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[neverwhere]

Sad and terrible news.

This post was written by @lazytechsupport If you knew @neverwhere then please read, minding the content warnings in the tags.

If you feel that you can pass this post on to anyone you know who might have known her, that would be a huge help.

Just after 12am local time (8am BST) on October 16th 2025, Nevvie collapsed mid-sentence and never regained consciousness. Despite the best efforts of myself and the emergency services she slipped away rapidly and was pronounced dead within the hour. The LA coroner won't be investigating the cause of her sudden death because "she was fat". I am pursuing a 3rd party investigation and waiting for more information.

This happened six days after our 16th anniversary, Nevvie was 47. Four years ago we lost our home to a fire. This year she lost her father while I was in hospital for emergency spine reconstruction surgery. Though it could be stressful she had a job she loved at Sega, a company she could be proud to be part of, one she helped to unionize.

She was thrilled to have learned that week what her next project was going to be. When her current project was complete we were going to take some time for ourselves away from everything and reconnect with friends. I'm in shock and feel like I have been twisted inside out. My soulmate has been taken away.

We are going to be having a celebration of life for her on the 16th of November, 12pm-3pm.

It can be attended in person or online. If you're in the LA area or wish to join the remote stream, please send an email to [email protected].

This link will show you what that is in your local time: timeanddate link

If you would insist on assisting directly with the investigation into the cause of her sudden and tragic passing then we have a gofundme to cover those expenses: - https://gofund.me/ff8ebcd30 Otherwise in lieu of flowers, gifts, or prayers we request that donations might be made to any of the following in her memory: The Aquarium of the Pacific: - https://support.aquariumofpacific.org/give/230828/#!/donation/checkout The American Association of People with Disabilities: - https://www.aapd.com/donate-to-aapd/ The LGBTQ Center in Long Beach: - https://www.centerlb.org/donate/ The UK Wild Otter Trust: - https://ukwildottertrust.org/donate/ MindOut, a UK LGBTQ Mental Health Service - https://mindout.org.uk Or, support someone asking for #MutualAid on your social media site of choice and form a union.

But most importantly, look after yourself. -James/ Sprite/ @lazytechsupport

[gauntletqueen]

genderfluid person whose first and middle names are masculine and feminine and the order swaps depending on how they're feeling in the moment

[breakbeatbun]

omw to the berry store to buy the prettiest one 🍓

[wormsdyke]

it would be so nice if you were allowed to start working on projects before you hit the 12 hour until deadline mark but sadly it’s not possible with our current technology. scientists are hard at work but for now this is one of the limitations we must face as a people

[kangals]

my YouTube algorithm has been showing me a lot of horse racing recently and since the Kentucky derby is today, the last few days all my recommendations have been filled with every middle-ages dudebros podcast about gambling and betting strategies and How To Pick The Real Winner and how to min-max your bet and bla bla bla. Buddy I’ve already got my favorite horsie picked out and it’s because he’s Silly.

[kangals]

reasons i like the horsie Great White:

he's about 6 inches taller and 200lbs heavier than any other horse in the field. big ol honse.

his record kind of sucks and when an interviewer asked his trainer "what do you think [the horse] will need to do to win the derby?' the trainer just said "get a lot better."

the horse was deadset on eating the landscaping shrubbery during the interview

thats all i need, absolutely sold, go get em Great White.

[kangals]

this couldn't have ended any more perfectly

[kangals]

guess which one is great white

[tlirsgender]

My most diagnosable take is that honestly. As much as people in social justicey spaces talk about exercising your empathy ... there's also value in being able to turn it off so you're not extremely susceptible to emotional manipulation. Sometimes you have to be able to recognize "oh, this is bullshit propaganda trying to tug at my heartstrings" and stop giving a fuck about like. Colonizer feelings or whatever. Vibes can't override your principles

[tlirsgender]

