#wtfromantic

[isaacisunsure]

HAPPY AROMANTIC AWARENESS WEEK TO ALL THE HOTTEST BITCHES THAT CELEBRATE!!!

SHOUT WITH JOY! THE AROMANTIC BEAM BE UPON YE!!!

[seulmeky]

Just a meme I drew in Paint. And yeah.. it happened to me.. Also sorry if it may be offensive to you, this meme is not how every quoiromantic acts and what characters say doesn't have to be your truth. I just wanted to share it because I thought it would be funny, don't take it seriously and I'm not trying to hurt anyone with this, it's all in comical purposes only. Please, be polite. :,]

[arokalypse]

figure 1.1, Me adding the nth label in my life

[a-silly-poll-side-blog-yay]

Life is weird for me when it comes about finding myself lol

I mean orientation and stuff

Like all the time I just tried to believe that I'm bi

Now a storytime! :D

When I was younger I had a friend who was all about boys and she kept asking me who I am into and just to have some peace I pointed out a random dude from our class and said I have a crush on him but this was probably the only time I ever said that I have a crush on anyone and it was forced

Then around the end of primary school/beginning of the high school I started to notice more LGBT media around and got like: hm, I've never thought of that, I feel the same attraction to everyone so I'm bi!

then I wrote a journal about my bi experiences and my struggles to come out on wattpad that has like 120k views now :b

THEN I started dating and kept finding out about different gender identities and got like hmmmmm yeah genderfluid sounds like me

Around high school I met a friend who I played D&D with and he said he's asexual and something clicked for me because I was never interested in a sexual relationship in the first place, never initiated and never wanted any so I said to my friends hey! I'm actually biromantic asexual

Last year I started to find out about microlabels, spotted apagender/gender apathetic where you don't care about what gender people use to refer about you and what gender you're seen at and snatched it for myself

And later my friend showed me microlabels for the aromantic spectrum and I turned out to be quoiromantic which means inability to see the difference between romantic and platonic attraction

So I was bi oriented quoiromantic, asexual, genderfluid apagender

But then there came a realisation that I've never felt any attraction to anyone in the first place- neither romantic or sexual so after all it turned out that I wasn't bisexual but aroace 😐

[aceadmiral]

Translation: “The Quoiromantic Manifesto” by Nakamura Kasumi

Today I have a special treat: an English translation of an academic article about this history and positioning of the term “WTF/quoiromantic

[queertothepoint]

Identity of the Day

Quoiromantic

Type: Sexuality

Definition: Quoiromantic, pronounced like the French word for what, is a label with multiple meanings. It can be used by those who are unsure what romantic attraction is or feels like and so are unsure about if they feel it or not, by those who find the concept of romance or romantic attraction to be inaccessible to them, not applicable to them, or that it's nonsense, those who can't understand the concept or feeling of romantic attraction, those who disconnect themself from romantic attraction entirely, those who question their romantic identity for so long that questioning has become their identity, those who have questioned so long that it's frustrating and so use it to express said frustration, and by those who have trouble finding the difference between romantic attraction and other forms of attraction. It is a part of the Aromantic spectrum though not everyone who uses this label considers themself to be Aromantic in any way. Those who are Quoiromantic may use other identities as well. Those who are Quoiromantic are not always Quoisexual.

Flag(s):

This is a Quoisexual and Quoiromantic flag made by chaotic-evil-gender in 2014. We don't know the meaning of the colors.

This is an alternate Quoisexual and Quoiromantic flag, made by chaotic-evil-gender in 2015. In order the colors mean:

Asexuality and Aromanticism

Harmony between the types of attraction

Emotions

Confusion and fuzziness about attraction

This is a flag made for all Quoi identities in 2015 by epochryphal. The question marks are used to represent the questioning nature of the identity and questioning the more common understanding of experience, as well as refusing to answer when asked about ones identity. The shape was chosen to be non-rectangular to represent the discomfort from or the rejection of models. The color of both the background and the question marks is meant to show how subjective the perception of the colors is, due to the color looking both grey and purple, relate it to other grey identities, and to relate it to the color lavender, which has been used to represent queerness for a long time. The creator has stated they wish they had used 3 question marks instead of 4.

This is another flag for all Quoi identities, made in May 2019 by queer-buccaneers. It was made with epochryphal's design in mind, keeping the same colors and the non-rectangular shape, though a version that would be easier to produce. The question marks have been changed to 3 instead of 4, due to it being easily mistaken for a few unsavory symbols.

This is a flag for Quoi attractions, created at the same time as the previous. The colors were chosen due to them being used in other Quoi attraction flags. The flag was made as the creator felt that those who use the label are often treated as outsiders, including by those in the aromantic and asexual communities, even while claiming to include them.

[sparesomeserotonin]

love being wtfromantic because like yeah not even i know whats going on there and im not gonna worry about it either

[pbpiewrites2018]

But yeah after accepting myself as agender and demigirl I've been doing some introspection and finally feel comfortable calling myself trans!

I also have five different labels I use to describe my gender... So there's agender and demigirl. Then, both being under the trans umbrella, trans as well (I mean I'm not cis, so definitely trans).

Then those two are also under the nonbinary umbrella and I have always loved the idea of someone referring to me as an enby. So I'm also nonbinary/enby.

Then I realized that this is a lot, so I'm probably going to also use genderqueer when talking to people I don't want to get into this all with. It basically covers all of it lol.

I also have no problem with just the label of girl.

Girl and Enby can be used interchangeably as well as Genderless Bean.

So in the end my gender identity is trans, nobinary, agender, demigirl, and genderqueer. I went from being okay with just being a cis girl to agender to agender and demigirl to suddenly having five different labels... I love it.

That's not even getting into my sexual and romantic orientations...

I'm definitely pan, as I experience some sort of attraction to women, men, and everyone who is both, neither, or their own thing. I love all of them.

But I've also identified as aroace in some capacity since I was 15. I was aroace, then cupioromantic and ace, then grayromantic and ace, now I have no idea how to define my romantic attraction and I'm still ace, but I'm questioning whether or not I might be demi ace? I will just go with a-spec or quoiromantic/wtfromantic. And also I'm sex-favorable and want to have that as part of my life despite having no sexual attraction to my knowledge.

I've never actually had a partner before (but I definitely want one) so I won't know most of the answers until I go on that adventure. But also I don't want to date someone I can't be completely honest about all of this with. And I seriously doubt that I will be able to tell someone I'm seeing romantically that I am aro-spec.

Like I won't start a relationship with someone I don't feel any way towards, and while I don't know if I'll know romantic attraction if I feel it, I wouldn't be dating the person at all if I didn't feel anything toward them. But also I just know that bringing up the fact that I used to be entirely aroace or that I still question to what degree I even feel romantic attraction is not the thing to do. I don't want to plant seeds of insecurity in my partner's mind. I want them to know I love them.