Cleopatra

SWER | fssw in Europe. Spoiled girlfriend. Here to share my experiences. Female supremacy

[dontfeedthemodel1-blog]

TIPS: How To Manipulate the Conversation

1. You want me to look beautiful, don’t you? 
(Translation: Buy me that outfit/hair/nails/lingerie)

2. You said you want the best for me.
(Translation: Give me the extra money)

3. I just want to feel safe and secure.
(Translation: Get me my own hotel suite)

4. You’ve inspired me to be better
(Translation: pay for this elite yoga retreat)

5. I feel like you don’t trust me and I’m giving you my body. 
(Translation: Give me the money first) 

6. Take me to XYZ and I’ll look so beautiful you’ll make all the men in the room jealous 
(Translation: Take me to this broadway play)

7. I bought a new bikini for you! When are you gonna let me show it off for you (Translation: take me to Hawaii)

8. That man is making me uncomfortable *hold his hand while someone else is checking you out* 
(Translation: other people think I’m hot and check me out all the time. Know that.)

[lafemmecleopatra]

No longer a spoiled girlfriend

My (now ex)boyfriend ended up being a sociopath. I won’t go into details.

I remember reading here on Tumblr that dating rich makes sense because most men are awful and this is sort of an insurance that your time will be worth it. While I can’t agree more, when I met my boyfriend I felt in love, and didn’t even knew or thought about how much he was making. I was in love. But I think I was subconsciously biased because yes: he was making good money, and he spoiled the fuck out of me. Our first two years were heaven.

Now here’s the thing. When he left me as if I meant nothing, it really did not matter to me that he had money. At that moment, or that week, or that time, it didn’t matter that I had been “compensated” for my time with him, that I got rent paid, travels, Michelin restaurants, uber eats all the time, school paid, financial help, gifts, etc., because of course, I am human, and I genuinely loved him to death, and it hurt. Nothing of that mattered to me because I was in shambles carrying the pieces of my broken heart in my hands.

But here’s the deal. Now that I’m recovering, now that I’m lifting myself up, now that I’m working out of the broken heart, I can say this: I am happy I didn’t lose money on a man. He was an idiot, so you know what? I’m glad he left me. And I’m glad I got those trips, and my rent paid, and everything else, so I don’t have the feeling that he used me, because at least we both got something out of this relationship.

This is not my fault. Blaming women for “picking the wrong man” is a misogynistic patriarchal lie, which has been forever told to perpetuate society’s ugly little habit of enabling men’s shitty behavior. It happened this way, it is what it is. I’m not ashamed of having loved because it’s part of the human experience. I’m not ashamed of having felt in love. That I believed him. That I loved him so much. He should be the one ashamed of not treating me as he should have, because I loved him in a way he didn’t deserve

So even though at that moment I didn’t care about money, I do now. I am glad he spoiled me, I am so fucking glad I got “compensated”. And you know what? Next time, I will go bigger. This time it was 250k, alright then next time I hope to make it 350k. Or 400k. Or more. I dont know, and I dont need to plan right now, I dont want to date for a while.

But I’m glad I could keep this as a lesson: even the nicest man can fuck up, and fuck you up, and fuck things up. They are wired for it. I’m not even kidding. We are raised differently, society is fundamentally and completely different if you are a man. Women are portrayed as objects, as advertisement, served in silver plates for men to have a pick. They will never see us the way we see them simply because it’s impossible to break concepts we have had all of our lives and we keep perpetuating. Men will not change. The way they see us won’t change. So why should women change? I will forever look for a man with a provider bone. Forever look for a man that will spoil me, and treat me like a princess, because honestly I deserve it. And because there is just absolutely no guarantee in this world that a man will not fuck you up, no matter how great he seems to be.

