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as a teen, i was constantly harassed by adults enforcing ''dress codes'' on me. I very much experienced this as sexual harassment. I think this is one of many cases where people would more easily understand this as sexual harassment if I described it as if it happened to an adult.

imagine being on your lunch break, and your supervisor comes over to your table, tells you to stand up in front of everyone. they draw everyone's attention to your thighs. they tell you that you have broken the dress code because of the length of your shorts. they tell you to go change (so you do not get the rest of your lunch break). they do this every single day at lunch. every day. so you read the whole dress code front and back, and you choose your clothing carefully to not break it. you bring a cloth tape measure with you to work because they will not believe you. this time when your supervisor tells you that you're breaking dress code, you pull out your tape measure and show that you are within the limit. your supervisor says "I bet you wouldn't want me to bring you to the boss and let him measure it, would you?" it's clearly a threat: if you don't obey then you will be put alone in a room with your boss and he will touch your thighs. you don't know how to respond. you're taken out of lunch again.

this was my experience at school. replace supervisor with "teacher" and boss with "principal." this was sexual harassment. fuck dress codes.

anthropologist-on-the-loose

It is not nearly common enough knowledge that most Native tribes in the U.S. don't actually own all of the land within their reservation. There are millions of acres of reservation land that tribes don't legally own and they have no control over how that land is used. Like, there are a lot of different concepts tied in with the land back movement, but a major one is literally just getting reservation land back into tribal ownership.

fraeyen

I’m assuming your talking about the tremendous disaster that is the fractional inheritance of land in reservations that has been forcibly divided between exponential heirs, making the management of land impossible as 40 acres could have more than 400 owners, that are required to come to a consensus to do anything. To quote from the fantastic book “Mine!” “6 million acres of native land have been tied up in 100 000 fractionated tracks, owned by 250 000 land owners, holding 2.5 million fractional interests.”

The amount of money that is spent tracking the tiny percentages random descendants own that could be spent improving Native American life is astounding.

anthropologist-on-the-loose

Yeah, fractionated land is an absolute nightmare in the management of tribal land that I could do a whole rant about (what do you mean someone inherited 0.0000002% of 40 acres and it's worth 12¢, the postage alone to notify all the relevant parties cost 1000 times as much, I can't believe I have to waste my work hours on processing this bullshit).

But I was referencing the way more basic fact that many tribal governments literally do not own all of the land within the reservations that were guaranteed to them in treaties. There are prime parcels owned by private white land owners or the government smack dab in the middle of reservations. And those private land owners legally don't need to get permission from the tribal government to do whatever they want with their land.

"But isn't the whole point of reservations is that they're land that's been, well, reserved for Native Americans?" Yeah, that's what the treaties say, but the US doesn't exactly have a great track record with honoring those.

mukuroom

Oh boy, a complex character who's a woman! I love messy characters who hurt everyone around them and continue the cycles that hurt them!! Can't wait to share this joy with fellow fans– why's everyone calling her a bitch

meatsound

racists really are troglodytes of the earth. a black woman showed up to a ben franklin impersonation contest for fun, won, and people are legitimately mad about it. girl this is funny as hell how are you mad.

lesbianshepard

one of the funnier incidents of me assuming someone knew a meme irl was when a new coworker was talking about some woman who got arrested for tax fraud and I went "God forbid women do anything" and he got scared and thought I was accusing him of being sexist, so he started apologizing and saying how tax fraud isn't even bad, actually.

parkerposey

I feel like a horse with no name is probably the best song in the world. Not even my Favorite song just the best

parkerposey

He’s literally just telling it like it is

girlmostlikely

brbjellyfishing

and how do you know what that sounds like

assassinregrets

liones-s

one of the most boring lessons I’ve learned is that when a task feels overwhelming, you just have to start doing it. Even if you’re not sure how to do 90% of it, look for one small component that seems close and start there. Sometimes it’s reading one article on the topic, or searching one related term, or literally just googling how to do the task. Do anything other than thinking about it. The process of working on a thing inherently makes it less scary.

