Mini-Beanie

26 yrold gremlin and the kindest monster They / Them

[ingridverse]

"God never gives you more than you can handle" is survivorship bias. People who got more than they could handle are dead.

[algorithmist]

I’m unaware of any other such studies done and I’d love to see more. This aligns with my experience of using AI developer tools though for sure

[transsexula]

Ever since I learned in school about the types of discussions had after desegregation became commonplace. Its been in the back of my mind how people will use "women's safety" and "children's safety" as a reason to commit violence.

This is so incredibly common, you can see it in every political movement:

- desegregation. Men of color were treated as predators out to get women and children. Women of color deemed a threat to 'the good hwhite women and children'.

- gay liberation. Gay men were "out to get your sons" and gay women were "satan reaching out to your wife"

Now, with transgender liberation being a big talking point, we have trans men being painted as either "predator out to trans your daughter" or "confused little autistic woman girl we need to protect from herself!" And trans women get the "dangerous predator in the women's toilets watching ur wife piss and texting ur son telling him to wear a skirt" treatment.

Again, the urge for even 'feminists' to lean back on "what about women's safety?" Or "you're a man you dont get a say in this!" Or "but what about the children?" Isn't a good urge to have.

Protecting people is noble and a good cause. Using the protection of people to shut down a minorities conversation about their oppression, or using it to attack them, though? That's different.

[genderkoolaid]

During the AIDS crisis, bisexual men were also demonized for supposedly infecting good, normal straight women with HIV they got from having sex with gay men.

[queermania]

good news i'm the most fuckable person at this vehicular manslaughter

[xxadiaa]

breaujs 4ever

[ubercharge]

if your website doesn't have a reject all button for cookies then i fucking hate you

[ubercharge]

if your website's cookie popup only allows accept all and edit cookies and i have to click the edit button to reject your cookies then i fucking hate you

[cyrus-thenotsogreat]

people without any whimsy scare me. why are you like that. where are your trinkets.

[akindplace]

hey if you’re chronically ill or if you don’t have a disability but you’re struggling with your health lately (be it mental or physical) please consider that the thing making you so tired is your illness, so if someone says you’re being lazy, just remember they do not live with your body and they don’t get to tell you how much rest or medical help you need. listen to your body and take some time to take care of yourself. resting is recovering, it’s not laziness. being sick is exhausting. it’s fatigue, it’s not laziness. and someone else saying that it is doesn’t change your reality, so please don’t second guess yourself because you’re feeling guilty for having to take time off to rest. you deserve to rest as much as you can and to feel a little better.

[vetchtibbles]

james and the giant pronoun

[desultory-suggestions]

It turns out that you can become the person you’ve always envisioned but you’ll still have the person you were before inside of you and you have to treat them with as much forgiveness and love as possible

[patricia-taxxon]

the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

[patricia-taxxon]

oops, in your attempt to martyr yourself out of respect for your victims you accidentally sabotaged your own ability to conceptualize yourself as anything but a perpetual evildoer who is always one bad day away from hurting everyone you love, all but guaranteeing history to repeat itself. rookie mistake

[patricia-taxxon]

im gonna try explaining myself, cus im a gambling addict and im waiting for the day that it actually works.

"forgiveness" is personal, that's why I said in the post that you might inflict harm on people for which they can never forgive you, but that's their quest. if you abuse someone, you can't go no-contact with yourself. you actually keep living in your own head indefinitely, and ultimately you need to learn to live with yourself in order to continue living a full life without further harm. this is not necessarily an anti-carceral thought, although i am generally anti-carceral myself. I simply want people to like, fix their heart and atone for real with measured accountability & self love instead of dissociating, self-marking themselves forever and guaranteeing their recidivism.

You and a remorseful abuser would both think I'm giving the easy, coddling path. It's actually the tough pragmatic path in disguise.

