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@maritawage
Also have you noticed the traditional skills that men are supposed to have are mostly all things that only come up for specific situations, like changing a tire when the tire goes out, fixing the house when it needs to be fixed, fixing the car when it won’t work, and the traditional skills expected of women are things that have to be done everyday and always, like doing the dishes, cooking, and taking care of children.
Men’s work is a solution to a problem and when it’s done it’s done. Women’s work is a never-ending tide of tasks that must be accomplished every day.
I was gonna say “It’s different in agriculture” but then the massive amount of Sarah Taber I’ve been listening to lately all landed on my head at once because oh wow, the gendered division of labour in farm households is fuuuuuuucked uuuuuup.
Please elaborate. I’m genuinely curious.
Okay so!
Men’s work on farms is generally genuinely gruelling and thankless. No question. Yeah, it’s a lot more seasonal and rhythmic than women’s work, but it’s totally not easy.
A lot of farms basically divide gendered work as inside work/outside work. There’s work you do in/around the house (women’s work), and then in the outbuildings and fields (men’s work).
And like, I know this is sexist and that men’s work is given way more prestige, but also, as a disabled woman who grew up on a farm, it made a lot of intuitive sense to me. The closest explanation I can find for my gender literally is “farm wife”. It’s not just an aesthetic, it’s a philosophy and a social role.
However.
In the 1980s the “Farm Crisis” started, and set the new status quo for agriculture. Basically, farming stopped being as profitable as it used to be; it became incredibly hard for independent farmers or family farms to stay in business. You couldn’t just harvest a reasonable crop, sell it, and turn a profit; you either had to farm an incredibly fuckoff huge amount of land, hire incredibly cheap exploited labour, or find new and different ways to add value to your product.
A lot of the new ways to generate profit–for example, turning raw produce into homemade jellies and pies; marketing directly to restaurants; transitioning to organic, sustainable, or non-GMO produce; leaving the farm and getting a stable non-agriculture related job–have primarily fallen to the woman’s role. Business plans, marketing, accounting, and networking are indoor jobs, so a lot of the boring or repetitive parts of them got handed off to women.
But what Dr Taber talks about on her podcast is that she’s a crop scientist; she travels to tons of different farms and does quality control inspections. And when she goes to farms, she sits down with the “management team” (a farmer and his wife, usually) and goes over their business model.
And what she sees, over and over, are farms where the male farmer considers himself “the farmer”, because he drives the tractor and does the Very Important Manly Essential Parts of Farming, and his wife is “helping”, as in, she does all the frivolous extra bits that aren’t too physically strenuous. Except… the wife is essentially running the business. She’s the one who does the books, the marketing, the administration, the record-keeping, makes sure they meet the organic certification requirements, and is the one actually able to answer all the questions necessary for an inspection or audit.
And no one is allowed to acknowledge that the wife is in charge. Because even though, in today’s political climate, the man who drives the tractor is much easier to replace with hired help than the woman running the business, he is The Farmer and must be respected as such. (Dr. Taber recounts the elaborate pantomime that happens during her inspections, where she asks a question, the male farmer muses about it, his wife prompts him, “It’s on page 2, isn’t it, honey?” and the male farmer then answers, “Yeah, page 2.”)
This IS changing–there are more and more farms where men are stepping into “women’s work”, and women are stepping up and claiming the status and authority they’ve traditionally been denied. But there’s also a toxic culture in farming that really, truly believes that only men who drive tractors are Farmers, and therefore no outside opinions–no little wifey with her cute little farmer’s market stall, no crop scientist, nobody–need matter.
Very true! (Even if my Dad does make an effort to acknowledge the work Mom did when they were still farming).
Do you think it might be also tied into the way land is inherited? In my community, anyway, sons stay home and take over the family farm, bringing their wives to their family land. Daughters get married and move to their husbands’ family farms, maybe with their inheritance as a cash infusion into their new home/business.
So women are always the newcomers, and we refer to “Dad’s farm”, or “Grandpa’s”, or “Uncle’s”… never “my grandparents’ farm”, etc.
Oh absolutely. Land inheritance laws are at the bottom of a lot of misogyny. And changing them is hard–OH THE HULLABALOO if a sister “steals” her brother’s inheritance. These days, girls only get the farm if none of her male relatives are interested.
