Aro kill shot. Ace of 💙

Blog for me to be louder about being Aro and Ace. Lily • 26 • she/her • Brazilian. AlloAllos may like/reblog but PLEASE don't add on. Main acc: @lovinnelily

[macesandarrows]

Tired of commitment being automatically related to romance.

From now on I'll be committing murder.

[aromantic-journal]

Begging you to actually engage with conversations about aromanticism and asexuality outside of a fandom lense no I don't care about the character we are real life people

[peach-pot]

being anti-amatonormativity in a romance centered world is like watching half the people you know put all their eggs in one basket and then drop the basket and all their eggs break and they’re crying and swearing they’re never gonna do that again and then a month later they have all new eggs in a new basket and they tell you the problem was they didn’t have a strong enough basket or fresh enough eggs and then they drop the fucking basket again.

[mar64ds]

Happy pride! If you’re looking for aspec stories, I could recommend you my RPG Maker games.

-Friendship Test: A long story-focused game that explores different aspec identities (aromanticism, aplatonicism, lovelessness…). Lots of aspecs have seen themselves on this game, maybe you’re next. Jokes aside, it’s a passion project that means a lot to me and it’s completely free for you to enjoy!

-Exe tries to save the holidays: A short follow-up to Friendship Test! While the main focus is not on aspec themes, we do have an aspec protagonist whose identity is important for her character. The game only costs 1,30$!

-Estranged Family: A spin-off to Friendship Test which is currently on development, but there is a 2 hour long demo available! I continue to explore more aspec themes here, maybe you’ll like this one too!

-Obsolete Friends: A short semi-horror game, unrelated to the Friendship Test series. Aspec themes are not the main focus, but there are aspec characters that are important to the story. It’s my newest game and it costs 2$!

You can find all my games on itch.io! Or you can watch full playthrough on the official channels for each game. Sorry I can't link anything cause Tumblr always makes sure my posts don't show up on the tags when I include links. But you can find everything on the blogs @friendship-test and @obsolete-friends ! Either way, thanks for reading!

[romance-n-sex-repulsed-aroace]

[ID: a set of 6 green banners with the following messages:

"You don't need to love"

"Non-amorous people are great"

"You don't need a partner"

"Being single is awesome"

"Society doesn't define you"

"Do what makes you happy"

End ID]

Some banner things I thought I'd make for today for non-amorous folks, in aro green~. (feel free to use these if you want to, no credit needed)

[yesornopolls]

are you aromantic?

Are you aromantic?

Yes

No

Voting ended onOct 5, 2024

[feral-critter]

Yes geologists! Doing the important work 💖

[rifle-wtf]

Credit to: The Sedgwick Museum of Earth Sciences

[arodabi]

I’m a nonamorous aromantic bc if i had to wake up next to the same person every day, take them w me to all events, and had to come home to them being in my house, I’d kill

[isuggestaplatonicism]

You don't need friends to be socially fulfilled. If all you want is to have conversations with someone, you know you don't need to befriend them right? Like, you can have a totally impersonal relationship with them, right?

You don't need to interpersonally commit to anyone to fulfill your social needs. Acquaintances exist for a reason!

You don't need friends to be happy! Let them go!!

[excuse-me-thanks]

aroace spaceguy save me

save me aroace spaceguy

[excuse-me-thanks]

reblogging my own post for prev’s insightful addition of doug eiffel — so real and true

[macesandarrows]

If anyone has any/more stories about space guys who are aroace (in spirit, in canon, in vibes, in the lack of opposing options), please, please, please!, let me know, I need them. Also, non space but science guys in general are very welcome.

[aro-culture-is]

Aromantic culture is being constantly asked by your parents if you like someone knowing that they'd be supportive regardless of the other's gender/ethnicity/etc but also knowing they'd not support you if you came out as aromantic :(

(I really wish people's understanding of the queer community didn't stop at same-sex relationships and trans people, the aspec community (and intersex too) is often left out)

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[echoeyee]

i love when exclusionists try to fearmonger about hypothetical cishet alloaro men as if they're the last line of defense against some sort of Fuckboy Invasion of Queer Spaces. like we all universally agree aros are queer and suddenly Gym Bro Josh is going to pride in aro flag gear so he can siphon money from queer charities or whatever the fuck

[echoeyee]

like i WISH there was a flood of cishet men openly identifying as aromantic. i wish aromantic identity was known and accepted enough that Gym Bro Josh could realize that about himself and live his truth but unfortunately we live in a world where even niche queer spaces can barely wrap their heads around the concept of alloaros let alone, like, the rest of society

[leoreturns-deactivated20110811]

[tumboner]

omg

[macesandarrows]

Enjoy your perfect date, y'all

[anxeious]

bathe in your own sunlight !!!!!!

