cozycore

manners - any pronouns - i post sporadically! fandom stuff, chronic illness/spoonie stuff, cute animals for my mum, and other neat things i pick up like a crow in a garbage dump.

[heavenslittlemachine-deactivate]

the masses of the 21st century crave the communal outpouring and catharsis obtained through regular ritual. they want, intuitively, some organization to the passage of time, points which are marked by a coming together, which is not linked merely to wage-labor. we hope to demonstrate, over the course of this thesis defense, that there exists a newfound resurgence towards a popular, spontaneously-emerging collective chronology, one which represents a movement based in the rejection of capitalist hierarchies of time management, as evinced by the widespread, grassroots popularity of such calendrical memes as "tueday again fine dog," "feliz jueves asuka," and "fuck him in the ass friday," many of which are faithfully "reposted" across social media on their corresponding days of the week.

[foervraengd]

I spent hours staring at gold bars stock photos while making this and now my head hurts

[theotherhappyplace]

Nox Requiem is going to be very baroque and ornate so gold is something i want to learn to paint for sure

[storybookprincess]

probably my most powerful interpersonal communication hack is to, whenever possible, ask either/or questions rather than yes/no questions

for example, when chatting with coworkers, i’ll often ask if they have any fun weekend plans. but let’s be real - we all feel like friendless losers when someone asks that question and we go “uhhhhh… no.” so instead, i phrase it as “so, do you have anything fun planned over the weekend, or are you just going to enjoy having some time to relax?”

phrased like this, there’s rarely any awkwardness. you’ve presented two options & given both equally positive connotations, so your conversational partner has an automatic “out,” so to speak

but it works for higher stakes conversations too!!!! my mom was saying this weekend how she and her neighbor both like walking around the neighborhood & that she wanted to suggest they take a walk together sometime, but was worried about how to approach the conversation

so i said “how about you just say ‘i’ve noticed we both like taking walks! would you be interested in going for one together, or do you use walks for some precious alone time?’”

now Walking Neighbor has an automatic “get out of jail free card” if she wants to say no!!!! which means my mom doesn’t have to worry about the conversation being uncomfortable, because she’s set it up to go smoothly

either/or questions rather than yes/no questions. it is really like magic

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Been rewatching some Steven Universe and the middle part is so funny. The Crystal Gems are all like "oh no Homeworld is coming back to kill us" and Homeworld is surprised that they're even there. They are incidentally turning the Earth into a superweapon but except for occasional sporadic attempts to apprehend one dead war criminal they don't care about the Crystal Gems at all.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

The Crystal Gems: You've come back to finish us off, have you??

Peridot: Can you stop breaking my stuff for five minutes so I can finish my survey and go home

[autistic-af]

In 1970, my mother's family adopted an intellectually disabled man named Horace. Horace was 56, and had been in an institution since 1921.

My uncle, who was 19, was working as an orderly at the institution where Horace lived. He only stayed a few months as the abuse he witnessed was too much for him. He had become friends with Horace and told him "I'll come back for you."

Horace replied "They all say that."

By that Christmas, Horace lived with my uncle and his family. My grandparents did the official adoption. Horace had never seen a Christmas tree, and that was his first real Christmas.

Horace died in 2010, at the age of 96. He laid down for a nap and just slipped away.

At least two generations of children grew up with him. He felt immortal to us. He loved Hot Wheels, pizza, cartoons and to talk to the portrait of my grandparents as he sat in his rocking chair.

He knew everyone's birthday. He loved unconditionally.

He had scars on his back from the institutions. If you asked him about that place, his face would screw up and he'd say "oh, it was a bad place. Bad place."

And for 40 years, he was safe, loved, and happy. He loved us in return.

No point to sharing this. But I still miss his laugh as he held a conversation with a portrait, whispering about his day to the people who had helped rescue him.

[autistic-af]

Memories of Horace:

He'd put anything in his pockets. This included pizza.

He would walk around the dining room table for hours, talking. The floor had shuffle marks.

I was forever called "the baby" because that's how he had met me.

We always joked that he would be the luckiest man in the world and would just die one day in his sleep. He did.

We also always joked that he had a free pass into heaven. He did.

[autistic-af]

Oh my god. 😭💕💕💕 The response to this in so little time is wonderful.

Horace deserved the world and I'm so happy his story moves people. Thank you for remembering him with me.