[ship-of-fools]

[actualaster]

The kinds of people who argue once you abuse somebody you can never, ever change and grow past it and stop being abusive are almost 100% of the time people who will contort themselves into intricate knots in an effort to justify any and all harm they cause to anyone else in order to make sure they never have to come to terms with the fact that they're equally capable of being abusive to others (and in a not insignificant number of instances I've seen people who do this be abusers themselves but they've convinced themselves their victims deserved it so they're still morally pure).

[hareofhrair]

If you’ve decided anyone who’s ever done wrong is irredeemable garbage always and forever, it gets a lot harder to admit when you’ve done wrong.

You know that thing some adults do, where a kid comes to them for help because the kid fucked up and knows it and needs help to fix it, and in response the adult flips out and screams at them and punishes them? And the result is that kid never goes to them for help again, and also would rather die than admit they fucked up?

Sometimes, you are both the parent and the child in that scenario.

If you fuck up, and you reflect on what you did and know it was wrong, but then instead of working on a way to fix it you just berate and punish yourself forever, all you’re doing is training yourself to never reflect and never admit you were wrong.

Don’t fuckin do that, it’s stupid.

[the-haiku-bot]

Sometimes, you are both

the parent and the child in

that scenario.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[gobliiine]

Brennan: there is some homebrew coming, there are subclasses-

Everyone:

[ahmoseinarus]

and this time Matt got to say "HAH!!!! Not it, you little fucker!" and sent Taliesin skipping eagerly to Crawford and Perkins in-fucking-person like an excited little schoolboy, and now they get to deal with his ridiculously eccentric shit! And gods, I can't fucking WAIT to see what they come up with for him!!!!

[stuck-in-jelly]

I don’t think I’m ever going to be over Edi Gathegi and can’t help but feel so happy for him with his role in James Gunn’s Superman

For those of you who don’t know Edi Gathegi starred in X-Men First Class as the character Dawrin (aka Armando Muñoz)

Dawrin’s powers are literally super adaptation, his body changes to every possible scenario in order to survive.

Gills to breath under water and fins when submerged

Stone skin when struck with an attack

In space his body will change to be able to breathe, when fire is directed at him he will become fire proof, etc. he is essentially unkillable dude to his mutation!

And yet in the movie he gets introduced solely to be killed

The unkillable, Black, Hispanic, Male, character literally gets killed first and acts as a ‘motivator’ for the rest of the cast even though they hardly mention him after his death.

Edi Gathegi even voiced his concerns, only for the studio to promise him that Darwin would eventually come back and be resurrected in future movies but surprise surprise. That never happened.

Years later James Gunn reaches out and askes him to audition to the point he sees 200 people and still ask if Edi Gathegi’s tape has come in.

Edi Gathegi despite his hesitation due to his last super hero movie experience decided to give it a shot and what a way to right a broken promise from the past!!

He not only doesn’t die but plays a vital role in the story, he’s been praised as a scene stealer being one of the most liked characters right behind Superman

Edi has been open in interviews about what this means to him and how happy he was to have this opportunity

Its great to see this come full circle

[undead-knick-knack]

"average person runs 3 ttrpg a year" factoid actualy just statistical error. average person runs 0 ttrpg a year per year. Brennan Lee Mulligan, who lives in cave & runs over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

[manasaysay]

Um ACTUALLY he lives in a cabin in the woods where he makes shoes for American Girl dolls...AND runs 10,000 ttrpg per year.

[lowpawly]

the authors open fetish that complements the themes of their work

[apathy-tied-in-knots]

important plot device thats also just authors fetish. call that a jackoffs gun

[knackeredforever]

So funny how there was so much speculation on silksong development struggles and it turns out there were no struggles, team cherry had actually reached a state of game development nirvana where they were no longer pestered by earthly desires such as releasing the game

[revvethasmythh]

it always hits

[fandomestuff]

I love that Marisha looks at Matt like "This bitch fr?" AND MATT DOESN'T REACT