reactionimagesdaily

frenyuri

Need

storyweavingspider

E-Readers Only Safe For White People

chilewithcarnage

we're not ever gonna make this website a safe space for black people or have a substantial black user base anymore unless y'all (non blacks obv) come to grips with the fact that y'all hold internal biases whether some of y'all be blatantly racist and hide behind your disabilities/mental illnesses queerness/transness or it's something as simple as if you see a black face on your dash you immediately swipe up

chilewithcarnage

jay-rayart

I made this comic around the time I started developing characters for FLY. It came from a time I wore a pink shirt in 5th grade and my peer told me I wasn’t supposed to be “pretty”

Through the overwhelming love I’ve received there were a few notions that I noticed in all the noise. One especially concerning is this idea that boys should not be portrayed in ways that have anything to do with femininity. But I believe there is a world where boys can be loved for all the colors, be soft, be strong, be bold. And know that the things the love never make them any less of a man. I made fly for the black boy in me that was afraid to where pink. I want that kid to soar.

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/372115507/fly-a-magical-black-boy-series-pilot-animatic

boringkate

Turning to dust seeing people react to the part in The Incredibles where Elastigirl sighs about being built like a Pixar mom. Them needing it explained that it played differently in the 2000s because beauty standards were different back then.

So fucking old that I remember camming on chaturbate and having a black fan feel the need to explain his complement and that being thick can be desirable in his culture. Because we were kinda still at the tail end of white women being ashamed of having asses. Probably just a few months before the Kim Kardashian breaking the internet thing.

You know she doesn't even have as fat of an ass anymore? Society is regressing. There's still time to right the ship though. Go edge to pics of fat asses.

chilewithcarnage

its important to note the difference between beauty standards and beauty trends. while there have been efforts to put forth body postivity/neutrality overwhelmingly the standards of beauty have remained unchanged over the past couple centuries due to of course white beuaty standards, white supremacy and colonialism. that being the standard of women to be slender in most societies. for a moment on tiktok there was a discussion of the difference between what constitutes as fat with regard to white american vs. black american cultures as footage of the singer addison rae sparked controversy with many white women calling addison, a grown woman who not particularly skinny but also definitely not plus sized as fat. white women were ashamed of having asses because of racism. antiblackness in particular. a fat ass is not only seen as fat but its seen as 'ghetto' and 'classless'. even within the black american culture and community a fat ass was seen as desirable but only on a non fat body. the kardashians being the tastemakers of white american popular culture for the past odd 20 years or so are social chameleons, they change their bodies and appearances on whats popular at the time. kim and all of her sisters notably have had a thing for black men going all the way back to the 90s and wanted to attract what they desired so they gave themselves themselves the physical attributes of whats deemed attractive in regards to black femininity. regardless of the racial ambiguity of the kardashians theyre ambiguous enough that theyre still able to associate themselves with the white wealthy elite. hip hop rap and black aesthetics arent as mainstream currently that we're in our second term of trump's america and there's push on all fronts to go back to an era of either the lionized european frail white beauty the stick thin baywatch big boobed blonde of the 80s or the plain unassuming 50s housewife. society is regressing because the racism that never left is becoming increasingly louder and more mainstream and normalized. i dont know if 'edging it to fat asses' is the solution but yall do you.

chilewithcarnage

Im trying to educate y’all about how a hatred of fatness and additionally fat asses stems from antiblackness and this is your response.

boccher

funny seeing the google ai go on full defense for white people over the word honky while the wiki article it's sourcing is just like "yeah its some insult". they're injecting their own #alllivesmatter weights into the bot

storyweavingspider

Getting cancelled on tumblr because someone went into my blog archives and caught me calling crackers the H word with a hard Y

storyweavingspider

I wish tumblr let you easily record and post voice messages because over on discord I’m hittin the Sorry To Bother You White Voice and callin em “My Honka”

Don’t worry, I got the Honky Pass, I can say it

anotherworld97

creatingblackcharacters

#Make Racists Scared Again 2026

creatingblackcharacters

Share if you want people to know they should be scared to be racist around you 👊🏾

creatingblackcharacters

"making them afraid will make them more racist" that's wild to me, because we live in a whole culture of social consequences for antiracism anyway. It is literally safer to be a racist than it is to speak up against it, socially.

Idk about you, but "I'm afraid no one will want to be my friend if I'm a white supremacist" seems like a pretty logical thought process to have, and I wish THAT were the normal and not "I'm afraid my friends will hate me if I tell them they made racist jokes".

chilewithcarnage

MAKE RACISTS AFRAID AGAIN 2KFOREVER!!!