Hi again! So, without going into to much detail, at school, I’m being purposely misgendered at deadnamed by both students and teachers + I have gender dysphoria and French is very gendered.
I was wondering how you think Mason would react or help if you had gender dysphoria/were being bullied at school if you were trans.
Thank you <3 and sorry for any mistakes
Hello again, French Anon! I received your second Ask, to confirm if I had received this one, but as you were no longer Anonymous on it, I decided not to publish it. Just in case it would make you uncomfortable. ^-^
First of all: I am sorry you are going through such difficult times. Dysphoria sucks, people being purposely mean sucks, bullying is awful, and I am really sorry. I am sending you all the support, the positivity vibes and the fondness in my heart for you, but I am aware it isn't enough.
There is ressources available all around the world - including in France - to help, better than I ever could. Do not hesitate to reach out: Asking for help is a proof of strenght, not of weakness. There is emergencies numbers, and legal ways, but also many support groups and associations of LGBT+ people. Being in contact, IRL ideally, when our Queer siblings, is often an important part of being Queer. It can help a lot: I hope that your situation will get better soon.
Secondly, and I am talking for myself: I try very hard to force myself to be comfortable with gendered terms, when I can, because yeah. It really sucks to be in a gendered language. So instead of searching for a neutral alternative, I personally chose to go and try to use both gendered terms equally, on a whim if you may. Je suis heureuse, certains jours, et je suis très heureux aujourd'hui.
Sometimes, in french spoken language, there is terms sounding the same whatever gender you have, so I use them: Je suis magnifique. Je suis ravi.e.
It may helps alleviates some dysphoria. To try and remember that it doesn't matter what other people see you as, because you know better than them. A bit of arrogance in your own mind, if you see what I mean. "What, you think I am [AGAB]? ...How stupid you are." It helps me to some extent, to deal with the whole stuff, but some days are harder than others... And that's okay. It's going to be okay.
Please, reach out for help if you need it, and remember better days are coming.
About Mason, they are clearly a Trans-Activist, and they would totally protect you, in the best of their abilities. They would support you through this challenge, either by helping you, cheering you up and being by your side when you are in private - showing to you the greatness of Queerness, through celebrations, meetings with other people in the community, public events... Or they would help you through legal ways, if that's you want and need. They would listen to you. They would remind you of how great, how amazing and unique, and important you are.
I wish you the very best, French Anon. It's going to be okay. Better days are coming.
