Write, Draw, Breathe

I write and I draw because I believe that art, in all its many forms, is needed in order to breathe easy. It is a necessity, an outlet, an escape, a therapy session, a way of life. It’s inseparable.

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Going Ex - NEW BLOG POST!!

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Is it a mistake to get back with an Ex after a break-up? Yes. Yes it is. 10 biggest mistakes we make with our Exes post breakup.•

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We all have that mythological Ex. The one who was “perfect”. Who we put on a pedestal, even when they likely didn’t deserve it. Usually they’re also the Ex we make most of our post-break-up mistakes with. •

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For me, it was my second serious boyfriend. For the sake of privacy, let’s call him Bill. Bill was my longest relationship (3 years and 3 months). We had a whole Romeo & Juliet romance, and for a long time I believed he was my “Happily Ever After”.•

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Single life has been one of my best teachers, from which I have learned valuable lessons. Lessons which could not be derived from anywhere else. One of my biggest single life lessons is “mistakes I’ve made with my Ex boyfriends”. •

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What, how and why the mistakes were made. I’ve gathered up 10 biggest mistakes we make with our Exes that are fairly common. I’m pretty sure you have been through some of them too. •

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Which is okay, we’re only human and it’s part of life. The trick is to learn from them and do better next time. •

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How about you? Who is your mythological Ex? Did you make any mistakes with them?•

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Single in Lock-down - blog post•

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The pros and cons of being single during COVID – and how best to cope and overcome them.•

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I found that the best way to deal with most cons, is to try and divert your attention to the things that make you feel good. Focus on creating a full, productive schedule that will not only keep you busy, but will also provide you with a sense of accomplishment.•

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2. Dealing alone with the emotional roller-coaster •

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All of these following pros can be used as diversions from the cons. They are strong points of focus we can devote as much of our attention as we can. Derive positivism and affirmation out of them.•

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1. No one else suffers the consequences •

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2. Make your own decisions and choices •

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3. Can up and leave without notice •

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4. No one to crowd your space •

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5. You can do your own thing •

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Before beginning any of these steps, it’s imperative to remember to focus on each step at a time and build one on top of the other – As to not overwhelm yourself. When you constantly think too much ahead, of the more difficult stages, you are less likely to believe in your abilities. •

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1. Make a decision to focus on the pros•

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2. Buy a calendar or start a Google calendar •

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3. Comprise a list of small things you haven’t had time for•

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4. Insert them into your calendar •

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5. Stay connected with your friends and family•

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6. Stay active... go for a walk or run around the block / in the park•

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7. Go big... start inserting all of the major life changes you’ve been wanting to make•

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how about you? What have been your pros and cons? How have you coped?•

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Single in lockdown - new blog post. •

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I don’t know about you, but when this whole pandemic fiasco began, I didn’t believe for a second that it would last this long. I remember back in December when my friend was telling me about this crazy virus in China – I thought she was crazy for even entertaining the idea that it would reach us. Let alone the whole world. But here we are, 10 months later. Over half a year in and out of lock-down – And it doesn’t seem it will be ending any time soon. •

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Just like everything else in life, also this lock-down has many ups and downs. Pros and cons. Like me, I’m sure that there are many other singles out there trying to cope with this whole mess alone. Being single has become one of my favorite things in life, and helped me prepare for coping with the lock-down. I’ve narrowed it down to 5 cons and 5 pros of being single during the lock-down. And how best to cope with the cons. •

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The stages of denial in relationships: new blog post.

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Stages of Relationship Denial - mbl writes

The ten stages of denial in unhealthy relationships - Starting from giving it a chance in to begin with until the breaking point at the end.

