Lushyfluff Rambles

I am a fat-positive, femme, kinky, poly, pagan, dyke. I am married to someone with D.I.D. I am an age player, little, and submissive. Daddy and I are poly. She/her/hers

[blueklectic]

[issasideblogbruh]

Why would you…… rip my strands right from my scalp like this

[saathiray]

FINALLY a wording for this I’ve been trying to find that doesn’t turn into victim-blaming

[talix18]

Where the hell was this bit of insight 35 effing years ago?

[smitethestate]

This is one of the best things I’ve learned through therapy. The human brain wants to seek out the familiar, so the reason you keep ending up in relationships with the same kind of shitty people or repeating harmful behaviors is not because you’re broken or whatever. It’s because there’s something from your past that is putting you into that cycle. Whether your brain thinks that abuse is love, or is seeking to play out a situation from your past to achieve a better outcome, or is simply drawn to what it knows and understands, that is the reason so many people run into the same problems over and over in relationships and other aspects of their lives. To break the cycle, you have to recognize the problem and work on it.

You’re not attracted to abuse or to toxic people. You’re attracted to what you know and understand, good or bad. 

[accidental-muse]

boost worthy.

[cherishedproperty]

I worry about this a lot.

[crusoesampersand]

Bad Sub Struggle

I’m a bad sub.

I’m old.  I’m all freckles and farmer’s tan and fleshy bits.  My hair is short and I don’t know how to wear makeup.  My entire hair and makeup routine in the morning takes 7 minutes.  My heels are “cute” Doc Martens.

I’m not a size 2.  Nope.  I’ve been a size 2…. not so much anymore.

I’m a bad sub because I wear clothes at home.  I even wear clothes to cook! I saw a reblogged pic recently where the girl was naked beneath the apron, the pot was empty, no flame, none of the knobs were turned, but she was “stirring” with a spoon…..ugh.  I would love to cook in my fantastic kitchen wearing nothing but perfectly applied makeup and an apron.  Alas, most days I am cooking wearing steel-toed boots, jeans, a t-shirt with a collared shirt over top and kind of sweaty hair plastered to my face.  Hmmm. Ain’t that sexy?

I wear clothes to bed. I live in a house with an elementary school-age child. I wear a nightgown.  A nightgown with tiny flowers on it and a bow, my grandma gave it to me.  My grandma nightgown does not in any way, shape, or form, stop me from servicing Sir.  Somehow I think the flowered, grandma nightgown makes the things we do behind closed doors more decadent, but I don’t see many pictures of models in cotton nightgowns.  Oddly, my collar and cuffs still fit the same regardless of what I’m wearing (or not.)  

I have opinions.  I have opinions that contradict my Sir.  I am of a different political party than my Sir.  We manage to coexist.  I serve Him regardless of who I am voting for.

I realize that Tumblr and Fet are fantasy, but the fantasy is just beyond comprehension.  Why is it that all I see are perfect subs?  Why is everything I read about perfect D/s dynamics? Apparently, I’m doing something wrong, and have been doing it wrong for a very long time.  I don’t look like anything like what exists on Tumblr.  I don’t know exactly how to qualify it, but it seems surreal.  All I see are models, all I read is how wonderful and easy it is.  

Fuck that.  Relationships are hard.  D/s?  Exponentially more challenging.

Tell me you fart.

Tell me you fight.

Don’t tell me how wonderful and “easy” it all is.

I don’t wish ill on anyone, but we struggle.  I struggle.

I serve Him, but I resent it sometimes.  I don’t wander in uber-dreamy sub-state all the time.  It just isn’t real.  In the real world, in my real world, I struggle.

I don’t think I’m a bad sub, and neither does my Sir.  

Alas, in the perfect fantasy world of Tumblr and Fet I’m a bad sub.  

So, I’m a bad sub, and I struggle.  I”m okay with that.

All freckles and farmer’s tan…. no airbrush, no photoshop, no filter or fancy lighting.  

[instructor144]

Always a reblog.

[glaucophane]

My one regret is that I have but nine squares to fill in.

[archaeologistproblems]

Our archaeological discipline may be lawful, but as archaeologists, geologists, and palaeontologists, we’re all probably more of a chaotic neutral, tbh.

[glaucophane]

I’d argue that archaeology tends toward being more lawful than paleontology, since you guys dig in nice ordered grids and we dig in whichever direction our specimen seems to have exploded.

[archaeo-geek]

When I read this I had a moment of archaeologists’ anxiety at the notion of not digging in a grid to standardize contexts so yeah, that’s fair.

[glaucophane]

We still use grids for mapping skeletons to preserve some site context, but excavation itself is more “keep chasing the thing you’ve found until you either run out of it or you’re stepping on another person.”

