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The moral of Rudolph the Red nose reindeer is that no one likes you unless you’re useful.
rudolph the red-nosed reindeer as capitalist propaganda: discuss
rudolph was already exactly as useful as the other reindeer. the moral is deviation from the norm will be punished unless it is exploitable
good morning it is time for my yearly reblog of my seasonally-appropriate hall of fame post
What's the difference between exorsexism and binarism? I see both being used interchangeably.
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binarism specifically refers to the erasure of cultural genders by western colonisers. it could be seen as the intersection of racism and exorsexism. the term binarism has existed longer than exorsexism has.
as discussions around nonbinary-specific issues gained more traction, many people would call the oppression of nonbinary people "binarism" because it mimics other words we use for oppression, like sexism or classism. after it was pointed out that binarism already had a more specific meaning, the word exorsexism was coined to cover nonbinary oppression as a whole.
you'll still see people use the terms interchangeably though simply because people try to find a word to describe our experiences and, by following existing patterns, arrive at "binarism".
hopefully this blog will help make exorsexism an even more well known term.
and it is similarly bizarre to try and separate trans men's experiences into a trans part and a man part. That's not how people experience the world. There's not a trans part that gets sexually assaulted and a man part that gets refused an abortion, there's one undivided person experiencing both. To ask trans men to defer to some baseline trans-exclusionary concept of manhood in interpreting their experience as trans men is just cruel. They should get to speak as full people.
i think one of the main issues with "dating culture" in total is that the actual percentage of humans who want or need to pair bond or reproduce is a lot lower than we think it is and this creates conflict from dumping an enormous amount of resources into pursuing unsatisfactory goals, having an identity crisis when yet another relationship or partner is boring or disappointing, going through a destructive breakup and resource partition, and then being coerced into starting over from the beginning and just doing this over and over until we die. i don't think relationships and love and romantic attachment are fake I just think a lot of people don't actually need or want them who have been convinced otherwise
I’m fucking livid
It genuinely bothers me how almost nobody wants to talk about or acknowledge how disturbingly normalized it is to mock, devalue, and appearance-shame nonbinary folks online.
I hate being told it’s wrong for me to identify under the trans umbrella because I “don’t belong there”. I hate being misgendered and accused of “faking” and “attention-whoring” because I’m not androgynous and don’t feel dysphoric about my breasts. I hate being called a “theyfab” and having that term used to discredit me. I hate being told to censor my self-expression so I “don’t look like a stereotype”. I hate my preferred pronouns never being used because it/its is too “weird”. I hate being laughed at the very second I bring up neopronouns and xenogenders. I hate being subject to jokes about my chosen name. I hate having every single aspect of my identity and expression laughed at and mocked constantly because y’all hold such a fucked-up stereotype of nonbinary people as these 2016-esque SJW keyboard warrior caricatures and I hate watching people online giggling away at “Arson (they/star/bun) in the Discord groupchat” memes because cringe culture never died to them, they just chose a more “acceptable” target to project it onto.
That post about sleeping with your friends has ilicited the most fascinating gut reactions out of people. you think sex is inherently unclean, that it ruins relationships, and that it’s “sacred”? wow. neat. I don’t care even slightly. please stop talking
If we can't rid the queer community of anti-masculinity, you will always be imposing a level of womanhood on trans men, which is inherently transphobic. A trans man should be able to live his life, embody his own masculinity without being admonished for it by people who claim to be progressive. Degendering us is not a compliment, malgendering us is not gender affirming. Women are not more virtuous than men and that sentiment is misogynistic.
We're men and we deserve basic human respect as any other person should be given. That basic human respect is respecting our identity, realizing your biases and hangups with our identities have nothing to do with us and should not be imposed on us. Imposing biases on others' identities is exactly what conservative bigots do, there is no 'woke' way to do that.
State sanctioned sexual assault
You simply cannot expect intersex people to constantly center perisex feelings and ignorance in their discussion. Yes, the H slur is an actual slur, even when used to describe intersex and cosexed animals. Yes, intersex people are oppressed. Yes, they're often medically abused, not "given treatment denied to trans people". No, they're not "biologically nonbinary" and yes, they can be any gender just like perisex people. Many "treatments" for intersex variants hinge upon not what is best for the person's body and needs but what will make them appear perisex. To imply any of this is false is intersexist and to try to center your own worldview and feelings in a conversation about someone else's lived experiences is selfish and equally bigoted. If you are not intersex, the discussion is not and cannot be expected to be about your opinions and worldviews.