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Yesterday I wrote about how single = freedom. Of how much that freedom is great. But lately I’ve also been wondering whether it’s also not so good... •

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My freedom is beyond incredible, and I love having it... but the problem may lie there too. Perhaps I love it too much? I’ve gotten so addicted to it, that maybe that too is a bit unhealthy, just like any other addiction. •

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It’s hard for me to let anyone in, and I’m so used to having my own space, having my complete independence, that I cannot even imagine sharing any of it with anyone else. Perhaps it’s what’s preventing me from being open to letting someone into my life. •

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There is no concrete answer, but either way, I will be sure to be more aware, try to be more patient when someone enters my radius. Because just like everything else, freedom has its price. But is it worth it?•

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#freedomaddict #freedomaddicted #addictedtofreedom #unhealthyaddiction #letingpeoplein #singlefreedom #lovingfreedom #isfreedomreallyfree #singlelifeblog #singlelifelessons #personalblogging #butterflyfilter #butterflyface #butterfliesfilter #freedomisntfree #freedomisafulltank #lovemyfreedom #lovemyspace

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100 posts!

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I was planning on uploading this yesterday, but I by mistake filmed it on slow-mo instead of time-lapse, then it took me forever to convert it, which worsened the quality as well. The angle also wasn't good, so unfortunately the cut is a bit weird. but it's better than nothing, right? • • Building puzzles has become more than just a game for me, besides being a great therapy method, it is a form of spending quality time with myself. • • My friend has suggested a few times that we do them together, but I have become so "protective" of this activity and cannot share it with anyone. • • I think it is also part of my independence - I had gotten so used to doing things on my own, that having someone else join in or "help" has become more of a nuisance than anything. • • I think it is also important to dedicate time and different activities to doing just with yourself. It is a great way to grow your self love and feel more comfortable in your own company. • • • How about you? What activities do you like doing by yourself? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #puzzletime #anxietyawareness #anxietyrelief #anxietyproblems #roughweek #writingsboutpuzzles #puzzletime #puzzletherapy #puzzlelover #jigsawpuzzles #puzzlecalm #puzzletimelapse #patienceisprogress #fallintoplace #timelapsevideo #dolphinpuzzle #anxietysupport #bravinganxiety #writingprompts #writinginspiration #bloggerstyle #bloggersofinstagram #bloggerlifestyle #writingmotivation #writingprompts #personalblog #writingislife #myowncompany #spendingtimealone (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEo5GJ_gXnA/?igshid=1j83aofwzcze

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Seeing as we still cannot travel and Facebook keeps reminding me of past travels, I may as well share it with you and pretend like the skies aren’t closed. • • Three years ago today I had just landed in Washington, D.C. it was my first trip ever with just my mum. I have a special and unique relationship with my mother, and she has always been more of a best friend or a sister. • • She has always loved spending time with her kids, and we always felt adored and love. And the trip to the US wasn’t any different. It was a once in a lifetime experience and trip and I loved every moment! • • Both of us are single and we could just book the trip almost spontaneously, and just disappear and disconnect from everything and everyone. • • My mother is one of the main reasons why I look at single life with such positivity. She taught me how to feel comfortable in my own skin, be confident, strong, independent and just love my life and live it to the fullest. • • • How about you? Have you ever been on a trip with your mum? What is your relationship like? • • • • • • • • • • • • • #singleliferocks #singlelifestyle #singlestrip #thirtyandthriving #singlelifebelike #singlelifeisthebestlife #travelandwrite #writeandtravel #travelmemories #pasttravels #usatravel #mumanddaughter #motheranddaughtertrip #motheranddaughtergoals #motheranddaughtertime #motheranddaughtertravels #singleladylife #singlelady #singlemumanddaughter #singlemotheranddaughter #threeyearsago #threeyearsagotoday (at Washington D.C.) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEj68pHgN8A/?igshid=77phz81bk1v3

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No matter how independent I am and how much I love being single, there will always be a small part of me that will miss having a partner. There are some tiny voids that platonic relationships just cannot fill. • • Every so often a voice in the back of my head will whisper dark thoughts. Every so often I will feel a bit lonely. Especially these days where there are many struggles to face with the pandemic; coping with anxiety, starting a new job, worrying about money and the many unanswered questions. • • And I have been fighting them with strength even I didn’t know I had. And if I may say so myself, I have managed so well so far. And I am so proud of myself. But I also wanted to share the “ugly” side, to show you that despite my strength and love for single life - there will always be a down side and bad moments. • • And that’s okay. We all have those moments, and as long as we accept that and trust that they will pass, and that we can do it - we will come out stronger. • • • How about you? What struggles have you had as a single person? Have you had moments you wished you had a partner to share with and split the load? • • Please share and spread the self love and care 💜 • • • • • • • • • #singlelifestyle #singlelifequotes #singlelifebelike #singlelifeproblems #singlelifestruggles #singlelifestruggle #personalblogger #personalblogs #singlelifechoices #badmoments #momentsofstruggle #pandemicsurvival #pandemicstress #pandemicstruggles (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEekovzg8pD/?igshid=92izjvbzskpc

