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...... *throws this link and runs*

https://ko-fi.com/invisibleartista

my friend is bad at these posts. Basically, she was in the middle of making a commission post when her tablet crapped out on her and finally kicked the bucket. So! She needs some help getting a new one. As of right now she is unable to really save up at all which is why help is needed.

So, if you can help her out, that’d be really awesome and nice!

oh no ive reblogged stuff to the wrong blog.. will i fix it? no. enjoy wrong blog content

#stranger talks

1dietcokeinacan

We stan JiaHao😭

agenderss

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plaid shirt: my name is tyler and i’ve created a monster

[tyler voiceover]

let me explain:

this is my husband jiahao. one time, i asked him what his favorite game was to play when he was growing up and you know what he said? fire. so for his birthday, i got him a fire pit - see here.

things started out pretty innocent, he would disappear for long periods of time and send me pictures of burnt sweet potatoes, but that was okay.

then he bought a small power saw. THEN the stealing began. well, kind of. he began scouring the neighborhoods for dead trees that were being thrown away so he could drag them home and burn them.

yesterday he said he wanted to go on a long walk, but it was only because he saw sticks next door

jiahao: excuse me, make room

[tyler voiceover]

he also bought a small hatchet, which was a little concerning but um, i take full responsibility for enabling all of this

jiahao: successful. i’m so successful!

tyler: do i have plans of stopping him? no. because i like s’mores and the uh, the opportunity to eat s’mores in this house has increased by like, 200%

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desinteresse

Love how a lot of “autistic parenting problems” can get fixed by just using your brain:

“my autistic child doesnt like hugs” so don’t hug them, that will be 150 dollars

desinteresse

“My autistic child had a meltdown in a busy grocery store” so don’t bring them to a busy grocery store

desinteresse

“My autistic child is a picky eater” So give them the food they like but also encourage them to try new food in fun positive ways

desinteresse

“My autistic child only want to wear the same shirt everyday” so let them wear the same shirt everyday

venusrrvelez

“My autistic child claims loud noises hurt their ears.” So turn the goddamn noise down, Susan!

jimmyandthegiraffes

some of this definitely tracks but a lot of the time it’s not as simple as that. if you’re a single parent with an autistic child, and you can’t afford childcare, you can’t just leave your kid at home alone while you get food. sometimes taking children to places that they don’t like is 100% necessary. however, something that might help in this situation is giving the child clear information beforehand about what is going to happen, letting them know they are heard, and telling them exactly what is expected of them and how long it will last:

we have to go to the grocery store. i know that you don’t like it there because [anything they have said before about why it makes them upset] and i don’t either, but we have to do it. we are leaving at x time, so you have until then to [transition from what they were doing before]. when we are there, you need to walk next to me/hold my hand/(maybe give them a task such as counting how many types of fruit they can see in the store, a small activity to do, or a stim toy. keeping them grounded and entertained is good). it will take y amount of time, and then it will be over and we can come back home and you can do z [special interest related activity or other reward that will recharge their nd batteries after a draining experience]

autistic children grow up to be autistic adults. sooner or later they will have to go into a grocery store, maybe on their own, maybe every week, for their whole adult life. acclimatising them to knowing how grocery stores work from a reasonably young age, helping them learn that grocery stores are not scary, and that if they are scary they are at least endurable and that trips there don’t last forever, is going to be far more effective and helpful in the long run than simply teaching children that if they don’t like something they don’t have to do it. coping strategies are far more useful than avoidance for situations that are necessary.

i am saying this as an autistic adult, who was an autistic child, and who has very specific difficulties with grocery shopping myself, before anyone comes for me calling me neurotypical or whatever.

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sandersstudies

So I kept telling my husband to stop unfolding his clean clothes and leaving them on the floor, and he insisted he wasn’t doing any of that even though I had the evidence.

Just found the cat pulling t-shirts out of his drawer, which had been left slightly ajar. The culprit has escalated from trashcan crimes and is trying to cause upset in my marriage now.

sandersstudies

I discovered the ruse a bit faster than the former but she ALSO pulls clothes off the hangers by trying to “climb” them so she can sit on the top closet shelf.

sandersstudies