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I forgot my new password I just set and had changed my e-mail to some nonsense one because I figured the like 30 different sessions were probably caused by folks into my account via my e-mail, so........
(I didn't delete the other sessions, but whoever was snooping went and deleted them all shortly after I made the change, it seems.)
Oops.
@staff can I have my account restored back to my proper e-mail address so I can change my password again?
Costco has these artisanal peaches. My betrothed and I first had them while staying with some friends. They’re the platonic ideal of what an amazing peach should be. They’re peeled and preserved in juice whole, and somehow they taste slightly like vanilla.
When we got home from our visit we picked up a jar for ourselves. They lasted a good long while. We finally went to get more- and they were gone. I was devastated. That was two years ago.
Every Costco trip since then has included a hopeful look for the amazing peaches. I never stopped dreaming they’d come back.
My health has gotten better and with my improved energy I’ve finally been able to take over some of the chores. So when my betrothed lamented not having time for a Costco trip last week I volunteered to go alone.
I was meandering down the aisle and then I saw them. The peaches. The promised fruit I had been denied for two years, perfect and golden in that Costco aisle. Orchestral music swelled in my mind and everything around me faded away as I beelined toward them.
I was stricken with peach madness. I got four jars. Sitting in the car afterward I tallied the expense. The peaches were fully a quarter of the Costco bill. I texted my betrothed to apologize for absolutely losing my head. They reassured me over and over that it was a luxury I deserved to indulge and that it was okay.
Tonight while holding a dripping perfect peach in my hands, eating it while standing over the counter, each bite the exact ripeness to have a little give but not too much, and my mouth full of vanilla and peaches I contemplated going to buy more.
some of yall r practicing some really unhealthy habits n coping mechanisms and its very scary to see. when ppl come into ur dms saying “u should stop” or calling you a freak they mean well and they mean it for ur own good. putting urself back into traumatic scenarios via roleplay or etc. is literally dangerous. you never truly recover. you only put urself back into that unhealthy state of mind because you crave the painful stimuli. cgl and noncon fics will not help you. its not a good coping mechanism. i hope all of you heal
So, you do get points for linking to a source! A scholarly source literally about trauma! Good job.
However, that Bessel van der Kolk article is from 1989. We didn’t know as much then about how people with trauma heal, or what makes something safe vs retraumatizing. Here’s a 2017 piece where van der Kolk talks about the value of psychodrama and roleplay in healing from trauma! Revisiting your trauma in a way that connects viscerally to your emotions and experiences is part of the healing process.
In fact, the entire healing process has been described as “pendulation”–PTSD is the abrupt back-and-forth jerk between being sucked into the traumatic mindset, and complete dissociation and distancing from reminders of your trauma. Healing happens when people learn to take control over that process, so you can move back and forth at will between feeling emotions associated with the trauma, and a sense of calmness and safety.
The big difference between reminders of trauma that are going to be retraumatizing, and those that will help healing, is whether the person feels safe, in control, and able to predict what comes next. This especially demands the ability to end the activity when it becomes overwhelming. In physical encounters, like having sex with a stranger or driving along a narrow cliff road, that might be very difficult–being traumatized might make it very hard to tell your partner to stop, or there might not be a safe place to stop or pull aside. That’s why, when revisiting trauma, it’s best to make stopping as easy as possible–something people can do simply by turning away, or focusing their attention on something else.
So yes: If you find a story, video, artwork, or interaction distressing, disgusting, or upsetting, you SHOULD NOT just force yourself to “tough it out” and keep paying attention to it! Even if it’s just upsetting or enthralling, it’s helpful to be able to take breaks, work on relaxing your muscles, drink some water, take deep breaths, and remember the world around you.
In fannish relationships, we have to remember that nobody is obligated to read, watch, see, or listen to ANYTHING. Anyone can nope out, at any time, from anything. Your best friend in the whole world doesn’t have to read your fic or watch your favourite TV show is there’s something in it they don’t feel up to seeing! It is NOT OKAY to pressure someone to RP with you, read your fic, or do anything else if it makes them feel uncomfortable.
Here are some resources:
What is Online Sexual Exploitation and Abuse?
What is Digital Self Harm?
That said, if someone does feel centred, in touch with their emotions, confident, capable, and wants to go back to a reminder of their trauma, that’s theirs to do! It does NOT help to call someone a freak or shame them. Shame makes PTSD much worse, while self-compassion and social support are major factors in healing.
I hope this puts some of your misapprehensions to rest. PTSD is a big and complex subject and it’s easy to get confused, but it’s frankly misleading to tell people they will “never truly recover” because they’re doing their own version of very well-documented treatments for trauma.
This rebuttal is so beautifully written, but I cant get over op’s “I’m calling you a freak because I care about your mental health uwu” oh my god
cosmicsproutcake: #the anti version of fatphobes saying shit like ''I call you a fat disgusting pig because I just want you to be healthy'' lmao
They edited their original post to go back to just calling us the equivalent of unhealthy freaks, by the way, as they do when confronted with logic and science, including the later, more nuanced and knowledgeable opinion of the same scientist they quoted early on.
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20 years ago, it was a scandal that Google started to track which links you clicked on the search-results page,
this is like finding a journal written by someone before the zombie apocalypse happened
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don’t abandon joy because it is brief. don’t commit to solitude because happiness is fleeting. it’s okay that good things do not last forever. it’s okay to simply enjoy a thing for as long as you have it.
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[ID] Five images of Pyaari show a charcoal grey cat with yellow eyes lying on golden fabric of a matching colour. In the first two images she is wearing a dress and smiling at the camera with her eyes. In the middle image she is wearing a bindi and looks politely curious. The bottom two images show her lying on her back with one single raised paw. The caption reads: It's so pretty just like you. [End ID]
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flower meanings of mimosa: friendship
(He give the spell book of childhood.)
Congratulations to @heartvagabond! I just can't send messages because of the current -gestures at pinned- situation. ;3; I'm happy for you!!!
the thing that sucks is that people love saying sleep early is good etc etc and yeah it is. I've seen some benefits before. but I think it sucks to ignore that late night is the only time with any freedom. I think it sucks to not acknowledge the dread in waking up and it's a work day again
"fast travel to work" is a great way of putting it. because a lot of people say "but the less time you have at night, the more time you have during the morning!" but your morning is like, getting emotionally ready to get off of bed, taking your meds, taking a shower, making and eating breakfast, going to work, etc. and waking up early will just make you do that stuff early. it won't give you more time to rest, it won't give you more time to talk to anyone, it won't inherently give you anything at all even. sometimes saving up 30-60 minutes before work is just kind of a nothing amount of time. it's like saying extended lunch break is free time. it's not. just because you're not actively working doesn't mean you're not giving your time to your employer
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