I am grateful for this moment, I am grateful for the teachings. Because there were moments when I felt guilty that he was working so hard and spending so much on me. Because I’m too fucking nice. And I shouldn’t be. I’m glad this happened because now I know I deserve to aim much higher, and I deserve more. More money, more gifts, more spoiling

Cheers to me and my healing little heart, and cheers to all women for surviving the patriarchy 🥂 We deserve to be spoiled

[gooddaylovv]

Can we talk about how everyone loves to bring up how “oversaturated“ the market is? I don’t think that’s true at all. SW has always had a very high fluctuation. Some women do this for a couple of months to get to a specific financial goal and then get tf out of this industry. Some stay longer.. but overall I keep seeing a lot of new girls and a lot of retirement announcements lately so I think it’s just high fluctuation. Another factor is probably Only Fans and it’s high visibility. It seems like everyone has an OF and even civilians talk about it like they are some kind of SW experts. When looking at ad sites for escorts there are a lot of OF accounts too so I think that screws people’s perspective and makes it seem like SW is everywhere when in reality not everyone offers in person sessions. I also think that people look at SW as a whole and don’t differentiate local markets. When I scroll through my timeline I see escorts from Australia, Canada, East Asia etc. It seems like the market is oversaturated because of the amount of profiles. But location is important! Sure, some might tour my home base but at the end of the day a random escort from idk Toronto or Paris or fucking Sydney is not my competition.

I would like to offer some advice to the anons thinking about joining this industry. Maybe some of these things can be helpful:

Invest money in a photoshoot and a good website and you will be fine. Even if you live in a city with a ton of competition - don’t let that get to you. Focus on yourself. Lay back and relax. People will find your ad. And they will book you. There’s no money like new girl money. When you’re new people hope your dumb and naive tho - don’t fall for their bullshit. Some clients will say it’s standard practice to have unprotected sex or how no one else asks for a deposit and all that kind of stuff. They are lying. don’t even reply to people like that. The biggest loser move is to screenshot back and forth arguments with clients and posting it on social media. Have your boundaries and stick to them. Don’t argue. Don’t over explain. People will either book or not. Send a deposit or not. Send screening information or not. It’s that simple. Men who try to make you convince them of your worth are idiots and not worth dealing with.

When you start on social media and try to grow your following, don’t be too annoying about it. Instead of commenting 20 times on one escorts page, comment 20 times on 20 different pages. Oh and for the love of god no AI generated captions or comments. Keep it cute, keep it short. „You’re so stunning!“ „Wow that colour looks so good on you! 😍“

I hate when other escorts try to be super Witty with every single comment and caption. if something witty or funny comes to mind share it but don’t force it.

Rule number one for social media marketing: stay out of drama.

When it comes to rates Europe sucks. Don’t price yourself too low but be realistic. If your photos are trash or you look like you’re in bad shape you can’t charge as much. 1hr should not be below 500 in my opinion. but depending on the city you might not be able to charge more than that. You will get a feeling. Do what works. A lot of escorts in Europe start with 2h and don’t even offer one hour dates. I can’t tell you what’s gonna work for sure. When I started I got on tr*st and clicked on every profile listed in my city. Wrote down everyone’s rates and calculated the average haha

To survive in this industry you need returning clients. That’s the most important factor. New clients come and go. You need regulars. I remember when I started out I was so worried about the marketing aspect. And although that’s a very important part of it, don’t forget to focus on the experience you provide. Make the experience unforgettable and these men will return. I’m not even talking about anything sexual btw. Make them feel special. That’s it. that’s all they want. Pretend like you’re so excited and happy to see them, like you really really care about them, like you’re listening to their boring stories. After a session I take notes in my phone about something they mentioned and bring it up the next time I see them, asking how it went or if there’s an update. They love this kind of stuff. Always make eye contact, stroke their ego and be nice and fun to be around. This is not only gonna help to secure regulars but might also lead to longer dates and overnight dates. Those are super important if you want to increase your income. Never be in a bad mood when seeing a client. Be nice but don’t be a doormat. The moment a client is disrespectful or pushing boundaries you put him in his place. Try being firm but friendly. Depending on the situation and the men you can get more aggressive with it.. and if that doesn’t work you go full on bitch mode. Over time you will figure out the right balance of bitchy and professional.