[mannersminded]

heads up <3

i've had this same main for like 13 years and i'm swapping over to a fresh one with the penname i've been using since 2021 lmao

@wrizard if you're interested!

sending so much love xo

[st-just]

"I made gentle fun of [John] Woolman for his guilt about reading books and going sledding with his childhood friends. But all of his childhood friends grew up to own or trade slaves. Of course he’s skeptical of nice food and nice clothes, sleighs and ice skates. His friends, good people, people he loved, liked these seemingly innocent pleasures—and so to pay for them, they bought people who were violently kidnapped away from their families and carried to a foreign land, forced them to work from dawn to dusk, underfed them and dressed them in rags, sold their children away from them, tortured them, and supported laws that ensured that all this would continue forever. From Woolman’s point of view, to oppose slavery, you have to hate torturing innocent people more than you like ice skating. It turns out this is very hard and people mostly don’t."

-Ozy Brennan, On John Woolman

[olivia--caliban]

[manga-and-stuff]

Source: Our Dreams at Dusk | Shimanami Tasogare | しまなみ誰そ彼

by Yuhki Kamatani

[ciderjacks]

contracts written in blood

+

[ciderjacks]

well,

[sugarcoatednightshade]

Ooh I like this interpretation a lot more than the “she left to test his loyalty” theory Marcille came up with. It’s hard to watch someone you care about destroy themself, I hope Chilchuck gets healthier after canon ends. I hope he finds fulfillment in a job that doesn’t put him in danger and force him to starve. I hope he’s let into his families lives. I hope he grows old and fat. I hope he’s happy.

[ciderjacks]

ssorry I’m like so sleep deprived rn but thjs comment is literally making me cry irl

[professionalchaoticdumbass]

i think if you're going to complain about "problematic queer representation" in media you have to clarify what type of problematic you're talking about. is the bisexual character implied to be only "doing it for attention" or perpetuating homophobic stereotypes? yeah, you have a point, that's not great. is the lesbian "problematic" because she eats people? oh no that's fine, lesbians are allowed to do that if they want

[thegaymertrainer]

They’re back

[ezevic-official]

[bones rattling] YOU ARE LISTENING TO [wyrmwound loudly broiling] 102.3 [a pack of mirrors making hyena sounds] WANDERING CONTAGION FM [someone emits a death screech] WHERE WE PLAY NOTHING BUT HARDCORE PLAGUE FOLK MUSIC [flesh rips] THIS ISN'T YOUR GLADEKEEPER'S STATION [imagine dragons - bones starts playing]

[spooksier]

how am i supposed to move on with my day know rebecca sugar just posted the messiest pearlrose content imaginable in the year of our lord 2024

[spooksier]

what are any of us supposed to do with this . dear god.

[conzoop]

taking the p out of Vincent price gives you Vincent rice, isn't that Vincent nice?

[conzoop]

whoa hey put away the knife, you don't have to Vincent Slice. me.

[conzoop]

hello I've been stabbed Vincent twice please help m- hello? oh they hung up

[myfandomrealitea]

I am actually begging some people to just let some spaces exist untouched by real-world issues and horrors.

Like I've lost count of the amount of times peaceful game or fandom servers have been ruined by people stampeding in with political rants, bitching about world issues, demanding internal activism, demanding vent channels so they can whine about their shitty parents, ect.

Like. Respectfully. Not every single space has to be inclusive of and welcoming of outside topics. The real world sucks. We don't needed to be reminded of that absolutely everywhere.

[pro-anomalocaris]

Psychologists have talked about this extensively. In order to repair the damage caused by the stressors of life, your brain needs to have down time in which it is not being stressed. It needs to be able to turn off sometimes and turn down during others. That's how your brain processes stress enough to regulate cortisol production and let you get through whatever it is without being on-edge the entire time, all of the time.

At some point we will, as a society, have to unlearn this idea that if you're ever caught not thinking about something serious, you must not give a shit about others. Your mind is not designed to constantly be stressed.

Your body also isn't, btw - prolonged stress without breaks is linked to all kinds of cardiac problems.

Not only will it not kill you to let the Pokemon Unite server or Naruto/Sasuke server just be about Pokemon Unite or NaruSasu, it would actually benefit you to do so.

If you won't let a place be peaceful for someone else's sake, at least do it for your own.

[anthonyhurd]

Going on vacation in a couple days. First time in a very long time. So I’ll leave you all with another long post of my favorite pieces from 2024 so far. :-) thank you for all the kindness you’ve shown me this year! Warms my heart immensely!