[archaeo-geek]

*Anxious noises*

[archaeologistproblems]

I’m seeing a bunch of tags on this confirming archaeologists are chaotic but point to @glaucophane on this one - we may be utterly ridiculous chaotic scientists with a glut of bizarre field stories, but I would come close to stabbing someone with my trowel for not digging in a grid pattern and not keeping their units level, their profiles vertical, and their artifacts properly bagged and labelled according to unit and lot number on any site I was managing. Good field methods = lawful people.

[catchymemes]

“My mom painted this and said no one would like it. It’s her 2nd painting.”

“I painted somebody’s mom”

“Took a while and not perfect, but i painted the guy who painted the other guy’s mom”

“I painted the girl who painted the guy who painted the other guy’s mom who painted an egret”

“I painted the guy who painted the girl who painted the guy who painted the mom who painted a bird”

“When it sinks in that I stayed up most of the night to paint a meme for internet points…”

[yetimati]

…And nobody thought to post other “branchs” of this chain? Yes, it’s ‘branchS’, plural, because apparently we also have these:

Bit wonky, but I painted the woman who painted the guy who painted the lady who painted the swan.

Bit shitty, but I painted the woman who painted the woman who painted the guy who painted the lady who painted the swan

I painted u/Shitty_WaterColour who painted the woman who painted the woman who painted the guy who painted the lady who painted the swan

I painted u/color_on_a_page who painted u/Shitty_WaterColour who painted the woman who painted the woman who painted the guy who painted someone’s mom who painted a swan

Oh well, here’s yet another layer

Another branch, starting from the girl with the white background:

Took an hour or so but I painted the girl who painted the guy who painted the other guys mom

I didn’t like how reddit treated the iPad guy so I painted the guy that painted the girl that who painted the guy who painted the other guys mom on my iPad.

Continue from OP’s branch:

I haven’t painted in two years and I’m glad for the inspiration!!

A painting of the guy who hasn’t painted in years painting the guy who painted the girl who painted the guy who painted the girl who painted the other girl who painted the guy who painted the other guys mom

Same ‘level’ as the one above:

Usually lurking but not today…plaid was a great challenge!

Continue! With a cat!

We painted the guy that painted the other guy who hadn’t painted in 2 years who painted the other guy who painted the girl that painted the guy who painted the girl that painted the guy that painted some guy’s mother who painted a swan whilst making them all an NPC in the process

Honorary mentioned:

Cheep cheep cheep cheep cheep!!!

And finally, The Great Family Tree (some branch is not in the picture, pls click the link below for the full list:

This seems necessary…

https://nubleh.github.io/i_painted/

[butchstudsubmit]

@butchycryptid

[profeminist]

[gahdamnpunk]

[cowboyjen68]

I need some help starting a conversation with someone. There's this really cute girl who sits next to me in health. I get the feeling she's probably into girls because she dresses more alternative and that's a big sign in my school. She wants to be a tattoo artist and she just seems really cool and I'd like to get to know her, but I have no idea where to start.

You know she wants to be a tattoo artist.. That honestly seems like an interesting enough reason to ask her to tell you more. Say Hi.. and something like “hey you said you wanted to  be a tattoo artist.. I think that is really cool.. after classes do you want to go grab from some lunch or a coffee”.  If she says no.. she might be straight OR just not interested Or have a SO already.  But if she says “sure”. At coffee.. you can ask  “This was fun and I would like to ask you out on a real date ,but I am not sure if you date women”. 

We sometimes forget that most women like a direct approach..just ask.. If it was the other way around and a cute girl said they’d like to ask you on a date, even if you are not interested, it is nice to be asked. Most women are just not offended at being found attractive even if they are straight. 

So, what works for me.. JUST ask.. IF she says “no” you really haven’t lost anything.. If she says “yes” There ya go!

I am going to want to hear how it goes!  But my guess is it will go well and you will find out all about her favorite art style. Second date.. art exhibit or museum…

[sceirine]

Can’t wait for my new plugs to come in 🥰

[mysterymellie]

[shitpost-senpai]

This is what it’s like to be an adult.

[candiikismet]

For real

[pics-that-make-you-go-hmm]

[tamascotchi-deactivated20190101]

the new honda odyssey will tear your children limb from limb.

[brucebocchi]

[lena-zorel]

I can’t believe Jameela ended the kardashians

[amatasera]

END THEM PLEASE

[accidental-muse]

them, that industry, all of it.

[butchstudsubmit]

butch from australia wanting to make friends :) 

@j1c11e

[dankmemeuniversity]

[butchstudsubmit]

hi! people! this year marks twelve years since I realized I was a lesbian and ten years since I told anyone. I was a sad and nerdy teenager who thought I had to wear girly clothes and now I am a less sad but more nerdy adult who has a girlfriend that knits me sweaters from the men’s section on ravelry and yay, teenage me, it’ll be fine.

[email protected]

[dankmemes]

“I’m independent and strong, but sometimes…just sometimes, it’s nice to be taken care of.”

— Samantha Towle (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[dankmemes]

“I’m independent and strong, but sometimes…just sometimes, it’s nice to be taken care of.”

— Samantha Towle (via purplebuddhaquotes)