Always show up looking good. Some girls will tell you that you can get away with no makeup, hair not done and showing up in pyjamas lol and maybe that works for them - don’t assume it’s gonna work for you.

Don’t share too much personal info. It’s a no brainer but it’s important. Change personal details. Not sure if everyone is gonna agree on this but I take my privacy very seriously. There are so many scary people out there I’m not gonna risk it. Have a fake birth day, fake background, fake family, fake upbringing, fake university you attended. Write down a story that makes sense and stick to it. Don’t forget to practice telling your fake story. some aspects can be true of course but be very careful what you tell people. I, for example, lie about my nationality. My family is also from a small Eastern European country but I just say I’m from Russia. Europeans don’t know the difference and they don’t care. That’s the point. They don’t care if you say the truth or not. People in this industry love throwing the word “authentic“ around. That goes for both clients and escorts.. but the thing is.. Clients don’t care if you lie. They just don’t want to feel like you’re lying. That’s their definition of authenticity.

Lastly, SAVE YOUR MONEY - and NEVER NEVER NEVER start the session without counting your money first. Bonus tip: buy a Counterfeit money detection pen.

Amazing, wholeheartedly agree with all of this. Spot on, thank you for articulating this beautifully.

[tkkatherineblog]

[strawberriesandfairiess]

Credit @brinathedoll on ig

[covertsugar]

as far as i’m concerned women should be able to monetize every single interaction they have with men

[russia-instagram]

[babyphat05-deactivated20250613]

Your looks is your greatest asset. Pretty privilege is a thing. People judge you based on your looks when it comes to first impression, so yes, making the initiative to look good everywhere you go is important. 

[dk-thrive]

I want to be awake to all my choices.

Writing is, like gender or dominatricing, a kind of performance. But the craft of writing is primarily an art of making decisions. I often like to terrorize my students by insisting that every single notation—every piece of punctuation, every word, every paragraph break—in a piece of writing is a decision. You know when something is done, I tell them (they always want to know how to know when something is done), when you know the argument for every single choice, when not a single apostrophe has slipped by uninterrogated, when every word has been swapped for its synonym and then recovered. I don’t mean to take the fun out of creation, or even to impose my own laborious process on them, but I actually believe this. Not in the first draft, or even the fifth, but by the end, I want to have stripped as many tics and defaults, as many blind choices as is in my power. I want to be awake to all my choices.

— Melissa Febos, Body Work: The Radical Power of Personal Narrative (Catapult, March 15, 2022)

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

Flowing asthetic in chinese xianxia and wuxia culture(novels, movies, dramas)

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

"上善若水" (Shàng shàn ruò shuǐ) is a profound concept from ancient Chinese philosophy, particularly from the text Dao De Jing (道德经) by Laozi. It translates to "The highest virtue is like water. " The idea is that water embodies the ideal qualities of humility, flexibility, and adaptability. Water flows effortlessly, nourishes everything without seeking recognition, and overcomes obstacles by yielding and finding its way around them. This concept reflects the Daoist ideal of living in harmony with nature and embracing a gentle, flowing approach to life.

In ancient Chinese culture, this philosophy deeply influenced not only thought and behavior but also art, literature, and even fashion. In the context of costume design for ancient Chinese fantasy (仙侠 Xiānxiá) and martial arts (武侠 Wǔxiá) genres, the concept of "上善若水" is often reflected in the flowing, elegant designs of the clothing. Here’s how:

Fluid Silhouettes: The hanfu-based costume often feature long, loose robes with wide sleeves and soft, draping fabrics that move gracefully with the wearer. This mimics the natural flow of water, creating a sense of harmony and elegance. When a character moves or when the wind blows, the fabric ripples and sways, enhancing their ethereal, almost otherworldly presence.

