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[nyasm]

[regging]

eating disorders and abortions are two things that are like, spoken about in most mainstream discourse as though they are pretty rare and aberrant, but then when you’re actually friends with a lot of women you come to find out that they are extremely extremely common and kind of banal & mundane

[cpagliahater]

Same with rape and SA. Like 80% of my female friends were seriously assaulted. I feel like it's more like oh wow you didn't get touched on?

[kosmogrl]

my jaw is on the floor

[maliciosafem]

i hate that people so easily dismiss the fact that cristiano ronaldo bribed a woman so that she wouldn't go public about him supposedly raping her. even if he didn't do it, WHY would you have to pay someone to not come further about something you didn't do? that is SO sus

[seagullgal]

sex work fans love to ask you to compare prostitution to other jobs but refuse to compare it to other types of sex. if you take away someone’s food and say you’ll only give it back after a blowjob it doesn’t sound very consensual does it?

[kythereix]

The irony that you're literally proving sex workers' point without realising. What you're describing is literally any job, you do the work to not starve.

[seagullgal]

if you are coerced into stocking shelves not to starve, it’s annoying. it you are coerced into giving blowjobs and having sex not to starve, it’s rape

[kythereix]

Ignoring the ultimately dismissive part about "stocking shelves," like capitalism, doesn't actually destroy people's bodies and minds, I don't disagree that a lot of sex work falls under rape. But you guys don't actually care about keeping women safe. You demean the women who do sex work. If it was about protecting women, you would criticise the men and support decriminalisation rather than attacking and shaming women who do sex work.

[maliciosafem]

but the OP never shamed prostituted women. she said they are coerced, and therefore raped by their "clients", because any amount of coercion in sex does mean that it's assault. free informed consent is not present in sex "work". and i put it like that ("work") bc it's just sexual exploitation disguised as work.

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

Yves Bonnefoy, tr. by Anthony Rudolf, from The Selected Poems; “The Ravine,”

[maliciosafem]

i can't even complain about brazil losing, our team sucked and haaland is actually goated

[radfemme-rage]

[xenasaur]

the way ppl talk about latinas is kind of very gross if I'm being honest

[xenasaur]

they're like reverse Asians bro they're all stacked and they're fiery mamacitas who you can break like a horse and make into domestic servants who love family

[xenasaur]

"bro I need a big booty latina" bro I need you to kill yourself

[maliciosafem]

im surprised that men managed to make a stereotype out of countries that are literally the most mixed countries in the world. especially brazil. like there are ALL kinds of women here EVERYWHERE you go, how THE FUCK did you even come up w "ah yes latina means big butt and curly hair and having attitude". brother that's not even true for a great chunk of us

[thehairiestfeminist]

Let me describe to you what kind of world gender abolitionists actually dream about:

When a child would be born it’s biological sex, being an actual physical reality, would be noticed but not a single assumption regarding the child’s personality would be made based on it.

Growing up, children would be free to chose what toys and clothes they prefer. If they want to play with toy trucks or dolls, it would be fine either way. If they want to dress comfortably or in frilly colorful dresses, it would be fine.

Certain personality traits would not be encouraged in members of one sex and discouraged in the other. Females would be free to be strong, brave and assertive and males would not be shamed for being shy and soft spoken.

No female child would be called a tomboy and no male child would be called a sissy. No kid would ever be bullied for what we in our gendered world call “gender expression”.

When children would reach puberty they would still be free to dress how they want. Females would not be pressured to wear clothes that reveal their bodies and males would not be shamed if they chose to. Everybody would have a free choice of accessories, which would not be categorized as “men’s” or “women’s” but people could should whichever they liked. Or chose to not wear accessories at all if that’s what they are more comfortable with.

Females would not be pressured to keep their bodies slim, soft and hairless. Males would not be pressured to be athletic and muscular. Expectations of femininity and masculinity upon the body would not exist and affect negatively people’s relationship with their own body.

Everyone could choose a career without fearing stigmatization within that particular field because of their biological sex. The most important thing would be competence and not what someone has between their legs.

Domestic work would not be considered “women’s work” and would be shared equally between the sexes.

Biological sex would only be thought about when relevant. And everyone would be free to be themselves without ever having to worry about gender expectations. Nobody would feel the need to repress certain parts of their personality and exaggerate others in order to fit into some gender role that is being forced on them.

Gender abolitionism is not about restricting people’s choices but about giving them greater freedom.

- http://burningax.wordpress.com/2014/10/06/a-gender-free-world-boring/

[aetas-aurea]

So many women have internalized the idea that being difficult makes people think less of them, when in my experience the opposite is almost always true. Every single time I have spoken up, voiced what I actually need and refused to shrink the moment in order to be more comfortable for everyone else in the room, I have been approached afterward by people who wanted to know me better. There is no reward waiting for you on the other side of making yourself smaller. People do not love you more for taking up less space, they simply get used to you taking up less space and adjust their expectations accordingly. Every time I have been exactly as audacious as the moment required, it has opened doors rather than closed them and I have made real connections directly because of it rather than in spite of it.

[blackshvck]

the idea that every summer will be as hot if not hotter than this for the rest of my life is unbearable i need to (remembers suicide jokes are bad for my mental health) murder an oil executive

[kittyit]

haters will be mad bc you said women and didn’t mean men

[torchestogether]

(un)kind by victoria smith

[maliciosafem]

I hate to say this but Haaland scares me a lil bit

[godtrauma]

my ultimate fantasy is to have a brain and body that allows me to enjoy being alive

[radfemme-rage]

isn’t it fascinating how women are socialised to care about aestheticism in literally every single aspect apart from when it comes to men?

of course there’s the obvious ones relating to her own appearance and other women’s: does gold or silver jewellery suit her? is her “colour palette” a winter or a summer? is lipstick shade #49 the perfect nude or does shade #51 suit her better? do her breasts look flattering in a sweetheart neckline or would a halter be better? would a turkey nose job suit her? how should she pose for this instagram photo? how does her body look in this nude?

and women’s conditioned flair for aestheticism bleeds over to every other aspect of her life too: the popularity of pinterest and tumblr among women and girls, her well-decorated bedroom and apartment (meanwhile just look at a male’s living space), her laying out the table and presenting the food perfectly for a nice dinner, or her constantly decorating her place with fresh flowers or changing up decor in line with the seasons, her gravitating towards characters that look “cute”, or her having visual hobbies like arts and crafts, knitting, gardening, jewellery making, pottery, baking, her carrying her polaroid camera everywhere

so, we’re somehow meant to believe males are “ViSuAL cReAtUrEs” when they’re visual about nothing beyond women and girls’ bodies, and were also meant to believe women are NOT visual creatures when it comes to men even though they’re visual about literally everything else?

it’s curious

[kosmogrl]

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