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Single life has taught me many important life lessons. One of the best ones is to chase no one. Which is also something that comes with age and maturity. • • When I had just turned single a few years ago, after a whole decade of being in long term relationships - I had made many foolish and cringe worthy mistakes. • • It is very unpleasant for me to think back on the men I chased back in the day. A lot of them weren’t even that great (Probably even jerks), and for most of them I didn’t really feel much if at all. But either way, I was infatuated. • • Despite having some terrible and nasty experiences, I am glad for them in a way because I have learned so much. They taught me self worth, how to set proper standers and what to never, in ever put up with or tolerate. • • Single life enhanced the confidence and independence I needed for setting proper standards, and taught me how not to put up with shit I don’t deserve. • • My number one tip is to never chase anyone, no matter how difficult. If someone is worth it, you won’t need to. So just be patient and remind yourself of all the reasons you are great. With time it will all get easier. • • • How about you? Have you ever chased someone who didn’t deserve and appreciate you? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #chasenoface #chasenoone #thirtyandthriving #thirtyandsingle #singlelifestyle #singlelifequotes #singlelifelessons #lifelessonslearned #relationshiplessons #thirtyflirtyandthriving #singlelifeproblems #singlesandhappy #beingsingle #singleandstrong #singleandindependent #singleindependentwoman #singleandconfident #singleconfidentwoman #dontchase #dontchasepeople #selfworthjourney #selfworthquotes (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEcBj6IAv72/?igshid=zmgx5n0c8glv

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Starting anew. • • I had recently completed my fourth and final year of college. Which left me at a junction between an ending and several possible new beginnings. • • I had planned to stay at the same job I had, at least for a bit longer while I took my time deciding what’s next. All that was shuffled and overturned by the pandemic which forced me out of my comfort zone. • • After being unemployed for a few months, I had to start working again but for different reasons, couldn’t go back to my old job, where I had seniority. So I was forced to find a new workplace ASAP, start from the beginning and be the “new girl” again. • • It is never easy to start something new, wether it be a job, studies, relocation or a relationship. One of the hardest things is to leave our comfort zone, a place where we’ve already built an “empire”. • • Going from being a trainer to being the trainee, is never an easy transition. But you can choose to either cry over it and make it even worse, or just go with the flow and stay positive. Learn to embrace and grow from it. This transition is an experience that everyone goes through at least once in their life, and I’m glad for it, because it is a great character builder. • • As a single woman, the process was made easier, because I didn’t have to stop and consider anyone else. I could make my own choices and spur of the moment decisions, without calculating how it would affect someone else’s life. • • So yes, I don’t have a partner to “help” me through these rough times and make a decision. But I do have so much more than that, I have a strong back in the face of my family and close friend. And that is more than I could ask for. • • I know that it is hard and scary, but I truly believe that the moment we fear change more than anything else, is also when we need it the most. • • • How about you? Has the pandemic forced you to start anew? Have you ever went from being the trainer to trainee? • • • • • • • • • • • #newwork #newjobnewlife #newworkoutclothes #startingover #startinganew #startinganewchapter #startinganewlife #singlelifebelike #singlelifestyle #singlelifedecisions #fromtrainertotrainee #trainertotrainee #newgirl #personalblog (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEW6UrTAxTJ/?igshid=2x874d6cb0bf

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only chase your own approval and acceptance. • • Please share if you agree and spread the self love. • • • • • • • • • • • • #selflovejourney #selflovequotes #myowncompany #chaseyourpassionnotyourpension #chaseyourowndreams #chaseyourownprogress #selfappreciation #selfappreciationpost #selfappreciationday #selfappreciation #selfapproval #loveyourselffirst #singlelifequotes #singlelifestatus #singlelifeisthebestlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CEPK0kFAVlC/?igshid=pyt8uc42fupl

