There’s this strange gradual realization that we women go through, some in their late teens others in their 20s, where we start realizing that there’s something seriously wrong with men. That they’re misogynists, rapists, killers.
At first we start taking the patriarchy’s route to explain it, we are fooled that no, it’s just this certain class of men, not all. It’s the athletes that cheat on you so don’t date the athletes. Its the men standing in the alleys that rape so don’t go there. It’s the loner men that stalk women not the rest, so stay around extroverted men. And so is this unwritten set of rules that women should follow to avoid male nature yet be around men. Don’t give it up on the first date. Play hard to get. Don’t dress this way, don’t expect too much, don’t, do, wait, stop.
And for a while we are fooled, and we fall for it, and we follow these unspoken rules. But there’s this stirring in our guts, something isn’t right.
Then in our 30s, we have done everything right. We married the nice guy, the regular guy in the movies that is supposed to treat women like humans except…. He doesn’t.
He is a misogynist. He cheats. He rapes. And for a while we are convinced that its us, we just attract shitty dudes. We should pick better. Then we meet other women, and we hear their stories, do they attract shitty men too? We go to work and see the male sexual harassers, we recall our own childhood how our mothers faced emotional, physical and sexual abuse at the hands of our fathers. We notice our brothers as husbands are sexist. Violent. We read the news and hear about women, all across the world, being beaten, raped, murdered by men. And it finally dawns on us that male evil transcends personality type, class, race. It is men.
Sadly most women never reach the full awakening. They are stuck in the perpetual loop of bending over backwards to escape misogyny from men and blaming not only themselves but other women who are oppressed. Most women never wake up, never respond to the stirring realization in their gut. They deny their own eyes. They follow men who try to rewrite our female reality. They die blind.
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