Lady Bug

aro bi wlw (she/her)

[lady-bug26]

I've had partners for a few years now. Being bi, aro, and poly has been tricky over the years. My primary came up with a wonderful way of expressing our feelings to each other. "I cherish you" It's not something I'd ever thought of it before and it feels so right and perfect. I know everyone is different but hoping this may help some others like it has helped me

[swords-and-aros]

Aro: we aren’t dating

Allo: oh really

Aro: yeah

Allo: tell me, do you hang together, often, alone?

Aro: yeah?

Allo: and do you going to each other’s families for holidays?

Aro: of course

Allo: and don’t you two always cuddle together when watching movies?

Aro: I’m not seeing your point

Allo: you two are so obviously a couple

Aro: literally nothing you mentioned is exclusively romantic

Allo: oh yeah? who else would you do these with if not someone you’re dating?

Aro: a friend

[lady-bug26]

[justcatposts]

Cat bravely endures the end of the world 

(Source)

[patchofvoid]

part 1

[patchofvoid]

Part 2

Some thoughts on aromanticism

[plant-books]

Hey look it’s the one thing that terrifies me

[riseandshineace]

[politijohn]

ICYMI - Huge news!

[lokidokeyartichoki]

I found a company called “Frantic Meerkat” who makes journals whose sole purpose is to call me out

[hellenhighwater]

This is by the Mincing Mockingbird guy (of “I’d sell you to satan for one corn chip” and “The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math” fame) and you can buy them here

https://www.mincingmockingbird.com/collections/frantic-meerkat

I….I need all of them

[heartseeker]

[peachy-pumpkin-deactivated-deac]

love triangles can’t exist without at least 1 lgbt person. cishets just don’t know how shapes work

[peachy-pumpkin-deactivated-deac]

I’ve created this helpful info graphic

[trisarahtops-sketches]

Fruit dinos 🍓🍌🍊

[lady-bug26]

Power thruple

[aro-culture-is]

romance repulsed aro culture is feeling uncomfortable using the word squish or similar terms because they feel too close to the word crush

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[lady-bug26]

As an Aromantic Allosexual the term "zucchini" feels much more accurate when referring to the close friends whom I have casual sex with rather than the typical "friends with benefits"

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is loving the found family trope :]

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[lady-bug26]

Does anyone celebrate holidays with Found Family? Like there's mother's day, father's day, grandparents' day.... Is there something for found family or do you just replace one of the other days with them?

[k-eke]

Small friend!

[lady-bug26]

[slowlyshytheorist]

My good people, I give you: Amatonormativity.

[small-strong-bookish-butch]

Transcript (with spaces added for accessibility):

“You and this perfect person, who you’ve never met before, to come out of nowhere, fit into your life perfectly, complete you, and make you whole for the first time in your life, like your mother did for me.”

And even though what he said sounds sweet and whatever, the way it manifested to my seven-year-old self is, “If you are not with someone, you are broken. If you are not with someone, you are incomplete. If you are not with someone, you are not whole.”

And that’s not just something that my dad made me feel, that’s something that we as a society for the last 40 years has made every single child feel. Every Disney prince has a princess, every princess has a prince, and every television show or movie always has a character in it that doesn’t want to be in a relationship. They’re happy with who they are. But guess what, by the end of the series? They were wrong! They were wrong for wanting to be alone, the fucking idiot!

It’s all to do with love. Everyone needs someone. And when you raise children in that world, where everything points towards love, when you’ve raised them for 18 fucking years, when you become an adult for the first time in your late teens and early 20’s, we’re so terrified.

We’re so trying to be an adult that some of us will take the wrong person, the wrong jigsaw, and force them into our jigsaws anyway. I’m going to force this fucking person into our lives because it’s much better to have something than nothing.

Then five years later, you’re stood looking at this jigsaw you don’t recognize, being like, “Ah! There’s a fucking cunt in the middle of this!” And in that moment, you have a very, very difficult question to ask yourself. Do I admit the last five years of my life have been a waste? Do I waste the rest of my life?

My generation has become so obsessed with starting the rest of their lives that they give up the one that they’re currently living. We have romanticized the idea of romance, and it is cancerous. People are more in love with the idea of love than they are with the person they are with. The worst thing you can do with your life is to spend it with the wrong human being.

[truintent444]

[issasideblogbruh]

THIS.

[jabberwockypie]

I reblogged this a few hours ago, but I will reblog it again, because I just feel this SO STRONGLY.

[secretlordofartanddumbass]

Let’s go aro’s!!!!

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