[apolladay]

Fuck marry kill: fucking, marriage, killing

* Fuck Fucking, Marry Marriage, Kill Killing

* Fuck Fucking, Marry Killing, Kill Marriage

* Fuck Marriage, Marry Fucking, Kill Killing

* Fuck Marriage, Marry Killing, Kill Fucking

* Fuck Killing, Marry Marriage, Kill Fucking

* Fuck Killing, Marry Fucking, Kill marriage

Fuck marry kill: fucking, marriage, killing

Fuck Fucking, Marry Marriage, Kill Killing

Fuck Fucking, Marry Killing, Kill Marriage

Fuck Marriage, Marry Fucking, Kill Killing

Fuck Marriage, Marry Killing, Kill Fucking

Fuck Killing, Marry Marriage, Kill Fucking

Fuck Killing, Marry Fucking, Kill marriage

Voting ended onApr 24

[macesandarrows]

Oh, to fuck fucking and kill marriage, one can only dream

[sluttyquarantinetheory]

The concept that married people live longer is interesting. I'm sure there is some merit to the idea that if you're married there is someone there to nag you about going to the doctor, but I think much larger factors are having the finances of dual incomes and access to an immediate support person.

Surgeries require having a designated person to look after you. Many injuries require driving to somewhere like an emergency room which can be hard to do if you are the one injured. If you're home with the flu, it's hard to tell when it's bad enough to go to the hospital without another person checking on you. And if you pass out it requires another person to find you like that to get medical aid.

You can prop it up as the benefits of marriage, but I think there's a much deeper discussion to be had about how we've built society around marriage as an inevitable conclusion and neglected to build support systems that function outside of romantic pairings.

[sluttyquarantinetheory]

thinking about this further, people often cite this as a sort of See It's Better To Be Married and mostly accept it as a fact that being married is better for you overall and proceed to breakdown why marriage leads to longer lives. Instead I think we need to be looking at why the system is failing single people and what we could do to close that gap. What structural societal changes can we make to help single people rather than treat it as a Well Obviously foregone conclusion that everyone will eventually pair up.

It's not Why Are Married People Healthier? It's Why Aren't Single People as Healthy? And then actually examine the causes rather than hand waving it away with whichever stereotype of being single or half remembered memory of the last time you were single in your early 20s.

[beabaseball]

You're absolutely right that dual incomes probably help, though a lot of marriages may not have that and there's the stress of unpaid work, but most commonly, the explanation I see for 'married people live longer' is far and wide 'someone is looking for them.'

If at home is out of reach of a phone and has a heart attack, a fall, a stroke, a freak accident: they are not getting help until someone finds them.

If someone lives home alone, it may be a full day or more before help comes. Most emergency conditions are fatal by that point.

But if you're married, your spouse will probably notice if you get up in the middle of the night and never come back to bed. They are more likely to hear a sudden fall, or to at least find you within a few hours when they come home from work. They may notice strange behavior that may indicate a stroke, and if they notice in under 24 hours it may be reversed.

Someone living alone having a stroke may not be able to leave their bed. They will not be found until someone comes looking for them. Their work will assume they're ditching, and only call in for a wellness check if they think that's out of character Classmates will assume they're sick or something came up. Maybe they call their family once a week and the lack of communication will be noticed.

But someone who lives with you will notice you can't get out of bed and will call you an ambulance.

It's not that married people live longer: people who live with other people live longer.

[sluttyquarantinetheory]

I mean this isn't just a straight forward one contributing factor by any means. Living with people who know your habits can help, but we've also just built a lot of walls of isolation into society as a whole that make health and life more difficult for individuals who don't participate in a romantic relationships.

Getting paid leave to take care of a sick roommate isn't often allowed, but if it's your spouse or significant other, your employer is more willing to accommodate that. Bereavement leave is for close relatives not friends or roommates. You can connect your spouse to insurance. Your sibling, parent, and bestie don't qualify.

There are a lot of very specific ways in which marriage specifically is accommodated that benefit all those involved in ways other relationships aren't recognized. Living with anyone changes things from living alone, but there's more going on than just that.

It is also not just the actual statistics on life expectancy rates, but also the way we as a society only discuss them in relation to marriage when we want to make a point about the institution as a whole and often that is as a gesture towards it as confirmation that that is the correct thing to do.

[faerie-fangs]

I'm glad love isn't real