Symbolism of Adaptability: Just as water adapts to its surroundings, the flowing garments symbolize the characters' ability to navigate challenges with grace and flexibility. In Xiānxiá and Wǔxiá stories, protagonists often embody these virtues, and their clothing visually reinforces their inner qualities.

Connection to Nature: The soft, natural lines of the costumes reflect the Daoist reverence for nature. Characters in these genres are often depicted as being in tune with the natural world, and their attire, light, airy, and fluid—echoes this connection.

Aesthetic Appeal: The flowing fabrics not only carry philosophical meaning but also create stunning visual effects. When characters fight, fly, or simply walk through a scene, their garments move like water, adding drama and beauty to the storytelling. This is especially iconic in scenes where characters are depicted in mid-air or in slow motion, with their robes billowing in the wind.

The concept of "上善若水" (Shàng shàn ruò shuǐ) has left a lasting mark on the design of ancient Chinese costumes, particularly in Xiānxiá and Wǔxiá genres. The flowing, water-like quality of the clothing not only looks beautiful but also carries deep symbolic meaning, reflecting the ideals of harmony, adaptability, and grace. When the wind blows, these garments come alive, creating a mesmerizing visual that captures the essence of this ancient philosophy.

[theperfectgrl]

You're dangerous when you're organized. Visualize it, grind for it, watch it manifest. Detach from everything that doesn't make you happy.

[gagosianwife-deactivated2019120]

High self-worth is essential as water, sleep, and oxygen. You must believe you deserve space. You must believe you are worth “it”. And then take that a little higher, and add your wildest dreams to this ecosystem. Our thoughts nourish our mind. When we think happy/exciting thoughts, our mind actively searches for these things in our surroundings to reaffirm and validate them. Even if we don’t yet have it, when we think about a big dream or goal, our mind starts pinpointing the opportunities that lead us to achieving these desires. Whenever you feel lost in life, go back to the drawing board of your self-esteem. Build yourself up again, as many times as you need to, even when it feels like you are starting over. Self-love, vibrations and energy is an important priority like sleep, water, and nutrition. Channel your highest self-regard before bed. Just a little reminder: when you’re struggling with a difficult situation, the best thing you can do is INSIST on championing yourself. Do not compromise. Do not falter. You are special.

[thesophistiicate]

the secret to living a calm and confident life lies in being organised and prepared. when you are always scrambling, searching, stumbling, you create an energy of chaos. part of respecting yourself is adequately preparing yourself for what lies ahead, through organisation and practise.

[decadencediary]

Hair theory is real.

You’d be surprised with how you can advance your look with one hairstyle switch. Don’t be too consumed with how you think your hair should be (long, short, natural, wavy, etc). Go with the look that makes you look and feel your absolute best.

[lafemmecleopatra]

im so bad at this because I dont see much difference like they are so stunning in any context lmao

[lafemmecleopatra]

I’m sorry, I have this mental disease that makes me think that if I present people scientifically methodically researched evidence they will change their minds

[lafemmecleopatra]

I haven’t consumed alcohol in over 2 months now? Wow! I am so happy and want to keep this up for a year. How crazy it is that in the Western world (or everywhere?) its just normal to numb ourselves going out every time. I actually stopped drinking because I realized I carried too much sadness from my break up, and alcohol is a depressor.

Part of me already thinks about celebrating with a good cocktail once I set a timeline (one year?) and stick to it.. Part of me has no desire whatsoever to ever drink again. Either is fine, as long as I do it consciously ✨

[lafemmecleopatra]

I miss my ex a lot. I think about him all the time, everyday. This weekend was extremely hard, but I’m happy to be surrounded by friends.

Today I was feeling down, but I cooked for my friends and (finally!) went to the gym, and the endorphins just empowered me. 💗