism of Gender Transition" was genuinely revelatory for me as a gender non-conforming autistic woman. (It also kinda sent me spiraling for a few days so if you are also an autistic gnc, read with caution)

funkypsyche has been writing a lot about 'woke' culture in a way I don't agree with, but "The Archetypal FTM Sensitive, Quirky, Artistic Weird Girls" (on the type of people attracted to transmasc identification and the ways society fails them - do you see also see yourself in this list?) is a good read. As a supplement, there is "The History of Tumblr: Gender and Woke Indoctrination, Video Essay", and if you can get through the parts about, well, 'woke indoctrination', it provides a perspective on tumblr and its relationship to mental illness and gender. You do not realize how much mental illness is normalized and glorified on tumblr until you see someone explaining it from the outside and you go "huh, I did not realize that happens and that I do that, too..."

Max Robinson wrote "Detransition: Beyond, Before, and After", the only academic text on detransition to my knowledge. An in depth view on factors influencing transition such as lesbophobia, and the relationship between gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia and how the latter is treated as frivolous and vain while the former is treated as profound and serious.

And there are a lot of tweets I've collected I can't really link here, there are many detransitioners on Twitter. I really do recommend reading a broad variety of detransitioned people, detrans women and men. Even read people who retrans like CrashChaosChats, who once wrote on detransition but then retransitioned after finding that she was unable to deal with dysphoria. If you actually care about dysphoric people, trans people, and detrans people, you need to read broadly to understand the full range of reasons people transition or detransition or retransition.

Feel free to reblog with your additions of writings by detrans people, or people you follow on Twitter or other social media if they don't have long-form content.

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Internal Inconsistencies of Patriarchy:

1. women are super emotional, much more so than men... yet don't understand profound loneliness

2. men are rational, logical... yet can't control themselves when a woman "leads him on" or "tempts him"

3. men naturally have a need to act out aggressively, so you can't hold it against them when they get into fights or break things... yet they're supposedly more suited to be leaders than women are

4. women are hysterical and flighty... yet should be the ones making all the doctor's appointments, baby-sitter arrangements, etc.

5. domestic work isn't even hard; women should be happy to do it while the husband works... yet men won't do it even when both of them work, or even when he's the stay at home partner

6. "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"... yet it's men who resort to violence when told "no"

And many, many others. There is only one internal consistency in Patriarchy: it benefits men.

[radkindoffeminist]

Also domestic work isn’t hard and men are apparently more intelligent but men struggle to learn how to do domestic tasks

[its-a-cattastrophe]

I’m losing my shit, there’s a Facebook page that gets advertised to me sometimes and it has these cool crazy death metal uterus shirts and stuff and someone commented asking if the artist was a “radfem/terf” and ended it with “it makes me a bit wary when I see uterus imagery as the primary focus of a female artist”

Are women allowed anything anymore? To create? Without being immediately shut down for not being about males instead? We could put a cock and balls on every surface imaginable and they wouldn’t object to that. Drives me up the fucking wall

[sapphosviolets-deactivated20250]

Funny how it makes them dysphoric when we make art or celebrate our bodies in any way, but not when they want to fuck us or watch us in porn. It’s almost like dysphoria isn’t the problem, it’s just them wanting to shut women up

[pinkgreenbreeze]

it's funny how non sexual female art or depictions are the only things that make them uncomfortable.

[radfemblack]

Yeah! Me and my mutuals were talking about the difference in the reception to WAP vs Pynk and Venom by Little Simz. It’s not like nobody was connecting Wet Ass Pussy to womanhood, there were all the libfem thinkpieces about how it’s so empowering and something for women to reclaim their sexuality or whatever nonsense. Meanwhile there’s an ongoing debate on TikTok about whether one fucking line from Venom, “pussy in power”, is terfy. And ofc we all remember how Janelle Monae went out of her way to ensure that nobody called her a terf over her pussy-themed music video.

[dreamfantome-deactivated2022020]

Women’s anatomy is only terfy if they can’t jerk off to it.