I've said this before but every basic feminism 101 women's empowerment event I've ever been to has been all about telling women and girls that it's okay to speak up for ourselves, it's okay to take up space, it's okay to be strong and fast and loud and hungry and sexy and smart and good at things without feeling shame, but apparently, with the way some people talk, the second a trans woman does any of these things it's evidence of "male socialization" and needs to be called out and "corrected." like, even if this were the case, which it isn't, I think it's patently insane to believe "it looks like these women don't have as much crushing shame from a lifetime of experiencing misogyny as most other women" (<- a claim that, from my experience, is simply not true about trans women) and then follow it up with "I must Fix This by teaching them to shut up and be ashamed" instead of, like, idk "good for them, I wish this type of liberation for all other women as well."
I think there's a not-insignificant of cis people who (usually subconsciously) think of "transgender is when a boy is trans and nonbinary is when a girl is trans"
Intersex trending?
• Friendly reminder bæddel, hermaphrodite, & futa are all slurs no matter the context.
• Intersex doesn't mean having a penis and vagina/cosexual/bigenital.
• When trans people go on about how "cis people get gender affirming care" "cis people get puberty blockers/hormones" etc, you are talking about intersex people. And most of the time we don't have the autonomy granted to us to choose. The same system oppresses us and forces us into the status quo. The only difference is for intersex people they are medically forced into one sex category, for the peritrans they are denied medical things to keep them in society's binaries. It's a lack of autonomy.
• IGM (intersex genital mutilation) is when doctors decide to genitally change intersex babies. These surgeries are only cosmetic, meaning the doctors do not care about how it functions, just the look.
• Every single anti trans law has made an exception for intersex people so they can continue oppressing us.
• Lying about being intersex doesn't make you safer. You as a trans dude lying about having gynemastica isn't making you safer. Intersex people are treated just as badly.
• Intersex people are still raped & mutilated by the medical system (yes even in '1st world' countries) and it's common practice.
• A species cannot be "all intersex", as being intersex refers to variations in ones sex.
• Whenever you see a "nonbinary" animal, it's usually just an intersex animal.
• Intersex people are not assigned "intersex" at birth, We usually still have AGABs, as AGAB was original used by doctors to refer to us. Additionally, an intersex person may be reassigned throughout life.
• SIG refers to socially imposed gender, for many intersex people they have an inconsistent socially imposed gender.
i'll think of more later, feel free to add on
the terms afab and amab have always belonged to the intersex community
just because perisex people have bastardized their meaning, doesnt mean that it belongs to them now
afab DOES NOT MEAN "person who was born with a vagina"
amab DOES NOT MEAN "person who was born with a penis"
that re-definition is the result of bastardization.
someone who has a vagina is müllerian or close-to-müllerian (and that term is inclusive of trans women/fems/nonbinary people who have medically transitioned)
someone who has a penis is wolffian or close-to-wolffian (and that term is inclusive of trans men/mascs/nonbinary people who have medically transitioned)
someone who was afab can be wolffian at birth
someone who was amab can be müllerian at birth
DOCTORS CAN AND DO FUCK UP, EVEN IF THE BABY IS PERISEX. STOP TREATING THEIR GENDER ASSIGNMENT AS GOSPEL.
If you haven't seen the new anti-trans report that RFK and the Trump administration just put out, I recommend you don't. It's as bad or worse than you think it is. Worse than the Cass Report (which it cites 149 times in its 400+ pages).
It's fully of pseudoscience, cherry-picked half-truth, outright forgeries, discredited doctors, and cites multiple opinion pieces by some of the loudest, most vile transphobic pundits in the country - such as Jesse Singal and Abigail Schrier a total of FIVE SEPARATE TIMES EACH - in addition to liberal institutions like the Washington Post Editorial Board which were committed to "just asking questions.
The report is claims to be exclusively about trans children and says it will not deal in transition care for adults, but it does so frequently and has entire section dedicated to it. At times it baselessly claims that transitioning results in harmful or poor outcomes for trans adults as a statement of fact with no citation to back it up.
It tries to explain away any improvement in trans people's lives as us just being unable to know ourselves due to inherently deceitful nature and inability to judge our internal well-being.
It sites underemployment, increased social and familial discrimination, and higher suicide rates as a direct outcome of transition related healthcare, not as outcome of an inherently hateful and bigoted society.
They are setting up not just banning youth care, but adult care as well.
It's bad. It's very, very bad.
it's genuinely crazy that free the nipple died
like we're back to the point where you only rarely find someone brave enough to go braless with a shirt on it's gotten so bad. i dont make a particularly regular habit of staring at the boobs of strangers but when im dabbling i have to say i may be noticing a downward trend of pokies
Feminism isn't doing so hot rn even down to the little day-to-day line items like "you don't have to wear a restrictive undergarment cause your nipples are not more inappropriate than male nipples"
I’m putting “mansplaining” on a shelf with the other terms the internet isn’t allowed to have anymore like trigger and gaslight. Mansplaining is a specific phenomenon that happens within certain contexts and I feel it’s just been turned into “any conversation that’s mildly annoying you are having with someone who happens to be a man/masculine.”
