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17 • 𝔦𝔫𝔱𝔧 • 𝔟𝔦 • 𝔰𝔥𝔢/𝔥𝔢𝔯 𝔳𝔢𝔤𝔞𝔫 🍃 𝔱𝔴 𝔣𝔬𝔯 𝔢𝔡 𝔯𝔢𝔩𝔞𝔱𝔢𝔡 & 𝔬𝔱𝔥𝔢𝔯 𝔥𝔢𝔞𝔳𝔶 𝔰𝔱𝔲𝔣𝔣 𝔭𝔯𝔬 𝔯𝔢𝔠𝔬𝔳𝔢𝔯𝔶

[frogribbit]

i wish people would stop romanticizing not eating breakfast and not getting enough sleep and being dependent on coffee to function and always being in a bad mood and treating yourself poorly because that behavior is very unhealthy for you

[thinmakemethin]

Destroy the stereotype that anorexics don’t eat

Some days I will eat three meals a day, others I will eat nothing. Some days I’ll have fast food, others I will shake at the thought of it. Some days I will lie in bed all day, others I will get up and be productive. Some days I can’t stop thinking about food, others it passes over my head.

On good days I seem ‘fine’. But you don’t see what goes through my head on my bad days.

[b1rd-b0nes]

say it again for the people in the back 🙆🏼

[valtsv]

but if i don’t hyperfixate i’ll get depressed and die

[valtsv]

*runs out of hyperfixations* oh god oh fuck *lies in bed feeling empty and useless for 48 hours*

[evelynda-dahling]

me me me mE ME ME ME ME

[lovenotereminders]

Daily reminder to wlw that your attraction to women isn’t predatory. You don’t have a ‘male gaze,’ you aren’t objectifying women by being attracted to them, there is nothing sinful or wrong about finding women physically attractive. You aren’t a creep or a pervert for existing as a wlw. I know it can be hard not to internalise those feelings, but try to remember that your love for women isn’t harmful or shameful - it’s a beautiful, precious thing. 

(This post absolutely also applies to trans wlw)

[selflovewarrior]

if you’re overweight and you’re struggling with or have struggled with a restrictive type eating disorder you are valid. what you’re going through is real. you’re not faking it and you definitely deserve recovery. you deserve to feel happy in the skin you’re in.

weight is not a requirement for an eating disorder.

[heavyweightheart]

a common misconception about eating disorders - and often our own misperception - is that they involve huge amounts of discipline. they don’t. even the most severely self-starved anorexic is not exercising self-discipline. we are sick, and we have misguided brains that are driving us to deadly behaviors. we lack control completely.

the discipline enters the picture in recovery. can you make yourself keep eating when you’re in literal “flight” mode and your mind is screaming at you to get away from the table? can you stay on the couch when your brain is screaming that if you don’t go for a run, you will die? can you ask for the support you need when YOU’RE TOO MUCH is looping non-stop in your head? can you push thru the shame? can you do what’s healthy when the only way you knew how to feel safe was being sick? it’s not for the faint of heart.

people in recovery have the kind of discipline that saves lives; people w eating disorders have the kind of illness that takes them.

[queercatmermaid]

I just realized how fucking disgusting it is that it’s considered healthy and normal for teenage boys to eat everything ever yet teenage girls are obviously also growing but are fucking dieting all the time and shamed for eating while they’re growing

[segweg]

Shit

[rainbofiction]

That’s not even the half of it because

- often when a teenager (male or female) puts on some fat it’s in preparation for a growth spurt. Grownups know this. 

- teenagers grow in weird gawky ways, like a girl’s hips will spread out and look “fat” until her legs get longer, or they’ll shoot up super tall and then slowly put on muscle and fat. Grownups know this. 

- it’s very common for a women’s body weight to fluctuate plus or minus 5% with her menstrual cycle

but in the diet mentality all of these things are considered personal moral failures, a failure of control, when controlling it is literally impossible. I am so incredibly saddened by women who weigh themselves multiple times a week and fuss over ten freaking pounds when that’s well within the bounds of menstrual fluctuation + just-ate-lunch. It’s horrible.

[welkinalauda]

“A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative in women’s history; a quietly mad population is a tractable one.” – Naomi Wolf

[thunderboltsortofapenny]

Grown ups really do not know this. I tell this to parents at least once a week, your child is sleeping/moody/putting on weight because their body is preparing to more or less jump the Grand Canyon of maturation stages. Hormone changes start a full YEAR before first menses.

My own mother, who works in the medical field and has worked solely for OB/GYN for the last 16 years, gave me grief about all of those things. And she knew about hormone level changes and weight distribution changes and she STILL did it. Don’t think hard facts will outweigh societal norms. Keep talking about it until they can’t ignore the facts

[moodyehudi-deactivated20180519]

Eat!!! Food !!

[whenpetal]

my anorexia: no food. nope. just don’t eat. just starve. please just loose some weight.

my orthorexia: okay but just eat some healthy things it’ll be okay you seriously need to consume more calories. if it’s healthy food it’ll be okay.

my depression: fuck it. who fucking cares. it’s not like it matters. eat. just eat whatever the fuck you want.

my brain: what the actual fuck,

[eating-disorder-screwed-me-over]

can we agree that the worst thing, when you have an eating disorder is when you let yourself have one meal and it turns out to be horrible? you get these intrusive thoughts about how those calories didn’t even taste good and now you’re gaining weight for absolutely no good reason.

shit sucks

[marisatomay]

someone: it’s okay! you tried your best!!

me, with no idea of what my best even looks like anymore:

[daintygreenteabones]

Me: *putting on outfit*

Me:

No one:

Like literally no one:

Not a single person:

Ana: this would look better if you were thinner

[lovbun-deactivated20180210]

Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!

alternatives without harming yourself:

holding/squeezing ice.

splashing your face with water.

getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).

take a hot shower or bath.

eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)

massage where you want to self-harm.

get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.

remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)

describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;

having a family.

getting married.

to watch the sun rise.

to watch the sun set.

to save someone else’s life.

finish school.

get your dream job.

to laugh.

to smile.

to go camping.

travel to new places.

to wake up every morning to the person you love.

friends.

family.

to keep that promise you made.

to accomplish a goal.

to meet your idol.

to listen to new music.

theme parks.

video games.

chocolate.

to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

you are loved.

you are wanted.

you are needed.

you are beautiful.

you are handsome.

you are important.

you are not alone.

you are okay.

you are strong.

you are worth it.

you are smart.

you are not a failure.

you are useful.

you are going to be okay.

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[synodicsean]

Dont forget about Crisis Text Line! 

Text HOME to 741-741

[bristlee1]

for those who might need it

[groupthinker]

the one that stuck out to me was “save someone’s life”

[d-ana-18]

Gotta save this

[kinda-annoying-angel-deactivate]

This. This is the best post I’ve ever come across in this site. It’s far more effective than only putting suicide hotlines for different countries.. as most of us just don’t wanna call them - including myself as someone who’s been there a lot of times.

Also I genuinely love that friends and families of those who are struggling are included in this list as people experience a lot of distress when they don’t know how to help or what to say, at the end they are not trained for a such situation

I want to highlight the whole idea again, there is help out there. You are not alone. You’re loved and cared for. And you’ll be alright. Don’t worry. It’s all gonna be okay..

As someone I love told me once to keep me alive; We need you here.

[naiveasf]

[kygoldlight]

[Not mine]

[oumamichi]

me: *within reaching distance of a pill bottle*

intrusive thoughts: u could overdose

me: why though

intrusive thoughts: dunno lol just pointing out the options ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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