Like idk being niceys is a good start but your politics can't begin and end with 🌈 kindness 🌈 or you're gonna get taken advantage of. The worst people on earth will be like "but what if........ I have a sob story about it 🥺" & you Need to be able to tell them to Fuck Completely Off

[tlirsgender]

There's a certain strain of ... Everyone Is Valid 🌸 style pseudo leftism that ime invariably caters to whoever throws the biggest tantrum. And this is a Problem interpersonally & it's especially bad if you let these people dictate your opinions. Not everyone is valid some of you are racist

[veryluckyclovers]

[maverick-werewolf]

Werewolf Fact #17 - The Wulver is probably not actually a thing

So you’ve probably heard of the wulver, if you’re into werewolves on the internet. It’s supposedly a Scottish legend about a wolf-headed guy who left fish on the windowsills of the needy. How kind.

Well, frankly, I’m not at all convinced the wulver was ever really a thing in folklore. Hear me out. This is a tidbit about checking your sources.

I’m a folklorist. That means I professionally study this stuff and have degrees in it. I’ve given lectures and taught classes on subjects in folklore and mythology, especially werewolves. I’ve defended my research and my work from boards wanting to find some kind of hole in my work to prove I was wrong about something.

When it’s your job, it’s very important to check sources for accuracy - and to double-check them for authenticity. If you can, find the primary source. This means find the original documentation or the oldest possible occurrence or recording of the myth. If you can’t find one? It may not actually have been something people believed in.

This is where things get complicated. Lots of folklore and myth came from oral traditions, and as such, we’ve doubtlessly already lost tons of great things. That means people often didn’t write this stuff down, in part because these beliefs were occurring in time periods wherein literacy was hard to come by. When it comes to this, the best you can do is to find secondary proof in artwork or artifacts from the time period, or else a medieval monk’s chronicle of what the locals believe in, just to give a few examples.

All this said, let’s get back to the wulver…

As mentioned, the wulver myth of the kind, fish-giving werewolf supposedly comes from Shetland. It’s caught on on the internet to the point that when I mention werewolves, it often gets brought up by someone at some point. There were even some wacked-out ridiculous spiky silly monsters in the latest God of War game called wulvers (but they are, predictably, brainlessly malevolent and aggressive, so whoever randomly pulled the name “wulver” off the internet for the game’s development couldn’t even be kind enough to respect that supposed legend, either).

But finding “wulvers” mentioned in professional werewolf studies by academics in the field publishing well-researched work is virtually impossible. Wikipedia will claim to you that there are a few articles that mention them, but some of them actually don’t. Do we ever hear the big names in werewolf studies mention wulvers? No, nor do they ever mention anything like them.

Do we have a primary source for wulvers? No.

We have no monk’s account and no ancient piece of writing from the region that indicates any belief in wulvers, nor do we have any kind of illuminations, bestiaries, engravings, woodcuts, paintings - we have nothing. No proof at all.

True, this doesn’t entirely mean that people didn’t believe in them. Maybe they did. But without a source, we can’t responsibly claim in a professional work that wulvers were ever a thing in folklore.

But wait, Mav! There is a source!

Every single article I have ever seen on the internet (because I’ve never come across the wulver in professional werewolf studies) only ever cites just one source for the wulver: Jessie Saxby’s Shetland Traditional Lore, published in 1932.

It’s bordering on impossible to reasonably get a copy of this book. It’s not available digitally. It’s been out of print for years. The only print copies available range around $100 in price and are essentially falling to pieces from mishandling, at least the ones I’ve encountered.

Virtually every other werewolf legend you can name has multiple sources and often at least one primary source - sometimes multiple, especially in the case of Greek and Roman werewolf legends. The wulver doesn’t have even one.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to try to discredit Saxby’s work. If someone out there can offer me some good proof that people in Scotland ever actually believed in the Wulver, then… awesome.

But at this point and after years of trying to find one, I still can’t find any reliable historical source to actually say with confidence that the wulver is a legitimate folkloric belief.

