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[mornyavie]

-_- a bunch of theater outlets are going "first trans person to win a Tony Award" despite multiple other trans people winning Tony's in the past few years.

Playbill has this bullshit to say:

While Jean is the first openly trans person to win a Tony, there have been a number of non-binary Tony winners: Cole Escola, Alex Newell, J.Harrison Ghee, and Toby Marlow.

a black trans woman won a Tony and that is not nothing! and I believe she's the first black woman to win one, period! good for her!

but literally every article is pretty outright that nonbinary people don't count and I'm mad about it

[genderkoolaid]

we will NOT be doing this to love of my life Alex Newell.

but more broadly, nonbinary actors in general. four nonbinary actors have won a Tony, but it only matters to the community when a binary person does it? Alex Newell (any pronouns) and J. Harrison Ghee (he/she/they) won their Tonys at the same time, the first openly nonbinary people to do so, and served while doing it

they had to put themselves in gendered categories (one other nonbinary performer opted out of the awards entirely because of the lack of a nonbinary option) and they chose to accept the award as actors, officially.

shout out to Qween Jean but was this not openly trans enough? Ghee literally did a trans interpretation of their character in Some Like It Hot. what more do you people want.

[crushed-sugar]

Special shoutout to all the queer, intersex, and trans het folks. Sorry for all the “it’s illegal to be straight this month” jokes you’ll have to endure. Y’all are still very much part of the community.

[penumbralwoods]

every time someone realizes they dont have to pick between being a boy or a girl an angel gets its wings btw. and also extremely loud cheering can be heard in the distance from me specifically

[penumbralwoods]

btw if you've ever wondered why i make posts like this and get really obnoxious about nonbinary positivity. this is why

and for all of yall that are still figuring it out or aren't getting the support you deserve:

[xfhsfh]

@this-is-nonbinary-joy

[vinterfeminism]

Happy Pride Month everyone!! This Pride Month, don't forget about intersex people!! Intersex people aren't some weird anomaly nor a fictional thing, we are real and we deserve a voice and a space and a community. Intersex people may be straight or not (including lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, or any other sexuality)! They also might be cis or trans or neither or both!! Intersex gender identities can have a very wide variety just like anyone else, and this may be exacerbated by frequently being inconsistently gendered or raised as one gender when their body has traits as what other people may view as the "opposite" (though really men and women aren't all that different so I don't really think there is an opposite, but that's not what this post is about). There are disabled intersex people, intersex people of colour, fat intersex people, old intersex people, young intersex people, and any other type of intersex person you can imagine! It is very possible that you know an intersex person even if you (or even they) don't know it.

This Pride Month, remember to love intersex people and make them feel included in the 2SIALGBTQ+ community!! (I spell the acronym this way since Two Spirit, Intersex, and Asexual and/or Aromantic people are often forgotten or spoken over)

We belong in the queer community, and we deserve to have a voice. Be kind to intersex people and most importantly, try to make an intersex person smile every day this Pride Month!!

[isuggestrespectintersexppl]

I have a suggestion! Listen to Vi's words, it spoke well!

[our-queer-experience]

you all deserve BETTER

[skysthelimit57]

Non-binary people can't use they/them because they're only one person. Non-binary people can't use it/its because it's dehumanizing. Non-binary people can't use neopronouns because they're too confusing. Non-binary people can't use he/him and/or she/her because that's not gender neutral. Non-binary people can't use no pronouns because that's too hard to use.

No matter what pronouns a non-binary person uses somebody will get mad at them.

[quastions-i-dont-ask-on-main]

Hello, Tumblr user. Here's a non-binary character who uses they/them. Their ASAB isn't relevant at all for the story and everyone regardless of relationship uses they/them for them and they're trans. Your challenge will be to not try to sniff out their ASAB. Go---- oh you're already telling other people who don't agree with you they're wrong and bigoted for hcing it different from you. Okay.

[letsbequeeraboutit]

Ever notice that when trans/nonbinary people AFAB mention that they were AFAB, they're accused of weaponizing their AGAB, but when they don't bring it up, they're accused of trying to disguise being "TME"? Surely that doesn't indicate anything malicious.

[letsbequeeraboutit]

Reminder that "male privilege" is actually a kind of "cis privilege" that is not afforded to trans people of any gender. It is reserved for pericishet white men who perform patriarchy "correctly".

[mousegirlheart]

*wokely* tell me what genitals you have, stranger i just met

[yesornopolls]

Could you imagine being in a poly relationship?

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Voting ended onNov 28, 2025

[ceruleanheaven]

the lion concerns himself with everything

[chilewithcarnage]

[politicallychargedhummus]

[brucesterling]

[intersexcat-tboy]

Fascinating how the same people who argue that "binary trans" is a slur will say they "theyfab" isn't

[letsbequeeraboutit]

"don't call me binary" is the new "don't call me cis". truly I do not know why binary trans people are so offended by the idea of being categorized as such. (I'm not gatekeeping nonbinary identities, just to be clear. anyone who feels the label fits is welcome to use it. this is in reference to people who do not consider themselves to be nonbinary.)

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

there's this well-meaning but I think quite misguided Thing where someone transmasuline whose transition has left them looking, for lack a better term, very conventionally masc - bearded, muscular, liable to be assumed cisgender - will be held up in an argument that essentially goes "lmao you dumbass terfs really want THIS GUY to use the women's bathroom???" as if it's inherently absurd that someone who looks that way would use the women's bathroom. and these tend to get passed around quite a lot to cackle at the stupid terfs who want huge hairy men in women's bathrooms.

and like, let's get one thing straight: no, of course they don't want that guy to use the women's bathroom. they want him to die or detransition; that's their actual goal. they want him to not exist as a trans person. let's just be clear on that.

but the thing that actually bothers me is that this rather steamrolls over the fact that for every transmasuline person who looks like that, there are also transfeminine, nonbinary, and intersex people who look like that and want access to women's bathrooms, and setting up their presence as some kind of absurdity really isn't doing them any favors. nor is it helping the less "passing" trans people who want to use men's bathrooms! this is in fact reinforcing the idea that public bathrooms are a space to be policed based on appearance, that you only gain access to if you can look a certain way.

which is absurd for many reasons, including that it's a fucking bathroom. people are there to piss. ideally anybody should be able to piss next to anybody and we could stop bothering with gender separated bathrooms at all, but in the meantime let's at least not take part in actively encouraging people to decide at a glance who's allowed to piss where.

[northern-punk-lad]

JKR is once again attacking a woman of colour

[mentally-thrown-out-a-window]

Isn’t ssooo crazy that the ‘defender of women’s rights’ constantly attaches and harasses women who aren’t hyper feminine looking all the time or who otherwise don’t fit in to the gender binary

That’s sooo willld

[desertbuddie]

Transphobia, Misogyny and Racism all intwined and like the bigot JK is she is once again doing all three.

[agnesmontague]

[queercripintersex]

Never forget: intersexism has a long, shared history with eugenics. Eugenicists thought black people were more likely to be intersex than white people because they deemed black people to be "less evolved".

This has been debunked over and over again but it persists because racism and intersexism have this shared history.

Doctors and bigots will bend over backwards to downplay the prevalence of intersex variations in the white population (e.g. denying PCOS hyperandogenism and Klinefelters as intersex because they are "too common") while at the same time these same gatekeepers will view those common intersex variations as Full Blown Intersex whenever it's a black person (especially a black woman).