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My Own Company - new blog post sneak peak: • On my trip to the desert last weekend, I found myself in a moment of “okay, now what?” - just standing there, looking around at the people, and realizing for the first time, that I only knew a handful and wasn’t sure what to do with myself. • But that only lasted for a short moment, and once I got over the initial shock, I managed to just let go. Instead of trying desperately to “fit in” and find someone to be with - I just lay my bag down, spread out my sleeping mat, and just sat down. Once I got into that comfortable state of mind, where I’m okay with my own company, I managed to find “my place”. • The social aspect of this hike was great, but it wasn’t my main reason for going. It wasn’t a conscious decision or thought. It was as simple as talking to a friend, saying “hey, lets go stargazing in the desert”, and then just doing it. I didn’t give it much thought until I was actually out in the camping site surrounded by others, suddenly realizing, ‘oh right, I gotta socialize.’ • Or, do I? • Because as bad as it sounds, I didn’t really go to meet more people. I have enough friends, and I suck at keeping in touch as it is, so what's the real point? Don’t get me wrong, it was a great bonus, but while there, I suddenly realized - ‘hey, I’m also good in my own company’ - even when I’m surrounded by other people. • That thought would have never been my reality if I wasn’t single and learned to embrace and feel content with myself. For so many years I would cringe just at the thought of sitting somewhere on my own - especially if it was in a larger group. I know that many others feel that way too, and the key for overcoming it, is changing your state of mind. • *** for more - link in bio *** • • How about you? Ever feel awkward being alone in a group? • • • Please share and spread the self love! 💜 • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #selflovejourney #selflovetips #myowncompany #soulcleansing #loveyourselfquotes #singlelifebelike #singlelifequotes #singlelifestyle #lovebeingsingle #aloneisntlonely #personalblogger #personalfeelings #personalthoughts #personalexpression #journeytoselflove #deserthike #hikingadventure #thirtyflirtyandthriving (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEKAXg1A32P/?igshid=3rnv59bemhdo

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While I do feel like it would be nice to have a partner every so often, more times than not, I prefer my single life - I have so many more opportunities spread out for me, because I don’t have someone else to consider while making life changing decisions – like moving to London for example. • • I don’t have anyone nagging me, or someone I constantly need to update about my whereabouts, and best of all – I get to keep my precious quiet time to myself without feeling bad. And if I ever need companionship – I have so many other platonic relationships, that fill me up more than any romantic relationship ever did. • • If someone comes along, and it feels right to be with him, I won’t send him away for the sake of being single. But the fact is, that so far there hasn’t been anyone who is worth it. And my life is so good, and I love it, and I will only change my status for someone who will make it even better, not for just anyone. • • There are pros and cons to each side, and neither is significantly better or worse – but right now my reality is, that I am single and have yet to find someone worth changing that. So instead of floundering over it, I choose to look at the positive side of it. I may be thirty and single, and I may not have kids, but my life is no less better because of it. • • I strongly believe that my relationship status has nothing to do with who I am, at least not in the “normal way” of thinking. What it does say about me, is that I am a strong independent woman, who doesn’t need a relationship to be happy. I love my freedom and space, that I don’t owe anything to anyone. • • • How about you? What are some of the pros and cons of being single? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #singlelifequotes #singleandhappy #thirtyflirtyandthriving #thirtyandsingle #singlelifebelike #singlestatus #thirtyandthriving #singleisthebest #singlelifequotes #singelifeisthebestlife #singlelifeisbest #prosandconsofbeingsingle #singlelifepros #personalthoughts #personalblogger #personalblogs #lovebeingsingle (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEHp7YSgFC1/?igshid=t7pb9tv6b578