Even if someone were to suddenly present to me a Scottish writing from whatever era that has overt mention of wulvers and prove me wrong, though, the principle of this idea still stands.

You really shouldn’t believe everything you read on the internet (haven’t you ever heard the Abe Lincoln quote about that!? Oh wait…), especially about folklore. The internet is a vast and rich source for false information - and that seems to apply even more where folklore (sometimes especially werewolves) is involved. Always check your sources!

(If you like my werewolf blog, be sure to check out my other stuff!

Patreon — YouTube — Wulfgard — Werewolf Fact Masterlist — Twitter)

[palaeoplushies]

It looks like the Shetland Museum has done some digging on the Wulver and has the true answer to it’s origins!!

In recent years there has been a lot of discussion about the ‘wulver’, Shetland’s ‘kind and generous werewolf’, as someone has described him

https://www.shetlandmuseumandarchives.org.uk/blog/the-real-story-behind-the-shetland-wulver

Turns out it was likely the invention of a single person in the 1930s!

[strawberry-crocodile]

ultimately the best way to prevent abuse is to organize society in such a way that everyone's needs are met wothout having to rely on a parent or employer or boyfriend or any one individual. obviously wont stop, like, manipulation or so on, but the ability to dangle basic needs over someone's head is one of the most powerful and consistant tools of abuse out there. if someone is able to just leave, and know that they will have access to food and shelter and clean water and education, that will enable so, so mamy victims of abuse to do just that.

[strawberry-crocodile]

really funny how like 10% of the comments are people going "nuh uh" and the remaining 90% are people going "this is literally whats happening to me/my mom/etc Right Now"

[were--ralph]

hobbits are kind of like gay uncles

[were--ralph]

no i believe one will find its people

[de-activated-offical]

I need to do this. (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't do it) (Doesn't d

[wizardarchetypes]

you do have to be careful though like being naked in front of your window is alright but do not for any reason ever sit in front of a window at night brushing, wrapping, braiding, or otherwise carefully maintaining your lovely hair bc some vampire or elf or opera phantom might be falling in love with you from afar and then he's gonna make it your fucking problem.

[kinsey3furry300]

You say that, but after a full year of braiding my leg hair full-body starkers by the open window and screaming "Alas! Where are the tragic Bryonic villans tonight? Oh no what a pity if a beastly but still kind-of-hot misunderstood outcast was to carry me away from all this to thier spacious and well decorated gothic lair with a well appointed library and tasteful number of candles!" into the night across the cul-de-sac, and suddenly YOU’RE the problem.

Can't believe Nosferatu was in the fucking HOA, you can't have shit in Sussex.

[targetedknowledge]

[homunculus-argument]

The thing about ADHD is that the "lack of reward chemicals in your brain" doesn't just mean that you don't want to do any tasks that don't feel particularly yummy :(, it means that your brain will look at chores and tasks that need to be done like "doing this would be painful and tedious for absolutely nothing to gain from it, Do Not Do That." The same thing that your brain tells you about everything else that would feel really bad and hurt the entire time that you're dying. The part of your brain that stops you from doing the thing is the same part that keeps you from shoving your arm into a wood chipper.

With unmedicated, unmanaged ADHD, "I have to do this assignment or I fail and my life will be ruined and I die" feels like a SAW trap, every single time.

[urgentkettle]

Articles written by neurotypicals will be like “ADHD children find the external motivation of the SAW traps is very effective. Here’s how to build SAW traps to maximize their productivity.”

[c-rowlesdraws]

I've been made aware that it is Tired Beast Thursday, so here is Sweet Pea the gnoll, my tired beast. She's just fine, she's sleeping on the floor because the bed is too soft-- and her goblin friend Nettle isn't complaining, because now she gets the whole big person sized bed to herself.

(an older drawing, with the ask that inspired it, but I can't find my original post, alas)

[macaronniart]

what if the spider loved the fly 😳 and they were both girls

(ko-fi / youtube)

[ratsquinks]

a little croissant