#autistic pride

[aggressive-positivity-network]

When someone gives the advice of “don’t be afraid to disappoint your parents” they don’t just mean taking music theory in college or starting a YouTube channel.

It also means wearing things they might not approve of. Using accommodations that they might not think you need. Not falling for their guilt trips. Eating when you’re hungry, not when it suits them and their idea of your weight or health. Making your own friends instead of seeking the stamp of approval from them.

Of course, some parents are stricter than others, and some use abuse to keep you from expressing yourself. But do what you can, even if it seems small.

Otherwise, when your parents are no longer in the picture, you’ll try to find it somewhere else to get validation. A strict boss, an abusive partner, a selfish friend.

Going against your parent’s wishes is developmentally healthy. Not doing so stunts your independence and self-regulation. You shouldn’t be living to constantly please others, even the people who love you.

[autiebiographical]

Happy Autistic Pride Day from a proud autistic!

June 18th marks Autistic Pride Day, made by autistic people for autistic people. It's important to be proud of who you are.

Whether autism helps or hinders you, it's a part of you. For me, it does both, and I accept that. I keep going on days when I can, and rest on days when I can't, and I feel no shame for that. Self-accommodation is so incredibly important.

Remember to take a break when you can. Remember to love yourself. Remember to be proud of yourself.

[little-hag]

Queer autistic people exist, this is not up for discussion 🏳️‍🌈♾️

[crazycatsiren]

Actually, yeah, I'm in fact "too autistic" for some things, and that's ok, that's why it's a disability, it's not a shameful thing.

[lightning-system]

As a medium/lower support needs autistic who works with young higher support needs autistic:

We all matter. We all have the same diagnosis. We all deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.

But we are not the same.

I can mask and might be seen as 'odd' or 'weird' in public. The students I work with are seen as 'dangerous' and 'practically little kids'.

I can go to university and work with accommodations. The students I work with likely will never live independently and a few might find jobs that support them but still pay them less than an abled worker.

I have full control of my finances. The students I work with aren't allowed to make independent financial decisions, even if capable.

If I say 'no,' I'm making a choice. The students I work with can't say 'no' without being labeled as defiant and difficult.

I can feed myself, bathe myself, and take care of myself with extreme challenges. The students I work with are unable to take care of themselves without high levels of support/one on one support.

I had an IEP in high school but was mainstreamed in classes. The students I work with take separate classes and some rarely get to interact with their abled peers.

Our experiences are fundamentally different. Higher support needs autistics will experience a specific type of ableism I never will, and can never fully understand.

Lower support needs autistics need to stop saying we understand what higher support needs autistics are going through and then present autism as only being disabling because of society/lack of acceptance because that is dangerous. We need to stop saying every autistic person is capable of everything if given the right support because that leaves out huge parts of our community who will never be able to do certain things, regardless of support.

We are worthy of existence regardless of our abilities.

Autism is a spectrum. It is not the same for every autistic person. Autism acceptance and advocacy has to come with accepting, acknowledging, and listening to our higher support needs peers.

[webby-mogai]

hater autism

[pt: hater autism /end pt]

Coining this new thing called hater autism for when your autism causes you to be a fucking hater

This can include but is not limited to

Being easily irritable/short tempered and snappy

Experiencing low or fluctuating empathy that makes understanding others emotions even more difficult

Coming off as blunt or rude in conversation even if it's unintended

Being easily overstimulated

Having a blunted/flat affect and/or not emoting strongly causing you to read as angry

This isn't intended to offend folks this is literally about my experience with autism hope this helps

[flag id: the autism pride flag edited to be darker and red. the colors top down are, dark red, red, dark orange, orange and gold. the infinity symbol is dark red /end id]

[catboykatebush]

I hate posts of this genre so much. God forbid your DISABILITY actually DISABLES YOU???

If you genuinely think like this, you need to unpack why you think being an autistic person who can easily mask makes you so much better than autistic people whose autism DOES make them “weird”.

For fucks sake. Stop treating autism like it’s just a fun silly quirk that makes you better than everyone else (including MSN/HSN autistic people, who some of y’all basically treat like we’re a different species) instead of acknowledging that it’s a fucking developmental disorder. I’m not saying you can’t be proud of your autism, but trying to separate yourself from people who are more obviously disabled than you just makes you look like an ableist piece of shit. If autism is somehow not what you’d consider a disability for you, okay I guess, but you need to acknowledge that it IS a disability for MOST of us.

I’m so so tired of LSN autistics acting eager to put down and judge every autistic person who struggles more than they do. When these types of people say shit like “the world would be better if it were run by autistic people” they’re never talking about people like me and it shows. A lot of y’all only support or care about other autistic people if they have LSN like you do and it shows. Do better.

[cloverbelly]

go out with you wheelchair go out with your walker go out with your cane go out with whatever mobility aid you use go out with your noise canceling headphones go out with your fidget toys go out with your comfort object or objects don't give a shit about what other people think of you if they laugh or point fuck them life is too short to care about how people perceive you