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Masked. • • It is so strange and difficult for me to digest the fact that this is the new status quo. When it all began back in March, I couldn’t even imagine this situation going on for so long. One or two months top, I had thought. • • But here we are, five months in, and there is still no end in sight. And while I do enjoy the social distancing (I hate being touched) and people being more aware and careful with hygiene, cleanliness and crowding, it is scary and frustrating that this can go on for many more months. • • Until further notice (whenever that may be) we need to walk around with masks on our faces, everywhere we go, and it just doesn’t sink it. Every so often it suddenly strikes me that we are all wearing masks, and how bizarre that is. I just can’t get used to it. • • But we cannot stop our lives forever and we have to move forward, and if this is what keeps us safe - we gotta do it. And I hope you are all keeping safe and wearing them despite how uncomfortable and annoying they are. • • Also, isn’t it just odd that now every time we leave the house we have to remember to take our phone, keys, wallet and a mask! So weird. • • How about you? Is it hard for you too to get used to? What has been the hardest change for you? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #wearingmasks #wearingmask #wearingmask😷 #newstatusquo #strangetimes #strangetimes2020 #bizzaretimes #hardtogetusedto #quarantinelife #covidlife #coronaviruslife #personalthoughts #personalexperience #personalblog #personalblogger #hardtobelieve #whatayear (at Tel Aviv, Israel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEE8sWMhRwc/?igshid=18sdgjwsorje

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This past weekend I went on a hiking trip with a group that a friend of mine created. He builds a trip, sends out the details to a bunch of people, and whoever can, joins in - creating a group of different people who know and don’t know each other. • • I’ve gone on hikes with this friend of mine, and a few others many times over the past few years, but this was my first time joining his “hiking group”... I knew a few of the people, but most of them I didn’t. • • I had a great time seeing the people I knew and getting to know the ones I didn’t. But most importantly, it reminded me how comfortable I am in my own skin. Because even when I was just walking along alone, where I once would have felt awkward and left out, this time I felt empowered and in complete peace. • • I enjoyed being in my own company, getting lost in the nature without constantly wondering if I should mingle, and worrying what others might think. • • Part of the reason I went on the trip was to get away, disconnect and star gaze. The people around were an added bonus, but they weren’t the reason I was there. And I didn’t feel the pressure (that we usually put on ourselves) to be social. I was just being. • • • How about you? Do you feel pressure to be social? And awkward sitting or walking alone? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #personalblog #personalbloggers #personalblogging #stargazing #desertvibes #desertadventures #desertadventure #walkingalone #comfortableinmyskin #enjoymyowncompany #enjoyingmyself #enjoyingmyowncompany #socialpressure #comfortableinmyownskin #gettinglostaloneinthedesert #justbeing #hikinginthedesert #deserthike #deserthiking #deserthikingtrails #israelhiking #israelhike #israelnationaltrail (at נחל גוונים) https://www.instagram.com/p/CD_su_8gIr8/?igshid=1fyqexeqhcim0

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Serenity of no reception. • • Friday night I drove down south, to the middle of the desert, with a group of friends. We slept in a camping site far away from any city lights, under the millions of shining stars and Milky Way. As I lay in my sleeping bag, I could Barely tear my eyes away. Basking in the usually hidden wonders of the sky. Gasping with the crowd in excitement with every shooting start. • • At the break of dawn we embarked on a small hike up a mountain, and through the desert. Filling my lungs with fresh air, feeding my eyes with breathtaking, wide open views from up the mountains tops and down the valley ways. • • I allowed my brain to envelop in the quiet, tranquil calm of the desert. The gradient of browns, yellows and oranges. I gave way for my body to just lead me through the trails, seeking comfort in the movement of my muscles and limbs. • • Even if I wanted to, I couldn’t turn to my phone for distraction, because there was no service. It forced me to go offline and just enjoy nature, the great outdoors. I let the beautiful views and stillness seep through my eyes, ears and nose and into my body and soul, washing over me and neutralizing my worries, fears and nerves. • • • How about you? Do you enjoy hiking and being out in nature? Do you find it therapeutic and soul cleansing? • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • #desertvibes #desertphotography #desertadventures #hikingtrails #hikinginthedesert #deserttrails #deserttranquility #soulcleansing #hikingandwriting #hikeandwrite #gooutdoors #naturetherapy #hikingtherapy #noreception #noservice #goingoffline #disconnect #campingunderthestars #sleepinginthedesert #sleepingunderthestars #baskinginnature #baskinginthesun #hikingadventures #personalexperience #personalblogger (at נחל גוונים) https://www.instagram.com/p/CD9IdkXAVbB/?igshid=1ae6p6s77mwan