One of the important cases for this in Canada was Murdoch v. Murdoch from 1975, where a woman from Nanton, AB left her physically abusive husband. She significantly contributed to the work of their ranch, but law courts, including the Supreme Court of Canada, determined she had done no more to help than “any ranch wife”, and therefore had no rights to the property and profits they had built up during their 25 years together.
This triggered a huge feminist protest and within the decade, provinces and territories across Canada changed their property laws to reflect the wife’s contributions over the course of her marriage. And oh boy, is it easy to find farmers and ranchers who regret that bitterly, and talk about “the ex stealing half the stuff” and wimmenz “breaking up the family farm”.
Don’t blame the cats, though. They are just following orders.
Obviously an evil witch sent them.
I do not know what her purposes are.
It is unwise to speculate.
Does no one else see this and think of those bitch Siamese from lady and the tramp?
‘Where we finding baby…there are milk nearby!”
Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.
Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?
And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run
But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually
Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.
Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!
Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.
TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?
QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.
WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?
GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain removed you of them? Ding ding!
ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?
PRO TIP - The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.
I reblogged this recently but it got better and ive been thinking and learning a lot abt love languages so
There’s a lot to unpack here. +the flexibility to get in that pose +the balance to stay on the skateboard +the strength to pull back a bowstring with your toes +the dexterity to hit a target while moving +the coordination… not hand-eye, but foot-eye …I don’t know what to do with these things now that I’ve unpacked them…
Fall in love obviously.
the other night i tried to make a curry and i got chilli burns all over my face, so i thought to myself ‘hang on, doesn’t milk soothe chilli burns? it does’ and i couldn’t google because i couldn’t see so i just had to blindly feel my way to the fridge and pour out a bowl of milk, and then plant my face in the bowl of milk, anyway at that point the rice cooker went off and triggered a power surge which turned my electricity off, which i didn’t notice at first because i had my face in a bowl of milk and when i did emerge from the dairy prison i thought i had gone blind with chilli burns. so no i don’t really cook much.
we’re almost in the ‘20s and dadaism is thriving, europe’s in a shambles, everyone is broke and the right wing is on the rise so i guess we really don’t learn a goddamn thing huh
This is really the post I was looking for
I literally can’t get myself to sit through movies that don’t have women. I’m like where the fuck are the women? Why are there so many men? This is boring as fuck goodbye
Even if it’s historically accurate?
as everyone knows, women were invented in 1990
All the notes of “women weren’t on old time battlefields” are wrong. There were more prostitutes and merchant women than there were soldiers in most every encampment. They followed the armies, marching alongside them, and notably ran the camps.
Many more women dressed as men to fight.
Long before female nurses were officially considered to be a part of the military, they were already on the battlefield. They merely didn’t get written into official reports because they were “invisible women”, “not supposed to be there”. Usually they would be local women running a makeshift care center out of their homes.
Movies involving ancient societies? Guess how many had female fighters?
Spies? Mostly female. Yeah, only the men were caught, usually (because nobody suspected the servant woman), but historians believe most cases had more women spies than men. Most cases meaning across time and continents.
Giving me a movie on samurai? Women were trained as well to avoid being captured and raped, and often fought just as hard as men. One woman notably survived multiple battles, and became a hero alongside her sisters after taking out 7 men before dying in her last fight (usually in sword fighting you’d be lucky to take out 2 enemy soldiers. 7 is fucking insane, but because she was a woman it was shoved under the records how the lord managed to survive).
Women have ALWAYS been on battlefields. Women have an intense history in driving victories and losses alike. They were supply runners, fighters, spies, assassins, prostitutes (look up how prostitutes essentially ran the western world, or even the social status of harem members. They literally fucking ruled), even underground activists.
The only time there weren’t many women were with cowboys. Actual western cowboys tended to be both POC and gay. In fact, any time women didn’t have a near equal or greater presence, there was a LOT of gay men.
History: either 80% female or 100% gay. And it’s 95% POC.
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baltimore are you okay
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FUCK YOU, BALTIMORE!
I love those discord chats where you only know one person’s name so it’s like “yes these are my friends dragonfucker, gandalf, the raven lord, 6000 bees, and George”
why cat praised for being fat and covered in hair but not i
This also works as a Harry Potter analogy if you replace Frodo with Harry, Sauron with Voldemort, and Gandalf with Dumbledore. Dumbledore was shady af, no doubt about it, but at least he wasn’t a racist who activelly plotted and executed genocide :).